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Q: I'm pretty sure this song is just about doing drugs, you know "feed your head". But I've heard many theories.

Can anyone help me out?

One pill makes you larger
And one pill makes you small
And the ones that mother gives you
Don't do anything at all
Go ask Alice
When she's ten feet tall

And if you go chasing rabbits
And you know you're going to fall
Tell 'em a hookah smoking caterpillar
Has given you the call
Recall Alice
When she was just small

When men on the chessboard
Get up and tell you where to go
And you've just had some kind of mushroom
And your mind is moving slow
Go ask Alice
I think she'll know

When logic and proportion
Have fallen sloppy dead
And the White Knight is talking backwards
And the Red Queen's "off with her head!"
Remember what the dormouse said;
"FEED YOUR HEAD
_______________
FEED your head"
Well...since they got it from Alice In Wonderland...I think they want to emphasize the aftermath of taking drugs...like the crazy things you see after you take certain types of drugs (shrooms..cocaine, etc) Technically, from certain theories...Alice was hallucinating...which led her to see and imagine things described in the song. Which inspired Jefferson Airplaine to compose such a song. I dunno if that was much help but it was worth a try =|

Q: this is a poem i did i have bad anxiety its not about me its one of these poems where you need to think what its about in a life situation im fifteen =] thanks

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Its only a voice she crenched with fear Dont make me feel superior Im only here.
Dont mutter my words dont Violate my space Dont touch my tears Dont Look at my face

Because Ill smile when Im Hated and ill frown when im not . Ill retaliate to your speech because when your so cold i feel so hot . Let me be here forever let us hold hands and open arms wide in this beautiful weather





she quoted and then sang she laughed and then smiled . For the first time in her life she never felt so mild

the feels of her justice fell thorugh the sky her red lipstick smudged Proves her life was never a lie .
Just one more minuite she said to herself her body quivered through determination and though that she smiled one last time Let me love the people i once dislliked let me make a provision
let me draw a line.


It felt she was derierating into a dust so fine . As sudden as the cold weather went through that the sun started to shine . >>>>
I really like this. You have potential, I must say. Apart from some grammatic errors: "your.." should be you're...etc. It flows nicely. I perfectly understand what its like to have anxiety, cause I suffer from it really badly as well. And I write poetry too :) I think that with some more practice, you will get better and better. But you have some really good techniques and styles in here.
Especially this
"Don't touch my tears
Don't look at my face
Because I'll smile when I'm hated..."
Getting rid of some cliche phrases would be a fine idea for you. "sun started to shine" .."body quivered"..try to stay away from lines like that..as everyone knows them and they're not all that creative.
I think you'd make great poetry with more practice :) Never give up.

Q: I have verizon. My contract expires in mid-August, and I really want my new phone to have a keyboard. I've been texting non-stop lately and i need a keyboard to help the process along haha. :)

So, my questions:
-What phones do you suggest?
-Does anyone have the Glyde/heard anything positive/negative about it?
*It helps if you know about the phone yourslef, and you don't just look up information online, because I already did that. Thanks. :)
! I have verizon.
I have the env2. It's excellent, in my opinion. I'm a texter too. And I find it really comfortable to text with the keyboard provided. The outside screen (when the phone's closed) is a tad bit too small though...some people like it, some don't. But overall, I recommend it :D
The Voyager's REALLY good too. But it comes off as rather pricey..
My friend has the glyde btw. And she keeps on saying good things about it, so I assume it's good. Good luck in your phone-finding quest! :P

Q: ok so me and my boyfriend broke-up only a month ago... i broke up with him.. but he already has a girlfriend...
its just irritating me and there like all over eachother at school. its annoying. i really truly dont have feeling for him, and like i dont want him back at all... but idk its just annoying and like i know 4 sure that theree bothe gonna have sex... and i dont know why it bothers me but it does... help?
Sounds like you might still have a little thing for him...like a subconscious thing. I broke up with my bf a month ago too..And I know what that feels like. It's not jealousy..
But, if I were you, I'd stay as far away as possible from the both of them. Don't go around school looking for them. Just go to class. When you're walking, don't walk alone, just in case you see the both of them together and you get pissed off. Go with a group of friends (use your friends, they're there for you) Try to avoid the places you know they go to to make out or whatever. Whenever you DO, by chance, see them, focus your attention on something else. Best piece of advice though? Find an interest in someone else! I guarantee you won't be annoyed by them.
Also...be friendly to them if any of them start talking to you. You wouldn't wanna come off as jealous. Don't mind that they're gonna have sex. You wouldn't wanna do it with a guy who switches girlfriends faster than the speed of light anyway. Be glad you're saving up your virginity. :)

