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i used to be the most awkward kid in my school, but i really really REALLY changed over the summer. and i'm starting to make friends with people so that's good, but the thing is everyone's already like best friends with each other, while i'm just an okay friend. so when all the best friends are together and the okay friend comes along, i'm kind of left out in the conversation (not really intentionally..it just happens). and i can't just force myself into it uninvited because, come on if you and your bff were talking and this random girl started intruding you'd be annoyed too right? so i'm not sure what to do, but i know i really really really need to find a good friend at school fast, because i feel as if i have no true friends at my school. =/ help!?
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Gah, I know how that feels!
What I've tried doing is hanging with each person individually and getting to know them better and becoming closer and closer slowly but surely, and whenever you feel you can all hang out together with more people without being kicked out of the group, then do so.
And you CAN sort of nudge your way into the conversation, but just be careful how much you nudge so you DON'T seem annoying, then, because I've done it slyly before, and they've started many conversations with me without getting annoyed.
Just listen in on their conversation, and whenever they may say a joke to eachother, start a conversation up by asking them what that's about and maybe have them tell you the story behind it or something.
And then maybe even share with the other people a joke you and so-and-so had while you two were hanging out alone one time, so you can get a few chuckles out of people.
It'll take some work and time, but if you keep making sure you're getting to know the people around you no matter the situation, it should work out just fine.
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I hope I helped.
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try to find sum1 dat can really undastand you. in every skool sumbody undastands sumbody den invite dem 2 your house or ask dem if dey want to hang out wit u sumtime start doin it alot but not too much so dey can undastand dat you think of dem as a cool/close friend.
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Making friends can be more of a challenge when it seems as if everyone is separated into cliques with what seems like a set in stone arrangement of friends. However, the best thing to do right now is be friendly, be yourself, and don't try to hard to make a best friend. If you present yourself as a kind, interesting, and confident person, you are sure to make friends fast. Also, it may not be so bad to be a 'floater' right now. This allows you to be friends with many different people without feeling limited by a certain set of close friends. Give it time, and you will most likely be able to retain this wider group of friends as well as develop deeper friendships with a few of these people. Best of luck!
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