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So.. I've found out that I cannot get more peircings.. because my SECOND ear piericings I got keyloids. Which I had to have removed, and are gone thankfully. But then.. I got sick with this strange thing that caused sores.. and left hypertrophic scars. So.. my mainquesiton is.. would that happen if I got my belly button peirced.. or a tattoo?
And are there anyways to make hypertrophic scars.. less raised.. or noticeable.. because I'm 16, and it feels like the end of the world, because I have so many in obvious places. I know its not the end of the world, and I probably will just have to keep dealing iwth it forever, but I just wanted to know if I had anymore options.
Because I went to the plastic surgeon, and he said there..was.. nothing he could do, and I've had a huge scar on my shoulder from when I was a baby having heart surgery, so I guess I'm just emotionally traumitized by having SO many scars.. because right when I get over..wearing a bathing suit and people seeing my scar, I get new scars thhat I cant hide, or atleast get over as easily.. =/
I'm sorry if this is long and sounds whiney, I didnt intend it to be.. I just need some help.. (link)
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Hi. I would just like to let you know that you are NOT alone. I myself have 5 noticeable, red keloids on my chest. I cannot wear any type of low cut top without them being noticed, two are so close to my neck area. I know what you are going through. It's absolutely horrible for me. It's so hard to find dresses, shirts, and bathing suits that cover up that area. I am 16 myself and I feel like they have ruined my life. Prom is going to be hell finding a perfect dress..but enough about me. My doctor told me that even if the scars are removed there is always a chance they will grow back. She said my best bet is to have them injected with steroids that help to flatten them. But seeing how they are in my chest area, it's dangerous & the steroid could possibly enlarge the scar rather than flatten them. Have you tried the silicon strips? They seem to work..I'm using them now. Try them, and if it doesn't work and you really must get rid of them..go for the steroid option. My doctor also told me that they can shrink on their own, but that could take YEARS.
Other than that we are stuck with these buggers for life. They may come up with any tattoo, piercing, or surgery we have and we can't stop it. We may just have to face the world with a bit of cover up makeup and some confidence. I've recently started wearing tank tops with long necklaces so they are less visible. Don't feel horrible about them, just try to find a method that works for you. I hope for the best and this somewhat helps..even tho I understand, keloids are a byotch.
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Hair,makeup, and clothing..
WHAT'S IN STYLE!?
15/f. (link)
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Clothing
>Purples.
>Plaids. It ranges from bags, shirts, skirts ect;
>Chunky knits and sweater dresses.
>Skinnies are still popular. Boyfriend jeans and wide leg pants. (Don't get this confused with flares.)
>"Worn" looking leather. (Like with totes.)
>Turtlenecks. Especially black.
>Long cardigans and wrap arounds. Again being chunky knits and big buttons. Think "Granny-Inspired."
>Unique jewlery and odd rings. This has been in a while though.
>Ankle boots and tall flat boots.
>Oxford heels. I see these everywear.
http://www.instyle.com/instyle/products/details/0,,20049446,00.html?o=InStylePFNavOnt:FashionISPFNavClass_InStylePFNavOnt:ShoesISPFNavClass
Hair And Makeup
>Straight ironed hair is starting to die out. Braids and waves/curls are stylish.
>Purple eyeshadow and nude lips.
Go to freepeople.com
^They have excellent clothes that are really stylish. I know they are pricey, but just let them inspire you, so you can get look alikes. (That's what I do)
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15/f
ok. this is what i'm gonna wear tomorrow..
its from macys, and its really cute. its this like purple, that seems to be somewhat in. that darker purple. and then like it dips down low kinda. kinda like a scoop shirt or whateveR? and then its a baby doll top, and it has silver trim, and the sleeves like kinda puff. and then it has threee little silver heart buttons, going down. its really cute. and then i'm just wearing dark jean capris. & then i have these cute little silver bracelets, 3 of them. that im gonna wear.
is that a good first day outfit?
