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Hey everyone. I'm in a spot of a dilemma here. You see, I have this friend who I've been chatting to online for around 2 years now and he's coming down to meet (don't worry, he's not a pedophile or anything. we've spoken on the phone and web cam and all) anyway, we were planning to see green day together and he already bought the tickets and his plane ticket. Anyway, a few days ago my good friend who lives here bought me a ticket to see Green Day. It was going to be a suprise but then he found out I was already going and had to fess up. Anyway, the next time he saw me he HANDED the ticket to me, which I now have. My good friend bought the ticket for me as a present and I don't have to pay him or anything, and I'd feel bad making him give it to someone else. But the other guy can't cancel his plane ticket or sell his ticket (since he lives in brisbane and i'm in melbourne) advice please??

thanks

Dude, you're online friend is coming down to meet you from somewhere else for the first time, and I think thats great in itself! Your good friend, well, you see him almost every day right? So while I know you'd feel bad giving back the ticket, tell him that the person you're already going with you dont get to see that often - or take him with you to meet your online friend. But in the end, I realy think that you shouldn't sort of pick your good friend over someone coming in from somewhere else to meet you. BUT - do buy your friend something as a thanks, or promise to make it up to him later or something, but all in all, yeah, don't just keep the ticket and stare at it - maybe you could give it to someone else. Good luck, and have fun.

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my bff (i will call her jane) & i have been bff for a while now. i like her (obviously) but sometimes she acts so insecure...like she wants to be friends with these other girls who obvioulsy aren't that nterested with her. sometimes when i am with her & feel bad, because she seems so focused on being frineds with them that i feel like she doesn't want to be hanging out with me. i know she likes me, but every once in a while she will do something on an important day (like dances, new years eve) & if i ask her if she wants to do something she will be like "no i can't, i am doing something with _____" and she won't even offer to have me come, which is something i always dowith my friends (unless they hate each other, which almost none do, they all get along). it makes me feel bad, but i also know that jane DOESN'T have that many friends, so i feel like she does it to sort of show off that she's doing something. ahould i say anything, i mean its not that serious & it only happens once in a while, but i feel sort of unwanted. we like never fight though, so i don't want to start anything!

Tell her exactly what you just told a bunch of people on the internet. If she doesn't snap out of it, then there's nothing you can do. Tell her to stop being insecure and point out to her all her good qualities and how she doesn't have to change for anyone or pretend to have other friends. Tell her you like her for who she is and that if she really doesn't want to be friends with you she can tell you. Just dont be mean to her or inconsiderate - you seem like a genuine person to me. Good luck with it all.

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i hav a friend who is like my best friend and ive known for like 4 yrs but just this yr she moved to laval and changed schools, i thought i would never be replaced and she even told me that i wopuld never be replaced, but just yesterday i was talkin to her on aol and she added a friend from her school and she was acting totally different and telling me sbout how everyone there is soooo open and funny, and she had all these inside jokes and stuff and when she left the convo she said nice talkin to me, but she told her friend sum inside joke and started laughin away. And shes always telling me about how she went out with all these ppl at her school. Im starting to feel super left out. (and she didnt lie about any of this)
-feeling left out (female, 13)

Aww, I feel you. :(, no seriously, I really think you shouldn't feel so lonely and stuff - because look, as people get older and have to go different ways, they change and have to adapt to their new setting - its only natural that she's sort of building a new life for herself. I'm not telling you to stop being friends with her, but maybe, know that its not like before and find someone else, she'll appreciate it...trust me on that. If she doesn't, point out to her that you feel left out. Make other friends, but still be her friend. Just get closer to the people in your own area.

You cant blame her for making other friends and changing a little - it comes with moving to a new place. Good luck with everything =).

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My friend is having this huge birthday party! Her uncle owns the house in laguna beach and its gonna be a two day party. I've been her friend only for like 6 months but we're pretty close. My birthday was last week and i invited her and she came. I dont get y she wont invite me!! AT least 50 people are going so dont say she didnt have enough room in her 3 stretch limos.

