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I'm obsessed with these two girls Jasmyn and Jasmine kinda hard to choose Jasmyn is kind, loving, good to talk to and loves me like a brother. Jasmine is wild, nice to talk to, I drool over her and she's no angel.im 13 and stuck.im also scared of being denied,because what if the word gets out the she denied me and I'm left in internal sorrow 💔 and won't take the chance to ask someone else. I need a girls advice to tell me what a girl wants and how to ask. Boys tell me how to man up. Plz and thnx!!!
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We can't choose for you, you should choose for yourself. I even think you also can't, 'cause your heart will.
You shouldn't ask anyone out as long as you aren't sure about your feelings. Don't rush about it, you're 13, right? You still have a lot of time. Figure out what your true feelings first, figure out who you like the most. Don't flirt w the both of them just because you aren't sure of your feelings for them. You don't want them feeling brokenhearted if ever, right? So out of all the words I said, my advice is, just wait and figure out your real feelings first. You just need time. Everything will be in its place soon.
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What does a girl want?
Young girls starting out dating may not be too sure yet of what they want but they will sure have an idea of what they don't want. And this is the same for females of any age.
A girl wants a guy to find her attractive and be drawn to her by it, but only to want to learn more about her and become her best friend at first rather than only coming after her to convince her to have sex. A girl doesn't usually think in terms of lust as a boy does but wanting love instead and a female won't feel loved until someone is treating her like their very best friend. Think of what a best friend is like to you, yeah, a guy. Guys have the same basic needs in a best friend as girls do. They are there for each other, encourage each other, support their dreams, tease and laugh together, enjoy doing some things they have in common together, have long conversations about anything and everything. They get to know you really well inside and out so by a glance at your face can tell if you're upset about something or not feeling well even if you're trying to hide it. I could say more but I'm sure you get the picture. A girl wants all that from a guy,and yes, people can have more than one best friend, so she can have a girlfriend best friend and a boyfriend best friend. So whats the difference between her having girlfriends and a boyfriend who is a best friend? Well, when the hormones of puberty hit, boys and girls are hit with hormones that make them aware of the opposite sex in a totally different way. Instead of 'yuck' its a yearning to be noticed and cared about by the other, spend time with, and to become very very special to them. You discover they like some different things, have a different way of thinking and saying, have many things a guy might consider girly but are important to her but need him to acknowledge what is important to her so you would bring up those subjects in conversation.
Both of course will feel things not felt before, nervousness about making a good impression on the other, feeling crushed if the other isn't interested in return, feeling an excitement and maybe a sizzling awareness of their nearness and wanting to find reasons to stand near, sit by and touch them in innocent ways until the point when if two really match well, they want to hold hands and kiss. And then comes the romance part of what is the big main difference between two heterosexual people. If two boys or two girls, they'd feel this way about the same sex.
The problem with any LDRs, long distance relationships via computer, is that a relationship will always be lopsided, there being only the ability to work on the emotional part of it, not the romantic part of it. Saying I love you on computer is not as rewarding to people as having the flesh and blood person standing before them in real life. Nothing via computer can compare. There are many games that have use of avatars to live a cyber life or second life as one such sim is called. Adults are in this as much as kids or teens and the sims depend on the age but still, I know of adults who get so emotionally wrapped up in whats going on in the sim that they react in the same way as if it is happening to them in real life. I know an eldery woman who sang in clubs in a sim, and one day her avi was being stalked by another, a male avi who followed her from place to place and she was actually in real life very terrified and called me over because she couldn't shake her fear, it was that extreme.
You need to understand something about psychology and the human mind to understand whats happening in sim or in LDR's. All our emotions live in our subconscious mind. Think of a movie you and family members have watched. A female might cry at sad parts, both will laugh at funny ones and you can get really pissed with someone who is portrayed as a mean character and want to punch their lights out....guess what?! Your emotions just got sucked into and involved with the movie the same way you react to real situations in your life. Your conscious mind knows it's just some silly movie but your subconscious mind doesn't. To it, this is for real and therefore your emotions feel REAL and we can get tricked into believing we have something that in fact does not exist. The best scenerio is a person who uses the pc as merely a tool to learn of the others existance and then start hanging out in real life,
because our minds are going to begin to try to fill in the missing pieces of things you can't really know or have with an LDR. I used internet dating to meet with guys and found my second husband that way, and I know what I am talking about from experience so this isn't any crap I am throwing at you just to burst your bubble for fun.
I got pretty involved in chatting with guys for a week on line and in just that short time I'd already found my emotions hooked, thinking that finally I've met the right guy, he sounded wonderful and I already loved lots of things about the person I chatted with online or even by phone with. Then we met and it all feel apart. I won't go into all the reasons but if interested you can write to my column and ask me from there and referance a bit of this convo so I remember who you are. So trust me, that LDR's are great short term, used as a tool to find someone and then start an in-person relationship with them.
Right now, you're at an age when it IS very important to learn how to talk to girls and relate to them, learn what their minds are like, etc. all the emotional parts of a friendship. And as long as you don't place too high hopes on it and believe you can have a 'real' relationship with someone, you'll be fine. Remember, emotions can lead you astray here. It is very likely that what you say you feel is love, is in fact a kind of love. A first love but it is not one you can fully experience. Use the net to learn how to talk to girls.
You want to know how to ask a girl as you stated "tell me what a girl wants and how to ask"
I've told you want a girl wants and it is something that an internet relationship can't deliver all of it. If you mean how to ask her what she wants, why ask me then? Just ask her. If you meant, how do I ask her to be my girlfriend, just ask, but remember, she is female and a friend so she is a girl friend but a girlfriend one goes out on dates with and such, it likely wont ever happen. You can ask her though. Will you be my girlfriend on line? At some point in life, when a guy in her immediate life, at school or where ever, meets her and catches her eye and attention, she will be tempted to have a real relationship with him, no matter how much she cares about you as her internet friend or boyfriend. The same would go for you. An in person relationship has more pull on a person than an internet one and the love in an internet relationship will only help so far and then it all falls apart when someone in real life comes along. I hope this helps you understand your situation better.
Perhaps your situation is more of having a fear of being rejected by a girl and so you'd have to submit a question again that asks only that if you wish to know what to do about that
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Well if your very far away then whats the point in pursuing anything if youll most likely never meet them??
if there is and youve hung out before then maybe theres a chance, and usually girls that flirt and kick and hit DO LIKE YOU, they just dont know how to say it either. The only fool proof way i could think of would be to spend time with the person in person. That way you could work off of body language and not have to say anything until your both 100 percent sure things want to go to the next level.
There is no easy way to spill your guts to someone but if youve been together for a while and you both feel like you can talk to each other then it wont be THAT hard. you could try holding hands or hugging and see if it seems like she doesnt want to pull away. little things like that will tell you she likes you back.
you could try asking her how she feels about you first and maybe say "well it felt like there was some chemistry there so i just wanted to ask" most girls like that you want to dig deeper and find out how their feeling. ; )
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