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my boyfriend
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I just had sex with my boyfriend of 5 years and we both loved it.. the thing is.. I don't know if he has HIV or not.. because I asked him.. and he just said, "It doesn't matter honey, let's just do it.." and he kissed me so passionately that i couldn't refuse sex with him.. and he said it kinda in a way that sounded like he did.. but I'm not sure if he has HIV..
should I be worried- because I love him so much!!
Thanks a lot!
♥Jake
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Hey!
I don't understand how people think from this that he loves you. If the guy "loves" you, he wouldnt expose you to HIV... he wouldnt let you jeopardise your entire future for one night of pleasure. That to me sounds more like he needs to get off, thats all.
You are toying with your life here. Of course you could refuse sex, no matter how passionately he kissed you. Dont be ridiculous and put things in perspective. The guy avoided your question... actually worse he told you it didnt matter. Think about it, it doesnt matter that he could be carrying a deadly contagious disease? How could you buy that garbage?
Whether he has it or not isnt even the issue. You asked him a legitimate question and he gave you a bogus answer so he could sleep with you. Note that next time you consider how much he "loves" you.
Of course you should get tested, and of course you should be worried. Its not certain he has it, but its pretty certain that AT BEST, he doesnt know. So get a straight answer out of your boyfriend before you have anything more to do with him. Heck, all things considered, I would recommend seeing it in writing rather than taking his word for it.
I dont presume to know the first thing specifically about gay relationships, but I do know that any sort of intimate relationship is based on trust. He broke your trust, remember that.
Hope I helped!
--Jack
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I fail to understand how people perceive from this that he loves you. If the guy "loves" you, he wouldnt expose you to this disease... he wouldnt let you jeopardise your entire future for one night of sex. That to me sounds more like he needs to get off, thats all.
Now, rate me what you like, but you are toying with your life here. Of course you could refuse sex, no matter how passionately he kissed you. Dont be ridiculous and put things in perspective. The guy avoided your question... actually worse he told you it didnt matter. Think about it, it doesnt matter that he could be carrying a deadly contagious disease? How could you buy that garbage?
Whether he has it or not isnt even the issue. You asked him a legitimate question and he gave you a bogus answer so he could sleep with you. Note that next time you consider how much he "loves" you.
Of course you should get tested, and of course you should be worried. Its not certain he has it, but its pretty certain that AT BEST, he doesnt know. So get a straight answer out of your boyfriend before you have anything more to do with him. Heck, all things considered, I would recommend seeing it in writing rather than taking his word for it.
I dont presume to know the first thing specifically about gay relationships, but I do know that any sort of intimate relationship is based on trust. He broke your trust, remember that.
Good luck
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OK Yea, that was a RED flag right there. If he didn't have HIV, he would've just said NO, not "It don't matter". Yes it matters! One night of sex is hardly worth dying for. Go get tested right away and make him get tested too. If he comes out positive and your negative, then I highly reccomend you make him either wear a condom EVERYTIME or find your self a new partner. This is the rest of your life were talking about here, what could be more important than that??
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without a doubt
GET TESTED.
it doesn't really matter if he does or doesn't, if you have the doubt you need to find out.
& from what he told you, it sounds like he either thinks he might have it, because it sounds like he loves you, and if he was possitive he had it, he'd probably tell you.
and I know how it goes with the passionate kisses and stuff, so don't even worry about that.
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Well, you would think that he wouldnt put you in that kind of danger if he did.
But, from the sounds of it...he has it. If somebody said that to me, i would definetly be like no, were not doing it.
You and him should go together to get checked. Even though u prob dont have it, just go to make him feel like the focus isnt only on him.
Good luck
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