|
Confused and Needs Help!...Fast!
Ok heres the story,Christmas day is when everything started...my whole family cept for me started fighting, my brother and his friend was over here and my mom started in on my brother and my brother ended up cutting his wrist, blood was running down his arm, i also cut myself that day because i was upset with everything thats been happeneing lately, when i cut my arm i blacked out, and well the story goes on, yesterday and today my parents have been fighting and i mean seriously fighting, my brother and his friend left yesterday and got one of their friends to come and pick them up and after they left my parents started fighting and have been fighting all day today and i cant take it no more, they were fighting so bad my mom was hitting my dad they spit on eachother, one of em pushed the other into the christmas tree and it broke at the bottom and everything on it droped on the floor and broked as well, and they wont stop fighting, i tell them to stop and they wont...they wont listen to me, i told them maybe they do need to get a divorce if they're gonna fight this much because there aint no sence in em being together if they are gonna fight 24/7 and i dont know what to do i cant take it anymore, i wanna get out of here but i have no where to go, no one wants me, and i have no one to talk to about any of i because i have no friends and i dont know what to do...the thoughts of my running away crossed my mind but i wouldnt have anywhere to go and its to cold outside to run away...so if anyone has any advice to give me please do...i need all the advice i can get, sorry this is so long, Thanks to who ever takes the time to read this and send me their thoughts.
[ ]
Want to answer more questions in the Relationships category?
Maybe give some free advice about: Families?
First, you really need to stop cutting your wrists. You need to find another way to control your anger. Try screaming into a pillow, blasting the stereo, scribbling on a piece of paper, or even tearing a piece of paper to shreds. What you really need is someone to talk to. Since you don't have any friends because you don't go to school maybe you can try calling a cousin, aunt or even your brother so you have someone to talk to. You should also sit down with your parents ONE AT A TIME and tell them how you feel. Feel free to ask me more or talk to me whenever. By ther way how old are you because you say you have been cutting your wrists since you were ten, so I was wondering how long you have been doing this??
Hope I could help!!
]
ok next time your parents fight like that tell them that your going to call the police because what they are doing will affect you greatly. if that doesnt work then call the police and yes i know that you love them but this is not something that you can live with. this is going to lead to very bad things. and cutting yourself is going to lead to worse things too. and like i said the best thing to do is go to the police and tell them what is going on, or if your too afraid to do that then go to your neighbors and tell them, i dont even really care who you tell but tell someone. well good luck it sounds as if youve been through a lot and i hope my advice helps! happy new year!
~amy
]
You should not be in the middle! You're probably atleast 13 or older which means you've been cutting yourself for too long! Restrict yourself from the knife. Introduce yourself to people your age. Maybe even start a journal! Also, try telling somebody that DOES have power. You deserve way better! Good Luck!
]
Well, i see where you are coming from. i tried commiting suicide awhile back and the help sucked bad. but i found talking to my friends and to the source of the problem and it really helped cus nothings worth hurting yourself over. because think of all the other ppl you are hurting in the process. i hope you feel better and can get this resolved. -mike
]
Cutting yourself is not the solution. Ask any relatives if you can stay with them until your parents decide a divorce is good. If that doesn't work, let your parents kno how you feel, tell them u want to run away because their craziness has brought u to the edge. My parents fought but now they are divorced. All i can say is they are heading straight for a divorce and i think that's a very good thing.
]
OK, I don't know how much this will help you, but if you can get the phone and a phone book. Try calling a relationship counsler for your mom and dad. I know this may be drastic but if the fighting goes on too much longer, I'd suggest calling the police and getting them to come over and get them to quit or even if you have a grandparent or an aunt or a family member. Call them and ask them to come get you. I have been in this situation. My brother and myself went to my grandma's house for at least 1/2 of the summer and when we went back they had sorted things out. If need be see if you can move in with an Aunt/Uncle/Grandparent so you can get out of that house b/c it sounds like you need to. ~*~ Lots of Luv~*~ Alyssa
P.S Good Luck and PLease please please tell me if I helped you. I hope I did.
]
ok listen i undrstand whats goin on but you need help seriously i have freinds who cut and i tried to kill myself before but its not worth it im me somtime and we can talk more -biggredslilsis-
]
Thats really sad im so sorry for you but you need to stop cutting your self call a help hotline when these things happen i promise if you keep cutting yourself nothing good is going to come out of this...probably scars possibly even death so stop it and go see someone who can help you before you and your family REALLY hurt yourself!
]
Well they need to go see couples counsiling thats realy bad. Your dad could go to jail. Maybe you should just leave the house for awail and cool of and let them fight until they realise what they have dont. Also you need to stop cutting that is very bad for your body!
~Always looking to help Made4Monkeez
]
Man i hate these kinda situations, i am really sorry i hope things will get better for you. Have you tried calling a close neighbor or relitive such as your grandparents or something to see if you could come and stay with them while things are still a mess at your house, dont run away becuase thats whats wrong with people today they run away from their problems..but eventually they will hav eto face them again..so just try to deal with it all now and i am sorry! xOx Tory
]
**Edit: I read your extra info. I wanted to say, that even though it was your mom that hit your dad, it's still domestic abuse. Abuse is abuse, whether it's coming from a woman or a man.**
Ok, I searched online really quickly for a few sites.
4THERAPY.COM:
[Link](Mouse over link to see full location);
NATIONAL DOMESTIC VIOLENCE HOTLINE:
[Link](Mouse over link to see full location)
CENTER FOR DOMESTIC VIOLENCE PREVENTION:
[Link](Mouse over link to see full location)
I gave you these sites because it seems like a clear case of domestic violence going on in your house. It reminds me a lot of some unhappy holidays when I was younger.
Thankfully the guy that was abusing my mother was not my father, and my mother eventually smartened up and got rid of him.
I don't think just telling your parents to stop fighting is really going to help anything. If they've been fighting constantly for this long then they're obviously not thinking clearly and aren't going to listen to reason.
They need some serious help. Perhaps marriage counseling. But maybe, well, from the sounds of it, most likely, divorce will be the best way to go about it.
You should not have to deal with this shit. They should not bring you into their problems and bring even more stress and traumatization into a teenagers life.
You might want to talk to some councelors at school. Perhaps they can steer you in the right direction. There are also some sites online where you can talk to other teens that are in, or have been, in the same situations. I believe the two .org sites that I gave you have links to some of those sites.
Whatever you do, don't just hold it all in, trust me, it will only fuck your life up more if you do. Find someone to talk to, and find someone who can help you talk to your parents. You need to make your parents understand what this is doing to you. They need to see that it's not just their life, it's the lives of their children that their going to ruin if they keep this shit up.
*p.s. I checked who asked this question before answering it. I'm sorry if that offends you that I checked (I'm a level 2 moderator and can see a username if I choose to check) I just wanted to see if this was believeable depending on the past questions. Anyway, I know your probably all pissed at me for my previous answers. But that was a completely different subject, so I'm just trying to help now*
]
The first thing you need to do is find someone that is willing to listen. Everyone needs someone to vent to. If you think you really have no one like that the other suggestion would be to just write things out like in a notebook or journal. When things get bad that usually works if nothing else.
]
Wow im really sorry. It must suck to have you paretns fighting all the time.
All i can tell you is to well if you wanna run away, go to a friends house. But if not try discussing the problem with your parents. If they dont listen try calming them down so the dont fight as much.
If you need more help feel free to IM me... im on all the time.
Good Luck!
]
More Questions: |