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I have this crush, even though it feels more than a crush, and I just told him how I feel. He said he wants to get to know me better, but he's not making any moves to try to learn anything about me at all. I try talking to him during band when we sit next to each other, but it's more like me saying something, him saying his opinion, then awkward silence for the next 20 minutes. Recently though my best friend told me one if her friends told her that my crush has a crush on her. It makes sense. He does really seem to talk to and hang around her a lot. My best friend has made it very clear that she doesn't share his feelings. Does this mean he lied to me about getting to know me better? I'm kinda hurt. Plus, to make it all worse, I can't get him out of my head! He's perfect, at least to me and he's always there in my head when I'm daydreaming! I was going to talk to him about it, but it doesn't seem he even wants to be around me anymore than he has to, and it really hurts. I'm really shy, so I'm not looking forward to talking to him if I have to. I know this is a lot of info, but this really needs to be sorted out and I can't figure out what to do! (link)
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Just go with the flow and let it be. If he likes you, then he likes you. If he doesn't, then he doesn't. Don't lock up your mind that he's the only guy you'd ever like, because he's not. There are tons of other guys out there, don't block out opportunities just because you think he's perfect for you. And if by any case he really does like your friend, then you have no right to control what he's feeling. Be matured and let them be.
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I ama girl from Bangladesh. I am 17 yrs old n my bf is 25. We love each other like everything. I was in an abusive relationship the for 1.5 yrs n he helped me get out of it. Now we r together for the last 5 months. We know each other for about 2 yrs now. My present bf is jst perfect. N i love him. He treats me like a princess and plays wid me like a doll. He has a stable job n is too handsome. Bt d prob strts whnevr i get angry wid him he hurts himself. He doesnt tell me anything. Whenever i am angry he says sorry even its my fault. Bt it hurts me if he hurts himself 4 me. How can i tell him not to hurt himself?
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Tell him that you're not happy when he hurts himself. And for the meantime, avoid being angry with him. Or like, whenever you guys have problem, talk it out quickly and fix it. Also say sorry to him and comfort him especiallh when it's your fault.
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Should I text boy or wait for boy to text my gay pretty boy ass?
Im 17 (link)
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I believe that you should text anyone you want to, whether you are a girl or a boy.
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I like this boy. Idk if he likes me too..he stares at me 24/7 and his freinds are weird around me....what do you think?? (link)
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Maybe. Maybe he does. Maybe he doesn't. Who knows, right? My advice is to not yet assume anything out of that. Because for me, if he really likes you, then he'll find a way to talk to you or maybe even have the guts to tell you. Do not assume, alright? Because if he doesn't, (well, hopefully he does) but yeah, if he doesn't, you would just be hurt. Whose fault is it if ever? Yours, right? Don't assume, but also don't close any door. :)
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20/f
My best friend from college recently introduced me to a guy who she thought I would really like. Him and me are in a wonderful relationship now and I truly love him. She has known him since they were kids and nothing ever happened between them. But,recently she broke up with her long term boyfriend and is quite in the dump. My boyfriend and I are her best friends and we're doing our best to console her. And here is where the problem lies: I am jealous. And I feel really guilty because of it. Firstly,because I know he is a great guy and he loves me dearly,he has never given me the slightest reason to be jealous. And secondly,she is my best friend and she was the one who brought us together. I have a few very bad experiences,and as a consequence I find it very difficult to fully trust him,despite the fact that he's proven he loves me so many times. And I know how slimy some girls can be after a break-up,to even go as far as stealing someone else's boyfriend. I am very troubled by my jealousy since I feel I don't have a valid reason. I don't know what to do. I don't want to get in the way of their friendship,but I feel hurt when they text. I have already talked to my boyfriend,he says they are just friends and that he never even thought of her as a girlfriend. My friend says they are just good friends and that he's not even her type. I don't think they are really lying,I'm just afraid and paranoid. (link)
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All you need to do is learn to trust them and let them be. If they would break it, then it's their problem. Just try to keep calm, okay? The more you're silent, the more their consciences are loud. Give them enough trust, love. Everything will be okay soon. :)
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20/f
So I'm starting to develop a crush on one of my co workers.