I understand people don't dress up or anything. but i don't wanna look like a slob. i wanna look cute. (link)
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Purple is definatly cool right now. And with the silver will be divine. What shoes are you going to wear it with? I think a solid black pair of flats would look really chic.
I think it's a great back to school outfit.
Good luck on your first day! =]
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I don't have super long hair, slightly past my shoulders. But I don't just want to wear it down, it a pony, or in a bun every day. I want to have some cool original hair dos that take maybe less than 15 minutes to do. I just can't think of any on my own. Anyone have some cool ideas on what I could do? Thanks!!! (link)
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I know you don't want to have it down, but I have to put this in ;)
Have a sort of 90s thing going on. If your hair is curly (if not add non-crunchy moouse and/or gel--scrunch) flip a section from one side over so your hair line isn't right down the middle of your scalp and done. It has volume and bouncy-ness(thats not a word, i know lol)
1)(look at DJ's hair-she's in the red if you don't watch the show)
http://a6.vox.com/6a00b8ea0715b41bc000cdf7e1eb5e094f-pi
Notice how the front section of her hair is slightly pinned back to add volume and not look flat.
2) Or leave it straight--flip and add hairspray to the front so it will stay in place (again look at DJ)
http://www.tvshowsondvd.net/graphics/news3/FullHouse_S4.jpg
I don't think you have to have long hair for these, but you can always try them out on the weekend or something to see if you like it.
3) Now if these don't work you can try this:
http://images.art.com/images/PRODUCTS/large/10103000/10103796.jpg
All you need is a blowdryer, maybe even a difusser and a styling product.
Ok, if you hate all these then go to your salon and talk to a stylist about styles for your hair. Maybe even get a cut that will be easy to style and compliment your face.
Hope everything works out!!
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ok well a new school year is starting on monday and i really want to get the boys attention this year soon would be good!! like i want a b.f but not now.!! Soo what can i do to get their attention in a good way and get them to like fall for me..!!!!! plz help..!! (link)
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If you want to get a guys attention in a GOOD way, dress fashionably and have good hygiene. Guys like to see a girl putting effort into her looks, and not being trashy. Talk to guys. Make friends with them, hang out, friendships could blossom into relationships, but if they don't at least you have a great new friend. Just act yourself and don't change your looks or lie to get a guy to like you. (Ex: If he likes football and you hate it, but you wear jerseys and act like you love it) Most importantly, don't be desperate, guys can sense this & don't be a hoochie.
Best of luck!!!
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ok well im in 9th grade.! and it seems like alot of my friends have done some/more sexual things than i have done!!.... all i have done it make out and stuff.. but i refuse to give head b.c i think its dirty.!! 1st am i the only not doing it??/ and 2nd i wouldnt mind going a little farther but not sex how do i make it known that i want to do that with out sounding like a slut!!???????????? plz help me..!!!! (link)
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Calm yourself. It's definatly not weird, I mean your only in 9th grade, there's tons of time for all that later. I am a junior and I've done nothing, just hug. Don't give into peer pressure because you might do something you will regret later. You shouldn't worry about it really, just focus on your school work and hang out with your friends, have fun. Just because everyone else is doing something, doesn't mean you have to go join the parade.
Hope everything works out with you! =]
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any tips for starting a new school year? like a resolution so theres no drama through out the school year im going to 8th grade /... now what do i do to make more friends not cry all the time and stop being alone... and anythin... like personality? be louder.. or what??
what does humble mean in a person? dop people like it? or theyd like loud and wild better?
thnks (link)
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Seventh and eighth grade were very hectic for me, there's a lot of cliques and backstabbing, so choose your friends wisely. Try to be nice to everyone, even the uncool kids. From experience I know what it feels like, everyone should be treated fairly. If you want to make new friends you should join a team or club that catches your interest.
Really though, just act like you were last year..It's no big change really. As long as you respect others and buckle down on school work, you should have a great year.
Best of luck!
