!! Do you have links on a social networking site or something? Skype etc? xxx

The majority of women don't achieve orgasm through regular sex, surprisingly enough. Yet again, for millions of women, sex itself doesn't feel phenomenal or even nearly as great as it does for the guy since there is no direct stimulation other than g-spot stimulation, which doesn't always occur and many women never feel any pleasure from.

Over half of all women(statistics say this, I'm no one to judge) achieve their first orgasm through clitoral stimulation, and even then through masturbation.

Talk to your boyfriend about the situation and tell him how you feel. There are PLENTY of help sites online which have detailed articles on every query you may have.

There's absolutely NO reason to be scared! Relax!! =) A first orgasm can always be tricky to achieve, and women's bodies vary. Just because something works for some girl, doesn't mean it can work for you, and it definitely doesn't mean you can't achieve orgasm.

I suggest unless it's important to you that he be the donor of your first orgasm, that you master it yourself before he gets in there. He could be by your side, though if you feel more comfortable to completely let go alone, then do it alone. After all, no one knows your body better than you, and trying to get him to do it when you don't even know how alone, will only complicate and prolong matters.

Again, don't worry AT ALL. If you are worried/stressed/thinking about how long it's taking/thinking about why you aren't reaching orgasm/not letting go of inhibitions it simply WON'T happen.

I like to think this is the way of ensuring conservative stuck-ups never reach physical climax.

What you can do is start simply. Do your thing, get yourself or let him get you turned on, and go for clitoral stimulation. Start rubbing slowly, you may notice yourself getting wetter, and only increase the pace when it's pleasurable to. Don't force it or you'll just end up hurting and feeling sore. Don't do it too hard either. Work your way up to climax with constant stimulation, either mental or from your guy, but then again, whichever way works for you.

Just remember the importance of letting go. Relax and feel good. Don't worry anymore, I've a feeling you'll soon be feeling much better :) xxx

I think what you're looking for is processor speed and cache memory rather than general hard drive capacity.

In simple terms, just pay special attention to the CPU speed which is read as e.g. 2.6Ghz. This is basically the brain of the computer. The higher the the speed, the faster it thinks.

I believe some of the best brands for laptops are Sony, HP, and Dell though it is hard to pinpoint a 'bad' brand since tastes are subjective and experiences vary. Additionally, if you're going for speed I further recommend Sony.

Heh first of all, stop being so hard on yourself! :) Don't worry so much about what others think about you, and don't excuse yourself for expressing your true feelings! Though since this is easier said than done, and believe me I know, I'll jump to the next part.

Although I'm sure you're a very attractive girl, it is normal to feel like others don't see you that way, especially if you feel like you're ready to have a boyfriend but are left feeling unwanted.

Put yourself out there! Realise your worth and get on the market. Try to be more sociable at school. Are there any boys you like or are interested in? Even if it's only as friends at first, get to know them!

It's great that you have good friends. Talk to them and let them know how you feel. You need to communicate with the people around you, especially those you can trust. Having people to trust is already a huge blessing, so embrace it and let out your true feelings. The only thing people on advicenators can offer is indeed advice, not a solution. YOU are the only one with power to change your attitude, self, or lifestyle, and if you really want a change, then get cracking!

Maybe you want to make a gameplan, maybe you're still too shy to jump into action and want to start out slow. Either way, the only way to get forward is to start moving.

Try to think and focus on any specific time of day you feel alone. Are there any patterns or is it a constant state of being? Be as honest with yourself as possible. Some self analysis here could probably go a long way. Are you feeling alone during, before or after a particular event? Do you feel most alone when you're at home, at school, where?

Finally, everybody's different and everyone has different needs when it comes to being happy. Each person has to work and take an active approach towards satisfying their own. Get active, make what YOU want, HAPPEN.

Are you envious of others around you who maybe have boyfriends? Of course there is nothing wrong with being single, at all, but if you seek that special bond with someone then look for it. Don't be afraid of boys rejecting you.

Not feeling alone can also come from many sources in your life. Try to keep your mind open and try new things, maybe get involved in new activities or take up a new hobby. Keeping active around other people is sure to take away some of the blues. I feel alone when I'm away from my comfort zones, and my main comfort zone is my boyfriend, who's also my best friend. Lately however, we haven't been able to see each other that often and seeing my friends and watching an uplifting movie really cheers me up.

Feeling alone isn't a constant state which you're going to have to live with. Keep that in mind, and find out what you want and love. You need to have someone you can trust and lean on, and speak to when things get rough. Wanting that isn't unusual, it's human.

