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Q: is it possible to like two guys? see i like both alot but i also like one A LITTLE more than the other but i still like both! lol confusing

Hey yea its very possible..once i liked about 10 guys at the same time..very common lol but go for the one you like more.

xox shannon

Q: ive never been kissed before and i have put off kissing my boyfriend. what exactaly is the right way to kiss a guy without looking like a dork?

ok well my current boyfriend was my first kiss and i was really nerveous too...dont worry it comes really natural trust me and you wont look like at dork at all...hope i helped xoox shann

Q: I am 13 and i went to a party... and I had sex with this guy that i didnt know... it ruined my relationship of three years with my boyfriend and my life forever.... see... im pregnant... idk what to do!!! How do I tell my parents? I dont even know the fathers last name! I am an idiot... HELP
has this happend to any of u?

omg hunny that stinks...well you could tell your parents by sitting them down and teling them exactly what happened...yes i know they might be pretty upset but you have to do it...who knows maybe your parents will be very supportive with you on this. Another thing if you want to keep your baby then go for it...but if you think that its goin to be alot of work then maybe you should have an abortion..if you need anymore help let me know if you have a sn im me at xxbabixbluexx89 good luck and i hope i helped xoxo shannon

Q: this is my 3rd boy friend and all the others i did NOTHING with n i no this one will wannna make out the other day before we were goin out he asked me if i new how to make out i said yeah but i really dont no how can someone explain and what can i pratice on

hey hun, im sorta goin through the same thing lol but i found this hopefully it helps you out:

Great Breath - This is very important. Make sure you brush your teeth before going out on your date. There is nothing worse than kissing someone with bad breath.

If your date consists of having something to eat before the actual kiss, make sure you have a mint on hand to take right after you finish eating. Don't take the mint just before the kiss or chew on gum. You don't want to have something in your mouth when you kiss.

Moist Lips - You want your lips to be slightly moist when you kiss. Run your tongue over your lips once before you kiss. Don't wear lip gloss because that tends to make the kiss too gooey.

And don't wear a lot of lipstick unless you want your partner to wear it too after the kiss. Slightly moist lips makes it easier to move your lips over your partner's and gives both you and your partner a more pleasant experience.

Positioning - Stand close to your partner. As the two of you move closer together tilt your head slightly. If you can see which way your partner's head is tilting, tilt your head slightly in the opposite direction.

Close Eyes - Just before your lips meet, close your eyes. Some people prefer to leave their eyes open during the kiss. But until you know what your partner prefers, it is best to close your eyes.

Open Lips - Open your mouth slightly and place your lips over your partner's lips. Do not hold your breath! Breath through your nose. As your lips meet, press them gently over your partner's. You may wish to move your lips in a slow, circular motion or just leave them still over your partners.

Closed Lips - This is like the type of kiss you'd give your grandma or aunt. Instead of opening your mouth when your lips meet, keep them closed. This is also a good way of letting your partner know this is as far as it goes. It also makes a great hello/good-bye kiss or a great first time kiss if you're nervous.
^taken from http://www.links2love.com/teens_kissing.htm

heres another site that might help:

http://dating.about.com/gi/dynamic/offsite.htm?site=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.virtualkiss.com%2Fkissinggames%2F

hope i helped you out...xo shannon

p.s good luck :)

Q: well I'm helping someone cheat on their girlfriend and I like him and he still likes me but I don't want to keep this a secret forever but I still wanna do things with him

well if you think about it if he likes you and hasnt dumped her yet then maybe he doesnt really like you that much and if you really like him and hes cheating on his girlfriend now dont you think he would cheat on you to? honestly hun i personaly wouldn go out with the guy but if want to go ahead and have fun..hope i helped xo shann

Q: Well,this guy i really like asked me out and i like him soo much no one will ever understand but hes dating one of my friends and i don't want her mad at me ! and my BEST friends older sister dated him too and now my best friends whole family is going to hate me !! And my best friends older sister is gonna wanna beat me up !! im soo scared please help !! i really like this guy and i need to get over my ex so what do i do ?
THANKS

well the sayin guys are whatever friends are forever or somethin like that lol...thats so true honestly it is if you want to stay friends with them then find another guy i no thats not what you want to hear and if your friends older sister is gonna beat you up then somethings wrong.....but if you dont want to find another guy then yea you should talk to the people and ask if it would be alright.. xo hope i helped shann

