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Other Girls
I know that when in a relationship 'Trust' is the key element. Well, I trust my boyfriend with everything I am, but that's not the problem. I know that he thinks other girls are pretty and that he looks at other girls like that upsets me. I know, I know. I probably sound really immature, but I know that ever since I've been dating him I don't really look at guys that way anymore because I don't need to look- I have him. I haven't got upset over this, but I can't help but think he's checking girls out while he out with me. Any advice?
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It's ok that he looks, as long as he doesn't touch. It's naturall for guys to crave relationships with many different women, wouldn't you rather he was just looking and thinking, but not touching and doing? If you don't want to look at other guys, ok, fine, but guys are guys, and there gonna look, it's unavoidable, and I know it's irking, but it's ok.
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hey hun... i know exactly how you feel. girls get this way. guys however dont. they usually dont commit completly. i no a girl can like 20 guys and then date only one of them and then only like him. im this way. i liked a few guys then i dated the one im with now and i dotn look too much at other guys. i no it crushes me when my bf says to his friends hey she was pretty. but he usually dont do that becuz he knows i dont feel too comfortable with it cause i talked to him one on one. he understood. use examples. adn everything will be good. hope i helped
~merree~
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I'm sure your boyfriend is sensible enough to let you know that on top of everything else, he chose you over your personality and who you are, and not by a popularity/beauty contest. You don't sound immature. If you've talked to him about it, then he would probably see what you mean and fix things up. If you havn't let him know, then tell him. It could just be that your boyfriend didn't even know or notice that it bother you. So long as you told him about it and how you felt, I'm sure that he would agree to...change that. Personally for me, and I know others are like this too, are at the point where if they see someone, anyone, I can't judge. One of two things hit my mind when I see someone: why? and haha wow I'm glad I didn't fall for that one.
But yeah I do understand what you mean and where you are comming from. So long as you let him know how you feel, things should all work out. Find it in yourself to trust him enough to know that nothing you wouldn't like would ever cross his mind, or have. I mean he's your boyfriend, and believe me, when it comes to that stuff, you'd be surprised at how many guys would stay loyal - most have told me they would never do anything to cross the line and let down the girl. Anyways I hope that helped and feel better =)
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trust me it is completely normal. i do the samething. even though my bf tells me he doesnt flirt or look at other girls i know he does it is just a guy thing that they cant control. for instance my bf is the biggest flirt you will ever meet. it isnt that i dont trust him its just that other girls take it the wrong since they dont see him with his girlfriend (bc we dont go to the same school) it is nothin i can contol. think of it like this if he does cheat on you(which he better not) it is his loose not really urse he is the one that wasnt man enough to tell you he didnt want to be with you. so hun dont worry about it.
*~Stephanie~*
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Girl men will be men. My ex did the same crap to me and i hated it but it got to the point where i got insecure b/c his whole head would turn. Its one thing to look but its another thing to stare. Its one thing to look its another thing to touch. Feel good about yourself and know that he is with you and your better than that. Never let his looking affect you in anyway. I know this b/c it affected me and my ex-iknowexactly how u feel. If you need anything let me know or IM me on aol or yahoo and i will help you
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Awww! ♥,
Every girl is like that. Even I was until my ex Kody liked my BEST Friend Amber!! I was like Holy Sh*t. But If you see him look at one and smile. Then you have completely lost your trust on him. I mean he loves you right? If not he really should! I made that mistake. Please don't make the same one I did. Because in the end he will just end up being a jerk and a heartbreaker!
-Green Day Rocks ♥
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he is just looking, as long as he is not cheating, then you have nothing to worry about, because who is he coming home to everyday-you and as long as you knw that he loves you and wouldn't dare to do you wrong then his looking at other girls should be just that to you good luck in your relationship.
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I understand that you might get a little jelous and that you don't like it, but everyone always looks at other people & you do too without even realizing it. It's no big. If he liked those girls he would be with them, but he isn't because he want's you & not them. If he didn't think you were much prettier, better then them he probablly wounldn't be going out with you. You won't loose him though and he won't loose you. You aren't being immature though so don't worry. Those girls really don't mean anything to him.
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There will always be pretty girls about. To some other girl's boyfriend you are probably one of them!
Guys look at pretty girls much the same way girls look at other girl's cool haircuts or new purses. It is an appreciation of beauty and attractiveness.
So is he really checking out other girls while he is with you? If you catch him doing it and it really irritates you, you could certainly talk it over with him, but it sounds like you've already realized that the problem is mostly in your own mind not in his behavior.
You need to try and let it go. If they have eyes they will see, especially when a woman is trying awfully hard to be seen. But he has you, you're the one he choose to spend time with. A few quick glances aren't going to change that at all.
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EVERY guy looks..no matter who he's with..he's always gonna be looking dont take it personally every guy does this but he is with YOU and not with them so obviously he must like you.Hope i helped
Luv,Tay
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Hes Just looking- If he even is in fact looking.
not touching. As you said you know he thinks other girls are pretty. Dont let it get to your head, before you EXACLTY seem him looking. I think you really already know everything that anybody can tell you.
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ok here's my advice he is a guy so basicaly from my exspereince (sp) guys like to look. its like window shoping you like to look but you never get it. so the only thing you have to worry about is if he touches. so play by the rule he can look but he can touch.
ok so why dont you just tell him you have a problem with it and if he thinks your a baby or a little kid for getting upset why not show him a taste of his own medicine(sp)
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You,me, and lottts of other girls feel the same way!
Advice i can give you is this :
hes with you! there will always be a prettier girl out there to flock to..but theres not another you! your something special to him obviously because you two are going out.
i know its hard sometimes..but keep that in your head
-melissa-
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