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18 - female
first of all, my boyfriend and i have been together for two years, and about three months. i love him with all my heart, and i know he loves me as well. well, last month i was going through his sidekick and i went through his text messages. i wasnt looking for anything particular really, i just wanted to read my texts that i sent him. i came across a message from another female, and i guess he was trying to talk to her. i approached him right away about it. he told me that, yes, he hangs out with other girls, drinks with them, etc. im already aware of that, and thats perfectly fine with me. but then he told me that when he sees a cute female, that he does try to get her number for the challenge, and flirts with them. he said he's never done anything sexual with any other girl, he just likes to get to know other people. i let him know that bothers me and that if he still wants to be with me, he needs to stop approaching other females because thats unneccesary when he already has me. he said he'd stop. i really love my boyfriend, and i used to trust him, but after some of this stuff, its hard to trust him. im kind of stuck, and i dont know what to do because i find myself worrying about him cheating on me and things along that line. so.. i'd like to know, what would you do if you came across this situation. thanks. sorry about the length ;\
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Ask around.
You can't always trust what other people say- but you may be able to find out that way.
You could ask him again- you know.
Just don't suffocate him- and try to trust him.
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Well i woukd do what you did approach him and be like what's that? but at least he came out and told you what it was and ddint lie saying its a cousin or something lame like that you know, he came out and told you excalty what happens, and yah i feel you to about the "is he cheating on me thing" Becuase what if hes gettin to drunk and doing stuff like that i mean... im sure if hey mnad if you went out and drankwitha bunch of guys ans then went trying to get guys to give you there numbers, i mean once heheard of you doing that he'd probely tghink it was like thw worst thing in the world. so maybe if you can like get him to see that he'll lighten up alittle bit seeing your side to things... but snce you have ben together so long imsure you guys are in love ,why dont you go ot with him whgen he goesd drinking and stuff...then you could be there and it shood be fun and you cna see how he realy is and everything, i dont know i think everything is ok with you guys, but keep him in check becuase there might be more to him trying to get gurls numbers
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flirt a lot with him. maybe hell start liking you even more if you come onto him.hope i helped!
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Well relationships are built on trust and if you don't trust him as much and you are worried about him cheating on you then maybe you should end it. Your 18 and your boyfriend lives near you. I am 13 and my boyfriend of 4 months moved to Virginia and we are still going out and it takes alot of trust for that, but I trust him. I mean sure I worry about that but I am going to trust him until he proves me wrong. Just either end it or keep a very close eye on him and just pray that he won't cheat on you. Good Luck.
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okay so you sound like my friend b, she has a boyfriend who goes to parties, and sometimes she cant always go. well he told her "sometimes i flirt with other people there blah blah blah". it's not you at all. and he's not necessarily cheating. he just doesnt want to feel suffocated. so whatever, let him do that. i mean if you choke down now, of course hes going to go out and do things with other girls just to spite you. also... i personally stay out of things like sidekicks or whatever, mainly because, i don't want to know. things have a funny way of exposing themselves, and im not about to go prying and make myself sick worrying. relax. he probly loves you to pieces, but obviously being young doesnt want to feel tied down. you know where the line is, so let him cross it. then and only then, do something. dont scold him for "approaching the fine line." relax. .:.curbside prophet.:.
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I'd say stop worrying about it. Your guy sounds like a great guy and just acts like a typical guy. He said he'd stop. The thing that surprised me is that he actually told you that he likes to get girls numbers and thinks they're cute, he's obviously a very truthful guy. I dont know any guys who would admit to what they did, I think he sounds pretty trustworthy and you shouldn't worry. Worrying about other girls is what kills a relationship. The only time you need to start worrying is when he withdraws from you or if you find anything else. Don't worry he sounds great, truthful, and trustworthy. Goodluck, I hope he's good to you.
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Hey! Actually, I have been in a situation similar to yours. And we both loved eachother as well. But ask yourself this- do you try to get other guys numbers if you think they are cute? Probably not. Most people in relationships would know that this is wrong. If your boy doesn't consider this "wrong" then he is probably not a loyal faithful person. However, I don't know him and cannot judge him because of this. But for most, people rarely change their ways. Think about whether or not you want to take that chance. I dont want you to get hurt like i did! ♥
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