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i had sex august 21st and like i might take a doctors examination to see if i really am pregnant but i was wondering if i do get pregnant, i dont want the baby and im not having the baby, how much is abortion and can i have an abortion possibly now?

Go ahead, rate me a 1... I have no sympathy for people like you. WHAT IS SO WRONG WITH ADOPTION?
YOU KNOW THAT, THAT IS YOUR CHILD THAT YOUR OH SO WILLING TO ABORT? THAT'S HORRIBLE.

-The child, who cannot exercise its own will, is killed. And, in order to make the killing more palatable, the baby is called a "fetus", or "non-viable", or "not yet human", etc. This eases the conscience. But, for those who say the baby isn't 'viable', have you ever seen a sonogram of an abortion? You can see the 'non-viable fetus' retracting from the instruments of death and seeking self preservation. It wants to live.

P.S. I know you didn't ask for my opinion, but believe me, I was oh so compelled to give it.

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im 13/f nd im a virgin i wanna have sex but i wanna noe if it hurts TNX!

http://www.leaderu.com/orgs/probe/docs/safesex.html


Sex may be uncomfortable and be a bit awkward the first time, but not for everyone. People are different, but if you do experience pain the first time it could be because your hymen has broken. Every girl is born with a hymen but it doesn't only break during sex, it can also break when using tampons or playing sport. Sex may also be uncomfortable if you're not relaxed in the situation and lubricated. If you are having sex it can help to have foreplay — kissing, touching, and cuddling — before having actual intercourse. In the long run sex shouldn't hurt but if it does it may be something to talk to your doctor about. Most importantly remember that whether you're having sex for the first time, during a girl's period — in fact at anytime — a girl can still get pregnant. So to protect against unplanned pregnancies always use contraception — and only condoms can protect you from both STIs and pregnancy.

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hey, me and my friend were just going through some of the tampon questions and it just confused me more. See I've had my period for about two years now (I'm thirteen) and I get them pretty heavy. I want to try tampons but I'm scared it will hurt, I'll do it wrong, or I'll gett TSS. I want to try it before my period so I don't like mess up but I've heard it hurts. Is that okay to try before and the first time I try is it going to hurt like crazy?

ok, I went thru what your going thru now, I'm fixing to turn 25 and once I was able to get over my fears of tampons, You couldn't pay me a million dollars to go back to waddling with a pad on haha. ok, here we go...The tampon consists of two pieces. Stick the piece with the cotton in first (I'm sure you know this duh lol) and with your finger on the end piece, go all the way in till no more of the end piece hangs out. Then you grab that piece and pull it back out. Wha Lah! (Hope that wasn't to confusing? I'm sorry if it was.) I wouldn't try sticking a tampon in when you weren't on your period because it would be dry and would hurt because of that. Tampons really are more sanitary when compared to pads and also they control odor. Give em' a try and if it hurts or feels uncomfortable in any way then it is not in right, or it's to dry. When inserted properly, you shouldn't feel a thing.

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so, im a girl, and im going for my 1st docotors visit, will they be able to tell if i masturbated or not?

absolutely... NOT. There is no way a Dr or anyone else for that matter can tell. The ONLY way another person would know...Is if you told them. So take a deep breath and know that everything's gonna' be ok! I promise!

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19/F

Okay, I'm really sorry if this is disgusting or gross or w.e but ... how do you give a blow job? Like make it really good for the guy. I know not to like get my teeth in the way cause it's painful and stuff but, what do I do with my tongue/hands? Is there anything I could do to reallllyyyyyy make him happy/pleasured =P? Thankyou and I'm sorry if this is really gross or anything but, I need advice and fast!!! THANKS

Having sex or oral sex is not "gross" and asking for advice about it isn't either. ANY and ALL questions are welcomed on my page (for future reference :) ok, I'll share with you, what I know.
This easiest what to tell you may sound the dumbest but here it is. Of course you know to suck and to keep your teeth far far away lol, but when your mouth feels like your about to get locked-jaw haha you can simply just stop sucking and lick up and down the shaft (they really like that) also with your hands, play with there (balls) as in GENTLY tugging them in the down position. Hearing him moan in any way is a sign your doing it right. If he stays quite as a mouse, ask him what way he prefers!

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Whenever me and my boyfriend have sex i dont feel anything.. like no pleasure or anything..
and no matter what we do nothing seems to work.. whats wrong with me? :S

Ok we need to clarify something here.. When you say you don't feel nothing, are you saying not only do you not feel pleasure, but you do not even feel him inside you?