I'm not sure how to go about it. We talk on facebook almost every day, he usually initiates it which I think is a good sign.
I don't hang out with him outside of work. I did invite him to my party tomorrow and he said he'll probably be able to come.
We're pretty cool, we talk normal, tease each other at work and online.
My friends/coworkers all say he likes me. I haven't said anything about me liking him. They said because he messages me often and he doesn't message them.
He hasn't given any hints if he likes me or not. Usually a guy will start calling me pretty and talk about hanging out and all that if they're interested in me. He hasn't done anything like that. I'll tell him about the dates I've had in the past and he'll bring it up later and ask how they went.
The only thing I've tried is asking if he had a girlfriend, and he said no. He asked what is considered a date and then he said he hung out with a girl but it wasn't a date. I asked if he liked her and he said no. I asked if he liked anyone and he said his mom...so he avoided the subject and I let it go.
I don't want to straight up tell him I like him. Mostly because if he doesn't like me, it'll be weird when I work with him.
So is there any other ideas? (link)
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I think you should figure out your feelings for him first before making any moves or before giving any hints. And I'm advising you to not assume anything out from what your co-workers or your friends tell you. It's better if he's the one who'll tell you that he does like you. But also don't put away what your friends or co-workers say. I'm just suggesting that for now, just let yourself feel happy about the things he does for you and for all the butterflies he let you feel. I believe that if a guy truly likes a girl, then he'll straight-up tell you and let you know what he feels for you. You'll figure out everything soon.
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I'm obsessed with these two girls Jasmyn and Jasmine kinda hard to choose Jasmyn is kind, loving, good to talk to and loves me like a brother. Jasmine is wild, nice to talk to, I drool over her and she's no angel.im 13 and stuck.im also scared of being denied,because what if the word gets out the she denied me and I'm left in internal sorrow 💔 and won't take the chance to ask someone else. I need a girls advice to tell me what a girl wants and how to ask. Boys tell me how to man up. Plz and thnx!!! (link)
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We can't choose for you, you should choose for yourself. I even think you also can't, 'cause your heart will.
You shouldn't ask anyone out as long as you aren't sure about your feelings. Don't rush about it, you're 13, right? You still have a lot of time. Figure out what your true feelings first, figure out who you like the most. Don't flirt w the both of them just because you aren't sure of your feelings for them. You don't want them feeling brokenhearted if ever, right? So out of all the words I said, my advice is, just wait and figure out your real feelings first. You just need time. Everything will be in its place soon.
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I'm 21/F, my boyfriend is 22 and his friend is 21.
Ok, Story time.
So last night I hung out with my boyfriend of 6 years and his best friend. We played some video games and then started drinking...a lot. At some point during the night, my boyfriend passed out in his bed so his friend and I went back to playing video games for a while. I felt like passing out too but he kept talking to me and shaking me so that I would stay awake. So yeah, at this point we were both really drunk and I was laying on the couch so he sat next to me and told me I could put my legs in his lap and I did (huge mistake, I realize that now). So we kept playing and drinking and I noticed that every time I put my legs on the ground or moved them away, he put them back in his lap. So I was feeling really weird about the whole situation but 'sober me' isn't good with confrontation, so 'drunk me' is even worse. I was just laughing and he was talking about how whoever lost the next game had to take off their shirt. I don't really remember agreeing to this, but after I lost he kept insisting that I did. At this point I was freaking out because we were drunk and I didn't know what to do but I knew this was really bad. So, I pretended to pass out and he passed out pretty soon after. I then left the room and went to find my boyfriend and slept with him. I woke up earlier than both of them and went back to my house.