Q: Hey Im 13/f...i never had a REAL bf... I tihnk im afraid of getting into Relationships cuz my dad used to beat my mom..:-/* but every things all good now and they are divorced adn everything.. I never even kissed a guy....what shalllll i doo!*?

hey hun, im sooo sorry you had to live through that..well most guys are really sweet and if you really like a guy then go for it...im sure you know what signs to look for...alot of guys are really nice and wouldnt hit a girl (well all the ones i know) but still dont be afraid to go out with someone...oo and kissin i just got mine a few months ago...i had no clue but when it happens it comes really no lie normal to you..lol..

hope i helped xoxo shannon

p.s im 14

Q: what age/grade will your friends start to act more mature, and start being more than just someone to laugh with. you know, when will it be easier to find that one true friend, cause i'm pretty young, and i dont think anyone is that mature enough that they are the kind of friend that will give you a shoulder to lean on when your sad, or you can call anytime just 2 talk, you know that kind of stuff. does anyone know what age>

Well me and my friends were in about 8th grade/ 14/15 years old when we started to act more mature...ive always been told its hard to find that one friend that will be there till the end with you and will do anything to help you out..trust me its hard deciding which friend to trust with stuff you might not want to tell anyone..you might call them your "best friend" or whatever but you really dont know until they do something no other friend would do for you...but basiclly you dont really find out until the end of middle school beggin of highschool

hoped i helped xo shannon

Q: ok theres this guy that i might never see again but i think i love him and im pretty sure he likes/loves me too butim still not 100% sure that he does... but what should i do? the last time i will see him is thursday... should i tell him or wait and see what he does?

ok well if you really like the guy then tell him and if your a little unsure about that then ask him and see what he says and if he likes then ask him/tell him u love/like him alot and see if you guys want to hook up hope i helped xoxo shann

Q: I found a pipe and a lighter in my brother's draw. I was furious because I'm am strongly against smoking. He's in college...I understand he's old enough to make his own descisions, but he has a lot going for him and I don't want him to screw up his future....What are the possibilities of what he was smoking? Like weed..tobacco?And, is there a site that has the bad effects of it, or if you guys can list some that will convince him to stop, I would appreciate it!

OK well you could sit down and talk to him (if he still lives with you) and if he doesnt call him and ask him if you could go out or hang out one day and talk to him about it say something like "...i found something in your room and i was wondering why your doing this...? and i know your old enough to make you own descisions but you know (if he does) that im strongly aganisst this i really care about you and love you i just dont want to see my brother do something that he will regret his whole life.." hope i helped xoxo shann

Q: Ok well.. i know this is a really odd question.. but what do you wear under a skirt...?? like i dont know what to wear under them.. i have a bunch, but i never wear them because its like, i dont know what to wear under?! any help??

no its not odd question beacuse i wear shorts sometimes under my skirts...so if u feel insurecure about the whole people seeing thing then wear short shorts or boxers...hope i helped xoxo shann

Q: I had this friend since like kindergarden,and we've been like bark on a tree, 2 peas in a pod. Then now, in 7th grade, she had a scheldue with all of these super popular people, and became best friends with like all of them. I'm not jelous, but like she won't even say hi o me when she's with them. Now, I'm not like super nerd, but I'm definetly not super popular. She acts so different and stupid when she's with them. I hate her being a fake~~!

well ok someone like that isnt the greastest person out there...honestly if she acts like that around/towards you then forget her because she'll only talk to you if NO ONES around and you'll feel like your being used and trust me thats not a great feeling. so find someone else you can be tight with and she how that works out...hope i helped xoxo shann

Q: I am very shy and that's affecting my life, I can't find a boyfriend or make new friends because of it but I have good old friends. Can you give me some tips on overcoming my shyness and talking to people?