P.S. Sorry for being so scattered. Hope to have helped a tad :) You seem like a great girl

Well, usually when a boy starts going through puberty, and up until 5 years later, his penis starts growing more rapidly than before. Although the rate is increased, the majority of penile growth will occur between infancy and age five.

In relation to your question, penises don't just become 'fat' as a growth stage. If a boy/man's body is lean, chances are the area around his pubic region and the penis itself will also be relatively lean. The penis is, after all, another body part, and can put on or decrease in weight accordingly. If you're referring to girth, as in thickness, then that too develops alongside the growth stages, relatively in sync with length.

You didn't mention your age, so assuming you're young, extra secretions could be caused by quite a few reasons. These can all be dependant on how far along your menstrual cycle you are, whether or not you're sexually active, possible infection, as well as how old you are and even stress factors which could affect hormone levels.

However, if the only sign you're experiencing is an increased amount of discharge, without any foul smell or change in odour, consistency or colour, then you can be farely at ease that it's nothing to worry about.

Hormones fluctuate naturally through puberty and an increase in discharge without any secondary symptoms shouldn't be a cause for concern. It is more likely that you are looking too much into this as all women experience changes during their menstrual cycle.

During ovulation, it is perfectly normal to have an increase in secretions.

If you're worried about wetting your underwear then you can wear pantiliner throughout your ovulation period to absorb the extra liquid without having to resort to the bulk of conventional pads.

Finally, being quite a bit of a worrier myself when it comes to health, I can just say put your mind at rest for the time being, though if any new symptoms occur or if the situation is really bothering or worrying you, don't hesitate to visit a doctor to get things checked out.

Talk to him!!! Again! Communication is almost always the answer.

And if verbal communication doesn't work out for you, try enticing him when things get naughty, tease him, ask him for more.

If you let yourself be comfortable he'll be able to understand your needs more and realise that he doesn't necessarily need to treat you like a hamster.

If you care so much about this guy... why are you letting him go so easily? Don't get me wrong, I'm not saying try to keep him with you... but why do you have to break up? You can keep in touch and I think if he really means that much to you and you have faith in the two of you, then you can go with him as soon as feasible. If you believe this guy is the real deal, don't just say goodbye if you can avoid it.

As for the tattoo, only you can decide where you'd feel the most comfortable, tattoos can be a very intimate thing and seeing as an outsider can't know him or you as well as you do, I can't be sure about the quote either.

According to how you want the relationship to go, you can choose anything from "Love means never having to say goodbye" or "To meet again", or something a lot more personal depending on what YOU want to say about him, or what he says about you. I'd probably get it on my hip bone or one side of the pelvis. It's totally your call. You can get help or ideas by googling whatever search term you want to find, http://www.tattoojohnny.com/ sites like this may help :) x

I think I understand how you feel, although I can't be sure. I was in a very similar situation for a while though it may not have been exactly the same.

As for the first part of your question, I've been there. You might have trouble deciding what to do or the next best course of action because of conflicting feelings and not wanting to hurt certain people and of course yourself in the process. It makes perfect sense that you and your new boyfriend haven't been together that long, since you will find that these problems dissolve as time goes by and things fall into place, though there are a few key points you can try working on if you want either relationship to flourish.

Now I'm supposing you would really like to be with your current boyfriend because he's so good and the 'obvious' choice though lingering feelings may conflict.

If you didn't wait sufficient time between boyfriends then it explains the situation further. You clearly still find your ex appealing, although he obviously can't be the 'right' choice, right? Your ex is still appealing to you because you still seek him in certain ways. Maybe now that he's less available to you?

As girls, we're always initially more attracted to the guys which allure us the most rather than those who treat us the best.

You have choices here that only you can make. Do you want to really try to make this new relationship work, or are your loyalties, heart and true desire locked on the other guy? If you haven't got closure yet, this might be the case. I got closure from my ex by doing certain things I now regret. Time has passed and I want to be with my boyfriend more than anything in the world, and I can't believe I got trapped in the cycle of chasing such a violent, rage-prone, selfish person. Though when there are strong feelings involved, everything changes.

