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Is it WEIRD?
ok well im in 9th grade.! and it seems like alot of my friends have done some/more sexual things than i have done!!.... all i have done it make out and stuff.. but i refuse to give head b.c i think its dirty.!! 1st am i the only not doing it??/ and 2nd i wouldnt mind going a little farther but not sex how do i make it known that i want to do that with out sounding like a slut!!???????????? plz help me..!!!!
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be proud of who you are
im in 11th grade but i still havent done any sexual stuff
okay probably because i turned 15 in january
but dont let your friends views corrupt who you are
to what you think is comfortable and right for you
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Hey-
I might not have much more to add- but I really feel like I want to answer this- so that people see how many people AREN'T just thinking about losing their virginity.
You're a virgin. Be PROUD! C'mon- its something special that you only lose once. And you should make sure you lose it to someone you are least going to talk to for the rest of your life- preferably someone you've married as a virgin.
1. NO YOU ARE NOT ALONE! I am just like you. I am not having sex with everyone in sight. I'm going to be a sophomore and I'm still a virgin. Trust me, there are other like us out there. Sure, it seems like you're the only one who isn't off giving blow jobs to everyone- and I sometimes feel like I'm the only one not having sex in my town- but I know that there are some of us out there =D.
2. Just be honest with whoever you are with. If you're honest- you're not a slut. Sluts are people who go around and just have sex with everyone. The real meaning of slut has been lost with immature people thinking it means you've had sex once with one person. True- you're pretty pathetic if you do, but you're certainly not a slut. But you shouldn't just go out and go farther just for the heck of it. That's why most people are doing it- you should be different and maybe when you get a boyfriend who cares about you and who you care about [don't go looking- it never works out], then maybe you can go a little farther. If they don't want to- you should respect that.
Like I said, that probably didn't add much, but I just had to answer =D.
--Jack
(15/m)
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First...I want to make it clear that HEAD as you call it...or oral sex..IS SEX!!!
Being in the 9th grade,are you ready for sex? I know if you have your mind set on having sex..you will do it anyway..Trust me there are many girls in college that are still not having sex. Its a personal choice.
Being upfront is the best option. This does not make you a slut.
Oral sex is not "dirty" instead it is something you take part in when you really care about the person you are with.
YOU ARE NOT THE ONLY ONE NOT GIVING HEAD!
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Make clear what exactly you don't want to do to whoever you plan on doing stuff with.
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Don't do anything your not comfortable doing! Your not weird, some people havn't done it at all so just calm down and the time will come when its right
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You have standards & morals for yourself. Don't be ashamed of that. Don't be afraid to tell the person you're with how far you want to go- if he won't accept your boundaries, he's most likely not worth it. Being a virgin isn't something to be ashamed of at all.
-LM
[15/f]
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Calm yourself. It's definatly not weird, I mean your only in 9th grade, there's tons of time for all that later. I am a junior and I've done nothing, just hug. Don't give into peer pressure because you might do something you will regret later. You shouldn't worry about it really, just focus on your school work and hang out with your friends, have fun. Just because everyone else is doing something, doesn't mean you have to go join the parade.
Hope everything works out with you! =]
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your not weird and you shouldnt want to do things just because other people in your class has. when i was in 9th grade i never even kissed a boy. i didnt even kiss a boy until i was 15 i was in 10th grade. and thats all i did was kiss him. and now i am going to college and i am 17 and i am still with that boy i waited to do anything with. and i am happy that i did that. dont do things just because you think that your the only one not doing things.
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You're definitely not weird. A lot of people prefer to wait, which I think makes it better when you actually do get to do it. But if you really want to go further, find yourself a nice guy friend that you can trust, and eventually the hormones will start racing and you'll find yourself in a situation where you're able to do more than make out. Don't go looking for it, because people will judge you as a slut. Once you find someone, just keep your boundaries, don't do anything you don't want to, and be safe about it. Don't be stupid and get STDs or anything.
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