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13f. this is long srry. i cant get a therapist. i just need advice. i have nobody else to talk to. i am totaly different at school and home. at home i am so mad all the time at school i am just either acting happy at least tryin or i am when i talk to him exept when someone gets me mad. i have never got detention i never get in truoble and no i will not be a snitch. nobody understands me at all anymore. i have no idea who my real friends are. ive been in every clique. my mom gets so mad at me when i wear black or chokers. but i useally do but when she wont let me i cry bc its all i feel good about. nobody at all has seen me cry exept my mom and brother my mom even said i didnt cry that much at all even when i was a baby. is something wrong with me. again srry no therapist. im shy but im starten to get louder. i get along with anybody. bc i only have 1 real friend at least i think? hes a guy hes been kinda close for about 7 years. he used to come over but now my mom found out i loved him and he loved me. but i think it was bc hes all i have. so he could never come over or i could never go over we couldnt see each other. but we would 'casually' hehe meeting w/ alot of people at the mall. he used to actually say best friend so i thought he realy was my bff. but is he just sorry for me. we havent been as close since i am so deppressed. hes a blonde dumb nerd lol we joke about that. im kinda in the group of all the gothic people who everyone hates. i never really talk to guys exept him and other guys who hate me and i hate them seriosly hate they would like come up and call me like a bitch or kick me then i do try and like kill they practically. if someone makes me really mad theyd regret it. i have knocked the air out of like 3 people. but not at school. i have enamies. whenever i think i have a friend they always turn out fake. ive been acting so deppressed lately. every1 says im gothic BUT IM NOT! atleast i dont think. i dont wear chains i dont dress all black usually jeans and black shirt and ALOT of jewelry. me and my mom dont get along. i have no chores ppl say im spoiled. and i just hate my life. any advice on..
what im deppressed about. if it was real love.
if hes a real friend. was he just sorry for me at first. whats wrong with me. am i gothic. how to become friends with all my old friends. why every1 hates me. why our parents wont let us see eachother i told my mom i didnt love him anymore he was just my only friend then she just got mad. and anyothers i forgot that i wrote at the top. no therapist or phyciatrist or whatever. ~help me~ (link)
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to answer all your questions im gonna list them below
*yes he is a real friend
*at first he wasn't sorry for you at first he wanted to be your friend then evolved to your best friend
*no your not gothic.ppl think the same thing with me cuz i wear alot of black n belt chains but im not gothic i just like the color black
*you don't need your old friends.if they left you without a good logical reason then you can't even call them friends.they probably left you cause they were starting to believe you were gothic real friends don't care what you are if they like you as a friend.
*everyone hates you cause your old so called friends or someone else started a rumor about you,but found a way to keep it from getting to you so you don't hurt them.when someone bother you don't try to kill them cause that'll get you in trouble with the law just beat the crap out of them or until they know not to mess with you again.
*your parents won't let you guys see each other cause they don't want you to come home one day and say your pregnant.a parents worst nightmare is their kid getting pregnant when they still have to legally support them.your mom don't believe that you don't love him cause yall were so close and your mom got mad when you said he was your only friend cause she don't want to believe it every mom want their daughter to have either alot of friends or at least one friend of the same gender.
*your probably depressed on the matter that you want your old friends back and your mom don't want you to see your only friend.your depression will get better just forget all the people that hate you forget the people that was your friends and deserted you and focus on you and having fun with your friend........hope i helped
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My best friend and I have been really close. We used to tell eachother anything and everything. We always stood up for eachother and we always taught eachother new things. Basically we were best best friends. She has a boyfriend which she has been going out with for over a year now. They are really good for eachother. They used to get into fights because she always flirted with other guys (majorly one time she gave 2 guys a shoulder rub for no reason) but he'd always come back and appologize. I always tried to help her with their problems and I hated when she was upset.
But a girl in school made up a rumor about me being a total flirt. I didn't really mind because all the guys were on my side BUT then my best friend (lets call her Nikki) started going along with it. She started agreeing with the girl and tormenting me about it. Months went by and slowly people forgot. Near Christmas time we bought best friend necklaces and I have never taken mine off.
