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What can i say? i made an advice column because i read a few of these things and i think it's the dumbest/ most vague advice i've heard. hey man if i can help, i will, but i'll be the first to admit i might not have any idea what you're going through, but i'll tell you that up front.
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Is there any way that I would be able to restrict certain sites from my computer? Something like parental controls but I don't have AOL. Thanks.
there are a bunch of programs you can get like guard dog and stuff, and some not only block those sites but will give you a printout of the site in question specifically so if it's for a small child, you can figure out if it is something that needs to be blocked. just check out your local compusa. .:.curbside prophet.:.
I have an issue; I want to lose some weight, but my stomach grumbles like crazy!!!!! It's so annoying, I mean, I have a strong willl to lose the weight, but its so embarresing, I sit in math class and suddenly I hear my stomach, is there anything I can take or do to make my stomach not so vocal? Please and thank yous!
just eat foods that will fill you up. likeeee hm cheese is good, and if you bring like just plain turkey or ham or whatever sandwhich meat you like in a bag that works too. eggs make you full for like the rest of the day so make sure you focus on breakfast. trust me, the pounds will melt off. it's working for me! .:.curbsideprophet.:.
I need advice about what color eye shadows would accent my hazel eyes the best. I have medium brown hair and medium toned skin if that helps. I would really appreciate it, i rate high.
i have hazel eyes and brown hair, and a nice light lavenderish color really does wonders. i even got a makeover at Victoria's Secret for kicks, and thats what she put on me. it does wonders really. blondes usually do better with pinks while us brunettes usually do better with lavender. oh and btw, id stay away from heavy eyeliner... it makes you look even darker, and nowadays light and fresh is the way to look. .:.curbsideprophet.:.
i'm a freshman in high school. so is my friend, kendra. she's dating a senior at our school. they have been dating since the day after christmas.. i talk to kendra almost day, and all she talks about is her boyfriend. my friends and i can't take her talking about him all the time - like them having sex, and all this other worthless crap. we want to talk to her, but we don't know what to say.. ya mind helpin?
it's really hard to tell a friend about their faults, because 9times out of 10 they take it personally and freak out. just let her know by body language. like when she talks about her boyfriend just sort of roll your eyes or change the subject as soon as she stops talking. she'll get the point. and if not-- THEN you lay it out cold about how life is full of so many things, so must she concentrate on one all of the time? .:.curbsideprophet.:.
I cried this morning, and I never cry. I haven`t cried in months so this was somewhat of a big deal and I almost killed myself but my friend calmed me down. I cut myself, I did it not because I wanted to hurt myself or was upset for any good reason just because I could, it's dumb I know. My mother hates me, like seriously unconditionally hates me and tries to ruin my life by thinking anything that makes me a bit happy is stupid or along the lines of stupidity. I can`t talk to her that`ll just make things worse, and I don`t want to bring my dad into this because he tells her everything. Why can`t my life be better?! What did I do?! xxOo
calm down my dear. deep breaths. i know exactly where you're coming from. let me guess, you can't control anything. you can't control your mom, you can't control what others think, you can't really control school, so what can you control? right, pain. when you cut it's something that you feel. you become so numb to the rest of the world because it is so out of control that you find out that it feels good to feel something-- even if it is pain. it's not the answer. it gets you nothing but shrinks and funny looks in the hallway. its not worth it. talk to someone, even if it's your best friend. call her up and just have a good cry. just let it out. cry into your pillow. scream. just let it all out and don't hold anything back. draw pictures, write notes in a journal. just have a hissy fit. an hour or 2 later, you'll feel better. you'll feel like you're not holding anything in, and is if your soul poured out with your tears. then, when you're clear-headed and "empty" you can think. the world is not out to get you, and your mom isnt either. she's probly just worried somethigns gonna happen. that's no consolation, i know. my moms overprotective, im 16 years old and cant go to the local mall because it's "in the city". like what the fck my friends have been going since they were 12 years old. so whatever, i've learned to deal with it and that theres only a little more time until i am out of the house and at college. hang in there, doll. you're not alone. if you need someone to talk to, i/m me. if you want my screenname just ask me a question on my column only. good luck-- you'll be fine. .:.curbside prophet.:.
