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shy
I am very shy and that's affecting my life, I can't find a boyfriend or make new friends because of it but I have good old friends. Can you give me some tips on overcoming my shyness and talking to people?
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ok well im kind of a shy person as well..i just started to not be as shy as i was lasat year but basiclly all you really have to do is have fun and be yourself. have your friends introduce you to some of their friends and show people that your not just a shy person you can also be a fun out going person too...hope i helped xoxo shann
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Shyness is a big distraction in people's socail life, trust me, I know how it feels. If you really want those things like having a boyfriend and finding new friends, you have got to get over it. It won't be easy, and I know it. Practice by walking up to a person that you see is alone with no one to talk to. Introduce yourself and ask a question that interests you like "Do you like this show called_________" (what ever show you like or dislike) and other questions like that. You never know, you and that person could have a lot in common. You have nothing to lose in this situation because that person might end up to be one of your good friends. I hope this strategy works and that you use it for others. If you have any question at all, send me a message in my inbox.
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anonymous -
I was once a wallflower myself, but I found that shyness won't get you anywhere. Realize that sometimes in order to achieve the things you want in life, you're going to have to step out of your comfort zone regardless. For starters, realize that not all people will judge you, and even if they do, who cares about what they think? Especially since judgemental people are the dumb people who can't accept people for the unique person that they are. Second, try to start up conversations with people in class. Ask them about the homework, talk about the teacher, extracurricular activities, etc. For me, it's easier to talk to the people with similar traits that are also quiet as well. I feel that once you start a conversation, it's easier to keep it going compared to other people starting to talk to you. If none of these options seem appealing, try joining clubs outside of school that will include person-person interaction.
As for boyfriends, some guys like shy girls. But if you want to make the first move, just start talking! Talk about anything really, but mainly what I find less awkward is talking about your surroundings. For example, if you're in a pizza shop, you can ask him, "Hey I've never eaten at this place before, do you know what's good to order?"
I hope this helps!
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Just start by waving at people then going and talking to them by introducing yourself and then people will ask stuff about you and you will become friends.
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