She doesn't sound like a friend to me, thats for sure, and she's rude as hell - she should return the invitation. And by the way - dont feel bad OR left out - this girl seems like she's using what she has to make people her friends. Well soon enough, she'll discover that people will use her. Material doesn't mean anything - it doesn't beat loneliness and not having any real friends, so in the long run, just call her after her party and tell her happy birthday and give her a gift if she got you one - that makes you the bigger person. If she's a good friend she'll apologise to you.

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I am so confused as of what i should do. My friend ("best friend") is sooo annoying. She hardly hangs out with me anymore, shes too busy hanging out with the 2 popular kids in our class,,its so obvious to tell shes trying to be cool. the 2 popular kids were talking about celeberty poker and how they love it. and shes like OMG I LOVE CELEBRTY POKER! haha!" and this is so untrue cuz, 1. she doesnt no how to play it,,or at least i think. When i told her about my camp stories and how we played poker she was like YEAH UMM FUN.
2. her tv doesnt even work.

and yeah, stuff like that keeps happening and its really starting to get annoying, and i let it go everytime but im soo anoyed...what should i do? be friends with her, tell her i dont want to be friends, what? we have been best friends for 2 years and this stuff hasnt been much of a problem till this year. it happened like once a couple years ago, and sometimes last year, but its getting bad this year. WHAT SHOULD I DO!?!?!

btw i rate 5's for good help, and non-stupid answers

Oh my God, can I just hang her for you?


Maybe not, but here's the deal, and I think you know, that your friend is one of those many girls that is willing to be fake and kiss the asses of the 'in crowd', or the future force of McDonalds employees, as I think most will turn out at the rate they're going these days, but anyway - TELLLL HEEERRRR. And also, dont ask us if you want to be friends with her - do YOU?

I say you talk to her about it, and if she doesn't care or is like 'ommg noo im not doing anything and yeah you're just jealous and overreacting', then I think its better if you stop talking to her and avoid the headache. I hate fake people, and I don't blame you for being annoyed. Point out to her how being fake could make her miserable and ask her if she values your friendship at all.

I think that after that you'll be able to make a decision.

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Hey! Okay my i've been reallly upset lately because I have a crush on this boy named Jason and he likes my best friend, Gina. All the guys like her and it really sucks for me because Jason is the ONLY boy I like, and I like him so much. Well, i'll say to Gina you're so lucky the one person I like likes you, and she says haha. She doesn't even try to make me feel better about it. I also see him hugging her all the time and it makes me upset, and when we all hang out he doesn't pay attention to me because Ginas always there. I'll also invite Gina over and she'll say "Oh well this person asked me to hang out first so I can't." She does that to me and my two other best friends alot (who are also her best friends). Shes also inviting this one girl everywhere we go and this girl is cool and everything but it's just annoying because I miss just me, Gina, Carly, and Sarah [ our other two best friends ] always haning out, but we can't do that anymore because all these boys come whenever we invite Gina since they all like her. I also get in alot of fights with Gina because she acts like shes the queen. What should I do?! Gina is really annoying me lately but I don't want anything to come between our friendship because i've been friends with her since first grade! [ I'm 14 by the way ]. Don't say talk to her about it because that never works. Thanks!

--> Jamie

Tell her the truth. What you think of her and whats going on. I hate to say this, but as people grow older they change and they start wanting different things. It looks to me as if Gina is growing apart from you and your other friends because she wants a different lifestyle and you guys want to stick to the old ways. And I'm sorry, but if you have all this to say about her, you cant say that 'you want nothing to come between your friendship'. And also, it looks like she doesn't give a shit to me. No seriously, I mean look at you, you're being a good friend - you care about all the changes and are handling the whole thing about Jason maturely where as she is being selfish about it, in my opinion. And immature. So TRY to talk to her about it, point it out to the other girls, all of you talk to her about it, if she doesn't comply then leave it at that, because there's not much you can do. I know its hard. Good luck Jamie.

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hey
So this year I moved away and left everyone and everything behind. I love my new life but I also really miss everything back where I used to live. I expecially miss one of my closest friends, i'm going to just refer to her as "dhead." My problem is that I keep asking her for pictures and she just won't send them. Its driving me CRAZY. lol. Other than flying all the way back to kick her royally lazy ASS, I don't know wat to do. Please Help.
neglected FACE :p

Dear Face,

Dhead sincerely apologises for the...er, lack of pictures you have been receiving lately and would like to thank you for not using chatspeak, though. She misses you a loot, more than you think, and while she is enjoying her time at Rahima, misses those days at that gay round table in IPS where she used to sit and complain and bitch and laugh. She is trying to upload some decent pictures of her, but her phone will not co-operate and she knows why. It is because she is not the most attractive girl ever, yer know.

