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teenage marriage
i am 16 and my boyfriend has been talking about getting married he said he was going to ask me to marry him soon...how do you guys feel about teenage marriage? and why do you feel this way? i need ohter teens advice! thanks xox
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Like how parents say you guys are just too young to get married. You arent ready he just saying that so he can get you into BED. That is one of the biggest lines that guys use.
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I think that it is completely possible that this guy is the one, but I think that at the stage in your life that you are at right now, its really hard to tell. I know it doesn't seem like it right now because you are caught up in your life, but you will change a lot over the next few years. I just finished my freshman year in college, during which I broke up with the guy that I would have sworn a year ago was the one. I recently went out to lunch with him and realized that now him and I are two very different people with two very different lives and had we stayed together that would have become apparent and caused a rift to form in our relationship.
I think that it's great that you love him and that he loves you. And I wish you all the happieness. And feel lucky, its hard to find love not only at your age but really at any age. And enjoy it. But don't tie yourself down just yet. Wait and see how things go. It it is meant to be then you two will last through the changes and can be married when you are older and more ready for it. If you are meant to be then its worth the wait.
Hope that helped a little.
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Sorry hun but I think thats too young. Everyone nowadays keeps getting devorced and everything not long after they get married and at 16 I really don't think your going to have to want to go through with that. Sorry hun
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Are you kidding? Wait until you're divorced with a kid by 22, see how much you enjoy your life then.
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dear teenage marriage,
i feel that you need to finish school first, cause getting married is going to ruin the rest of your high school career.
you`re only 16, you have a life to live, you don`t need to be making any commitments this young.
best of luckk =]
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One question: Are you ready?
It's not the age that matters, some people really care about age and stuffs. I too, care about the age most. But it's not what important, really, it's just the reputation... the important thing is when you finally are ready to do that. I myself will say that it's too early for marriage, but if you're ready, why not?
Think again of what may come and go... Just think before you decide to do something. If you're ready, then just do what you think you must do.
Wish you always the best luck. ^_^ I hope I've helped.
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oh no! i would most definitly wait!!!!!! because my firned got married at 16 and they very shortly after divorced because they both agreed that they were too young to hold together a house and family and kids alone. and besides you have your whole life ahead of you, and the guy you have now may not be "the one" as you think he is, i've heard it happen before, i hope the best for you no matter what decision you choose, ^_^
Jasmine
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i personally dont think its a good idea...you guys are still really young..people change a lot over the next few years- i mean with going to college and all- you have plenty of time...and you really shouldnt rush into something liek marriage...wait a few more years and see how things turn out...it might seem hard, but you dont want to find out you dont liek the guy after your married. hope its helpful! :)
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I'm 17 years old, and marriage is probably the last thing on my mind. Keep in mind that you'll meet new people after highschool, and you have your whole life ahead of you. I strongly suggest that you think this over carefully, but in the end do what you think is right, not what your boyfriend thinks is right.
Hope I helped.
Al <3
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okay i'm not saying that but you should tell him to wait if he dosent he dosent love you if you need more help email me at dainiqua@yahoo.com
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Ok well this is my opinion.. first of all i think you guys are still way to young to be thinking about getting married, try talking to him and slowing things down. Theres way to much you guys can experience before getting married. Also when your older you have better taste in guys, you dont want to make a mistake and pick the wrong guy. Slow it down, relax.
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Teenage marriage is pretty cool with having your husband and its all so cute a little family of your own. But what most teens dont no is that there are many risks to getting married at a young age in this generation. You will have school work to do and have to do regular chores around the house and having a husband is too much to handle. Are you moving in your own apratment? This could be harder, making you having to get a job to support yourself AND going to school. You have to worry about stress. Will things get done on time in your schoolwork? Will you have the time to study for big exams and balance it off by having a husband? Will you pass to your next grades? Will you be able to afford to go to college and support a family of your own in the future? If you said no (or even if you didnt) think it over. You are still a kid and you should enjoy just being a kid. Dont let grown up stuff get in the way of your childhood. That can all come later. And if you guys are as close as you say then he'll still be around and you can get married later. Just enjoy being a kid. Remember you can only be a kid once. Once you leave to adulthood you cant go back. Think it over.
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well i can tell you your chance of failure is very high.. your better off waiting until you have good jobs and a better life for marriage and a family. if you really love each other you guys will be able to wait that long
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How long have you two been together?
If it has been short, say no.
Most teen relationships -especially at age 16- will last either a month to 6 months at most before people part.
Some cases will last longer than that, but most certainly people don't stay together as long as they would like.
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Teenage marriage can be wonderful.... spending your whole life (like our grandparents) together, if you are in a very healthy, strong, relationship and are willing to work at it no matter what it takes.
But that was a far different day and age, where a lot of people never even ventured out of their home state. It CAN work, but takes 5 times as much effort and you don't ever want to be disappointed that you didn't go places or do things because you were already tied down.
If it's really meant to be, than the marriage part can wait, until you've both had the chance to figure out what you want out of life individually and accomplish some things - just for you. In the meantime, don't rush into being married, just enjoy the fact that you both love each other that much and share lots of good times together!
Best wishes
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Honestly, I think that teenage marraige isn't the best way to go. Teenagers are too young and hormonal to know what they really want. They'd have to be tied down, and a lot of responsibilities come with marraige, and it'll be a lot to deal with through the rest of your school years. You never know, you guys may end up wanting to split, and it will be difficult if you're married. That's just my opinion. Hope this helps!
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