After christmas break however she started the rumor up again. When I confronted Nikki about it she started yelling at me about how I flirt with this one guy (lets call him....James) all the time. I have liked James for months and he is the only guy who has ever really been there for me in almost everything. We fought but made up. The problem is she keeps bringing up the flirting topic all the time.
About 3 weeks ago I started noticing she always seemed mad at me. Her voice was snappy and she barely told me anything. She also made it her duty to try to get James to hate me along with every other guy. I also know she has talked to other girls and gotten many to look down at me. I have asked the guys and they say all I do is talk to them and I barely ever flirt. I have also asked some girls. She alwasy gets angry when im around the guys and especially when im around her boyfriend. Her boyfriend and I are really good friends and he also used to tell me everything about their relationship. He is also one of the only people im close with in half my classes so bottom line I talk to him quite a bit.
Lately she always makes me feel bad and tells me I cant stay away from the guys. The problem there is I have about....5 girl friends and about 20 guy friends. And ALL my girl friends have been staying inside for recess and i love recess so I go out. Also they are on the basketball team and I am not so many times Im forced to be with them. I have tried my best not to do anything that looks like flirting anymore and once publically humialted myself doing so. But everything I do seems to have no effect. She then says I do stuf for attention. Its driving me crazy and lately ive been crying almost everynight because of her.
I dont want to change for her but I feel as if I have to. I would rather have her as a best friend throughout high school then a boyfriend. I care about Nikki soo much. I really dont know what to do anymore. Its really hard for me.
About 4 days ago we sat beside eachother on the bus because we were forced to. The ride was pretty much silent except for two sentences. I turned to her and asked "Do you hate me?" and she replied "A little." those words hurt me so much. Then on the busride home out of nowhere she started yelling at me and telling me how horrible I was. She ended off saying "You have no idea how many people hate you" I have barely talked to her since. Ive been crying constantly. I try so hard to get us back but she keeps pushing me away. I dont understand it! What happened? What did I do? Please help! (link)
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i say she's being a bitch for trusting the rumor that girl started about you.she's probably acting this way because she think your gonna try to flirt with her boyfriend to take him away from her,also she's trying to make everyone hate you because she do and she feel it's everybody's duty to feel the same way she soes about you.i think you should ignore nikki for about a week or two(when i say ignore i mean completly don't talk to her,don't look at her,and when she talks don't listen to her.i know this will hurt you but it's to make things better)then confront her and ask her what the hell is her problem tell her you did nothing wrong and that you demand for her to tell you why she started being such a bitch to her best best friend
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It seems that lately my friends have been letting me down. They always say I am being walked over by people when in fact it usually ends up being them doing it. I have been dating my boyfriend for several months now and I love him alot, and he makes me so happy. That in mind, my friends don't like me dating him and always criticize me for it and make me feel like crap because he is relatively older than me. Aren't friends supposed to be happy for you? Well mine aren't. I know they see it as lookign out for me, but I don't and neither does he. This is where my problem is. He tells me to not stay friends with people who treat me like this and almost gets mad at me for putting up with it. I'm just so confused lately, what should I do? (link)
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your friends are trying to protect you because they care about you.don't stop hanging out with your friends just because your boyfriend tells you to you should remember that if a guy breaks your heart your friends will always be there to help fix it.i think you should ask your friends and find out exactly why their so worried with this guy,there's gotta be a reason cause if you was dating someone that was 30 you think they will automatically be like oh he's 30 so were worried about you dating him
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I have a great relationship with my best guy friend. (I am 14/f, he is 15/m) We tell each other everything, hes always there for me and I'm there for him. He's been trying to help me out with this guy I like and it's made me adore him even more, as a friend. But lately I've felt like maybe I like him as more than a friend? I think it may just be lust because I still like this other guy a lot. And I don't want to like my best guy friend. I would never want to lose him as a friend, and I know the best way to lose a friend is to date them. I'm not sure how to go about this. (link)
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it probably is lust.cause i know exactly what your going through and it really depends on how you guys are cause some of the best relationships the couples started out as best friends.but you guys seem close like brother and sister so i say go for the other guy.