Remember time is healing. As time passes, certain things I can't mention here will become clear to you, and certain feelings will resolve. The thing I can definitely advocate is gradual distancing from your ex. I was under the illusion of remaining best friends with my ex and I couldn't see my life without him, and things just broke apart. The reality is, if you make the choice of being with the new guy, you have to go the whole way to get over your ex. It will take time but is worth it. Keep in mind your CURRENT boyfriend is your boyfriend, and will fill in the space your ex had in your life. Dedicate more time to your new boyfriend, though make sure you encourage his freedom. This will both make you seek him more and ensure you don't just jump into anything too fast. Be COMPLETELY open with each other. Tell him your conflicting feelings and how you feel. If his feelings get ahead of him and he starts telling you how much he loves you etc, if he hasn't already, don't panic. Give your feelings time to settle down. You are at a stage in between feelings, and things will get better. The third or fourth week after I split up with my ex was the toughest, and came with the most stupid mistakes.

I know telling yourself your ex can be such a jerk can't change your feelings from him. You need to move on, but can't do it too fast. Your current boyfriend needs to have a lot of patience at this time, make sure he knows this, but consider his situation too. Try to be as selfless as possible, though for now the unusual circumstances call for extra understanding on his behalf.

The solution will be achieved when you 'like' your current boyfriend more than your ex. That isn't yet the case. Don't make your ex inaccessible all of a sudden, though. This might make you long for him as if he were a treat just a tad out of reach.

Take it slow, but get things moving. You can't just rise to the challenge here, you have to rise above it if you want to get over your ex. Be strong. Don't submit to temptations, and fight through wayward thoughts. You can't keep your ex in your life like this until your feelings go away. They will if you help them to. Try to limit direct communication with your ex. Don't try to please him anymore. Don't say things just to please him, and don't do things to please him. You are above him and the fact that he bugs you for attention can be a sign of him knowing that. He wants you because now you're out of his reach, don't give in to him. You are better than this, you just need to realise it yourself and believe it.

If you feel like you need a dose of your ex once in a while, as is common for now, you can exchange a word, or meet up with him and friends, though never alone. Don't put yourself in that situation, no matter how much you may want it for now.

Keep your distance from your ex, and you will notice as days and weeks pass you seek him less and less. Your feelings for your current boyfriend will grow and you will start seeking as you once did your ex. Don't worry though, things will work out.

If it so happens that things with your new boyfriend don't work out, then at least you will have acquired a clear head and can work out the next best course of action without conflicting feelings and worrisome thoughts.

And don't worry about keeping your new boyfriend pleased. Don't mistreat him and consider his feelings at all times, but don't worry about keeping him interested. If he's a keeper, he'll stick around.

Ok so since I'm grateful for all your inputs ... I'll give you my list, and I apologise if it comes off sounding overly superficial or idealised.. but, that's the question really haha

And..I also want to apologise for sounding overly cliche and immature but im sure you all know what I mean :)

Hmmm (in no order of preference):

1.a good listener
2.is 100% honest
3.puts you as a priority over everything
4.can be clingy, but is not obsessive
5.has charm, is collected
6.has a great fashion sense and can look good in anything he wears, but is not mainstream or emo or...well, anything like that
7. has great hair, short but not too short... and doesnt use gel, for doesnt need it
8. is also very hippie and nonchalant and laid back with an air of... supreme cool? (i cant believe i just wrote that)
9.doesnt ever check out any other girl, and doesn't flirt with girls or give them any different treatment to guys
10.is a romantic at heart and loves doing little meaningful gestures, surprises, small and big alike, especially small
11.is a simple, down to earth but also idealistic person
12.is movie-dreamy and sometimes acts like that guy we all wanted as kids
13.can make me laugh
14.has a great sense of humour
15.truly loves me
16.is caring
17.considerate
18.kind
19.patient
20.6"4
21.doesnt matter what I wear or how i look
22.tells me im the most beautiful girl and means it
23.green/brown eyes
24.has the same tastes and very similar character to me
25.treats me well
26.is chivalrous and acts like a gentleman
27.can also be my best girl and guy friend
28.encourages me to spend time with my friends, but secretly wishes i was with him all the time
29.doesnt mind talking about the future and telling me how he envisions it
30.loves adventure and doing daring things
31.loves nature and exploring
32.does not watch porn
33.loves books
34.loves music and has great musical taste
35.loves kids
36.respects me
37.is a good person
38.loves animals
39.is insanely intelligent
40.is slim, but not overbuilt
41.is dark-haired
42.is middle european with either irish or english roots
43.is very artistic and loves writing
44.has a very deep character and emotional range
45.treats you not only as an equal to his guy friends, but above and beyond
46.has an awesome name
47.makes time and goes the extra mile for me
48.doesnt think money is important and doesnt obsess over spending it
49.loves getting little gifts to show he cares
50.has high career ambitions, preferably a doctor or something of the like
51.has charisma and many friends
52.loves his mother and sister and shows it
53.is very intuitive and thoughtful
54.takes care of me
55.loves little tiny things which most guys would find insignificant or wouldnt care for
56.has the same religious beliefs, or lack thereof
57.thinks women are awesome as people
58.has non perverted friends who like me
59.has a darker, dirtier but insanely attractive side
60.is selfless and loves pleasuring me in bed over himself
61.truly prefers when im completely natural and free, rather than primped with heels and layers of make up
62.loves my body exactly the way it is, strongly discourages any alteration to it
63.has a strong opinion but respects my beliefs
64.is very open minded
65. allows me to be 100% comfortable around him even with personal or girly issues
66. plays an instrument, preferably guitar
67.always there when you need him
68. is athletic and practices a sport i also love
69. is willing to swallow his pride for me
70. loves sweeping me off my feet

