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my boyfriend
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Hi- I had sex with my boyfriend about 3 months ago without realizing he had HIV.. I asked him..and he lied and told me he didn't have it..
So- When I went for my yearly doctor check-up(last week).. my doctor wanted to give me an HIV test because I'm homosexual..
and it came out positive.. and I know its from my boyfriend because he's the only one i've had sex with.. ever..
So should I be mad at my boyfriend? or should I be mad at myself because I didn't know he had HIV...
Also- my doctor told me that my HIV is going to result in AIDS in about 5 years..
Please help!
-Jason
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First, knowingly passing HIV/AIDS on is a crime. You need to go to the police and he could be charged.
As well, anger is totally normal. You need to take care of your health, with today's medication people are living upwards of ten years without symptoms or progressing to AIDS. You might wwant to seek out a liscenced therapist. As well, you can go to TheBody.com for information about HIV/AIDS, health and many more ideas including a very supportive community.
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I would be really mad. I mean, first of all, he flat out lied, and if he really cares about you and your future, he would've let you know that he had HIV.
And even though he might NOT have been aware he had it, he should've gone to the doctor and gotten it checked out to make sure that if he had it, he could warn others before giving it to them too.
You shouldn't be mad at yourself at all. How else could you know unless you asked him? And he told you his answer, and you trusted him like any boyfriend would.
Just remember to keep going to the doctor and getting check ups and everything, but that's a real important thing to do.
I hope I helped.
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Hey dude-
Assuming that your boyfriend did know that he had HIV- he lied to you and showed that he didn't really love you as much as you thought.. so you have every right in this world of ours to be mad at him- because any guy that lies to his boyfriend about not having HIV is a guy that doesn't care about his boyfriend's future
As for dealing with HIV- just live everyday to the fullest and live without regrets..
Regularly get check-ups from your doctor, because that is majorly important..
Hope I helped!
--Jack
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If he didn't know that he had it, then you can't really be mad at him.
But if he did know, then you have every right to be mad at him.
Don't be mad at yourself, because he lied (knowingly or not) to you.
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Yes you should be mad at your boyfriend. Truly a shame, hang in there bud.
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You have every right to be mad with your boyfriend. If he didnt know he had it, he should have said "I dont know". If he knew he had it, in my mind its no different than attemptive murder.
What you should blame yourself for is not protecting yourself. You took a nasty risk, but you were deceived and that is truly sad.
In the end though you need to confront your boyfriend. In case he doesnt know you dont want him doing this again to someone else.
I feel really sorry for you, but try not to lose all hope however, many people manage to live a long time with HIV.
Best of luck
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you should be mad at your boyfriend because he lied to you...its his fault, not yours
and im sorry that this has happened to you!!
he should be very sorry for what he has done, he mustve not loved you enough to do this to you!! sorry
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I'm sorry to hear what you've been through. and if you should be mad at anyone, it's your boyfriend for lying to you. He knew he had it, yet still had sex with you.
Unless of course he was uncertain himself, then you're both really to blame for not being tested.
Seeing as you can't change the past and what's done is done, you will have to learn to live with it and prepare for the future. Do your research, keep healthy and go for check ups when necessarry.
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You should be mad because he did lie to about it, unless he didn't know. then you can't be mad at him. You can't be mad at yourself because its not like you knew he had HIV. Dont blame yourslef, its the worst thing you can do.
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ignore the first answer that columnist wrote. some people are very immature. you should be upset with your bf. you did ask him & he lied to you. this isn't a small white lie. it's major that affects your health & his. aids/hiv is a serious problem & im sorry to hear that you're in this situation. yes, you could blame yourself about not being as careful, but he is your bf, you should've been able to trust him. sit down & talk to him. if he lied about a huge issue, you should probably re-evaluate your relationship with him. good luck.
-hope that helped!♥
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ew you disgusting freak. its adam and EVE not adam and steve. you gay sick person.
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