((HAHAHA I L U FACE < 3.))

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Okay so I have like a BEST friend we have been really good friends since like 4th grade and now we are in 8th well ever sinve like last year she has been blowing me off for this other girll I'll call ash well whenever I ask like what shes doing shell be like oh Im staying after and Ill be like ohh cool for anything fun and she'll be like no not really but than later it comes out that she was with ash and I just bugs me that she wouldnt tell me where she was going..is it just me and what can I do so it doesnt bug me as much..Thanks

Dont show her that you care because she's being a real bitch. Just ignore her and she'll come around and realise she misses you if she really does care about your friendship. Dont give two shits about where she's going wih 'Ash'. Oh, and just so life gets easier, try making other friends. She's not worth being bugged about her new 'friendship'. If she wants new friends, let her be, you can make new friends too. And if not, at least you dont have to stand for what she's doing to you.

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ok, ive been friends with this girl gabi since 1st grade. were both in 8th grade now. were best friends but sometimes i feel left out because she always goes out with her other friends and never tells me. weve been getting in a lot of fights lately and the past few have been really bad. i want her to be my friend but im not sure if she still wants to be mine. as we get older our interests are differing more and more. so basically my question is: Should i break our friendship or give it another chance???i give 5s, just so ya know

I think you should talk about it, and have a break if you have to, to realise how you feel about your friendship. At the end of the day you guys became best friends for a reason, right? There was something that drew you together even despite your differences. Its good that you see the signs, and I think you shouldn't break your friend ship. But take a break. Becuase I think that the reason she has other friends and you dont is that you were hanging on to her and didnt want to make other friends, so hey, you never know until you try, maybe you'll find someone you'll get close to as well and you'll both be close but not best friends, it could be better that way.

But dont lie to yourself. Fights are normal, by the way, they are a part of life but if they're getting too much then its time for a break. Good luck with it all, I hope it turns out well for you.

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I have been friends with Lauren since Kindergarden. We've always been close and I've ignored the fact that she's really geeky. Now, im in 7th grade and I'm starting to be really concious of it. Shes so embarassing!! Her nails look like a witch's and she won't let me cut them. I've been trying to slowly ignore her, but since we've been close since forever its hard to pull away. I know she won't let go of me. I'm her ONLY good friend. Tonight is the football game and I don't want to go with her even though she invited me. I want to go with my other best friend. Number one: How can I pull away from her? Number two: What should I do about the game tonight??

God, someone's a bit bitchy. You don't ditch your best fucking friend because she's 'geeky' in your opinion. Thats something someone thats a label sheep and a follower would do. You said it yourself, you didn't use to notice it before but now you do. Why? So what if people think its geeky? At the end of the day she's your friend and you stick together, no matter what people say. And if you really do want to ditch this girl, I hope that your other friends ditch youu so you can get a taste of your own medicene and I hope that Lauren will refuse to be your friend again after that, just so you can realise what you might be jeopardising, here.

I had a best friend I thought I wanted to rid of for good a few years ago, we're still close but we're not best friends. Tell her you need some time out if thats the case, like I did. Made a few mistakes along the way but I think you can handle this way more smoothly than to just drop her all in one time.

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When I moved to my new school I didn't have any friends. (I didn't have any at my previous school either) I met this really awsome girl named Heather. She is completley insane, just like me... Well a year later I made another friend, Sarah. Sarah and Heather have been friends for 10 years. I love heather, sadly enough more than my own sister, but Sarah and I have alot more in commen. We spent the entire summer together, which caused our friendship to grow even stronger. Heather didn't talk to either of us all summer. When we started back to school Sarah and I talk quite a bit, and tend to leave Heather out of the conversation. This has been going on for more than 2 years...I know it sounds concieded, but I think I'm tearing them apart...what can I do. Some people have said to make other friends and give them some time, but I'm a complete social outcast, and they are the only friends I have.
Hansmankey, 14. Hannaroo1991@yahoo.com