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Hi! You gave me the advice about freshman year and thanks so much! But i have another question! My school may be going on strike (the teachers anyway)and if so they will be taking some days away and possibly trying to speed up the school year! Like rushing everyone to work really fast! I'm worried I will be lost in math! I'm pretty good at it (I get A's and B's and I'm in the advanced math) but some things I really don't understand and take me a while before I can understand it. Last year my math teacher helped me by doing some extra help and stuff but im worried i will get lost this year. Plus of course the strike sucks because i WANT to go back to school! Im bored with summer! tahnks! :D ♥♥♥ (link)
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I'm glad you are happy about the advice =]
Well, I've never had to experiecne any teachers going on strike, but I believe that when they do return to teach they would't pressure you into having to understand something in a short amount of time. Because it's not your fault if you can't grasp the subject in a matter of days. If you do slip behind you can always ask the teacher if you can stay after school or come in early and work on a few problems. Math is honestly simple when you understand how to solve the problem. If the teacher can't stay after, there is most likely going to be a student or peer tutoring group at your school. Talk to your guidence counselor about it, maybe she can help find a student that wants to help if you don't have a tutoring group. If all else fails, ask the teacher to give you practice sheets to work on at home. I know...more stuff to do along with homework, but really it will help you to practice it and know the concept of whatever you are learning. So just be sure to do all the homework and if your book has answers in the back, check the problems to be sure you have the right answer.
This site:
http://www.algebra.com/
Helped me in my freshman and sophomore year.
http://www.algebra.com/tutors/lessons-by-tutor.mpl?tutor=nutshellmath
^ They even have videos that show how to do certain problems and give lessons that are simple when you don't understand something.
Wow, this is really, really long. lol, I talk too much.
Well anyways, tell me if everything works out!
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Ok...so i'm about to start a new semester in high school and the is a hugee zit on my face. Any advice would be good on how to get rid of it, but do you have any tips to do with product we at home. Help would be much appriciated
Fanx (link)
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Hey, it's only a zit and most people get them anyways. Eventually it will go away, Just don't touch it or it will be worse. Make sure you are cleansing your face twice a day and changing your pillow cases. Keep your hands and hair away from your face. If you want, put a light layer of non-oily powder on it. It should be gone in a few days =]
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I am starting high school and i am really nervous! Does anyone have any tips or things they want to share? It can be about friends, boys, hair, clothes, grades, teachers, anything! I need lots of advice because I am very worried! Thanks! (link)
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I will be a junior this fall and really there's nothing special about highschool, I'm more excited about college, get on with building up my nursing career, but enough about me.
Friends> This really important. Most kids make their four year friends in the first few months of freshman year. Not all, but some. You wanna pick the friends that you think have good values and won't distract you from your school work. And try to go to them, not let them come to you. I made this mistake in my freshman year. I got into the wrong crowd. My best friends were a theif/liar and a slut. I never did anything though, I just hanged out with them. However last year the slut left and I stopped hanging out with the other one. Know I have the coolest and way nice friends. Remember just because some kids are the rebels, cool kids you know, doesn't mean it's good to get into their crowd.
Boys> Once again like friends. Try to make friends with them. They are a lot easier to get along with than girls. Stay away from the ones who are saying anything to get your heart, but have a reputation of being a player. Most freshmen guys won't be like this, it's most likely to be the older students. And also don't try to keep up with the crowd by kissing and ect; just because everyone else is doing it. Remember if you get into a relationship don't let it distract it from your studies. A lot of students get into this situation in high school.
Hair&Clothes> Just dress how you want to dress. Some people go all sterotype in high school, some dress slutty, some dress sophisticated(in a teenager way lol). Me? I try to dress maturely with a chick twist. Magazines like CosmoGirl!, Seventeen, and TeenVogue have tons of back to school articles about clothes and hair and makeup. Remember there are enough trashy girls in high school, we don't need another one.
Grades> Probably the most important part in high school that no one really remembers. This is your final step to building a career and starting your life. Yes, there are lots of..distractions, but you have to be serious when it's time to work. Don't slack off or you will wind up in summer school or repeating the year. (I had summer school for math freshman year, NOT FUN) Remember I'm not saying not to have a life, but just make sure you put a lot of effort into your studies. Don't stress too much though, freshmen are not expected to be perfect, I mean you are just ajusting to a new school and all.
