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me or her...
ok lets see if i can get this right lol...
-does he like me or does he like herr???
---is it me or is it her...or am i really her?
(sry i know this is long)
ok ..im 14/f and one of my best friends is 14/m..he doesnt go to my school...although lives in the district and i seem him here and there...hes been askin me how to ask a girl out..and i kept telling him to be himself..he just wont listen to me on that part advice...
he kepts telling me to put myself in that position..
- i said "no"
- he said "well its not hard 4 u ur a girl"
- i said "its hard 4 us as well..bc we have to turn down guys we dont like"..
i dk how to tell just to be himself..bc he doesnt want to listen to listen when he knows its true...
and he a few days ago he asked me "how do i ask a girl out and not get turned down??"..and im like idk its not something predictable...
-he goes to a private school..and i go to public school..so i have no clue who this girl is..if i did ..i would have asked her if she liked him..but i dk ....so im pointless at this point...-thx
P.S. i asked him way be4 that.."what would you say if i said i liked you" and he said "i dunno" and said well what would your 1st response be if i said i did and he said "u do?" and i said oooo..then he said something or w/e and i said you scare me sometimes and he didnt say anything for 2 mins and i said..."do you care that you do sometimes" and he said "yea"..and i said "how much?" and he said "______________________________________________________________________________"
and i said "ooohh"..then later on the other night on-line what this girls name is and
he said "marissa"
--- when we got into an little argument over what is harder being a girl or being a guy...and he said we have it easier..and when i said "no we dont bc we have to turn down guys who ask us out, i had to do it 5 times" and he said "w/ whoooo?"..like if he was affaird i was taken or something..ahh it drives me insane..-thx again
- i think i already hinted that i liked him...im just not suree if he is affaird to ask me out bc i said i rejected 5 guys-
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hey! i'm a little confused with your story, but i'll try to help as best as i can. i'm guessing your starting hs. i'm sure that there are a lot of girls who have had to turn down guys. maybe he's not sure about what his feelings are. i didnt understand something, does he like that other girl from his private school? if he does, then he probably doesnt like you, although people sometimes like more than one person and are going out with someone. but if he doesnt like that other girl form his private school and he is asking you so many questions about how not to get turned down and stuff, then he may be interested. maybe he wants to know how you feel so that he oesnt seem like a jerk if you turn him down. what i mean is that if he likes you, the reason why he might be waiting is because he wants to now if you like him so that if you do he'll ask you out, but if you dont then he wont do anything. alright, well, good luck with him! if you wanna talk more, then aim me or e-mail me. hope i helped, peace and love!
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ok well that was realli confusing..but ill try to help u as best as I can.....heres what i think.... its hard to tell whether its you or someone else he wants to ask out....but since hes asking u for advice that means he trusts u and either likes u like a girlfriend or as a realli good friend so if i were u i would ask other questions about this girl as in what grade shes in what she looks like n stuff like that to get more hints and if it seems to be more like you then chances are it is...if he asks u again how he should ask her out without being rejected i think u should tell him that i doubt she would if she was smart and then if hes like why be like cuz ur a great guy and if i was her i wouldnt turn you down(im assuming that u like him)....even if its not u he plans on asking that will show him that u care about him and stuff to the point where maybi hell eventualli realize that he wants to be with u and not the other girl....u could also ask him how he knos "the girl" and how well he knows her and stuff like that...sorry if my advice was confusing but i hope i helped and everything works out good luck
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wow it gets a bit confusing but it think i can help.... maybe hes jus tryin to ask u how to ask u out so he wont get rejected by u. tell him if he doesnt want to take ur advice then he has to figure out his own. if u like him but he doesnt like u as more than a friend then make sure he doesnt find out bc things would be weirder between u 2. maybe u jus wanna tell him how u feel but if he starts going out w/ this other grl tht hes tryin to ask out then jus b happy 4 him. if you got mad tht he doesnt wanna go out w/ u then he'll like u even less. hope it all works out! ~steph~ IM me anytime at : miZZcHeRRyCoKe36
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I'm not sure exactly what you are hinting at for help here. Anyways, tell him that you like him straight out so he gets the point. And just be like yeah if you asked me out I'd probably say yes since I like you so much. That's the best thing
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Most people don't listen to sound and simple advice. Especially one that implies you be yourself. Dating is an exercise of humiliation, as pessimisstic as that sounds. It's an awkard situation to find a partner, especially when everyone's hormones are raging and everyone is hopeful about partnering up.
