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Pre-marriagal sex?
Two questions about pre-marriagal sex... first one, am I spelling it right? I just like to know how to spell things, sorry to waste your time. Second one, before Advicenators, I was always under the impression that pre-marriagal sex was just for the screwed-in-the-head potheads and the sluts/whores. But now I'm looking at these questions, and seriously folks, it's just insane how many people are saying "I've been with my b/f three months and we had sex last night, is that too little time?" or something like that. Are my thoughts on pre-marriagal sex wrong? Note: Smartasses get 1s and will be reported. Give me real advice.
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well premarital Sex is just that (note I' not being a jerk but giving a offical deffination)
"Pre"- meaning before and "Marital" meaning "Mariage", so the offcial defination (pertaining to Dictionary.com) "Sexual intacorse preceding marriage." with that I would say your thoughs on the subject was right, though the pratice is more embrased than before.
I hope this helps
Shadowfox
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Well everyone has their own opinions, and what may be wrong to you is right for someone else. So it all depends on who you are, and how you was raised. To get to the point I don't think that there is a right answer to that question. Hope I helped!
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your opinions on sex are your own. personally i dont think pre-marital sex is a big deal. if you understnd the risks and feel that you are ready or it then you should be fine.
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i'm totally with you on thinking premarrital sex is wrong, sex should be a sanctuary between a newly wed couple.. never back down or fall into temptation that premarrital sex is ok.. because it is not.
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Your opinions are your own. I'm okay with sex before marriage...it is everyones own decision...but what you are thinking is normal.
I think so anyways
*Hope I helped*
WovenLynx
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I think it is good to wait on having sex, I plan on waiting til i get married because I don't want lose my virginity and then have my heart broken, so i think it is a good thing to wiat
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I've lived my whole life in England, and I have a very different experience to you. Where I live, pre-marital sex is the norm. The only people I knew growing up who believed in saving themselves until marriage were strict Muslims or Hindus (although I must point out that I grew up in an extremely multi-cultural part of London, so my experiences aren't totally typical). Before I got online and visited websites like this one where there is a real diversity of opinion, I thought that the only people who still staunchly practised abstinence before marriage where people who were extremists about their religion (I'm apologise for not thinking of a better word - I don't mean extremists in the negative sense that the word is now associated with, but people for whom religion is a major part of their lives and are very specific about the morality their religion entails - my country is much more secular than yours). It's only through the web that I've realised that abstinence before marriage is common, not just by the kind of people who picket planned parenthood clinics and want gay marriage banned, but by a wider section of society.
I believe in sex before marriage. Human beings are by nature sexual beings with sexual desires, and I believe that it's better that that fact is not denied. It is my belief that in cultures where sex before marriage is strongly opposed, sexual feelings become guilty, and lead to lots of negative emotions. This doesn't always happen, but on mass, if people are generally told that they cannot have sex because sex is sinful, this leads to complicated and often negative feelings about the natural sexual desires that they have.
Basically, it's very difficult to have a culture of denying that sexual impulses exist and are natural (which I feel that a very conservative stance on the subject instills in people, although obviously not everyone agrees with this point), and then to expect, upon marriage, couples to instantly be sexually awakened and fulfilled. I think people often underestimate just how important sex is to long term relationships. A huge amount of marriages get into trouble because people suffer from sexual dysfunction or incompatibility that might be prevented if a couple had less guilt about their sexual behaviour or had experimented together and known of any issues before entering in to marriage. I think given that we are sexual creatures, it is best that we are allowed to grow naturally into our sexualities.
That said, I as much as you do find it sad and concerning when young girls feel pressured into sex and grow up far too quickly. Whilst I do strongly because I believe that sex before marriage isn't necessarily wrong, I don't think that all sex is good. I think it's good to be able to make an informed choice about your sexuality when you are ready. For some, that may be when they are married, but for others, they may need to experiment and grow into their sexual selves before they can be truely happy, and to me, that's not wrong, it's just a result of the way we are biologically.
I hope that I've offered some insight into an alternative view. If you have any questions, feel free to buzz me. All the best.
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Lol, yeah it's pre-marital.
Really there is no right or wrong answer. Everyone has their own opinion and they might as well think what they want to think. It's their life and how they live it depends on them.
Perseonally, I don't think it's WRONG to have sex before marriage, but I do think it would have been BETTER if you waited. My reasons are already listed here:
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okay well your views arent totally wrong. Yeah its your opinion on sex and im in no place to say otherwise. Not only sluts and whores have sex. I bet you that over half the adults around you did wait to have sex. I mean yeah pre marital sex is considerd "MORALLY" wrong but I mean a lot of people do it in a mistake. I mean I'm torn between Pre-Marital Sex and waiting but its your opinion
xOx Ashley Joy
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While I find it concerning that people not ready are doing it, I don't think premarital sex is horrible in itself.
I'm no virgin or wife (yet), but I am in a long-term relationship with a caring partner that I know will be by my side through thick and thin. While we have had a pair a sessions involving another person, our attention is for one another. That's how it has been for the last 5 years and we're still going.
However, I do understand where you come from. Teens shouldn't be having sex when they're ignoring the risks and can't say for sure that they'll be okay with it in the morning. Frankly, I'm tired of hearing my younger peers saying they've been with someone for quite a while and what they mean is for two weeks.