I am really conflicted. This morning, I got a message from him apologizing and saying that if I wanted to tell my boyfriend then I could but that he wasn't going to tell him. I have always had open communication with my boyfriend about everything but I don't know if I should tell him because A) I don't want their friendship to be ruined and B) I'm positive that this was a one-time thing that will not happen again because I won't ever get that drunk around him again. Also this best friend is a pretty cool guy and it was really uncharacteristic of him to do this. I don't know, I'm feeling really guilty because I probably brought this upon myself by drinking so much and not being confrontational when I first suspected that he was getting too touchy.
Should I tell my boyfriend about this incident or not? (link)
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I honestly think you should, but also tell him that you were both drunk. And also explain to him that nothing happened between the both of you. You won't ruin their friendship if you would just explain to him everything, things will change between them, yes, but it's better than keeping something from your boyrfriend. But out of this, always be ready for whatever reaction you may get from him and from his friend. I think they're both nice guys and that they'll both understand if you would just explain to them properly. I hope my advice will help you in some way. Things will be better soon.
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Ok I have been dating my boyfriend for almost 4 years now but we constantly fight and barely get along anymore. I feel like we both have changed and don't know what to do. I recently moved out because I'm tired of the fighting. I love him but I can't handle the fighting anymore. Do I let go of the relationship after 4 years or do I stay in the relationship and try to work it out one more time? I am 20 years old and female and the guy I have been dating as been my high school crush. (link)
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Just follow whatever your heart and mind says, what you think is right for the both of you. Don't think about how long you guys have been together, think of what's going on, if you think both of you could still handle it. You could also talk to him about your relationship, I think that's one of things that every couple should do to have a healthy relationship with each other. Try to keep your calm and just let him understand your point, try to let him understand what you're trying to tell him. If he starts to put up a fight, say how you feel about it, say you just wanted a proper talk, don't fight back. Because if you do, a fight would just start again and the both of you would be shouting at each other and the both of you wouldn't be able to tell what you really wanted to tell each other because anger is taking over you. Just try to let him understand, but you also need to try to understand his side. You'll figure out everything soon, you just need time to think about it..
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My friend, James, died a week ago and I had to keep my emotions in because it was best to not let my mother know. She'd ask too many questions and I couldn't handle that. He was like a brother to me and I don't know what I'm going to do without him. I cut my arm and my thigh again and it helped for a little while but the pain came back. I'm wondering if I should do it again. (link)
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I'm sorry about James. Love, I know how it feels to be hurt so much. I honestly did cutting back then, but I stopped. Cutting is helpful, yes, it takes the pain away for some time, but it can also bring us harm. Do you think James would like you doing that? I think no. Okay I know there are some points when you feel like you lost everything, like you're all alone, but honestly you didn't and you're not. Plus James is still with you, in your heart and in your mind, you can talk to him in your prayers whenever you want to. Things would just be a little different, he won't reply quickly, but I think he still would, I think he would give you answers, but not directly. (Everything will be okay soon and I hope you'll feel a bit better each day) And I think James would be happy if you stop harming yourself. (James is in the better place, just think about it, he wouldn't feel anymore pain) Be happy because I think James would be if you are.
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Hi. So I started talking to this guy. I am 22 and he is 27. We talked for about a month and at first it was amazing. He was so fun and it polite. And then he just got distant. He goes through these cycles where he doesn't talk to me for a while and ignores my calls and texts and waits a week after I've given up and is like where have you been i miss you. Well a little over a week ago he finally called me out of the blue and did the same old, "where have you been, I've been thinking about you, I miss you" then he told me how much he liked me and wanted me and how we would hangout on tuesday and he would call me the next day. I reached out the next day when I got no call and on Tuesday never heard back either time. Why would he tell me all these things and then not talk to me for a long time?
Besides asking him because I doubt he'll be honest any advice on what I should do? or why he is doing this?
Thanks so much in advanced (: (link)
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I don't know if this advice is going to make any sense, but I hope that it would help you in some way..