Q: okay the whole colored skinny jeans with the rocker shirts and the converse...I want to dress like that next year but IDK what it is called...
like example
dark blue skinny jeans
black converse
stud colored belt
with a white or black band shirts..

can you tell me what kind of style is this so i can know where to shop
okay..i have a couple of friends dressing like that..they call themselves "rockers"...anything specific ..
"punk rockers"
"retro"..kinda maybe?
some scene people dress like that too.
how about trying hot topic? mostly all people that shop there know this style and follow it as well. and you'll find everything you listed there..
i dunno if i was much help. but good luck :]

Q: so i dont know if this the right subject but w/e!

im a 14 year old girl that loves anime and manga i hope 2 become a mangaka how can i start i super good at drawing but thinkin what 2 write bout is hard and i also wanna write novels and love stories and drama and mistery....so how do i start i know school is 1 part duh! but what else can i do....any 1 knows stuff bout writing please help because i wanna do this real bad so please!

thnx call me xuya...:]
You can start by learning how to spell mystery and capitalizing your words. Join a creative writing class in school. Set up goals and write five pages per day. Try to get rid of internet talk COMPLETELY. Don't shorten your words with numbers and get rid of all leet talk (internet abbreviations). Read books. Any kind of books..don't limit yourself. Ask people to proofread your writing when you're done and NEVER be shy. Never judge your own writing either. You are the worst judge for your own writing. As you begin to read more, you will develop a more structured vocabulary and the creative writing classes you take (if you will..) will help strenghthen you while you grow as a writer. Also, try speaking more to people. This will help influence your speech. Listen to different music to get ideas/emotions...to influence your writing. Try poetry for a change. Make up similes..observe the world around you. Start with a children's story..then gradually move on to more complicated things. Never EVER think of yourself as a pro. Even when you are. Because when you stop trying to improve, you'll never get any better at it. Have confidence in your writing, but don't be cocky.
If you need any help, please feel free to ask me. I'm going to (hopefully) become a writer as well :)

Q: I'm really nervous to make out for my first time with this guy. I really have no idea what im doing and im not sure if he does either. any help?
First off...relax. It's not such a big deal to be worried about. (well, kinda...but it's fine when you get the hang of it). Talk to the guy, get comfortable..then when you're calm and cool or whatever...slowly peck him on the lips...peck a few times, but very softly. Then start to lock your lips more...if he shoves his tongue in your mouth, then do the same. Do whatever he does (if he DOES know what he's doing). Honestly? It's different for everyone. But mostly, you just have to let it happen on it's own. Don't plan it, that ruins the spark :)
For more info, though..try this website:
http://www.wikihow.com/Make-Out
It helped me a lot on my first time..I was freaking out too :p

Q: so i blowdry & straiten my hair almost everyday. & it seems to be getting pretty damaged and dry. is there any kind of shampoo&conditioner i can use to help repair my hair and make it look shiny & smooth?!!
Burt's Bees repair shampoos/conditioners. You can find them nearly anywhere they sell shampoos. Although, they may come off as rather pricey. But they're all natural and work like magic.
Try it and if you don't like it, you can always stick to the herbal treatment shampoos/conditioners at stores such as Whole Foods. Those work as well :)
Good luck, and, if you can, try straightening/blowdrying it less! Unless you really need to, of course.

Q: okay so im 17 and im a girl. ive been dating this one guy whos 17 as well (Kyle) and he wont even act like we are dating. i have to do everything and sometimes he doesnt act as if i even exist and ive tried talking to him and he just doesnt understand me. all my friends and his friends think i should break up with him for obvious reasons-basically its not even like we are going out? but i really liked him and thought it was gonna work and have been trying very hard to make it work for us. but see now i met this new guy (Tyler) who is also 17 and whenever we hang out we act so flirty and i dont know if it would ever work for me and him but i dont think its right to keep dating kyle while im developing a crush on tyler...and i know for a fact its not gonna go away...plus im going into my senior year. i need a mature relationship or none at all right? just tyler and me are going to be spending the entire summer together and we have already clicked majorly...what do you think i should do. i feel like a big ass too my my boyfriend because when we are together i really like him but then as soon as he ignores me again i get pissed and cant help but think about tyler...ugh. yea thats basically it. thanks for any advice on the matter :)
Alright. You're not happy with your boyfriend at ALL. And I can see where you're coming from. If it's hanging by a loose thread and you have another guy on the side..then cut that thread! Why let this notion of uncertainty hang and spoil your entire summer? Let loose, let go of Kyle and spend some time with a person who takes you more seriously. And you're right. A childish relationship might as well be no relationship at all. I'd say break up with Kyle. Things might only get worse.
Good luck, hon :)