I can't think of anything else right now, mainly because I don't think anyone can find a guy who fits even half of these... and yeah... I basically went to superman levels on that hahaha

Feel free to answer again or add additional comments for my insanely long criteria:)

How close are you to this female friend and what is the main thing bothering you about this situation?

The issue of her ex? Well, I've had a similar problem with my current boyfriend and my ex and really it is up to her. She will most probably still feel the comfort levels she had with her ex, especially if she was with him for a long period of time.

I've been selfish in the sense that I've been waaaay too close to my ex after our break up and I don't deny it.

I think if you are sincerely, as a friend, worried about her causing problems with her current boyfriend, I suggest you address the matter with her in non condescending tones. Talk to her on a friendly level about the issue and try not to judge.

Then again, be careful not to prod where you're not invited or that may just cause more drama. Most of all, I'd encourage her honesty with her current boyfriend, rather than trying to change her habits.

Hope to have helped in some way. :) x

I know how you feel...
The stress my parents give me has even given me suicidal thoughts before and I just started feeling like I'm a burden to the people in my life, especially my closest friends and boyfriend. My mum sounds a lot like the parental figures you described..
If he is your best friend, does he know what's going on in your life? Does he know why you take it out on him and what is causing you to? Talk to him, you need people close to you away from the stress your parents impose or you just won't be happy, more importantly you won't be yourself.
I know how you feel about being lost and not knowing what to do. If it gets too much and you need someone to talk to privately, just let me know. For now, till your situation gets better, you need to have people in your life and things you are passionate about.

You aren't a burden to your best friend, he will most probably understand your feelings more than you think. Talk to people who can help you, friends. You need it...

It would be incredibly unusual if you had become extremely popular on your first day. First day's always seem worse than they'll be in the long run, I've had my share where the people didn't even like me to begin with..

Give it a bit of time. In a few days you'll feel much better and more settled in. If you really want to speed up the process, however, there's only one sure way to do that, and it's to get out there and make the first move. Smile at classmates and initiate conversations whenever you can. At first things may seem really awkward but everyone will go through that stage, it's unavoidable until you get used to the people and your new surroundings.

I can assure you though that if you make the first move towards friends you'll soon find the awkward phase has not only subsided but become a thing of the past.

[= Try it!!

Firstly it seems like you've got to find out how you feel about David. Do you want to continue your relationship or not? Or does it depend? And on what? Only you can answer these..

Most likely once you figure these out you'll need to talk to David. And not just another talk that's brushed under the rug or avoided by him, you need to make him realise it is serious. You didn't mention how long you were together with your boyfriend.. that could affect things.
There's no one who could know what's best for you and your boyfriend because no one else is in your relationship or recognises the dynamics of it.

Talk to David, tell him exactly how you feel without sparing the details, notice his reaction, and make a decision. I know it may sound harsh but it's the only way for you to realise what you want =/.

I don't know whether the fact that you mentioned Joey points towards you being torn between the two of them, if you feel like this then you urgently should talk to David so you can start figuring the answers out yourself.

Get back to me if you need more help =]

I could tell you to try scouring the internet for an answer but it may just be allergies to the treatment your using, did you think of that?
However unfortunately the safest answer is to go to the vet and check it out =/
Try using a different cream and maybe inquire the pet shop about the problem. Better to talk to a trained professional though, preferably if they could personally inspect the problem.

He may not have credit... =/
Or he might have thought nothing of it..

When you see him next, make eye contact and assess how things are. If he's a good guy friend, what about talking about the situation? It might help if you know exactly what was sent so you wouldn't remain feeling clueless and helpless. :]

See, now, here's the thing.