If your just not feeling any pleasure..there is something you can do about that. However, there is a large number of women that can not orgasam from sex and if that's the case for you, don't feel bad.. it's not your fault and there's nothing wrong with you. One night when your feelin' frisky and alone, try to please yourself, find something that works for you. the problem may be that your G-spot (which makes you feel pleasure) is just not being stimulated. It's hard for a man to try to please you if you don't know even know how to please yourself or at least find out what makes you feel some pleasure. The woman's G-spot is located inside the vagina and there is another G-spot at the top part of your vagina just as the lips start (if ya' get my drift) there is a small "bump" located there and when arroused, it can get to be the size of a small pearl.

Now, if what you were saying is you can't even feel him in you..then you have a problem...He just isn't big enough for you..If you feel comfortable enough talking to him, suggest you using a vibrator when yall do have sex so you can get pleasure from that-then everyone's happy.

Hope this helps some
-Marine Wife

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how long do you have to wait to take the pregnancy test for it to work after you have sex? how lnog?

The best pregnancy test can only tell you 4 days before your next period should come. There isn't another way to find out any sooner other than going to the Dr and taking a blood test. Sorry- I know it sucks havin' to wait.
-Marine Wife

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i've never had sex... so i don't know why i'm freaking out. but i'm fifteen and terrified that some random sperm may have seeped into me or something, though that's not very likely, i'm just PARANOID. plus, i had a cold, and now my body aches and im freezing, but i think i just have a virus. i'm just scared because i didn't get my period this month. and as nasty as it sounds, i'm sure my brother is having sex with his girlfriend, and i masturbate with my hands, so. terrified. i've been having my period for a little over two years, and it's not really regular. i miss a month sometimes, or for instance it will come on the 22nd of june, skip a month, come on the 5th of july, come the 19th of august. who knows. but i'm totally freaking out. sorry, sorry, sorry for seeming so immature. but mostly i need reassurance that this isn't possible... i haven't been throwing up or anything. just. ugh. help?

ok, the other person that wrote to you telling you to tell your brother to wash his hands is insane. I mean what? Any left over sperm on your bother's hands could magically make it's way to YOUR vagina? ew. lol Girl...I don't know what causes you to get so stressed about something like this. The only way for you to get pregnant is if sperm enters your vagina. Not your head, not your big toe..no where but the vagina! You have a better chance on being ate by a shark while visiting New York- lol doesn't happen! So just chill out and try to get your mind off of this. Your not pregnant, I can assure you, if you have never had any type of sex, that your NOT pregnant. (P.S. Mastubation is a healthy thing and you would never get prego from doing something like that)

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hey,
My name is justin. i am going to have sex with my girl for the first time.i was just woundering about if i need to shave or trim the area below because i hadn't ever do that and im am kinda hairry in that area.
so wat girl prefer to keep it ,trim or shave it?
and iam asking girl.Please give me your opinion honestly because i am kinda enbarassed to ask my girl that question.
Another question : iam goin to buy condom, and my deck is like 14 cm long, so wat condom size should i buy?
tanx for ur patient and answering my question soon.
justin'

Different girls prefer different things as far as "down there" is concerned. I myslef, prefer a guy to be either trimmed or just have a paradise line. http://www.menessentials.com/tips/shaving_privates.html

You can just buy regular sized condoms and I would go with Trojan, because they seem to be the best. You can go here to get some FREE condoms from TROJAN: http://www.trojancondoms.com/freestuff/product/

Or you can go into your local Health Department,walk up to the front desk and ask for condoms. They'll give you a whole bag of them, no names asked...nothing to pay.

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i didnt know whether to put this in injuries or sex, but since it has to do with a certain part of my body, i guess sex?

anyway, i have a vaginal tearing.... it's not really my fault, but it's so embaressing, and i cant bare to tell anyone. i feel dirty and gross, and i dont want anyone to be near that part of my body. (and my gf keeps wanting to have sex, and i keep having to make shit up!)
also, it hurts, and everytime i touch my self down there i get little to no pleasure, i pretty much just feel irritated all over down there. please tell me what i can possibly do?? it's obviously not just going to magically go away, and i'm so sick of feeling this way. what in the heck should i do?