Q:
I have feelings for my best friend for 7 years and still counting. I told her that I am bi sexual and she is fine with it. I talk to her about my struggle for coming out and she listens and gives me advice but I really struggle of trying to get over her! She is bi curious never had a long term boyfriend but confused of her sexuality and not interested to anyone at the moment. I told her I like her but she sees me as a sister. I am never touchy feeling or flirty to her I keep my distance. But she is to me! She leans on me sometimes and flirty to me too. I asked her if she likes me more than a friend she said not as of now sorry I see you as a sister. I want to get over her but every time I try I have a feeling that she does like me more than a friend but denies it. But I don’t think that’s true. I just can’t take no for an answer. I don’t have any gay friends to take me to gay bars or help me hook up with a girl.
I feel like she the only girl in the world I am in love with but I really want to get over her and see her as a sister.

if you were me what would you do?
If I were you I would first go up to the mirror and admit the fact that you and her might never be together. Then I would stay as far away as possible from her for a few months. Take a break..but inform her about it! Don't make plans, don't call and don't answer phone calls. If you lie to yourself that you see her as a sister, you'll end up being hurt even more if you ever happen to see her with someone else. Try to stay away and get distracted. I know its hard to meet bisexual females (I, myself, am bisexual as well) but you should at least try. Go out with friends and experience new things. Also, if you can't keep away from her, just minimize the contact. And don't flirt! It'll make things worse.
I really hope things work out for you.

Q: There is this boy... I have been interested in him for almost two years now. we have been on and off and he has hurt me really badly... twice. the first time me and him got together, i was going through a really rough time with my family and I told him that i wasn't going to be myself until everything worked out. i told him that i still wanted to be with him very much, but that i had to figure stuff out with my family before I really had time to focus on him. He said he understood and that he would wait, but when my fanily problems got worked out.. he had moved on to another girl. i tried really hard to be okay with this because i was the one who made him wait, but seeing them together everyday was killing me. So i told him and he said he still had feelings for me. once him and this girl broke up, we got together again. by this time I had changed schools and i didnt get to see him as much. again family issues arose and i told him that i was going to be hard to hang out with for about two weeks while i was figuring everything out. he than told me that I was not worth it. this hurt me so badlly but I have been working really hard to get over it. It has been two months since then, and today he left me a message on my voicemail that sais his life was incomplete without me in it and he really wanted us to give it another try.

Sorry this is wrong, but do i give him another try? or is it time for me to just move on?

any help or advice is appreciated :)
You're not worth it is a pretty mean thing to say. It hurts. He wasn't willing to wait for you twice. He could be manipulating you and then sweet talking in the end to get you back. However, if for the time you two WERE together, if you found him to be a genuine person who was just frustrated by your troubles and you not being able to be with him...then I say go for it. Because I would give him a chance if I was in your position. However, don't keep such a tight grip on him. In other words, don't get too attached and always expect a breakup, one way or another. This will definitely save you some heartbreak in the future.
Good luck :)

Q: i ate a lot over the past two days. aswell as a ton of fiber.
i havn't sh*tted in the past 2days to.

any tricks to poop faster???? (i don't have any lacitives)
drink a lot of water. like A LOT
eat a lot of apples and drink a lot of apple juice.
go out to the store and buy mineral oil and drink that in tea spoons.
drink some green tea
okay this is gross but it works..take some butter..and apply it over that "bottom area". believe it or not, it'll help.
try not to worry about it too much, cause stress causes constipation as well. all things must come out anyway. some people live with five day constipations. (i went through about a week once)
good luck :)

Q: u have a chihuahua/terrier mix and every night when im at my computer she jumps on my lap and starts panting and shaking like crazy and then after i get up and go to bed she still sits on my bed and pants and shakes this happens every single night.. what do i do? whats wrong with her?
I have a chihuahua! (not mixed..) but okay. Is it a puppy or really young? Generally, these dogs are smaller than any other dog, so it takes them a while to adjust to the room temperature. This lasts until the dog's about 2ish? It's normal. I know this because my dog did the same. It's probably either cold or scared. Remember its size and compare it to the others.
Another factor in this...is that the dog's nerves are kicking in. This could either be because she's not with you or she's scared! All chihuahuas are mostly this way (i found out). nothing's wrong with her. And what you could do is try warming her with a blanket and give her as much affection as possible.
Good luck! If you need any more help, feel free to ask :)

