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i need advice
ok i need ur help on something my boyfriend asked me to marry him and im only 17 bout to be 18 an im a girl but i like him and all and im preg. with his baby i just dont know what to do because if i do my dad isn't going to want anything to do with me anymore and if i dont then my dad will still alow me to be in my family but my dad doesn't like him and i dont know why not he is a sweet heart and i love him with all of my heart and everytime i go out with someone my dad never likes them and i dont see why not because he hasn't even got to meet my boyfriend yet he has meet him once and that is to only say hi but please i dont know what to do can you please help me out a little i would really appriciate that
Tosha
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That's pretty much all dad's. They never think that anyone is good enough for their little girl. If i were you i would marry him. I would want my baby to grow up with two parents, together. I wouldn't want them to have to travel back and forth between the two, and if you love him then i say go for it. Your dad isn't like anyone you bring home so don't let him stand in the way.
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OH sweetie! Well.. if you really love the guy I'd say screw ur dad & let him think what he wants cuz this guy sounds great & it seems like ur dad just doesnt understand.. but do dads ever? I would marry him not only cuz you love him but cuz hello.. he is ur baby's father & all. I can see where ur coming from, but if ur dad really loves you, he'll come around. He can't just ignore you. He IS your father after all.
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well first of all u are 17 why are u pregent! that sint good at all, if i was you i would get an abotion if you still can becuase having a family is going to be alot of work and there goes ure life.. if ure parents already hate ure boyfriend then ure even more in trouble becuase they arent going to want to have anything to do with you! i kno abortion is bad but it might b what u have to do.. if that sint an option i wood have a serious talk with ure parents and hope that things will eventually work out! maybe go out to dinenr or Find some interntes they both have so then you can start something for them and help them get to kno eachother better! ... welll hope i helped ! and goodluck!
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Talk to your dad about your boyfriend and his proposal. Some dads are like that; they hate any guy who tries to take their little girl away. Get your dad to meet him, and let them talk for a little while. Also, does your dad know that you're pregnant? If he doesn't, break it to him gently. If he does, use that as a reason for accepting your boyfriend's proposal. All in all, if your dad won't accept your boyfriend when you're at this age, maybe you should wait till your older, or at least out of college, to get married to him. Make sure that your boyfriend helps with child support!
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ok if your pregnant at 17 all i can say is that youve screwed up horribly. raising a baby demands so much financially, and will mess up the rest of your life. I would get an abortion while the baby is still inside you. I saw that you said you liked him. That is not enough. You must feel true LOVE to him to be able to raise a child together. im sorry, but your just too young to enage in childbirthing and childraisning. I say don't commit, what will probably happen is a divorce and thousands in legal fees. Demand him to raise the child with you, but do not marry him
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All dads are liked that " I HAT THAT BOY" " daddy u never met him" "I DONT CARE" my dads like that but aprents are suposed to love their kids uncondionally no matter what they . This really is a tuff decision. if ur not reddy with ur bf tell him ur not maybe u shud postpone it . i hope it all works for u in the end. GL
*becky*
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Okay, calm down. Your dad doesn't like them because your his baby. Usually dad's are like that. It's normal. Your dad doesn't like your boyfriend, or soon to be fiance because he was the one who got you pregant. You might be messing up your life with having this baby at this time of your life because it's so early and you haven't even gotten through college yet. Dad probably thinks that you had a lot going for you and that you're screwing it up. You need to marry the baby's father, that would be the proper thing to do seeing how your having his baby. If your dad can't accept that your not doing what YOUR DAD wants, then there's a problem. You're trying to do the best thing that you can for the baby right now. I give you a lot of respect for trying to be there for your baby. Not a lot of girls can do that. Just stick for what you want, but don't kill that baby and take care of it. You are the reason why it's here, and murder's a sin
Emi
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i think u should say yes if u really love him and if u have his baby (that u wanted to have) i think u should say yes u may never be able to find a guy like this again in ur life and may regret it. ur dad might not like all of ur bfs cuze maybe he thinks this owuld happen or he still thinks ur his little girl. u may need to sit down with ur dad and talk to him about this. u may need to tell him this is what u want and this is what u want ur furture to be and hell just have to accept that
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Umm tell him that you might decide to marry him in the future but for right now you need to stay with your family and everything...Im sure you getting pregnant didnt make your father too happy in the first place so you need to wait it out...let him cool down first about that and then ask if its okay to marry him...convince your father taht your baby needs a dad in his/her life just like you do.. nad you dont wanna lose him and ur baby dont wanna lose its dad either...your dad should love you and understand...he also needs to get out and really meet ur bf because rgith now he hates him for no reason...
