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Um, I like having sex, I'm not going to lie. But the last time I did, the guy I did it with kind of... made me have anal sex with him. And I tried to say it hurt but he didn't stop. I said it loud but when I told him afterwards, he said he didn't hear me. I cried afterwards b/c it hurt so bad. Is it my fault? I didn't want to do it... I feel gross. What do you think?
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It is not ur fault at all. Just if u do have sex with this guy again make sure to tell and if he doesn't listen try to slap him in the face or do wat ever it takes to tell him.
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I have heard the anal sex is very painful. Personally if any guy made me have anal sex I would kick his butt. You should get all of your feelings out. That may help the grossness go away. Works for me. If you need anything else just drop something in my inbox... I'll answer for you hun! <3
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Well...that guy is a jerk if he didn't listen!! I don't care if he said he didn't hear you!! He should have been able to tell by you being tense.
The best thing you can do is stay away from him. No one needs to make you do anything you are not comfortable doing. Hope I helped!
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no sweetie it's not ur fault. if you said NO.. the guy practically raped u. even tho ur not a virgin and if youve had sex wid him bfore that dosent matter. leave him. and i would tell someone. it's rape no matter how u put it. and never think that it's ur fault
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No this is not ur fault, what that guy did was wrong. He should have stopped as soon as u said no, what he did is classed as rape. Maybe talking to someone like a friend or somat will help u to feel better about it.
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Hey, Well since u sed u lyk having sex then thats ur beef but thats no1s problem but urs. Neva b scared to say no bc if u didnt want to have anal sex then u shodnt have had to.Thats ur decision. In away it is ur fault bc u cood have sed it louder if he didnt stop. Well pl ino that have had anal sex b4 did say it hurt but now u noe speak up dont b afriad to say stop or no i dont want to n ur body is ur temple so wut eva goz with u n ur sex mates is between u 2. So now if it hurts sometyms do someting about it loud n clear its ur body. Hope i was the least bit of help to u bye Millie**
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it isn't ur fault at all hun, you just need to shifted around or something and say that you were hurting, or did something to get his attention
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It isnt your fault...dont worry bout that..cuz he was supose 2 stop wen you said stop...plus he made an excuse he didnt hear you...n0t good! its lyk he raped you or something...but its ok 2 feel gross...
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its all his fault, lots of people like ahving sex but if you said no hes supposed to stop. this is what we call rape.
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It's definitely not your fault. I think you know deep down inside whether or not he heard you. You should be able to tell by how he reacted afterward. If he did hear you, but chose to ignore you, then he's nothing better than a rapist. He's the one who should feel gross, not you. If he truly didn't hear you then that's another story. Don't be afraid to make it clear what you are or are not willing to do, and never let anyone talk you in to anything you aren't comfortable with.
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well u said no, i dont think its your fault, but i dont see how he made you? im sure you took your own pants off
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Its not your fault that you had it like that.. if u said stop he should have listened to you dont let a guy take over you like that... If you dont wanna do it like that then tell them no dont just let them do it i hope i helped... drop one in the inbox xO Crystal
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Well, I don't think it's completely your fault. The guy may or may not have heard you so it's partly his fault for not listening. Also, you could have pushed or moved to get out of the way so he would understand that you couldn't take it so in all honesty it sounds like both of you are to blame. I hope this helps!
Crystal
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well that sucks but if u didnt want it that bad u coulds moved away. u should talk to him about it b4 u do it again! but i dont think its rape
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ITz hIS faulT- He "accidentally didnt hear you" dont blame it on yourself-
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You need to make your man understand that your not comfortable with that..if the yelling didnt work you shouldve pulled away or lightly smacked him so he got the point.. sorry to hear that happened to ya! girl power babe!:)
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did you tell him you didnt want to do it before he put it in? well, yeah, i can imagine how much that hurted..
it isnt exactly all your fault. i just want to say that, if you didnt want it, you could have backed away from him so he couldnt have put it in. but dont blame yourself too much, you told him you to stop and he didnt. its his fault too. im pretty sure he heard you tell him to stop, how could he not? how did he make you anyway? i would say that thats considered rape.. but then again, i guess you wanted to have sex with him.. i dont know.. but just dont beat yourself up about it. now that you know how it feels, and now that you know that you probably hate anal sex, just dont have anal sex again.
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I hate to say this, however, if you told him to stop and he didn't, then that is considered to be rape. He didn't listen to your words and you telling him not to... I do not think this is your fault, because you were just trying something new, but you didn't want to go ahead with it. You made your own decision, and well, so did he. I suggest if you truly need to get this out and it is bothering you this much, talk to an adult or a counselor about this.
I hope I helped. Good luck, hunni.
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Don't worry, it's not your fault, it's his. You should definitely be mad at this guy because what he did to you was considered rape. He heard you when you said it hurt and you wanted to stop but he just wanted to go on with it anyways. You deserve more. Hope I helped :)
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NO ITS NOT UR FAULT!!! u kept telling him 2 stop and he wudnt....that is so not ur fault...if i were u i wudnt have sex with this guy anymore becuz the way u described him it doesnt sound like hes ur boyfriend and if he is and u wanna stay with him then i wud just talk 2 him and tell him how u feel and that u dont wanna do that anymore...hope this helped!!!
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its not totally ur fault..but next time something hurts, and if the guy doesnt respect what u want, especally if u called out, OUCH STOP IT HURTS...he BETTER stop, or thats considered rape..u should be mad at this guy...ofcourse he heard u..he just said he didnt as an excuse......try not to ever have sex with this guy again..that was messed up how he didnt stop when u wanted him to...next time, if he really didnt hear u...push him off of u...
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