Maybe he's just not sure of what he feels for you yet, or maybe he got hurt in the past and he likes you, but he's scared, or maybe he's just protecting his feelings, who knows? My real advice to you is, just wait until he's the one that will tell you the real reason because it's so hard to guess when in the end you still don't know if it's right. You don't need to rush things. But if you're really confused about the things he's doing and the things you're feeling, ask him why and straight-up tell him how you feel about it. I honestly think he has a good explanation behind this. Let him be the one clear up your mind. Everything will be good soon. :)
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I just went through a breakup with my girlfriend, I am gay and I hope this doesn't throw anyone off helping me out.
The situation is she has low profile amnesia (she had an accident), and doesn't remember most of the time we dated. Just before we dated tho, she was with someone else, Let's call that person A. Now she used to tell me, how A was the love of her life, her soul mate. But a little she broke up with A, and a wait after that she asked me to be hers.
She made me fall in love with her, I really believe she's my soulmate, but now that she doesn't remember she's back to believing A is her soulmate and is really hurting me.
Should I wait it out and hope she loves me, or should I give up and try to move on, seeing how she went back to A? (link)
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I think you'll be the one who can answer that for yourself. If she's really worth waiting and if you really do love her, then go, wait. But if you just think she's your soulmate and you do not really love her, and just let it be. If you choose to wait, try to make her remember the things that only both of you know. If it won't bring back the memory of your love, then try to make her fall in love again. But don't go straight up and chit chat about her all the things you guys did and so on. Slowly tell her, slowly and detailed. For now, it's just need time. She needs time, I mean both of you need time. It will all be fine. :)
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My husband and I's one year anniversary is coming up in a few months, and so is a very close friend's wedding, her wedding date: our one year anniversary. I'm at a loss of what to do. My husband wouldn't be able to come with me to her wedding, and my friend would be extremely hurt if I didn't go. What makes the situation awkward is I knew when picking my wedding date that my friend would be getting married that same day. I had no choice however (my husband is military). I reassured and promised her since she got engaged that I would be there at her wedding. In fact, as soon as I got the wedding invite, I texted her and let her know I would be there and how excited I was. My husband always knew I'd be going, but I guess it just clicked for him I'd be missing or first anniversary. He's very upset, anniversaries are very important to him. I tried reasoning with him that we could celebrate another day, but he's not having it. What do I do? I will always pick my husband over anything, but shouldn't he be more understanding? Should I be present for the most important day of my close friend's life and hurt my husband? Or be there with my husband for our one year anniversary and risk losing my friend? (And I have very few true good friends) (link)
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I think you should come to your friend's wedding. You should be there, she's counting on you and it will only happen to her once. It's your anniversary, and you can celebrate it on the very next day. If he really do love you, he'll understand. Anniversaries come every year, your best friend's wedding will only come once. If he don't understand, then make him. If there will still be a problem, I'm sorry, but I think it's not a good thing. You should talk to him, and I'll hope everything will turn out fine. :)
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Hey there everyone.
