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my friends are turning on me
okay...this may seem strange but it feels like all my friends are turning on me...I had my 13th birthday party on sunday and invited 20 of my clostest firends to my house and well sunday came and only 12 showed up...these ppl i know have to be my rly clostest firends but here are the reasons for why most of them couldnt come
Me: hey maria are you coming to my party on sunday
Maria: no sorry i cant because im grounded
Me: oh so you arent going to Karissas the day befroe?
Maria: oh well i can go to that one and that one only
If you think that ones bad listen to these...
Chelsey: gotta do my homework! i have WAY to much homework
Lindsay: Sorry Sam my mom wont let me cause i didnt do all my homework yet
Karissa: my mom wont let me cause i didnt do my homework yet
Rachel F: i cant because i have too much homework
SPECIAL NOTE: all the ppl above cept maria slept over karissas house after her party and the best thing is WE DIDNT HAVE ANY HOMEWORK!!!
please help me ill rate 5's unless the advice is mean
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Hi Hunny,
I'm so sorry about your party, if I knew you I for sure would've went to your party. I think you should start to find some new friends. besides those ones. I really don't feel that that was right, what they did to you. That is very mean and you deserve better than that. I really hope you'll take my advice. Feel free to leave anything in my inbox if you need anymore help!
Bye sweetie!x3
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Don't give up hope. It might just be that they didn't want to be there that certain night or thought that the sleep over and your party might be too much. It could also be that they put priority to some of their friends over you. Does that mean that they don't care or aren't your friends? Not exactly, they might have not felt up to it. I say you should wait a bit and see what happens. Invite them to the movies or your house or anything like that and see their reaction. Try and go to get togethers or partys that your friends plan and see if everyone is there.
So yeah, it could just be they weren't feeling up to it. Before you make a conclusion, get more...I guess you could say 'evidence'. If you still feel they are turning on you, then thats ok. Really, I don't mean to sound harsh or mean in any way, but you usually don't keep the same friends through elementary school and high school and beyond, everyone goes different ways. Its ok if thats the situation here, don't be so hard on yourself. Hope that helped and good luck.
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My friends do that alot hun, and the best thing you can do is just dont even talk to them they aren't good enough for you they are picking on you for no reason those kinds of people aren't good friends last year at my party my friends did the same thing in november my friend and i talked and this is what we said
Me: Hey can you come to my party
Maranda: No I have to go Christmas shopping
See every once in a while your best friends will adventually stab you in the back or lie to you
when those kinds of situations come up you have to go and find new people to hang around instead chelsey.linsay, karissa, and rachel you can go and talk to other people hang out with those other people and don't talk to rachel karissa lindsay chelsey talk yo the people you are gonna hang out with then those girls will get sick of you ignoring them and not talking to them that they will come up to you and try to be your friend again and try to start a frindship again beleive m that happened to me alot
you know that you can email me any time if you need any help my email is brittany_angel123452yahoo.com or you can drop somthing in my inbox any one will be okay
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i think what they all did was mean and don't take crap like that from them and tell them how you feel b/c i wouldn't like that at all
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sounds like you are there when the need a friend but when you need them they are off "doing homework". now, i know that this will be hard but it would be better than not knowing whats going on - you have to confront them. or one of them atleast. be sure to start the conversation off in a nice,calm tone. you don't want them to think you are accusing them or are just trying to get in a fight with them. i hope everything works out well.
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at first i was going to say you were imagining things, but thats pretty wierd. its normal for a few people to not show up, but those excuses are bullshit. I don't know how you'd deal with it, but I wouldn't let them live this down. whenever they want to do something, use the same excuses.
-gunner
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Harsh. Those arent friends anymore. I say you ignore them. Get other friends. Then when THEY ask you why you're ignoring them tell them your problem and why they lied to you. If they start acting bitchy, slap them.
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you should talk to them and ask them why they lied to you and if they said they didnt you know their lieing because there was no homework! and if their gonna be like that them be like that to them theyll come around and want to chill wit you and do what they did to u say you have homework =] xo bekkee
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They are not your friends. Friends dont do that. Those 12 people are your true friends. I think that if you act like you dont care then they will get angry and apoloigize to you if necessary ignore them for a little while until they get the hint.