ok well im kind of a shy person as well..i just started to not be as shy as i was lasat year but basiclly all you really have to do is have fun and be yourself. have your friends introduce you to some of their friends and show people that your not just a shy person you can also be a fun out going person too...hope i helped xoxo shann

Q: ok, i have this friend and i really am good friends with her..and then theres a guy i like and i finally got his sn and then she asked for it. i know this sounds really stupid. but i just dont want to give it to her.. i know that she doesnt like him but something is telling me not to..should i? *

hey..no thats not a stupid question at all...i have been in something a little bit like that before but my friend was a jerk about it and said things to him and it got me real mad so now im a little unsure about giving her screenames and stuff but if i were u go wit ur gut feelin dont let her have the screename if you dont want her to do anything that would get you mad or mess up your friendship...hope i helped xoxo shann

Q: Me and my ex have been apart for about a month now and i miss him liks soo much its crazy, i play love songs all the time and its so stressful.. he said we would get back together but i wanna know when but he said he didnt kno he needs some time.. but i havent talked tohim about it n a while and i wanna know if he still feels the same way i do... I juss.. Miss him alot :*( what do i do

ok well your situation sounds alot like mine..well me and my ex broke up a couple of months ago and i just started to miss and like him alot and im basically doing the same things you are...what you should do is ask the guy how he feels about you and see what he says..if he doesnt know at the very moment then just stay/be friends with him until you guys know what you want to do like weather or not go out...*

Q: I'm 13 years old, and I'm bleeding "down there". i'm afraid, and I live with foster parents I dont really know yet. What do I do?!! I don't know whats going on!
signed,
confused

aww hunni dont be afriad to tell ur foster mom she'll definatly help u out...trust me...every girl goes threw it and it doesnt last long lol...but trust me tell her and you'll feel 10 times better...*

Q: I went out with a guy for 3 months and we eventually told eachother we loved eachother and we both meant it. he dumped me and i have never gotten over it. Recently my friend told me that he is thinking about getting back together. Should we try again or just stay friends?

well if u still like the guy and hes thinkin bout gettin mck wit u then go ahead...if things dont work out then just be like i just wanna be friends/stay friends...

Q: I was wondering what straighteners are good to use? like not get it chemically straightened but with a flat iron. ive been looking for a good one but i cant find one. what is the name and where can i find one? also is there anything to put in my hair like after a shower or somthing that would make it straighten better? thanks

( will rate )

i striaghten my hair a lot cuz its naturally wavy..i use a cermic straighter it works realli good...it makes mi hair realli straight...ive had otha striaghters b4 and they stunk....like they would pull my hair and it killed lol...but a cermic one deffenly they work realli good...

Q: Okay..well theres a guy im going out with and its been a month and a half and well, i need to know a way i can break up with him, and well ive seen many questions like this asked before, plz dont tell me to tell him the truth..becuz everyone is saying that, all i need is to know what i should say to him but in a way where he wont hate me because we go back..we are good friends and im afraid if i break up with him it wont be the same :( but ill rate high!
Plzz just gie me some ideas.

Signed, confused4life
xoxo

okay...two of my friends just broke and their realli close. their still realli close and nothin happened between them....just be like its been great/fun an all but i just dont think we sould go on honestly if he likes u enough he'll understand why u wanna break up wit him

Q: i have a friend.. she's 5'9 and 127 pounds.. she's athletic and all, she lifts weights and plays vball all year around. recently her and her bf broke up and shes been really depressed. shes been losing sleep and she can barely eat.. she only eats like one thing a day. would she be considered anerexic ? and are there any other symptoms for it besides lack of eating ? anything is appreciated ! thank you

no im a very athletic girl also and when i broke up wit my bf last year i sotp eatin to like i would eat a lil and thts not like me at all and i was also depressed and stuff but its normal and it might take her a while but she'll get over him and find someone else but in the mean time try and get her mind off of him like go out and have fun..

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My name is Shannon.Im happily taken by Alex.I'm a sophmore and I play volleyball, swim. Im a very athletic girl and I love going shopping and hanging with friends.