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kay i dont think theres a right or wrong to anyones thoughts, because theyre yours, but my opinion is if your reeeally in love and your like, 18 or older perhaps, that you should go ahead and do it. tons of people who arent potheads and whores do it before theyre married. tahts whats happening now a days...
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I too found oout some interesting things about pre marital sex when i first came on this site. i knew people did it, but sometimes it seems that the topic comes up too casually and sometimes disgusting..."my friend is 14 and pregnant.." or "i gave this guy head and he still wont go out with me..." sad life some of these kids are living but who are we to judge. everyone believes different things and as long as people like you dont get pressure by these people, we can save the world from being completely infected with HIV, AIDS, STD etc. stay true! <3
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This is an issue that everyone must decide for themselves.
I believe in waiting. But everyone has a time when they are ready. For some it comes earlier than others. Having sex before you are ready, though, whether married or not, is wrong and stupid.
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no, your thoughts are cool. i feel the same way. most people feel this way becuase of religious reasons and others just becuase. other people think it is perfectly normal. its all up to what you beleive. you shouldnt change your perspective on pre-marital sex unless your beleifs change. i hope i helped!
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Your views aren't wrong at all. You just have high morals, which is very good. I know how you feel about thinking that your views are wrong...but they're not i promise! lol If you have anymore questions just ask! Goodluck!
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First it's "pre-marital sex". IT depends on your morals. If you believe in not having pre-marital sex it will seem stupid and slutty to have sex w/ you BF after only three months. If you don't believe in it then it probably won't seem like such a bad thing to have sex after three months. It might even seem like a long time to some people.
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It is spelled "premarital." :)
According to my faith (and many different religions), practicing premarital sex is a sin. Yes, I believe that having premarital sex is wrong. There are some non-religious folks out there who just think it's more special to wait; and the risks are not worth it. Because of all the risks (unwanted pregnancy, STDS, HIV, AIDS...), many people do not partake in premarital sex, no matter if they're "religious" or not.
Many teenagers (and even young adults) feel pressured to have sex, that they will not be accepted or they won't be as "cool" if they don't have sex with their boyfriend / girlfriend. Some teens think their boyfriend / girlfriend will dump them if they don't have sex. All too often, having sex with your boyfriend / girlfriend leads to a breakup. TV, radio, tabloids etc. sell sex. Just go to a book shop and glance at the magazines. Most of the ones that are for teenagers / young adults (specifically women) have something about "look sexy this fall..." or "50 ways to be a better girlfriend..." or "Have a tight, sexy stomach in 15 days..." -- you get the idea. Everything sells sex. Yes, there ARE teen magazines that DO NOT have any sexual content. Look around you though, so many peers are telling teens to have sex, have sex, have sex. It's the "cool" thing to do, it will make people like you more, etc., etc. That - in my opinion - is totally crazy! Because everyone thinks it's so "cool" to have premarital sex, we have hundreds of STDs. You have to ask yourself, do the pros outweigh the cons?
Sex is primarilly an act of reproduction or a form of love. We'll take the reproduction aspect first : how many teens are WANTING to get pregnant (thus reproducing) when they have sex with their girlfriend / boyfriend? Probably not very many. Especially the younger ones, or the ones who haven't been dating their boyfriend / girlfriend long. Not many teenagers want to have sex to have a baby. They don't want the responsibility, they can't support a child etc. That's not their motive.
Love : Yes, teenagers CAN love each other. I know, I love my boyfriend. Will I sleep with him? No! A thousand times NO! Do I love him? Yes, very much - but that does NOT mean I'm going to sleep with him. I know that some teenagers honestly DO love each other and that is why they want to have sex with one another. Though, you have to ask yourself, if they love one another so much, why don't they wait until they're old enough to get married, and then they can have sex without worrying about an bad pregnancy or STDs. Too often though, the thing teenagers claim for "love" is just an emotional high. They love each other's BODY. Having sex to them is just a way to get their jollies or whatnot. Much too often, these relationships don't last long. The girl gets pregnant, the guy splits. Hey, he can't afford a baby, right?
You make the call. I think that sex is the perfect wedding gift. The ultimate wedding gift to your spouse : your virginity. Not everyone feels the same way as I do; I respect that. It is their choice, their call - as it is yours. You make the decision. You know where I stand. :)
-FunnyCide
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I know that premarital sex in some religions are against their beliefs. However, I dont think that if you do have sex before marriage is wrong.
It doesn't make you a slut or a whore and the majority of people dont always have to be "screwed-in-the-head potheads".=)
It is about your morales and when YOU think YOU are ready to make such a big commitment.
It shouldn't be passed around every time you feel the need to "get some", then that's when you should be concidered a slut or a whore.
There is also no such thing as too little time.
Have you ever heard of couples who thought they were going to have a one night stand, but ended up spending the rest of their lives together?
You never know. Just be safe.
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It's Premarital Sex. And everyone has their own opinion on sex. Everyone will answer the second question differently. I feel that its up to the person. If they feel comfortable - then go for it. Its their body, they should do what they want with it.
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I agree some of the question on here about sex are insane because they arent waiting long enough into the relationship. To answer your question "Are my thoughts on pre-marriagel sex wrong?" Everyone has their own opinion some believe on waiting till after their married and some don't. As you know most people were taught the after married concept which is a good thing but sometimes it doesnt work like that and i believe you are spelling it right. Remember every1 has their own opinions your not wrong its just what you believe in you shouldnt have to think the way everyone else does. hope i helped! =]
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