If there is a slight attraction between you two, it's possible that it's just territorial. Attractions between best friends are common. Sometimes, the feelings are not returned and this can leave the friendship open to interpretation.
You obviously are very connected to him and want to pursue him. I have a feeling it's not just territorial with you. Also remember that he probably is genuinely interested in the on-goings of your life as well. There is the possibility that he is attracted to you. I bet you that during the time he didn't send you a message, he was probably pondering 'Oh God! What do I say? What is the right response?'. He just wants to look and seem calm and collected.
Your arguement about who has it harder seems to be you two dancing around the idea of pursuing each other.
Remember that he is your best friend and sometimes, mixed signals do occur. If you do decide to pursue him, I suggest being honest with him and clearly saying 'Hey. I like you a lot.' What's the worst that can happen? The worst will be that he will decline your offer and you and him may feel awkard, but the best way to deal with THOSE situations is to make light of it.
I encourage jokes all the time. Any way, just be careful that you don't get hurt or this doesn't create friction between you and him. You two do seem to be dancing around the idea of being with each other, but he obviously can't seem to bring himself to tell you how he feels, whether it's negative or positive.
I'm sorry I can't tell you what you may want to hear. I just try to open up the possibilities within a two person bond and leave the decisions up to you. I can't tell you what to do or what you say, really. All I can do is remind you to remind yourself of the risks you may be taking if you did pursue him. The best thing to do in life is to be honest and upfront. Trust is earned more quickly through honesty than through games.
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the way you told him to ask out a girl is a good way and if he cant except your advice than tell him that you cant give advice to him . i cant really tell if he likes you . "marissa " may be like his code name for you and it may not be . he may really like a girl named marrissa and he may just be playing with you to see your reaction to it all . if you realy want to know i would just straight out ask him . if he's all imature about it then just drop the subject because then you know what type of a guy he is and mostlikely he does like you if he dosent give you an answer because he's too shy to tell you.
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ok, im really not good at these kind of things, but id say he likes you. there might be somebody else and hes asking for advice because youre close, or because he wants to ask you and not get turned down. its kind of intimidating if he knows you rejected 5 people, then hes probably nervous to ask you.
i could be wrong, but hope i helped
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well wen it's just yo guys talk to him about it! he might be shy! so u should make the first move! tell him how you feel! and than ask him who the girl is that he likes and if it's u just ask him if he will go out with u! if i were u i wouldn't wait! becuz i liked this one kid n i was soo scared to ask him n i blew it! now i dn't see him as much as i use to cuz we stoped talking! so just ask him! cuz if u really like him u wont wanna miss out! cuz if u wait som1 else might ask him!
*hope i helped
xox-ashlyn
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I agree with you.. I would tell him to be himself around the girl he likes. I think you should tell him to tell the girl he likes how he feels about her and if she turns him down then shes not worth it.If you like him more then a friend then I think you should tell him how you feel too. By reading your story.. it seems to me that he just might like you too! Hope I helped! <3 JuLiEt <3!
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Okay these kind of situations are ALWAYS confusing. Even though you keep telling him to be himself with a girl, he probably won't listen. There is a thing about guys and their listening capabilities! lol Well anyways, you should still talk to him. Get away from distractions and just try to talk to him. Try to avoid the phone and the internet. It's better to talk to someone in person, so go to the park or somewhere that would be quiet for the both of you.
Since you really don't have a clue to what he's talking about, address him with the subject. Ask him what he is trying to ask you. Tell him to be more specific. That way he'll tell you what he's trying to do and he won't even know that he's telling you! I know it's tough to actually talk to a guy, but you're going to have to do it sooner or later.