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well i have this friend, her name is kaitlyn. and shes been goin out with this kid for about 3 months now. hes pretty cool. me and him are friends but he always is so controlling over kaitlyn. me and her are best friends and we have this really good friend ray that we have been friends with wayy longer then when her and her bf have known each other. she used to have a little crush on ray but she got over it fast cause they were just friends.and it was seriously nothing cause ray never knew and he didnt think of her like that. well her bf gets really mad when he calls her or she calls him. he wont talk to her and he always makes bad comments towards ray. and i think its really stupid cause were all really good friends. he wont go anywhere ray is. and its not just ray.. its EVERY guy that kaitlyn hangs out with. and thats most of our friends. just friends. if me and her go somewhere and are hangin out with one of them then he gets mad and thinks shes cheating on him or something and he keeps hanging up on her which causes her to keep calling him and apoligizing (even though she didnt do anything wrong) and she stays on the phone all night and ignores all of us. and he always seems to throw this one ex up in her face saying that hes goin to hang out with her if kaitlyn is hangin out with guys.
kaitlyn says she loves him and he loves her i guess but i think its stupid how he does that.
what do you think? (link)
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i don't think he love her cause love is trusting someone enough to give them your heart and trusting them not to hurt it or brake it.it seems like he didn't give her his heart and i think you should convince kaitlyn that this guy isn't good for her or since he's your friend talk to him.you should tell kaitlyn that a guy can last for a while but friends will last forever even after heartbreaks.
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over the weekend my best friend and i had the hugest fight we ever had, and weve been friends for 7 years now and i love her to death, but im tired of her taking advantage of me and taking me for granted. if im her BEST friend she should treat me the BEST. and she doesnt, so we made up at school today, but over the phone shes blowing me off again.. how do i get her to understand how selfish she is with out upsetting her *she upsets real easily* (link)
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im sure you get upset when she blow you off and it don't seem like she care how mad you get.jus do the same to her, blow her off and when she get pissed you could tell her "now you know wat it feels like,it feels crappy don't it and you don't like it so don't do it to me"and if that upsets her more jus give her a while to cool off and to think about how right you are
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Background information: i've been with my b/f for over 6 months, my best friend HATED it cuz she liked him too.. but shes the one who set us up.
Now shes been dating this guy for about 3 months, and hes kind of controlling. She doesn't understand why her friends think this. He got mad at her because she and I went out on a day that she was supposed to be with him.. but she tried calling him for like 2 hours before we left and he never answered or called her back until after we had already left. We offered to meet up with him and hang out (though i dont like him) but he got mad at her and went out with his ex.
I also told her that this really sweet guy she likes also likes her. And she told her boyfriend i was trying to set her up. I NEVER said i wanted her to date the other guy, i told her he liked her.
Also, the guy she is with was telling us hes been with numerous girls (he doesnt know how many, he was on drugs when he was with most of them)
Am i being over protective of my friend? She can't even hang out with me or her other friends without him. He also comes to see her at lunch and gets mad if she has other things to do and cant spend time with her (we have open campus for lunch)
Am i right in telling her she can do better than this guy? I'm really concerned because when i was in a relationship like that, it turned into an abusive relationship and was really hard to get out of (link)
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your not wrong at all you should try to get your friend out of that relationship as soon as possible before she come to school with a black eye or something and she sounds like someone that when the abuse comes she's not gonna say anything about it she sound like if you question her she'll lie for him.and if she do call it off with him and he get pissed don't leave her alone make sure she always have someone there that can help and/or protect her cause if he's that pissed about her he will get violent
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my birthday is this friday.. do you think its wrong to give out invitations like.. on thursday if the party is on friday night? its at the movies. or should I move it to like saturday?
also, my family doesnt have alot of money now, so we cant really afford to have a big party. I'm turning thirteen. I wanted to invite 10 people.. but thats kinda expensive to go see a movie, so should i reduce it to five (thats kinda hard since i have alot of good friends) or just make the party at home (then i'd have to decorate and stuff..). i cant have sleepovers too.. cuz my parents dont like those. but im okay at making cookies though they take like 1-2 hours to make. ughhh this sucks badly. i have money in the bank, but what are some other ways to get some extra cash? I cant do them next week, but maybe later so my money can be balanced in the future.
