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A very rude best friend
MY best friend is very rude to me. At school he mocks me. And he gangs up on me with other people. His brother and Mother think he is a metally sick. When I went over to his house to hang out he was very angry at me. I brought him on trips before and he hates them and is rude on them. Back at school I am nice to him and he yells at me. He also thinks he is better than me. He also gets anything he wants. He is a spoiled brat. He fights with me a lot.
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If this guy is your best friend, and treats you that badly, I'd hate to see what your enemy looks like cus just the description you gave of him has no qualities what so ever that resemble those of a best friend.
I am guessing more that you have an underlying passion to be of help to people and look out for the underdog, so that you've chosen to be a friend to him in hopes that helps him but he is still not figuring out how to be a friend in return. If he is mentall ill, he needs to be seen and diagnosed by a professional and put on medication if that is so. Just having an opinion that he might be such, isnt going to help him. So basically, untreated, you can only expect more of the same from him in the future.
The danger to you if you subconsciously just tend to 'be of service' is forgetting about seeing your own needs met and putting all energy towards helping those that can't give anything back.
If yu want to continue to work with this guy, do so, but know that you still have needs for a real best friend as well and you might keep your eyes open for one, where both of you are giving and really there for each other. This helps you stay re-fueled energy wise and able to handle dealing with a rude friend. Doing otherwise means you end up drained and burnt out and probably why you wrote in here in the first place. Its fine to help this guy and be a friendly support to him, but he is not acting the best friend.
Just because you find a mouse in a cookie jar, he doesnt get to be called a cookie, he's a mouse.
Same with the one you've given the label of best friend. The label won't make him automatically act the part of a best friend.
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