Heey, I'm going through a rough patch with my closest friends too. Well sort of. Three of my closest friends moved away this year and it sucks, so first of all: I'm glad you appreciate their friendship. Number two, I can see where this is going. If you dont get together, the three of you, and talk about it, things wont get better. Its good that you realise there's a bit of a problem, and its incredible that you care that you might be tearing them apart, what with people these days. I think that the three of you should talk about it, and you should tell them that - that you think you might be causing a rift between them and that you want to know where things stand. You never know, Han, maybe Heather will make new friends. I say, dont leave it hanging. Things are usually like this when people are close and there's three of them, but it always turns out for the best when you face the truth, talk about it and get things sorted. The best of luck to you =).

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My friend Cindy, is kinda always the center of attention. well she don't get that much attention but... Ok! She sometimes asks me to come somewher with her and so i ask my mom and she said yes, so i go with her, she said we were going to her uncle's house who is a famous foot ball player. We were ther right so, an insy bit of her family is there, and some other people were there, so this 1 time music was playing and everyone wanted her to dance, and she all shy and said she din't want to. then all of a sudden she goes up ther and sart doing the chicken head dance.But my piont is, I don't want to go anywhere with her if she just going to end up every body pays attention here. Cindy also acts the same, thinking she the center of attention. But if she tells or writes me a note asking me if i want to go any where else with her,and some of her family, and her family's friends are there then what should I say? Right now I am almost close to not being her friend because I hate the way she act, Cause she also think she pretty and act like she....OOOOOOOOhhhhhh!!!! Ok I'm just saying she's REALLY starting to PISS me off right now.

Please learn to use grammar and string a sentence together. Kthx bye.

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me adn my friend brooke spend an auwfull lota time together.. and people are starting to call us twins... we look nothing alike.. well kinda i guesss tall and blond hair... we both hate it so much and always say no we don't!! but people just keep saying it !! ugh ..what should we do~!

Lyyykkk ommmmggg. THE SHHEEER HORROR OF IT! THE DRAMA! The PAIN! ugHH, lik those silly ppplzzz. I have a solution: commit suicide. That way no one can say anything anymore and stuffs lyk right? UGH!!

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I have a friend who cant keep her mouth shut! She tells everything I say and I always try to remember tp tell her stuff but sometimes i am just itcing to tell someone. I really wanna be her friend but then again I dont NEED her! any suggestions? 5 points for anyone who helps! xoxo

Shoot her. If you don't need her friendship and she talks your secrets then I dont see why you should waste your time with her.

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Ok so I'm in 8th grade and there is this 7th grader at my school who has a HUGE CRUSH on me. He's also extremely sweet and the nicest person to me and always wants a hug everytime i see him. He rates a day as good or bad by if he talked to me that day, then it's a good day. But it's starting to get annoying hugging him all the time. But if I tell him this he would be totally crushed. How do I tell him we need to hug eachother less? THANKS!!

I think hugs are special. So tell him that his hugs are special to you, and that thats why he should save them for special occasions and such, that way it means more to you, and so it wont start getting less special when he hugs you everyday. Its nice that you care about his feelings, its really sweet of you. Good luck.

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Okay, there's this girl who is supposed to be my friend. Well, let's say she doesn't act like it. She calls me "idiot", "fool", and a bunch of other names. She's also (according to the guy I used to like) asked the guy I liked out, and I trust the guy I liked because I've known him for a while. She knew that I liked him. She also tries to make me look stupid and bad, because we're on the same sports team, and she'll throw the ball in a weird way and I can't catch it, then she'll say "What an idiot!" or something like that. I'm sick of it. Should I just stop being friends with her, and if so, how?

Thank you so much in advance. I'm sorry it's so long.

This girl is insecure, and taking out her insecurity on you, since you're her close friend. Making you look bad infront of others makes her feel good about herself. I think you should stop talking to her, hard as it may be, because you are BETTER OFF WITHOUT her aroudn to put you down. Friends raise one another's spirits and their role is to be there for you and never disrespect you, and this one is going beyond breaking what a good friend is. Anyone with an attitude like hers does not DESERVE friends - why should you put up with her shit? Either tell her to set her standards right, or walk away for the best. Good luck.