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This kind of thing has happened to me many times.
Just ignore them and move on with your life. If they start saying shit about you, be able to retort their insults back. Don't take their shit. And you should also find new friends. Better ones. Even if that might be hard, it is better to have no close friends than to have backstabbing ones. Eventually, you will meet someone.
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Drop these pennies and get yourself some dimes! These chicks aren't your friends. Eff them. Tell them if they can't be honest with you and would rather chill with someone else and that you don't need them! Ditch these losers and get some new, improved friends.
HAPPY B-LATED B-DAY!
<3 ems
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OMG! thats mad gayy! i would never do that. I bet maybe 1 girl doesnt like you,,and then those girls that didnt go did turn on you because they are following the girl that didnt like you maybe?Or maybe they were fake,they could be pretending to like you.Thats what happend to me,thats how i can tell real from fake now.keep your other 12 friends,maybe test the girls that didnt go to see if they care.what i did was maybe not ignore them,but not talk to them for about 2 days and see if they talk to you first.Try getting to meet new people,and be really nice to people,like new people.Be out going and fun around the new people,but dont forget about your other 12 friends :p.The girls that didnt go to the party will soon realize how much they miss you and how good of a friend you are!!But when they do,dont ignore them,be nice.maybe bring up a conversation (example)- You :So what did you on sat-sunday? Someone-Homeowork (whatever they say)
You - Oh..i dont think we had homework though..did we?
Someone -Yeah we did
You-oh what was it?
Someone - bla bla bla
thats just an example..just act nice,but let them know you know what they did :p..something like that you know?! hey e-mail me if u want! do you have msn? i do my name is -- kristen1073@hotmail.com
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[ ♥ ] Wow girl.
Something is wrong with your friends. They must have all planned this out or something. Because its not a
coincedence that they all had homework or all went to that one girls party.
You have to ask them whats wrong. & if they try to fight it then back it up with the evidence you told us.
If you need anymore drop one in my inbox. kayee?
♥ good luck babe.
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Aww girl!!!! sounds like to me your freinds were just being Truly mean to you!!!! Trust me i know how it feels and it doesnt feel all that great!!! But anyhow you have 2 choices you can either a) ignore them and start hanging out with new people which would proble get them jelous or B) which this choice is beter! go talk to them tell them look you dont know how bad it hurt me when yall did that! did i do something to make yall mad or just is there something i did at all that wasnt right? Then maybe they'll open up and telll you what happend!
Anyhow hope i helped! If theres anything you need at all let me know!!!
Blayre
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Hate to break it to you but you are right.
You have to talk to them mention how you guys had no homework and they should not lie to you like that.
Wow that is so messed up what they did. They can't just treat you like dirt at least real friends wouldn't. That is why you always have to choose your friends carefully because the least ones you expect to screw you over will do it.
Hope everything works out for you if you need anything else drop one in my inbox ♥
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Yes, you’re right. Something is going on. Start calling them on the phone and ask them if there was anything that you did lately that has them angry with you. You may have said something to someone unintentionally that hurt their feelings and everyone is backing them up. They feel for them and want this person to feel better. It could be that you did something that bothered these girls and you were totally unaware that what you were doing would bother them. But, you might want to reflect back. Was there anything recently that you said or did that the little voice in your head was telling you that you shouldn’t? Have you had the feeling of a rush, like blushing, only it doesn’t feel right while you were doing or saying anything? If this is yes, then, you need to start here and reflect on what went on here. Look at the moment that you had this feeling and see if it could have been hurtful at all, even if you had no intention to hurt anyone. If you can see that you hurt an individual. Start with this person and call her and let her know how badly you feel for hurting her feelings. Then call the other girls and let them know that you called the injured party and how badly you feel. If it’s the group that was offended, you need to start calling them all. But, if it’s because these girls want you to do something you don’t want to do…. then my answer is simple. They aren’t truly your friends anyway. Start making yourself a new set of good friends.
Good Luck!
LULABELLE
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