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another chance?
There is this boy... I have been interested in him for almost two years now. we have been on and off and he has hurt me really badly... twice. the first time me and him got together, i was going through a really rough time with my family and I told him that i wasn't going to be myself until everything worked out. i told him that i still wanted to be with him very much, but that i had to figure stuff out with my family before I really had time to focus on him. He said he understood and that he would wait, but when my fanily problems got worked out.. he had moved on to another girl. i tried really hard to be okay with this because i was the one who made him wait, but seeing them together everyday was killing me. So i told him and he said he still had feelings for me. once him and this girl broke up, we got together again. by this time I had changed schools and i didnt get to see him as much. again family issues arose and i told him that i was going to be hard to hang out with for about two weeks while i was figuring everything out. he than told me that I was not worth it. this hurt me so badlly but I have been working really hard to get over it. It has been two months since then, and today he left me a message on my voicemail that sais his life was incomplete without me in it and he really wanted us to give it another try.
Sorry this is wrong, but do i give him another try? or is it time for me to just move on?
any help or advice is appreciated :)
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If he hurt you once shame on him. If he hurts you twice shame on you. There shouldn't be a third chance. If you weren't worth it to him for two weeks then he is probably just trying to get you back in order to prove to himself that he can. He will deny it but that doesn't mean it's not true. Or you may be his fall back--meaning that when he is single or doesn't have what he wants in his life he comes back to you. That's not love--that is convenience and it's not fair to you or the truly good relationship you might overlook if he is in your life. Very few people meet their forever love in middle or high school. Those that do are the exceptions and not the rule. I would tell him you appreciate the sentiment but that you do not feel he has supported you in the past and relationships are about supporting the person you care for during good and bad times NOT just when you want to. I would move on. Will it hurt? Yes. Will you get over it? Yes. Will you eventually find someone else? Yes. You also need to understand and learn that being "single" doesn't mean being alone. You build a support system of friends that are there no matter what.
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You're not worth it is a pretty mean thing to say. It hurts. He wasn't willing to wait for you twice. He could be manipulating you and then sweet talking in the end to get you back. However, if for the time you two WERE together, if you found him to be a genuine person who was just frustrated by your troubles and you not being able to be with him...then I say go for it. Because I would give him a chance if I was in your position. However, don't keep such a tight grip on him. In other words, don't get too attached and always expect a breakup, one way or another. This will definitely save you some heartbreak in the future.
Good luck :)
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