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There is this girl named Rachel. When we first met, 5 years ago, I couldn't stand her. But I was her friend because my friends really liked her and wanted us all to get along. Well two years ago I mentioned something about not liking our principal (I have good reason too)and she just exploded at me. She started screaming, "Hannah! You don't need to judge people like that! Judgment is 1 of the 7 unforgivable sins. If you don't stop being evil your going to hell!" Well I got mad and yelled back that she was an idiot and some other stuff *cough*. Well that was two years ago and we resolved our issues, darn those stupid friends of mine, and tried to become friends again. Well now out of no where she has been bad mouthing me and my mother, shooting me hateful glares, make rude comments right in front of me, and declaring that my mother is unfit to teach. Its very annoying so I sent her an email telling her to just leave me alone and be done with it, but she won't stop! How can I make her leave me alone.

Damn you've got a bitch there haven't you? Well, you seem like someone whose not afraid to speak their mind and defend themselve, so walk up to the bitch and ask her to stop. And for God's sake dont make it a circus show just take her aside and tell her that what she is doing is uncalled for and that she, biblehugger and all, is comitting a basic sin. Tell her to back the hell off and shut her mouth. If she doesn't stop - its time to bring out the guns, sister. Do the same to her, or openly tell her that she can take her evilness and childish comments and shove them up her annoying ass! There. Damn she made ME angry >.>. Good luck with it!

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HOW do i become more outgoing?! I want to get more friends and be funny,instead of a shy good girl!! can anyone help? thnx!

Hm. It might be hard at first, but you have to try and be easy to talk to, and have an open mind. Talk to EVERYONE. And then - be the one who starts things. Like weekend activities. Maybe you could invite people to your house before going out, or plan a trip to the pool or something. If you're the one with the details, people will ask you then right? Having a good sense of humour comes with being confident, so if you believe in yoourself and accept everyone as they are you should be fine. And try not to leave people out if you can.

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I have all different kinds of friends in such, but i hang out with 2 of them more. Im not a girly girl( and im not a lesbian) i hate wearing skirts and dresses and i really dont lyk really preppy people tha wear houchie skirts and a half a shirt, but maybe tha's juss some of the girls that go to my school. I just don't understand why people wear that stuff when you know its unconfortable. Why wear high heels to school them you could be confortable. THey only dress like that to get guys attention. I don't like cheerleaders either they annoy me. I'm kinda skater and like to do things that girls normally don't do or arent that good at. Me n my best friend r crazy at those kinda things and fit in real easily with the guy crowd. Every place that i go i always get mean looks from preppy girls cuz i don't dress lyk a brittany spears wannabe. Why do you think people corner me cuz im skater and not a barbie doll?

The first thing you should stop doing is labelling people. Are you a soup can? I don't think you are. Labels are for soup cans. Now after you forget labelling people barbies, preps, and skaters, you will hopefully remeber that everybody is an individual. I don't dress in skimpy clothes either. But my best friend does, and she is so far from girly. If you're nice to everyone, then they'll be nice to you too. Start being nice to EVERYONE. And don't label people. Be confident, and be nice to all, and whoever isn't nice back, well tough shit for them. And some of those girls might dislike you because you get to hangout with guys more, so if you want, you can maybe invite the preppy or whatever girls to hang out with you and your guy friends and your best friend. Or just start being nice to them. Say hi in the halls, or just smile when they make a rude comment. Be the bigger person! I respect how you say you don't like dressing like a houchie, and I understand how you feel about getting mean looks. You say you don't understand why some girls dress like that, well its because that THEY find that kind of outfit comfortable, or just because a lot of girls like to dress like that for girl power or whatever and to get guys attention. Like it or not, most girls first priorities are guys. Which is pretty sad sometimes. But you stay strong, dress how you like, and just ignore those girls or smile at them and wave when their mean to you!

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I've had a friend for 6 years now, and we've met these two other girls. She's been REALLY mean to me because she's less popular than me and wants them to hate me or something. I know if I talk to her she'll pretend she doesn't know what I'm talking about. And to top it all off, our moms are best friends!
-Friend or Foe?

Jealous friend.

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