You are perfect. You've gotten more good attributes than anyone else I know in this world. I just don't see why any girl would want to date disney's prince charming once they've met you.

The epitome of all insults are ignorance. If someone is attacking you, it says more about themselves than you. Have you realised that the happy, intelligent people with active lives probably have never uttered a negative remark against you? You have amazing friends female and male. Too many females you meet are attracted to your magnetic personality and radiating hotness. [My clit erects when I think of you and how you can make me feel].

Notice how the people you care most about aren't ignorant... people with names like Nadine, Rachel, Luke and Grazia can often be trusted. This is scientifical fact. However, stay away from Lynne Jo's as these sort of people will only be attracted to you physically and crave lustful yet sinful interaction with you. :]

You probably could search the internet for the perfect man, and you honestly seem to exceed every last adjective people can think a perfect man should be like. Perfection is a concept, but you physically, emotionally and mentally push it into reality.

I seem to have fallen in love with you after this brisk answer. Oh no.

I know you can keep asking yourself why people can be so cruel, but those are the people you don't want close to you. If they have to be friends, keep your distance. They don't really care about you enough to deserve your trust or respect. Only lowlifes can attack someone so harshly behind their back based on physical appearance.

I think these type of imperfections people have causing them to be so cruel was intended to harshly serve as a guideline to separate one flock from the rest. You see how in nature we have the goat and the ram, the rat and the mouse, the people of one caliber and the people of another. We aren't supposed to judge others, I agree with that... but letting nature speak for itself proves that you are indeed on a whole other level to those vain pestilent and lesser fucking beings.

Hmmm.. I appear to love you.. want to meet for a drink sometime?

What do you mean? If you can get back to me and explain your question or be more specific it would help...

If you're talking about just age in general, well most people have a problem because being a different age to someone means you're a different type of person. If you've lived less or more, different lives and experiences, and therefore elders are often concerned about age gaps between youngsters in relationships. This is mainly because what one has come to learn about life through experience cannot compare to the naivety of the other and therefore conflict and worry will arise.

Get back to me if you feel like being less vague =]
If not, hope to have helped in some way..

There's no textbook answer for the perfect weight loss method.. it has to come from your will power, annoyingly enough.

You'd probably lose weight visibly faster if you keep up a diet of regular small meals and healthy snacks rather than one big meal after almost starving yourself. Your body would then feed on the new intake of excessive food and only proceed to make you gain weight as opposed to losing it.

Get your body trained up to eat less bulk more frequently and choose tasty but healthy meals. Don't be unrealistic though, allow yourself the occasional dessert and chocolate.

Just keep in mind that it is all down to will power. The type of exercise you do also really matters. Brisk walking in the heat to work up a sweat can be very effective for weight loss on thighs. A combo of cardio and weight loss routines will help the weight to shed off. If you find it hard to stick to an exercise regime, go out more often for walks and walk to places instead of using alternate transport methods. And thinking positive actually really can work =) So just embrace your new slim lifestyle... and stick to it!

1. Pregnancy is usually counted from the date of the LMP, last menstrual period. Meaning the first day of your last non-missed normal period was the first day of your pregnancy. Therefore if that was June 9th.. you are just over 2 months pregnant.

2. If the symptoms are going along fine and you don't feel any adversary effects I wouldn't worry too much. Fetuses are surprisingly resistant in the first trimester. But stay away from those from now on if you want to have a healthy baby =] To be sure, a check with the doctor never hurt and could lessen any worries you may have and pick up on any warning signs.

Hope to have helped! (=

I'm in my second year of junior college, I'm taking English, pure maths, philosophy A, sociology, french and biology intermediate. There's not much about me I can write here, but I'll probably still end up writing things anyway..basically i just really like nice, non-judgmental people who have a sense of humour.

Im really optimistic, inspired, ambitious, dreamy, crazy, and unpredictable. I try to be non-judgmental, Im v.v open minded, sometimes can be a bit stubborn though. I love being passionate about things and certain people, having really close loving relationships.. living life to the full. I despise authority, believe in nature, adore music, love animals, nonconformist in every sense, unorganised, love adventure. Having fun with friends, playing games like we used to, having long meaningful conversations, building relationships, being able to feel free, being myself... Listening to music when I travel, enjoying nature.. hope to do something I love in the future.. mainly study psychology, maybe journalism, I would really love to do voluntary work in different countries. I really love travelling and..well, I write... Dont know what else to say (=.. ermm hope you're doing swell

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