Teachers> Don't be a teachers pet, but don't be a jerk either. One the first day you will get a lecture about the course and materials to bring. Be sure to bring those materials everyday, teachers hateee when you aren't prepared. Make sure your work is done in time and you arrive to class on time. Math is really important to get to each day because every day builds on yesterdays lessson. Take lots of notes and have some sort of organizer than you can write due dates and quiz/test dates. Remember if you are slacking in a subject or want more credit for a certain course, take advantage of extra credit. Either do the assigned or ask. Teachers won't mind. They'd actually be happy you want to do better.
-Take advantage of sports or clubs. It's a great way to meet new people who are interested in things you are.
-Try doing some volunteering with your high school. This is great for college applications and gets you ready for the real world.
Be wary of peer pressure. Stay away from drugs and certain parties that you know will have some bad "things" going on at it.
For my final piece of advice: Remember to be yourself. Don't change for anyone. Some say high school days are the best days of your life (I have to disagree though). Just make the best of it. Pay close attention to your work, have fun with friends, and make good judgement.
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14/f
Right, I'm 14 and I've never snogged anyone. It might not sound that bad but most people about two years younger than me have snogged someone, and it's beginning to become a real problem.
I'm scared of getting into relationships with people because they'll have had experience and I worry that it will be awkward and they'll think I'm a bad kisser.
I don't like playing truth or dare and always try to get out of it because I might be dared to snog someone, or asked how far I've got. Most of my friends have gone further than snogging, and I'd feel really embarrassed if I had to admit the most I've ever done is kiss someone.
Is there anyway I can get over this and stop being so worried? And do you have any tips on snogging and how do it?
Sorry I said snog and snogging so much, I hate those words, but I wanted people to know what I meant, and not just think I meant a peck on the lips or something.
Thanks in advance, xxx (link)
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I wouldn't worry too much about it. I'm a few years older than you and let me let you in on a little secret..I haven't done ANYTHING with a boy. Most I've done is a hug! When my friends talk about it, and yes they've done some stuff, they are perfectly cool with it. They said it's not big deal and we move on. Trust me, if these friends of yours are going to make fun of you just because you never made out..They aren't your friends. A friend wouldn't put another friend down due to something so silly.
Your time will come, just like I know mine will. I just tell myself it's cool because I'm probably one of the very few my age that is so..untouched.
And remember when you do get into your relationship, everyone is new at something in the begining. He may even think it's cute ;]
Just remember only kiss someone you want to, don't give in to someone who is pressuring you to do something you feel uncomfortable in.
I hope this makes you feel a bit better.
Best of luck
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okay so i love attention. so is it weird that i want to be a slut? i mean, ive done kind of sluttish things before but not to get the reputation of being one but i want to? is that normal or totally strange? and if not then what can i do to get it? (15/f btw.) (link)
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I don't think it's the best thing for you to try getting attention by being "slutty-ish".
If you are doing this to get attention from boys, then rid the idea from your mind. Guys like girls who are themselves and definatly not a slut. Yes, there are some guys that like this type of girl, but they aren't worth your time and they most likely won't care much about you other than being that type of girl.
Now..If that is completly different than what your thinking then try this; Join a drama group at school or take up some other kind of performing art. You will be controling your love for attention in a positive way.
I hope everything works out for you! =]
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Ok heres the thing I am almost eighteen and Im so shy that I can hardly or never have been able to talk to a guy without hittin a beamer basically. This is due to embarrassment for them incase anyone sees them talkin to a girl that looks like me.
To describe me I have a button nose, I am big boned my hair never stays straight long and I hate myself infact the only thing I like about myself is my eyes but guys dont fall for eyes do they?
I know this will prob sound sad to most but I need tips any tips you can give on how to be a little less shy and insecure.