otherwise, what are some other VERY inexpensive (I can only spend 50 dollars (or less) on this party!! I dont want my whole bank account to run dry!) and like.. very fun! i dont want the party to be a drag.. and im only inviting my closest friends, since its funner that way. and what should i make my invitations out of? or should i just buy it.. i dont want them to be lame.. but at the same time, not too pricey.
or should i just move my whole party to some other day? and would it be lame on my bday to wear those tiaras that say like "birthday girl" or something to school? heh.. thanks for answering my huge question! (link)
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make the party saturday no one likes goin to party on fridays(tired from work or school). bring 5-7 friends and tell them to bring there own money.make invitations out of construction paper and decorate it with different stuff to make it interesting.for extra cash in the future offer to babysit,do extra work around the house,extra work around your neighbors houses,or try makin cool things that nobody have and sell them.to make the party a bit interestin you can plan a day of jus goin different places for fun or causing trouble(that's always fun)only wear a tiara to school if it makes your outfit look awesome and you like a princess.
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ok i have this best friend of 9 years.. shes like my other half.ok whenever i get grounded or w/e and i cant hang out shell go out and do something with someone else. thats fine i dont have a problem with it. its just we do everything together and when i hear shes hanging out with other people its like i feel jealous and i get mad at her but its not like im reaklly mad at her. is that wrong? and i know she feels the same way when i go out because she always says you could have told me you were going out but w/e but is it wrong to feel this way when shes with other people? (link)
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yes cause if your on punishment that don't mean that she should be on punishment to and not go anywhere
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Well, last year in 7th grade, my friends and I would get in fights/arguments. This year, in 8th grade, I've told myself that I wouldn't get mad over really stupid things, and I wouldn't get into very many arguments with my friends, even if they start it. Well, about 2 days ago, one of my friends, lets just call her, i don't know, how about Lisa, well anyways, Lisa just kinda stoped talking to me. I asked her if she was mad at me, and she was like "NO!!" and she sounded pretty mad. And my other friend, we'll just call her Brooke, anyways, it seems like Brooke has switch personalitys. Like, for a week she will be best friends with me, then the next week she will ignore me and just act like I don't even exsist. Oh, I forgot to say one thing. Whenever one of my friends seems mad, and I ask if they are mad at me, or if I ask them if somethings wrong, they just seem to get more mad. Sometimes I feel like my only friend is this guy that I have a really huge crush on. And in our little girl "click" it seems like everyone is pared up. Am I not a good friend?? Am i doing something wrong?? I don't know what to do. But I'm tired of being treated like a peice of crap. Thanks everyone. Much love! (link)
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the only thing your doin wrong is not askin them wats they're problem for screamin and bein so rude.don't let anyone push you around and taken no for a answer is like pushin you down the steps.if they wanna keep treatin you badly then go to the boy you have a crush on for support.you don't need any one to treat ypu bad when sum1 that show you respect is so close buy.also this will help you get closer to him
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Say theres this one girl that you like alot [this is a friendship question by the way.. im not gay.. or something] but sometimes she can be really slutty & kinda annoying.. & none of your other friends really like her too much.
but your other friends love you & you like them alot too. you have alot of fun with your group of friends & do alot more with them & are just more like you.
But, the other girl.. doesn't have very many friends, & you feel bad ditching her.. just to stay w/ the other friends.
what would you do? (link)
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i would plan a day or weekend out like to the movies or shopping jus for the two of us to have fun.
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OK for this weekend i have been asked 2 hang out with like 4 differnt ppls. 1. my boyfriend 2.my friend thats wicked mean 2 me 3. another friend that i never see 4. my friend and she wants me 2 see her basketball. My boyfriend is starting his 2nd job in like 2 or 3 weeks and we won't see eachother much and its so hard because we are so close but my only chance 2 see him is on saturday. my friends game is on saturday and like 2 weeks ago i ditched her and didnt go. the friend thats mean wants 2 go 2 the mall or maybe movies i dunno wich yett and we would go wit other ppl and she would ignore me the whole time 100% sure she would and she wants 2 do that on saturday but i could always change it 2 sunday but then again im mad at her. the friend i never see i will see her next weekend and we are goin on a ski trip and are busy every single day so yeah. Who should i hang with? Oh and my friend that plays basketball will have plenty other games but no one i kno is goin 2 her game cept her and her really mean family. So my question to you is ... If you were in my place who would you go with? (link)
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i would go to my friend basketball game on saturday(you at least owe her that 4 ditchin her).hang out wit ma boyfriend on sunday(last time b4 he start his job).ditch the friend im mad at(wats the point of goin wit her when she will ignore you when you can be wit sum1 you have fun wit).and then next week i can hang wit my friend i never see(she'll have you all to herself to chill wit and ski).