Well, you already know that your going to have a Dr. because like you said it's not going to go "POOF" and magicially disapear. So I'm guessin' your needin' help with getting' over these feelings you have about a Dr. seeing your most intimate parts. Every woman has to go to the Dr for a pap-smear every year...I hate it every year...but I go through with it because it's my health at risk here and what could be more important than that. When I was 20 I went to a new Dr. and I guess I was more nervous than I thought because I kept trying to lock my knees together so he couldn't do the pap smear and it sucked feeling like there was a 100 watt light bulb down there making it so he could probably see things I didn't know I had! So finally he told me something...something I try to remember every year. "Kristen, If you don't open your legs I can't do this, What do you do for a living?" to which I responded " I work at a convience store" then he said, "ok, when a customer goes in the store do you pay attention to every minor detail of them?" I said, "Um no, I aint got time for that, I do my job and I go home!!" To which he replied "ME TOO." I hope maybe this story didn't bore you toooo much and maybe helped just a little. There no more concerned with what you got down there than a man in the moon so relax! Call the Dr. and get it over with! Good Luck

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19/male
I just had sex with my boyfriend of 5 years and we both loved it.. the thing is.. I don't know if he has HIV or not.. because I asked him.. and he just said, "It doesn't matter honey, let's just do it.." and he kissed me so passionately that i couldn't refuse sex with him.. and he said it kinda in a way that sounded like he did.. but I'm not sure if he has HIV..
should I be worried- because I love him so much!!
Thanks a lot!
♥Jake

OK Yea, that was a RED flag right there. If he didn't have HIV, he would've just said NO, not "It don't matter". Yes it matters! One night of sex is hardly worth dying for. Go get tested right away and make him get tested too. If he comes out positive and your negative, then I highly reccomend you make him either wear a condom EVERYTIME or find your self a new partner. This is the rest of your life were talking about here, what could be more important than that??

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I'm 15/M
& everyday after school I walk to Starbucks, well, theres an Albetersons right next to the Starbucks, & I was wondering if I could buy condoms at the Albertsons?
& what kind should I get? I've never had to buy them before

Yes you can buy condoms anywhere your heart desires. There is NO age limit on buying any condoms, femine products, KY Lube, and pregnancy test. I can tell you that for a FACT because I used to work at a convience store and a grocery store that sold all of the above.

I'm glad to see you at least want to be protected, so many teens are having sex then posting question in a hysterical state saying "I think Im pregnant, I'm 13 years old what do I do!!" 1 in 4 people living with HIV find it difficult to tell their partners... because they don't even know they have HIV. Use a condom every time.

You can go here for FREE condoms from TROJAN:
http://www.trojancondoms.com/freestuff/product/

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hey
my name is justin, iam almost 18, actually iam 17 years old plus 7 month.
i live in new york.
i was woundering wats the legal age in the us to have sex, and am i free to buy condoms?
tanx for help, and i really appreciate.
reply soon.
Justin

I've never heard of there being a law that states you have to be a certain age. There is laws against a minor (under 18) having sex with someone that is 18 & older though. There is NO age limit on buying condoms -can tell you that for a fact because I used to work at a grocery store and a convience store and we were told to sell them to ANYONE.
-Marine Wife

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I have been on my birth control pill for about two months now and me and my boyfriend have had unprotected sex many times but he doesn't cum inside me he always pulls it out. well my stomach has been hurting alot for like the past two days and today i took a pregnancy test and it was negative. my question is why do you guys thing my stomach has been hurting? yesterday it hurt alot and today it doesnt really hurt that much only when i think about it and then i feel like it is hurting. thank you in advance

Well I'm 24 years old! (LOL)
Ok so, you didn't say if you had a monthly period still with your birth control method or not? Your stomach could be hurting from period cramps. (Even though you might not bleed, your body still goes through that process if you get what I'm sayin') Or could be something minor like a stomach ache. When taking a pregnancy test you need to wait at least 4 days BEFORE your NEXT period to come. So if you don't have periods now, try to think back to when you did..Like say it was on the 15th.. that means the earliest you could take a test would be the 11th of that next month. A pregnancy test, doesn't know if there is actually a fetus in your stomach or not, what it does, is... If you are pregnant it takes about a month before your body starts to produce a hormone called HCG. This is what the test picks up on..if your body has that hormone. So taking a test to early will only give you a false negative even if you are pregnant. I know it sucks having to wait but that's just the way it is. You can get a blood test done at like a Health Department (they won't tell your parents and if your under the age of 18, the state pays for it.) Hope this helps.
-Marine Wife

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What does it feel like when you have a misscarriage?

Do you get a stomache ach then have lots of blood and it have a weird/gross smell?


thanks

It's nothing like a stomach ache or any weird/ gross smells. I'm not sure where you got that info...but it's wrong.
A miscarriage can be different for every woman, including stomach cramps (not a ache feeling), bleeding, sharp almost like being stabbed pains in your stomach.

Some women miscarry and there so EARLY in pregnancy that they didn't even know they were pregnant. It just flushes like a period almost.

The longer you are pregnant, the worser the symptoms for a miscarriage. In that case you have a procedure called a D&C done to (I don't want to get graphic here, so I'll just say "flush out" the fetus and lining.

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me and my boyfriend had sex last sunday. we used a spermacidical condom and he pulled out right when he started to cum. 3 days later i started having a lot of dicharge. it smells and looks the same as it normally does there is just a lot more. i also am experiencing headaches and cramps. what does this mean?