Thanks for any help you can give.
soz its long.
lxx (link)
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I was/am the exact way. But I am slowly getting over it and I am pretty confident with myself so far.
First you need to have some faith in yourself. You have to believe you can overcome this before you try to do it.
I'm sure you are really attractive, but you can't see it, so that's where your problem is. Try new styles for hair, clothes, and even make up to bring out those eyes of yours. Magazines like Seventeen, Teen Vogue, ect; have really cool styles and outfits put together that you can try out. When you are happy about your looks, your condidence will shine.
Now, are you interested in anything particular? Horseback riding, dancing, martial arts, drama, writing? There are so, so, so many activities out there and there's bound to be something that you're interested in. You will meet someone there that is interested in the activity you like and you will hit it off. Trust me on this. I just joined a new horseback riding stable after quitting two years ago and I've met some great people already. I'm having fun while leaving my shyness behind!
Just relax, take it on step at a time, and stay true to your heart.
Good luck!
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15/f
ok. im starting highschool. and i'm not sure what to wear for the first day /week. i dont think we can wear tank tops, so yeah.
these are things i have in my closet..
-skinny jeans [dark ones and light ones]
-polos. [navy blue ones and maroon ones. i dont wear polos much..]
-skirts.
-regular jeans.
-black and white polka dot baby doll top. [thats really cute.]
-white shorts
-plaid shorts
-regular tshirts that just say like abercrombie or has a gumball machine on it. and stuff.
-this other cute hollister shirt, it has like a bow and stuff. its cute.
i have alottt of other clothes too. like stuff that all matches that stuff. i'm pretty sure i wanna wear the skinny jeans. the light ones, i roll up. and then the darker ones i keep down. i'm thinking of wearing the darker jeans. i dont knowww. what do most people wear on the first day?
[my mom wont let me get clothes right away, because when i switched to a public school in junior high, i kept changing my taste in styles.]
i mean i know what i like. like im into that whole california look. and i shop at places like urban behavior, a little h+m, abercrombie & fitch, hollister, forever 21, aeropostale, amercian eagle[kinda] places like that.
so any ideas? (link)
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Since it's in September, it may still be warm. Dress accordingly to the weather. Some schools don't have A/C so you might not be comfortable wearing jeans when you've been wearing shorts all summer.
If it's a sunny day:
White shorts with the baby doll top. Add a few acceseries with some converse and flats. Leave your hair down. It will be a cute, but a grown up, high schooler look =]
If it's on the cooler side or raining:
Dark skinny jeans with a PLAIN tee that's a bit loose, not too tight (tight skinnies and a tight shirt is not flattering). Add a long unique necklace and chunky random braclets (some really cute ones are at forever 21.) Scrunch your hair in loose, flirty waves and clip half a section up. And for shoes, wear flip flops.
^This look is sophisticated and unique because most girls (in my school at least) wouldn't wear this.
Remember to have fun with this. What some other people are saying about sterotypes...don't worry too much about it. Be and dress to who you are. That way you can act like yourself and feel confident.
And keep in mind that you will be in class for 6 or 7 hours, so you will want to wear something that fits and is comfortable.
Good luck on your first day!
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How do I stop myself from getting upset over little things that shouldn't even matter? (link)
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Try to think about how unnessesary it is to be mad about litte things. Have a good time with your friends and family and don't sweat the small stuff. Also deep breathing and couting to 10, usually helps to release your anger.
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When i go out and ive got cool clothes on, ive taken time on my hair and a bit extra makeup on, i usually get tons of attention from guys and i feel so happy, but then the next day i go to school - school uniform on, messy hair and a little less makeup and i get called a munter!
It confuses me, but also i get so annoyed cos i feel that i cant prove to the guys at school that boys do like me and i can look hot.
Is there any way of looking cool and sexy in my school uniform?
And being able to make my hair and makeup glam in 10 minutes?