Guys are afraid of rejection, I mean who isn't? Usually when guys talk to you this way, they have some kind of feeling for you. Even though ya'll are best friends there could be something he has for you. So all I can say is talk to him. I know you have before, but this time don't let him leave with mixed signals. Maybe the more you talk, the more comfortable he is with you and maybe he will ask you out. If a guy gets enough courage and really wants to ask, he will. Hope this helped you! Tell me how everything goes! Brittany
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Well, if your've already given him hints that you like him and it's not working..then, try to just tell him that you like him. And take your advice. "Just be yourself".He could be affraid that you've rejected five guys, or because he might like "Marissa".But it's just like you said, "it's just something not predictable."So just tell him that you like him instead of giving him hints, because he might like you too. It's better to know than to be curious about something.Good luck, 'n Hope I helped!
-tori
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ask him if he likes you, and when asks you how to ask a girl instead of telling him to be himself think of what hes like and tell him that. and if hes afraid of rejection tell him it happens (im guessing you tried that)
i hoped this helped if not im relly sorry you can guess im not to good with this subject im just a D&D nerd that cant live without his anime and computer screen
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ok well i got confused a couple of times reading that...ok well let me sum this up; you like him and you have kinda told him, but you also told him that you turn guys down,he wants to ask this girl out....ok well he knows you like him and i think if he felt anything more or saw you as what he is looking for then he would have already asked you...im sorry that kinda sounds harsh but life is a B****! Well i hope i helped in anyway, tell me how everything goes. good luck
_LISA
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ok WOW! i so did not understand that...i would really like to help u..but try to say it n a lil more detal! it star8 up say wat you want...ok then ill help you for sure!!
thanks
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You know, I think this "Marissa" is made up. It sounds like he wants to know how to ask YOU out. He may have been intimidated by your "I turned down so many guys" thing, so encourage him to ask this so called girl out. If it’s not you, maybe hint a little better that you like him...hope I helped! ~*Jenni*~
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well......oo that's a tough one but i really think he likes you. that's my opinion of it. I mean, he's always asking YOU how to ask a girl out. Everytime he does you give him the same answer and he doesn't listen so he must not have asked anyone considering he repeated the question you know. With this other girl well..it could be someone he's using to mean as you, she may not exist, she could and he doesn't like you etc..etc..i'm so sorry but i just don't understand much the question was kind of a ramble. If you like this guy you need to go and tell him and ask him if he likes you. Just go right up and say it and don't look embarressed about it at all and don't let him be embarressed either. You will find out once and for all by urself if you are the one he's talking about. Hey even if ur not ask him if he would like to go out i mean you 2 from what i hear seem to be comfortable with eachother. good luck and i really hope i helped but i really had a problem with the question.
lemme know how it works out,
ally
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Guys send the weirdest signals, don't they? It might be a little bit ackward, but since he's not sending clear signals.. try and make your signals loud and clear! What I mean by that is, innocently flirt with him and see if he responds. If he reacts with weird signals (if you do try and flirt) then try again if you'd like, but this don't make it so obvious. Guys tend to squirm when they get put on the spot. If it doesn't work out, then don't worry about it. You seem like a very nice girl. Good luck! and I mean that too! Hoped I helped you out and have fun with it! -Ce
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i think u should just tell him online that u like him... if he sayes no he doesnt then its gunna be hard to accept bujt just keep working at it.(but dont annoy him) alot of people are scared of being rejected so they dont say nothing and they can pass up a great oppourtunity. he probally does like you but he just doesnt know how to tell you since you sed u have rejected 5 guys hhe might feel like he will get rejected so just go for it and tell him u like him. and if u dont want to tell him then just give him hints ask him if he wants to go see a movie or if he wants to go do something on the weekends. he cant read ur mind so ur gunna have to tell him how u feel unless u wanna end up not being with him.. im sorry if i didnt help much i just have exams andd stuff for sko0l so i dont have to0 much time to put into this as i usually do. go0d luck and i hope i helped u at least a little bit.. thnx
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I think that you should give him more hints that you like him and maybe he'll ask you out if not tell me wut happens and I will help you out from there
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