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* hey, my name is Alex.

* i am 16 years young.

* i'm an easy to talk too person.

* i do have a boyfriend that i love with all my heart.

* there's nothing that can describe me completely

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advice

16/f


me and my bf had sex for the first time and i was on top at one point but i had noo idea what to do. so basically how exactly am i supposed to move on top?

Honestly, there isn't a certain move you have to do when you're on top.

Do whatever makes it more pleasurable.

Do these:
Jump up and down.
Move up and down (not jumping though)
Lean forward towards him and make him do the work while you're on top.

Good luck!

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My bf and i are 16 and have started having sex his penis is quite small and i can hardly feel him and it doesnt last that long im wondering if there are any good positions we can try and how to get his erection to last longer?

Honestly, I don't know because I've never been with a guy with a small penis.

The best would be with him on top and you on the bottom.

Hope I helped.
-MADLYxINxLOVE

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ok i need help asap! this guy that i really really really like well we've been talking for like forever now about doing stuff. and i already promised him i would. like promised for sure. but now i'm getting really nervous about it.. like i'm scared to death, but i really want to do stuff, stuff as in i'm going to give him a blow job and he's going to finger me. i've never done any of this so please help me! any tips on what to do?, how to make it not awkward?, and how to not be so nervous? thanks a ton!

Ah, in my point of view: To be 110% honest with you, I say DON'T do it.
If you're NOT comfortable with this, don't even bother.
Even if you've promised this guy you would.
Might as well tell him what's up.
I'm just saying you shouldn't be doing something that you're not ready or comfortable with or you're going to regret doing it later.
And don't let this guy take advantage of you. AT ALL.

-madlyxinxlove

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almost 16/female
this is kinda embarrassing..

but today, my guy friend caressed my shoulder and arm in a realllllyy smooth/sexy way...he was just playing around.

as soon as he did that, i felt this rush through my body...and it was mainly directed at my lower part (...) and just everywhere...it felt really nice. lol

I don't know whyy....

is this normal? :/

This isn't embarrassing.
And this is completely normal.
You've just got touched in a place that turns you on in a sexual way.

-madlyxinxlove

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Okay... I've been off the shot for nearly six months. I had sex unprotetcted over last weekend and I'm wondering if its possible that I'm pregnant. I think it is but im not too sure. My sister said it took her nearly a year and a half to get pregnant, as well as my sister in-law. My other sister that was on the shot is having a problems trying to get pregnant. Do you think I am or What? Im confused~!

If you have either protected or unprotected sex, you are ALWAYS in a risk of becoming pregnant.

-MADLYxINxLOVE

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i dont plan on anything for a while but i was just wondering what cum means...

Cum is another way for 'sperm'
which I call 'skeet' lmao.

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My boy sais its totally normal for a man to want to get fingered. Whats your opinion on that matter?

In my personal opionion, that's kind of weird. But then again it's normal. :)

-MADLYxINxLOVE

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ok well i'm gonna have sex w/ this guy, but i'm a little worried that his penis might be too thick for me to take. is this a stupid fear? will my vagina be able to stretch to accomodate it? ...and will it hurt a lot?

It's not a stupid fear. It's completely normal. You'd be surprised to how many girls around your age get that fear. Usually when you're a virgin and you're going to have sex, your vagina stretches and rips some skin inside of your vagina cause you to bleed (AKA getting your cherry popped.)

Will it hurt? Yes and it just depends on how your partner is doing the work. To make is less painful, make sure your vagina is wet, by letting him eat you out [etc..], that way it can slip in easily.

Good luck!

-MADLYxINxLOVE

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i dont know if this is wierd or not. when i masturbate i sit on one spot in my room every time. and what happens on that spot, stays on that spot. am i wierd?

thanx

No, you're not weird at all! you just like to get pleasured at a certain spot. That's all. :]

-MADLYxINxLOVE

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when you have sex for the first time, unprotected sex, is there a chance you can get pregnant???

With or without protection, you are in a risk of becoming pregnant. Even for first timers!

-MADLYxINxLOVE

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14/f
yesterday, i had sex w/ my bf for the first time and it hurt, of course, but like it kept coming out & we had to keep putting it back in. so, is that normal?

If you meant his penis, then it's probably because you're really wet and it slips off. But that's completely normal.

But if you mean the condom, usually it's most likely because your boyfriend's penis isn't hard enough, though that might mean he is getting soft causing the condom to slip out. It happens. Tell him to get it in a smaller size.

-MADLYxINxLOVE

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my boyfriend has fingered me a few times, and every time he's washed his hands immediately before. also he told me that he hadnt masturbated since the previous day too (every time.) and he hasn't touched himself at all while he's fingering me. but my period is a week late.

i'm just thinking its stress, because i was stressed about it being late in the first place, but please reassure me that i can't be pregnant.
thanks

http://www.gurl.com/findout/fastfacts/pages/0,,623578,00.html

[Read the LAST one. the first sentence!]
that should answers your question.

(http://www.gurl.com is a GOOD place to go to about sexual activities such as fingering, masturbation, orgasms, etc..)

If your boyfriend masturbates before fingering you and supposedly forgets to wash his hands, either way you still CAN'T get pregnant.

My boyfriend has told me once Sperm gets out of his system, Sperm automatically dies when it reaches air and/or water.

But you're NOT pregnant!

-MADLYxINxLOVE

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How do you actually know when your cherry is popped? How can you tell??

You'll bleed soon after your done having sex. It will bleed for a while.

-MADLYxINxLOVE

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if youre being fingered can the guy tell if you're a virgin or not? what about if you're having sex with him? can he tell?

thanks.

I would say if you're getting fingered and you're a virgin he will most likely NOT find out your a virgin unless he like shoves his fingers up to the point where he pops it. But most girls get their cherry popped on the first time, others don't. So it just depends how his work is done.

-MADLYxINxLOVE

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When you finger a girl can you just rub it like on the outside where the clit is and they orgasm or do you have to actually finger them?

For most girls, you can do it either way. It just depends of HOW your doing it to the girl that gives them pleasure.

-MADLYxINxLOVE

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does doubling up on condoms [using two at a time...instead of just one] create a bigger chance of preventing pregnancy??

No, it doesn't make it better to put two condoms together and it DOES create a bigger chance of becoming pregnant. The two condoms will rub on to each other and cause them to rip.

-MADLYxINxLOVE

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can you buy birthcontrol at a store?

I've read on http://www.gurl.com that if you go to a Walk-In Clinic they can give you birth control if you're sexually active with your partner. And you don't have to tell your parents about it. I'm NOT on the pill but just check more about it on http://www.gurl.com that'll give you more information about it.

-MADLYxINxLOVE

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How long would it take after you have sex to be able to take a pregnancy test and have an accurate reading?

You have to wait at least up to two weeks. If past two weeks then the best is to take the pregnancy test as EARLY as possible. The earlier the better. You can get more information on http://www.gurl.com

-MADLYxINxLOVE

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does fingering hurt?

cuz, my bf wants to be finger me.
but i've always been not exactly
scared, but like hesitant.

so is there any pain whatsoever?

Yeah, there is somewhat pain depending on how many fingers he puts in or if you're dry 'down there.' If you're wet, it could be less painful.

-MADLYxINxLOVE

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okayy so my boyfriend wants to have phone sex with me..but idk how. someone please explain.

Phone Sex is just like turning the person on the other line on. Like...

For example:
Guy: I'm unzipping my pants.
Girl: I'm going down my shirt.

Yeah... and so on. It's just basically turning each other on.

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