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Should I keep fighting for her or try to move on?
I just went through a breakup with my girlfriend, I am gay and I hope this doesn't throw anyone off helping me out.
The situation is she has low profile amnesia (she had an accident), and doesn't remember most of the time we dated. Just before we dated tho, she was with someone else, Let's call that person A. Now she used to tell me, how A was the love of her life, her soul mate. But a little she broke up with A, and a wait after that she asked me to be hers.
She made me fall in love with her, I really believe she's my soulmate, but now that she doesn't remember she's back to believing A is her soulmate and is really hurting me.
Should I wait it out and hope she loves me, or should I give up and try to move on, seeing how she went back to A?
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I think you should move on.
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in my perspective, try to wait it out. I myself still like someone because I know a major part of me will always like this person and they mean the world to me. Depending on how much time you spend waiting it out, if it's been over a month or so, try to move on. It's best to move on after a month or so, it hurts knowing you'll always have a liking to them but time heals all wounds.
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I have a question for you:
She believed that you are her soulmate when you were dating correct?
After the accident, she believes that person A is her soulmate?
Accident, or no accident, amnesia or without, don't you think it's too much of a coincidence to say the same thing to two different people? (Not that I believe in coincidence.)
As I see it, she has fallen in love with the same intensity to two different people. Not that love can be quantifiable. But let's just pretend that love can be quantified. I find it sad that people can actually say they can love two different people with the same intensity.
I honestly don't want to imagine the pain that you're going through. I'm pretty sure you feel betrayed. What I admire about you is that you actually defend her by saying this was due to her amnesia.
I've always told people to move on with their lives whenever things like this happen. Why? I always tell them, "Why not?"
If we're going to equate everything, and use the probability rule? The math will tell us that no matter what we do, if it was meant to be, what's bound to happen will always hit us in the face... or the butt.
Move on - This would be healthy for you. Go out, talk to friends, and unwind. She won't remember a thing. (No pun intended)
Moving on isn't giving up. The accident did that for you.
And I believe that true love has an intensity without equal. Call it "soulmate?" You just can't say things like that to two people. If you get what I mean.
I hope this helps a bit. Good luck.
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I think you'll be the one who can answer that for yourself. If she's really worth waiting and if you really do love her, then go, wait. But if you just think she's your soulmate and you do not really love her, and just let it be. If you choose to wait, try to make her remember the things that only both of you know. If it won't bring back the memory of your love, then try to make her fall in love again. But don't go straight up and chit chat about her all the things you guys did and so on. Slowly tell her, slowly and detailed. For now, it's just need time. She needs time, I mean both of you need time. It will all be fine. :)
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