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To make your hair look great you can use gels and mousse. If you can, take a shower in the morning and when you get out rub a towel on it but not vigorously, just nice and soft. Make sure it is damp and not soaking wet then put your mousse and gel in. Once thats in flip you head over and put it up in a big bun. When you go to school your hair will be drying itself and locking into place and you wont have to worry about a thing. (And if you cant take a shower in the morning, take a shower at night and put the gel and mousse in ect; and it will be fine in the morning.) Another hair-style you could do is to just scrunch your hair with gel and moussse. Once you can do this you can experiment with different styles and hair accesories.
To do your makeup you can just use liner and mascara and some gloss. Trust me this is allll you need. And if you cant do it IN the house do it on the ride in to school or just do it once you get to school.
Hope this helps. Good Luck
X0 EM
PS. Oh and the boys who only like you for your looks (makeup and hair and clothes).. SCREW THEM.They arent worth your time. They should like you for who you are not your looks :)
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what are some ways that I can get better at eating healthy.
13 female. I'm not fat also. (link)
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Some drinks that are good are water, fruit smoothies (not ver often though) eating lots of fruits and vegtables is good too. Some nutritious vegtables are spinach and brocoli. Do you have a farmers market near you? If so buy your foods from there. They are more fresh and healthier
hope it works out well. :]]
X0 EMM
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My 5 month dog is trying to mount my 3 year old daughter, which is not exceptable. Should I neuter him now? I do believe it is more than just being a puppy. He is in the bully breed and I am very concerned about him knowing his place in our klan, and manners. (link)
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Yes. Once your dog is about 6 months and maybe in this case 5 you should get him neutered. Go to your doctor and ask them if 5 months is too young. (Probably not though because of how fast he is matureing due to his mounting.)
XO EM
PS, Im happy to hear your getting him neurted. So many idiots who dont neuter then abandon them piss me off! >:( ...lol
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thanks for the help with the make-up. i just have a couple questions.
1. is this "M.A.C" place in Macys, etc. or is it a store in a mall?
2. DO you have to pay?
3. What is it exactly? (had a little trouble understanding (link)
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Answer #1
You can go to their website :
http://www.maccosmetics.com/home.tmpl
And maybe to make it a bit easier click find stores(http://www.maccosmetics.com/templates/door/finder.tmpl) Just type in your zip code and click the state you are in( Im guessing your from the U.S. but if your not its a world wide company. So you can get their products almost everywhere.) It will list a bunch a stores that have M.A.C. They will always be avaible. + There wiicked nice :]
Answer #2
You will have to pay for the makeup, but the little tutorial they give you will be free. Their makeup can be a bit pricey though. However, if you don't feel comfortable paying big bucks there will be tons of other make-up counters to choose from in the same little area where the M.A.C counter is.
Answer #3
Its a make up brand name. Like Clinique, Sephora, Revlon, ect;
If you need anything else feel free to ask :)
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Okay, so like I'm 13/f and my name is JJ There is this boy at school who I think likes me, Like he smiles when I smile at him(not in a polite way) and when we joke around(Oh, whoever is wearing Blue is gay or whoever is sitting is gay or who ever is working is gay you get the point) he never says stuff about me only everybody else.( yes I know this is mean but I still do it I can be a BIG bratt or should I say asshole at times I know I shouldn't be cussing)but when we are mean to lesser people well you know less popular people, he teams up on my side. and he looks please when I laugh at or with him(if it is funny) and when I bring up my ex(the last one until I'm 16, maybe) he looks jealous, he remebers stuff about me I even forget about, and we laugh about it or talk and stuff and he sticks up for me all the time do you think he likes me? And yes I know I shouldn't get emotionaly involved with him so please don't give me that line of crap I've heard it WAY to many times before (link)
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He seems like hes teasing you on purpose. And that he likes to joke around with you could mean hes happy with you and likes to be around you. Just ask him and see how it goes. If hes too immature to answer you in a proper way then find someone else. ( when i say this i mean if hes like umm NO HAHAHAHA)
good luck, X0 EM
Pss. I hope you dont actualy MAKE FUN of gay people. Cuz I got friends who are boys that are gay and their funny and nice to me. :]
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