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What should i do?
OK here it goes!...Me n my boyfriend have just started havin sex...n well once he has had it once he has to have it all the time...well sometime i really dont want to...but he will force me into it or beg me to have it until i give in...n i love my boyfriend so much we have been dating now for 4 months...i keep saying no over and over but he keep it going when i finally give in he says baby im sorry for doin that to you...but he still does it anyways he promised me that would be the last time but that wasnt the first time he did it either! What should i do and say to him w/ having to break up with him? Please help me!
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that's ALMOST rape. you know that? you can't keep giving in like that. you have to just say "no. i don't want to, that's final." if he can't deal with that, i don't think you need to be going out with him, whether you want to accept that or not.
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tell him u dun want it all tha time! n if he cant understand that then leave em
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dump his ass
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TELL HIM IF HE IS REALLY REALLY IN THE MOOD TO BEAT HIS MEAT HISSELF, BECAUSE YOU ARENT HIS LIL KITTY AND AINT GUNNA DO NOTHING JUSS BECAUSE HE NEEDS TO SCRATCH YO KITTEN DONT MEAN HE CAN SCRATCH IT WHENEVA HE WANT TO CUZ THATS JUST MESSED UP! AND IF HE STIL DOES IT..THEN YOU MIGHT WANT TO BREAK UP WIT HIM..BUT THATS UP TO YOU..CUZ YOU CANT CONTROL LOVE!
-STEPHANIE
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if hes really in the mood tell him to use his hand
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Wow... only 4 months and ur already havin sex? Sorry. Anyways, it sounds like he's majorly addicted 2 sex. If he's forcing u in2 sex that is technically considered rape, but if u say yes than its fine. If u relaly don't wanna b having sex @ the time he asks u, u can't give in no matter how much u love him. Also, try talkin 2 him and telling him how, unlike him, u don't feel that u can be having sex all these times. If he really loves u, then he'll resppect that. Good luck!
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look, he's abusing you. you really ought to leave that relationship. i know you love him, but love isn't suppose to hurt. if you don't want to have sex with him, tell him clearly that you won't have sex.
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He must not be sorry if he keeps doing the same shit again and again. If he loved you,he'd only want sex from you when you'd enjoy it as much as he would. Tell him "I really don't appreciate when you try this bullshit guilt trip on me everytime I don't let you make love to me. How can you say you care about me when you're always doing this to me?" See what he says to that honeybunch. If it continues,break it off with him.
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You want the short answer: Get rid of him now. You should have more self respect than to stay with someone who is more than happy to keep pressurising you into doing something you do not want to (especially something as personal as having sex.) Don't mix your words, leave him quite clear how you feel and don't be taken in by any begging.
Good Luck and God Bless
Derfel
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walk out when he trys to force you. if he touches you or grabs your hand or anything just be like "change or this isnt goin to work out" and if you have to break up with him...watch out for this next time. and maybe get to know the guy a lil more.
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Well, that sounds a littel like rape... Hav eoyu ever thought that hes just using you for sex! Im not sure if you protection or not because you didnt say. It could ruin your life if you get pregnat-he might not want to help you with the baby! You really should break up with him. Sorry, but thats the truth!
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He may be apologizing, but inside he doesn't really mean what hes saying. He's hurting you and he can't be allowed to do that. Are you familiar with the cycle of abuse? There are three stages - 1st: Pressure building (in your case this would be where he is forcing you or pressuring you to have sex with him) the 2nd: Breaking point (in your case this is where you give in or he forces you to have sex with him) 3rd: The 'Honeymoon' stage (in your case this is where he apologizes like crazy and says that magical sentence 'it'll never happen again')
He is abusing you, mentally and physically. You may love him, but the main thing in a relationship is trust and you can't trust someone that constantly hurts you mentally and you can't trust someone that has absolutely no respect for you as a person or your body. This is not a healthy relationship and believe it or not there are guys out there who know when no means no. Get out of this relationship while you are still able to.
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I say u should defenitly break up. cuz if u dont wanna do it and he forces u to, then its not right at all.if he is forcing u and u say no than its rape. well thats just me.
*{Good Luck}*
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um this sounds like an abusive relationship. put him on the suspension test for a week or two, where you don't have sex for a while (i don't know how often you two have sex...) and if he is still being the same guy that you love, then you shouldn't have to break up with him. but if he is forcing you to have sex, technically that is rape, and he could get in serious trouble. tell him to back off and make him realize that you have boundaries.
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if hes forcing you to have sex, then thats rape. If you keep saying no and he wont listen, he's not respecting you. I think you should try and talk to him before you break up with him. Maybe you should ask him why he thinks he needs to have sex all the time. And if he still continues to want to have sex & not listening to you, then you guys should probably break up.
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Hello !!! thats RApe theres no other way to describe it . You need to talk to him or if youve tired that then threaten to leave him if he doesnt stop. If he says fine do what ever you want then he isnt worth it any way
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It is quite possible he is only in the relationship for sex and not much else. You should sit down and talk about it and tell him you are not comfortable with it, and if he dumps you, you know he was never in it for the right reasons anyway.
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When a boy forces you to have sex, that's rape. It doesn't matter if he's your brother, your boyfriend, or a stranger. You always have the right to say no.
If your boyfriend does not understand that, then he does not respect you. It doesn't matter if he only does it one time or apologizes sweetly afterwards.
Sexual coersion is sexual coersion. if you continue to put up with it, you'll end up hating him AND yourself. I'd have a serious talk with him; explain that what he is doing makes you feel uncomfortable and is also illegal.
If you tell him how you feel and he still doesn't listen, then that's a pretty clear sign that he doesn't care about you or what you have to say.
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maybe you should put yourself in more situations where you can't have sex, but cant still hang out together. like you two going and hanging out at a friends, or in a public place. IF HES FORCING YOU, YOU NEED TO CONTACT THE POLICE. THATS RAPE. and if he gets too out of control, you might need to break up with him. for now, tell him you don't always want to have sex. and if that doesnt work, give him an ultimatum (spelling} like if we have sex today, then we won't for the rest of the week. almost a threat. so you can get your way.
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Juss sit hi down n be like every time u wanna have sex wid me u con me into it and i dont feel comfortable bein forced to have sex wid u i mean i love u but when i wanna i will juss dont pressue me into it!!! Hope my advice helps!!
.*.>> Caitlin <<.*.
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