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Okay, this is iffy. There's A and B. We're all girls in 9th grade. Last year, we were all good friends. But A started to be a scene and a total *beep* and B was just..uhg. So this year I'm pulling away from them.
There was this whole little drama abuot A "cutting" (which were little paper cuts) and B doing drugs. B stopped A from "cutting" but A tried drugs twice before saying she didn't like it. B is doing drugs...and I mean serious drugs. Apparently, A told B that she'd tell the counslor that B was doing drugs unless B stopped. Now B is mad because A said she was going to tell. And me, I'm stuck in the middle. Both of them come to me at random times saying "She said this and that!" and B is really snappy to people accusing them of being on A's side and A is getting "depressed" because her best friend is mad at her. And I'm still stuck in the middle for some reason. Both of them will get mad at me if I agree with the other or stay neutral, etc.
My question is how do I get ymself out? I've already told A to tell B "I'd rather lose a friendship than a friend" but I don'tt know how that went. And another thing...does B have the right to be so pissy at A? I mean, B did bring this upon herself. A is just looking out for B telling her she's making a big mistake. B brought this upon herself and she's blaming the consequences she brought upon herself on someone who's trying to help. I just want different points of view on this. Thanks (link)
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i think A tellin B she waz goin to a counslor was stupid cause B see it as A taken away wat makes her feel good.so if she really cared she would just straight up do it and i kno she waz tryin to protect her by tellin her wat she waz gonna do but B really takes it as a threat.i kno yall care 4 her but there's sum reason why she started doin drugs n yall need 2 find out wat that reason is.den try to help her.if dat don't work tell a counslor.if her problem ends up bein fixed then in the future she'll thank yall 4 not givin up on her and not touch drugs again.
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okay, well. i started a new school back in like, September. and I still dont' have many friends. I have a group of people i talk too and stuff, but i kind of want to make friends with other people too. I'm normally really shy and hate to start conversations. and i'm always afraid of messing up or embarrasing myself.
any tips on how not be shy? (link)
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1.don't be afraid to embrass yourself if you find yourself in a embrassin pradicament jus start laughin and make it seem like you did it on purpose laugh away your embrassment.
2.try hangin out wit da ppl you tlk 2 more often.
3.don't b afraid to b who you really r dats how their gonna end up lovin you 4 bein you.
4.have fun and don't stress it jus go wit da flow.
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ugh okay so im only 13 and i hate my life. like its not bad or anything but im always depressed and ive had a lot of stuff happen to me latly that i just cant handle and it doesnt take much to make me sad or mad and ive already tried to commit sucide but that didnt work and i want to run away so bad but i dont think i could go through with it and im just to confused as to wat to do becuz i dont wanna see a counserlour and i really dont think im depressed so i dont need to take any pills but is there something wrong with me and if so how can i fix it? this has been going on for way to long and i just want to give up and run away so bad (link)
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well runnin away from your problems don't ever make them better dey jus make them worst.i don't think anythin is wrong wit you jus need to find ways to stay active,happy,and take your mind off da bad and try to focus on da good dats wat im doin cause im goin through da same thing as you and i haven't been feelin dat bad since i joined my school swim team
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I've asked this before but let me clarify before getting more answers that won't help me that much. There's this girl, let's call her Jenny. Jenny and I were okay friends in 6th and 7th grade. At the end of 7th grade we were really good friends. But over the summer she did things that was hypocritical and such that got us to drift apart and we had a horrible history in 8th grade. Well there's this girl, let's call her Kelly. Kelly and I were good friends in 6th grade and half way through 7th grade, we were best friends. Well, me being stupid, I let Jenny get the better part of me which resulted me in breaking the friendship with Kelly. Jenny kept on saying how annoying and weird Kelly was. Now I wanted to be Jenny's friend although she had said pretty rude stuff about Kelly. (This is in the beginning of 7th grade) Jenny kept on ignoring Kelly and me whenever we were sitting together at lunch. She said that she didn't like her at all and made all theses faces when she came around, etc. Yes, the immature stupid stuff. So finally I just told Kelly that we couldn't be friends and that