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My boyfriend likes my girlfriend.....
I think my boyfriend and one of my best friends may have feelings for each other. They've always been friendly with each other, but lately it's more than that. They're always really playful - joking/laughing together, and they've been quite touchy feely of late, too. The other day I watched them when they thought I wasn't looking, and she said something to him and he started laughing like it was the funniest thing ever and he kinda slapped/punched her on the shoulder. Then he pulled her woolen hat down over the back of her head for her....the whole time I watched she was fiddling/playing with his jacket, and she even touched his face a couple times.....
Am I totally over-reacting here? Maybe they're innocent? What do I do?
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I don't think you're over-reacting at all. It sounds fishy to me too, so I'd be the same way if I were you. It can go either or. They could just be really good friends, or not, but it sounds to me like they might like eachother.
I would sit down with your boyfriend and talk to him about it and just flat out ask him,"do you have feelings for my best friend? be honest, cause i don't want to be with you if you're sitting there liking my best friend more than me." and see what he says. If he says no, then let him know you've noticed lately that it seems like you two are flirting and being all touchy-feely, and that it's worrying you.
I would also talk to your best friend too. Just flat out ask her also,"do you have feelings for my boyfriend? be honest, please." And if she's really your best friend, she'll be honest and upfront with you and let you know. And if it turns out she doesn't like him either, let her know what they've been sort of doing and it's coming off as flirting to you and you're getting worried.
I would also try and spend more time with just the boyfriend because then you two can get closer, and he won't be sitting there being all "touchy-feely" with your best friend as much and your relationship can improve even more.
BUT.
If they do admit that they have feelings for eachother, then I would just break up with him, because you can't just sit there and date him and watch him flirt with your best friend. But if that option occurs, then the best thing I'd say is to just let them date because if you try to get inbetween them, you could lose your best friend and a possible future friendship with your boyfriend and it just might get chaotic.
But hopefully, that's not the case and it's just harmless and innocent.
I hope I helped.
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well my sister is going through this right now aswell.
i advised her to talk to him and explain to hi m how this makes her feel,but i dont know her boyfriend will relly listen to it so i think she if needed should throw a hissy fit.i know it is very imature but it may be the only way to get threw it him it may be the only way for you aswell you are not wrong to be thinking this you are his girl not her let her know that aswell
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pff you are not totally overreacting. sit down & talk to your boyfriend first. explain this to him & how you're bothered by it. then, talk to her about it. you are right. they are acting too friendly & that's a bit weird. i don't think it seems too innocent. when you go to talk to him, don't be too mad/upset or it will just blow up. be calm at first & see what happens. if he says he has feelings for your friend, it would probably be a bad idea to be in a relationship with him.
-hope that helped!♥
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Sounds like they might like eachother. The only way you can find out is if you ask your boyfriend or best friend. Be honest with them too. I don`t think you are over reacting. Maybe try only hanging out with your boyfriend for awhile? Hope this helps. Send me a message in my inbox if you have any more questions or need some more advice. ♥
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talk to both of them about this individually. ask them if anything is going on. they may say yes or no. if you want to, tell them that you don't want this to go on and that it is unacceptable for them to be flirting with each other. he is in a relationship and he has made a commitment. she is one of your best friends and shouldnt be acting this way around your guy. he is your boyfriend and if she wants to flirt, go find another guy. be honest with each of them and dont jump to conclusions about them having an attraction, but dont let the entire thing go. do what your heart tells you. hope this helps! ♥ arlyn
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