Q: is there any way to get rid of vaginal discharge odor?
Yes. If find that cleansing cloths, which you can get at Publix or CVS or any store like that, really help. They even sell little compact packages that you can take with you when you're on a trip or something. Cleaning yourself down there with chemicals shouldn't be a solution every day though. Make sure you wash down there with a mild soap and warm water every night. And wear pantiliners. You can also try a douche...but I heard it can interfere with the chemicals in your vagina, which is really bad for you. Because remember, discharge is the vagina's way of cleaning itself out (as a vagina is a self-cleaning organ).
Good luck :):):)

Q: Which is better, to stick with a relationship that has so many up and down moments due to the sheer differences in personality, religion, and God knows what else, simply because you don't want to look back and say you didn't give it your all, or to stop feeling trapped by a relationship that increasingly seems to be falling apart.

20's, male.
In my honest opinion, it's better to lose the relationship. If it's not making you happy now, why would it later? You can't really stop a relationship that's falling apart, unless a miracle happens, of course. And if you believe in that miracle, then stay. But if the relationship is ruining your mood, causing you stress and you don't even love the person that much..then get rid of it. That's my say in this.
Good luck.

Q: when you block someone on msn what exactly happends?
like does the person not see you online anymore, or sees you but you cant really talk to the person and he doesnt get your messages?
they can't see you online. they think you're offline. unless they ask a mutual friend whether or not you're online, they can never really find out you blocked them.

Q: I am SO nervous for Cedar Point! My school is taking us lol. So, my bf is HELL BENT on making me go on these huge ass roller coasters (which i HATE). He also thinks I'm just going to ride with him... I want to tell him that 'There's no way in hell I'm ditching my girlfriends to just ride with you. Sure I'll ride with you sumtimes but my other friends want me to ride with them too' but I dont wanna sound like mean or like a bitch, u know?

THEN, there's the matter of the bus. My bf, Tim, my friend, Terra, and my other friend, Jane, all want me to sit with him/her on the bus. AND they not only want me to sit with them they think I already kno who im goin to sit with themself. I told eachone, 'um yea sure ill sit with u, just let me see how this whole thing works out,' I didnt wanna hurt any1's feelings. Now here's the thing, I really don't care who I sit with on the damn bus, its only for an hour or 2. Jane is a little bitch so I dont want to really sit with her; plus she alrea
Okay, well..like a little part of your question got cut off. so I'm going to assume you're asking how to handle what you've already asked..
I'd choose the person who would get upset least and sit next to them. Don't lie though, tell them straight up. Don't lead any of them on... They won't get upset if they're your REAL friends. Good luck. =)

Q: My boyfriend asked me out about a week ago. I like him alot, especially becuase we were very good friends a long time before he asked me out. So, im really comfortable around him and trust him 100%. Well, for some odd reason i keep worrying im going to do something to cause him to stop liking me, and then breakup with me. I have no idea why this is bothering me so much...after every time i talk to him ill think to myself, did i say something wrong? sometimes ill even think things like, im not good enough, how could he ever like me. Does anyone have any advice for this, because its really starting to make me sad =/
You shouldn't have to worry about this. He chose you. Which means he likes you a whole lot. If anything were to bother him...about what you said or what you did..he would tell you. Because that's what a relationship is all about; communication. Never think you're not good enough. Because if you weren't, he would've chosen someone else. This feeling of low self worth in relationships, I found out, only occurs for the first couple of weeks. So quit stressing and enjoy your relationship, girl :)

Q: ok so i have this friend who likes my boyfriend and shes trying her hardest to take him from me..ive tried talking to her and ive even talked to him about it. he doesnt like her..he likes me and only me.what should i do?

ashley
Okay. Same situation. Does your friend openly show you that she digs him and wants to steal him from you? If she is, I'd drop her. She'll only cause drama and nothing more. And if she continues doing it, and you see your boyfriend beginning to pay attention to her, dump him too. It's not worth the drama, I'm telling you.

Q: If one's last name is Gallagher, or any similar spelling, what nationality would he or she most likely be?
Either British/Irish or Australian. That's what it sounds like anyway. Probably of Jewish decent..maybe not.

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I'm Annie and I'm 16. I know a lot about being stressed and anxious and all those things teens go through. I also know a great deal about relationships. I just went through a breakup and I know what guys can be capable of doing. I'd love to help. ;]

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