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If you really love this boy then you should go ahead and marry him, regardless of what your father says. It seems like he really hasn't even given this dude a chance and probably doesn't even know him that well. Marry him if you truly do love him no matter what! :)
-HoPe I hELpEd!-
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i have a brother like tht if he dont eccept one of my boyfriends it is bye bye to them.
you should have your dad meet ur boyfriend and if ur pregnant then y would he want u to be a mother with no married father? would he want your child a basterd? with no married parents
i thnk you should go with what u thnk is right if you love this man tht u claim to be a sweetheart then stay with him hopefully one day your father will understand one day
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seriouly hunnie this is what you have got to think about. is it going to be the man who has brought you up and loved and cared for you a the boy who love and whoo baby you carry. I am afraid i cant make this kind of question for you as i feel it isnt my right to make such a big differnce in someone elses life but what i will do is give you as much luck as i possibly
can and that everyhting turns out the way you want it to.
love stef
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You need to erase your father and your pregnancy out of the situation. If it were just you, just Tosha, would you want to marry this boy? Are you genuinely ready for marriage?
I realize a baby and your existing relationship with your parents complicates things, but at the end of the day it IS as simple as figuring out what you really want and doing it. This isn't about your father's life, this is about yours.
Where do you see yourself in five years? Ten? What can you do to make sure you reach those goals?
Striving to be the truest to yourself - and not crumbling under pressures like this - is the only right, honest thing you can do.
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Okay this is where i am afraid to give advice sometime... but i dont want to be the couse of a prblem myself. Okay im am gogin to tell you what I would do. I think it is better to be honest with my parents. they are goign to find out your preg. eventualy... so i would tell them before they lose your trust al together. As for your dad... talk to him about it... ask him to get to know him more and then decide... i would just tell my father that i really would apreciate his suport.
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as for the yes or no to the proposal i dont know becuse i dont know the guy
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DEAR TOSHA,
ALL I CAN SAY IS THAT YOU NEED TO DO WHAT FEELS RIGHT TO YOU AND IF YOUR DAD DISOWNS YOU THEN I GUESS YOU ARE ON YOUR OWN AND YOU ARE PREGNANT WITH HIS BABY SO WHATS THE DIFFERENCE. OVIOUSLY THIS GUY REALLY LOVES YOU SO WHY NOT. YOUR DAD IS JUST LIKE MINE HE DONT LIKE ANY GUY THAT I GO OUT WITH. SO YOUR DAD JUST NEEDS TO GET USED TO IT AND ACCEPT THE FACT THAT YOU ARE GROWING UP AND THERE IS NOT ONE THING HE CAN DO BOUT IT. SO IF HE DOESNT WANT TO BE THERE FOR YOU RIGHT NOW THEN HE IS NOT MUCH OF A FATHER ANYWAYS!!!!
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I really think you need to take time to think about whether or not you want to marry this kid and if you come to the conclusion that the answer is yes then you need to sit your dad down and explain to him that whether or not he likes him he is still going to have to put up with him because you are pregnant with his kid and you would really love for him to meet the guy that asked you to marry him because he means a lot to you and you want him to give him a chance and ask your dad why he doesn't like him. Then try to maybe have a dinner with all of yall together. Hope I helped. -Kayla
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It sounds like ur dad is just afraid of losing his little girl!! Maybe ur mom can talk some sense into him.
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your dad will probably nver like your boyfriends because most dads are like that (i would kno i've dated) you should really say no beacuse you haven't even finished high school and thats were most failures start in life. you should consider marrige with him later in life like maybe when you graduate colledge but if you get married now you'll have a baby and school work to think about while having to work a job to feed your family. i say no you should wait
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why dun u just talk calmly with ur dad and have ur mum to back u up! and tell the truth that u r pregnant..u can't keep it a secret at all tyms b'cuz sooner or later ur dad will find out!!
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aww wel ltry to get your dad to talk to you boyfriend maybe invite him over to dinner...tell your dad how much he means to you... and if you really love him MARRY HIM... your dad will still love you no matter what!
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