first of all, my boyfriend and i have been together for two years, and about three months. i love him with all my heart, and i know he loves me as well. well, last month i was going through his sidekick and i went through his text messages. i wasnt looking for anything particular really, i just wanted to read my texts that i sent him. i came across a message from another female, and i guess he was trying to talk to her. i approached him right away about it. he told me that, yes, he hangs out with other girls, drinks with them, etc. im already aware of that, and thats perfectly fine with me. but then he told me that when he sees a cute female, that he does try to get her number for the challenge, and flirts with them. he said he's never done anything sexual with any other girl, he just likes to get to know other people. i let him know that bothers me and that if he still wants to be with me, he needs to stop approaching other females because thats unneccesary when he already has me. he said he'd stop. i really love my boyfriend, and i used to trust him, but after some of this stuff, its hard to trust him. im kind of stuck, and i dont know what to do because i find myself worrying about him cheating on me and things along that line. so.. i'd like to know, what would you do if you came across this situation. thanks. sorry about the length ;\
okay so you sound like my friend b, she has a boyfriend who goes to parties, and sometimes she cant always go. well he told her "sometimes i flirt with other people there blah blah blah". it's not you at all. and he's not necessarily cheating. he just doesnt want to feel suffocated. so whatever, let him do that. i mean if you choke down now, of course hes going to go out and do things with other girls just to spite you. also... i personally stay out of things like sidekicks or whatever, mainly because, i don't want to know. things have a funny way of exposing themselves, and im not about to go prying and make myself sick worrying. relax. he probly loves you to pieces, but obviously being young doesnt want to feel tied down. you know where the line is, so let him cross it. then and only then, do something. dont scold him for "approaching the fine line." relax. .:.curbside prophet.:.
i'm 5'1 and i'm really short compared to my friends, its kinda embaressing since i use to be taller than most of them.. what can i do to grow taller? no pills or w/e
well in my opinion you should embrace it. honestly, you wont have to weed out tall guys. haha but in all seriousness, i agree with the other columnists, you can wear stilettoes and not look like a giant. you have a whole selection of marvelous footwear at your disposal. i've gotten accustomed to birkenstocks and sandals because well... heels make me look... just disproportionately tall. plus in case you haven't noticed, clothing in the petite section is wayyy cuter. so again, embrace it. you have wayyy more selections at your disposal when it comes to clothes and footwear. .:.curbside prophet.:.
me and my ex bf have broken up 11 months ago and i have been with my current bf 10 months. i went out with my ex for 2 years and a month... i love my curent boyfriend alot..... but i cant help but think abt my ex from time to time.... he broke up with me saying he didnt love me but the next day he called me to tell me he just wanted to see other people and he wanted me to wait for him.... and that he still loved me.... should i have waited is that why i still think abt him till this day..... is that normal after all this time i still think abt him....can it be that i do love my boyfriend i have right now but im still wondering abt the ex? this is tearing me up please help
well m'dear you didn't really give yourself time to have closure. you were angry with the last boyfriend and yet you jumped into a relationship with the new guy. sit down and talk to the old boyfriend, but obviously tell the current one what you're doing. jsut talk. see where the conversation goes. it may help, i mean closure does wonders. it might help you realize if the current guy is a rebound or if he's right. talk to the old boyfriend, and go in with an open mind. let the conversation take it's course and let all the feelings out. trust me, i know from experience, even if you spend the whole time being angry-- you do feel better. .:.curbside prophet.:.
okay so i always have the munchies and like i usally go straight ta the chips and chocolate! wut are some good but healthy snakcs i can chomp on till dinner time?
well idk about you but i have the same problem, i'm trying to keep my figure as well. next time you go to the supermarket (i work at stop and shop so this is how i know) they have these things called "cottage doubles" in the produce section. they're delicious and healthy as well. they also have a wide variety of selections. yogurt is good as well. certain beverages can fill you up as well, like a good old fashioned glass of milk or water. they fill up your stomach but its really only water, so it's not like you gain weight. .:.curbside prophet.:.