F/17
About two weeks ago I dumped my boyfriend. Truth was, I was paying for everything and never got much in return. When we went out or had lunch, I had to pay for both of us because he would always look the other way. I was too uncomfortable to ask for money from him so I just shut up about it. But it started getting me in trouble with my mom, because I was spending twice what I usually spent a week so she was noticing. I kept giving her lame excuses, but it started to bother me. Every time he gave me some excuse that he hadn't gotten paid. We were together for almost four months, and he never once took me a on a proper date. So I was stupid to let it go on for so long. I decided to finally end it because of all of this, and then two days passed and he suddenly had a girlfriend and he uploaded a picture of them kissing. Firstly, I deleted and blocked him out of every where but my friends still had him and they saw it. They took a screenshot and showed me. I was so angry. I felt used, lied to, cheated on. Because surely someone can't "move on" that quickly right? I started thinking back to all those times he would have to go away and talk to his "guardians" in secrecy. I feel pretty stupid about it. But worse of all, I made a "Kik" account a few days ago and agreed to let the app find friends in my contacts. The girl he's with showed up. So he probably used her phone to call me sometimes saying it was his guardian's phone. I'm so upset about this. I don't like him at all anymore, but this has hurt me more than words can explain. I've never gotten cheated on, and everything seemed to have been right in front of my eyes. Every night I cry before going to sleep, because it just infuriates me so much. A friend suggested I write a letter with my feelings and leave it at his house to get it out but I'm not sure that's a good idea. Any advice on how to let go? My family and friends are starting to tell me I need to get over it already. I just don't know how. (link)
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I know you feel stupid for what he did to you and it's fine, he made you what you're feeling right now. I think I know that you really know how to let go of him, especially when you're now feeling hurt more than love. You just have to think if you really do love him or do you just love the attention that he gave you? You don't need a new man to move on, for now, all you neeed is to find yourself. You don't also need a man just to show him you've moved on and that he doesn't matter to you anymore, improve yourself better and he'll see what he lost. But while you're finding yourself, you may also find someone along the way, and be open to him. Don't be scared to fall in love again just because something bad happened in the past. Just get over it and stop crying. But this should also be a lesson learned, don't give your all to someone until you're sure that he's giving his all to you. Don't worry, you just need time for now, time and realization. You'll be okay. :)
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Hi,
I'm 20 yrs old female. My boyfriend is 21 years, and Chinese.
Lunar New Year is coming soon, and I thought it would be nice if I celebrated it with him and his friends (his family is in China at the moment). However, he said he doesn't want to celebrate with me because he thinks it's only meant for "Chinese" people. I think that's absurd because even though I'm Filipino, my culture still celebrates it. I'm just a bit upset because I know that this event is important to him, yet he doesn't want me to be a part of it.
He thinks I'm not upset about it anymore, but I still am. I really want to celebrate it, and I might do so with other people. But I wish he'd be with me too.
What do you think? (link)
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Maybe you should tell him that you still don't get it and that you're still a little upset about it and then let him explain why. Maybe he has a right reason. And if there is, then you should accept it, understand it, and let is slip away.
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So my step dad is always telling me what to do.I just don't like it when he asks my me to do somthing thing like I'm his own daughter because I am not. He's still a new person in my life I haven't adjusted to him what so ever and even though I made it seem like I have , I really feel like I haven't. I feel like I was only preteneding I was used to him for my mom or maybe I made myself belive I was okay with him around, especially sense he works two jobs all day long and I barley see him makes it hard to get used to. Now to ask for the actual advice from you guys. I don't know what to do. I want to be okay with him. My mom loves him and she loves him very much.. I just can't adjust to him. My dad left us and only keeps in touch when he actually remebers us and by us I mean to say my little siblings as well. Now I feel like if my dad isn't here no one can tell me what to do. Besides if I didn't listen to my own dad why would I listen to my future fake dad.... Yeah I carry a im just mad at the moment but I know I have to get used to him anyway just need advice on how to cope or hear a similar story to realate with somone.
thanks for reading
Da1N0nlyfriend (link)
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Maybe you should give yourself a time and wait. Don't force yourself in getting use to your stepdad just because you should and it makes your Mom happy. You should talk to them and tell them how you really feel about the situation. It's also a way to let out your anger towards either of them. Tell them what you want and that you still needs time. I'm pretty sure your Mom will understand.. But if she don't, then make her. It's better to let it out than to pretend that you're okay.
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I'm not here to judge anyone by their response but how many parents believe in smacking their children on the butt with a belt or paddle when they're bad? Growing up I had this done to me and always wondered if it's right or not and where other people stand on this issue. (link)
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I don't really believe in things like that. I'm not a parent, but I can tell that it's not a good thing to do. It will just add a bad memory to the child while they're growing up. It's not really the answer for anyone to discipline kids.
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