More discharge than normal and cramping is a sign that your ovulating.

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i am 15 female.
one of my bestfriends just lost her virginity to her boyfriend and she'll be 15 in a couple of days. i know the guy she lost it to and he's very sweet at times. she told me that his penis was big and fat. wow.lol. she told me it hurt like hell and im really curious about if it should even hurt because i heard only when you're nervous it hurts but she claims she wasn't nervous and wanted to loose her virginity to him right away. why, i have no clue? Could anyone please tell me stories about thier first time and every feeling you had.
to be honest i kind of feel pressured to have sex because everyone around me has either lost it at 12,13,14, and 15. But i know who i am and i know that loosing my virginity won't make me a betta person than i am now..but still im curious about sex...please tell me everything i should know!! thanx in advance

Props for you for still keep your virginity in tact. So many ppl, myself incluced lost it because of so much peer pressure. You stay a virgin however long you want and wait till its with someone you love and you know loves you back, when you have that, then sex is a wonderful thing. Now, on to your question about Do you remember your first time. Prime example of peer pressure: (I'm 24 now...was 16 at the time)

My best friend called me August 28th and told me she just lost her virginity and now I should too or I was going to be left out. My other best-friend called me August 29th and told me she lost her virginty too (THEY DIDNT KNOW IT AT THE TIME BUT IT WAS TO THE SAME GUY HAHAHA) anyways, August 31st rolls around and my guy friend came over and he always would pick with me and say lets go in your room...welp he said it, like I knew he would and I said...Let's go! His mouth dropped! Yea we had sex for about 30 seconds before I told him to get off of me. Just felt so wrong. I lost my virginty to someone I didn't even love. Something that you can never get back. And you will ALWAYS remember...that first time.

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is there anyway to get rid of bacterial vaginosis besides going to the doctor. i'm very embarrased to show the doctor "down there" so is there anyways to treat it at home??? THANKS

No...There is no way to treat this without a Dr. prescribed medication. Yeast Infection cream is not strong enough. I know going to a Dr. does bring up queasy thoughts, but rest assured, that a Dr. see's hundred's of em' a day, and yours is no different. It's like ppl that you see wearing flip~flops... You notice if it's a white foot or a black foot but other than that, you don't really care about what it looks like up close lol.

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To start out, I have been with my boyfriend for over a year, and we plan on getting married. I'm still a virgin, and I really want to loose it to him soon. Since he is the guy I want to spend the rest of my life with. But, I heard your first time hurts really bad, and you start bleeding as soon as you start. Is this true?

I mean, I know a lot about sex, and everything. And I am sure I am ready. I just want to know about the pain, and bleeding and all. I mean, my boyfriend has a rather large penis too. Any websites will be helpful. Thanks. =]

Different girl's have different pain tolerances and different expierences. While "Sue" could have sex and bleed some and think it hurt like hell, "Mary" could have sex, not bleed at all and only expiernce little to no discomfort. If sex in general hurt THAT bad for the first time then everyone would stay virgins! (Except for the one girl that tried it and told us all how bad it was lol) Here is a good website for you: http://www.pamf.org/teen/sex/virginity/
It's got articles about: Sexual Health & Experience, Virginity & First Time Sex, Am I Ready?, Preparing for First Time, First Experience, Disappointments, Not Doing It,
Dealing With Pressure & Second Virginity?
I think you'll find it quite useful. Good Luck and remember: Insist on a Condom everytime!!

TIP: To avoid pregnancy all together, steer clear of your ovulation days which is the most likely time you'll get pregnant. Here is a website (ovulation predictor) and you put in when your last period was and it will tell you when the most likely time is that you will get pregnant. http://ibabydust.com/tools/ovulation_calendar/calendar.asp

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ok, me and my girlfriend are planning on having sex,and she is scared that the condom might break or she might get pregnant. i was wondering if i pull out soon enough and im using a condom if that would decrease the chances, even tho theres the pre cuming thing? and i was also wondering if there are any other precautions we could take besides for birth control?

There's this stuff at Wal-Mart on the condom isle, I beleive it's called Eva Care or something like that. Anyways, She would take it and depoist it into her vagina prior to having sex and if you cum inside her, it's supposed to kill all the sperm. (It's like $5.00 and there is NO age limit to buying it)

Another thing to do, Is make sure she's not Ovulating. If she is, it can triple her chances of getting pregnant! Here's a website for her. She puts in the date of her last period and when it ended and it will tell you when she is ovulating so you know to steer cleer of those dates.
http://ibabydust.com/tools/ovulation_calendar/calendar.asp

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