I am girl, and I would say that I have pretty wide hips but not that wide. I also have almost a flat butt. Whenever I go to buy pants, I always have a hard time finding ones that actually fit well. In the back, the belt loop line (whatever it is called ) always pops out from my back. I always need a belt to support that problem but then the back of the jean looks really weird. Should I go a size smaller or bigger? Should I get my pants tailored? Please help?! I will rate high!
ohh my gosh my best friend has that same problem lol. when we go over each others houses we always try on each others stuff. see we have the same waist line, except well i have a butt and she doesnt. lol weathervane has really excellent jeans for that. so try there, and if you still have a problem, i would just shop around. invest some time at the mall and try everything, because once you find something that fits, you buy 6 and then you're done with that for a looong time. good luck! .:.curbside prophet.:.
ok im a 13/f and i have 2 bffs...one is a 14/f and one is a 13/m. We r all really good friends but lately it seems like they r doin lots of stuff w/ out me and keepin secrets from me. But yet my b-day is in feb. so is there a chance they r doin sum kind of plannin for my birthday or they r jus leavin me out??? plz answer honestly...ill rate good!
from experience-- 3's a crowd. ive had 2 best friends before and usually theyre good, but it's easy to get left out. talk to them about it, if things dont get better then branch out. im not saying totally ditch your friends, but start reaching out to other kids in your class. it'll be good in high school because you'll have a lot of different friends in different places.
any tips on how to housebreak a 10m month old pit bull terrier mix without using a crate?!!! i need help please....
-Kersten
only give them water like 3 times a day, that way they don't graze and stuff. then let them o utside on a schedule. if you get them on a schedule it will make things easier in a future. soon he'll figure out he just needs to stand by the door when he needs to go to the bathroom.
I`m more of a sexual type of girl. I haven't had sex or ever gave oral or had oral but i'm sexual in that kind of way. All my friends tell me I should date older guys because the way i am. My current boyfriend who i like alot isn`t perverted like I want him to be. I told him I don't mind him touching me or feeling me up or anything but he only acts like a perve at rare times. I want him to be more sexual. If i gave permission to any other guy even his best friends they would be all over me.. i just really don't get him and i know he wants to be sexual. Like during a movie he puts his hand up my shirt but it's not all the time, he worrys about making out with me more. I`m 13 and hes 12 turning 13 in February. Should i just date older guys in the future? Thnx for reading I give feedback.. xxOo
maybe im a goody two shoes or something but i think you're a little young to be worrying about that. dating older guys might not be the best idea either. just watch out doll, dont get yourself in a situation that you can't get out of. that's how girls get raped. trust me, you have plenty of time to be like that, but honestly... idk i just don't agree with a 13 year old wanting to be sexual. im turning 17 and i roll my eyes at some of my friends... so please, take it slow. you might regret it later. sorry if that's not what you want to hear, but it's my honest opinion... and im really not hear for the ratings. .:.curbside prophet.:.
Ok one of my best friends best friend went out with this guy for about 3 months and they broke up about 2 weeks ago. While they were going out I started to like him a little more, and now since they have broken up I like him ALOT. But the problem is I havent ever really talked to him before. He is in 1 of my classes, how do I get him to notice me? Then just a couple of days ago I just found out my best friend likes him and she is the "it" girl of the school like all of the guys like her and everything. And she knows that I like him. Knowing her she is probably ganna ask him out sometime and he is probably going to say yes. what do I do about that too...anyways He is tall cury hair fast runner and hott ( kinda like an abercrombie or some type of modle) lol and I am short blonde blue eyes and ya. Well I would really like some help! thx a bunch!! I rate high*
i agree with the other two. theres actually this guy who sits next to me in physics (smokinnn ;)lol) and just slowly become comfortable with him, idk if you're in high school but ask about hanging out to study for the exam or something. does he play an instrument or anything like that? ask if he'd teach you. if you do that you've got a better shot than some girl he doesnt even know. .:.curbside prophet.:.