made KElly really sad and after a week I started to regret it everyday...and I still somehwat do. We're all in 9th grade now and Kelly and I are friends again...not good friends but just friends. Well, Kelly is using Jenny at lunch and basically at school whenever she didn't have anyone to hang out with...like she did in 6th grade with me. Kelly really thinks that Jenny is her friend but I never told her that Jenny criticized her, talked behind her back, and urged me to stop haning out with her. Kelly still doesn't know but I know that Kelly will either go through what I did with Jenny at the end or will just be used over and over again. I really want to tell Kelly the whole truth about everything but I don't want to come of sounding as if I was jealous or was just saying that to get back at Jenny for last year. I'm not into the direct confrontation thing. I am horrible at talking when it comes to matters like this. I don't know what to do and now I'm just questioning myself whether I'm really doing this just to get back at Jenny..what should I do? (link)
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you should talk to kelly and ask her wat wuld you do if sum1 you thought was your friend talked a whole bunch of crap and didn't like you before and see how she responds then tell her dat kinda happened wit jenny last year and dat your not doin it too be envious but to try and be a good friend and dat it took you so long to tell her cause you didn't kno how to
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One of my friends has decided that she wants to run away. She's tired of living with her abusive step dad. She's asked for me to help her go somewhere where nobody will find her, like out of state. We're both only 14... I don't know anything about what to do. She doesn't want me to tell anyone else. What should I say to her? I'm so scared for her! What on earth should I do? (link)
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relax a bit, but don't let her run away dat wil jus anger her father and he'll hunt her down and if he find her who knows wat he'll do to her so maybe you shuld tell your friend to go to the school guidance counselour or you can call a child abuse hotline so ppl can come see about your friend.if dey hear or see dat anything is wrong dey will take her to a foster home or to snother relative too live with.tell your friend running away won't solve anything but only make matters worst.
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I am seventeen and I met my best friend from doing plays together, we have alot in common, like we both like to sing and act. I have always liked my best friend as a brother but I am starting to develop feelings for him. He has always been feminine and people call him gay but I trust him when he says he's not. The problem is that everytime we get drunk he wants my brother. When he was drunk I asked him if he was gay and he said he wasnt and that he did like me but he liked my brother. I told him that I didnt understand that he wasnt gay and he started crying and said that he just wanted my brother when he is drinking and that is it and that he really does like me. He knows what he said and when he is sober he regrets saying it and still says he isnt gay. Because he is my best friend I am trying so hard to believe him but I dont know, he has to be gay. I dont know what to think but I dont want to continue are relationship if he is and I really dont want to loose him as a friend. I will still be his friend if he is gay but no his girlfriend, it doesnt change anything I mean I have other gay friends and I am ok with it. I dont even know what to think. What should I do? (link)
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mayb right now he's still a bit confused and tryin 2 figure out wat he likes but don't push him or force him 2 tell you wat you want or think is da truth if yall are really da best of friends he'll come to you when he made up his mind and is ready to talk
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i used to be the most awkward kid in my school, but i really really REALLY changed over the summer. and i'm starting to make friends with people so that's good, but the thing is everyone's already like best friends with each other, while i'm just an okay friend. so when all the best friends are together and the okay friend comes along, i'm kind of left out in the conversation (not really intentionally..it just happens). and i can't just force myself into it uninvited because, come on if you and your bff were talking and this random girl started intruding you'd be annoyed too right? so i'm not sure what to do, but i know i really really really need to find a good friend at school fast, because i feel as if i have no true friends at my school. =/ help!? (link)
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try to find sum1 dat can really undastand you. in every skool sumbody undastands sumbody den invite dem 2 your house or ask dem if dey want to hang out wit u sumtime start doin it alot but not too much so dey can undastand dat you think of dem as a cool/close friend.
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