I was wondering what straighteners are good to use? like not get it chemically straightened but with a flat iron. ive been looking for a good one but i cant find one. what is the name and where can i find one? also is there anything to put in my hair like after a shower or somthing that would make it straighten better? thanks
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i got a really cheap ceramic one at target. i agree with the others, ceramics are the best. also, when you get out of the shower, blow dry your hair and make sure the dryer is facing down. that will minimize fly-aways. oh and my straightener cost me like $20, which is a deal now-a-days. anything less is probly crappy when it comes to quality. its a conair btw. .:.curbside prophet.:.
i smell. i dont know why. i shower. i go tot the doctor. i clean myself. and i still smell. i wear pefume, but i still smell. i dont know what to do . i take showers twice even 3 times a day. help me please.
use anti perspirant. maybe you just sweat a lot, and that's why you have odor. anti perspirant will help stop the odor and leave you feeling fresh, dry and smelling like a rose (or whatever scent is advertized on sale haha) .:.curbside prophet.:.
i am very gassy. I know I know, it sounds so gross, and i am alwyas so embaressed about it , but i dont know what to do. I alwyas get gas everywhere i go, at the mall, at the movies at school and even at home! Its not what im eating because i eat very healthy. And my mom says its stress, but i know its not becase besides the gas, im happier than i have ever been. And also its not silent gas, and its very smelly. I ALWAYS get so red when i have gas on the bus or in class, and everyone looks at me. I don know what to do , i have tried medicines and stuff but theuy never seem to work! help!!!
actually it does depend very much on the foods you eat. even if you eat healthy, there are fruits and vegetables that are known to give you gas. try this site: http://www.heptune.com/farts.html .:.curbside prophet.:.
all my friends want me to go out with this boy and he's like my best friend but now im sort of liken him more than a friend and i know he likes me too but like when he comes to school he dresses with like sweat pants and never brushes him hair and he would look so much cuter if he wore like jeans or something..how do i tell him to dress better without hurtin his feelings and not imbarassing me? please help!
well i don't think there is any nice way to say that. but idk if the sweatpant thing is that bad. i go to a catholic high school so whenever we get "free dress" days (we dont have to wear uniforms) almost everyone comes in scrubbed out. it's comfortable, and that means he's comfortable with himself. secondly, this sounds corny, but you should like him for him. however, haha this is high school and that generally does nt happen. maybe joke around with him. playfully just say to him "oh cmon one day for me will you just wear jeans or something other than sweatpants!i think it's just about the only thing you own!" gently though lol. just turn it into something where he'll "do it for you" you know? .:.curbside prophet.:.
aryt well bak in september.. i started highschool(freshman) and met a ton of new people.. well there was this boy on my bus (well call him john-hes a junior)well i liked him a little. we started talking and we became really good friends. well he went out w| my best friend, and i went out w| his best friend.. but things got really messed up. i think i still have a feeling for him that i might like him a little bit.. and he flirts alot. he's liek my big brother tho and i dont wanna ruin a friendship. idk if i should continue liking him, bc it could turn out to bea great relationship.. or should i just get over himand keep or friendship? hes not the kind of guy to use me, becuz he told me everything wen he was going outW| my best friend, and he isnt the type of guy to do that bc hes been hurt before and so have i. my best friend doesnt like him anymore so im not worryed about her being mad. WUT SHOULD I DO !?!?!?
just to let you know, high school relationships-- never work out. well i shouldnt say never, but you are most likely not going to get married to the person. plus you're only a freshman, so you have plenty of time. if i were you, i would preserve the friendship. if you do go out it might be awkward at first, you know because you are so close and intimacy might be new territory and be weird. if you break up though, you may not have the same friendship. so this is about you and about what is important. preserving your friendship or taking a jump for limited happiness? OH and the other thing is, he may be someone to date a little further down the line. right now you're kinda young and still testing the waters. if you remain friends then in later years maybe then he could be the perfect option. just take it slow, you have time, you're young and don't tie yourself down. .:.curbside prophet.:.
i have been having alot of female problems latley. I keep getting such an enormous amout of discharge its gross. what cna i do besides wear a pantyliner?? please hlep
sometimes it helps to wear a tampon along with a pad. but some people don't like tampons, so if you're okay with that, then it works for my friend.
or you could just change it more often than you normally do. relax though, sometimes it changes. sure for now it may be heavy, but then a few months later be light. no worries mi amigo.
always--
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