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Best Friend?? What Happened??
My best friend and I have been really close. We used to tell eachother anything and everything. We always stood up for eachother and we always taught eachother new things. Basically we were best best friends. She has a boyfriend which she has been going out with for over a year now. They are really good for eachother. They used to get into fights because she always flirted with other guys (majorly one time she gave 2 guys a shoulder rub for no reason) but he'd always come back and appologize. I always tried to help her with their problems and I hated when she was upset.
But a girl in school made up a rumor about me being a total flirt. I didn't really mind because all the guys were on my side BUT then my best friend (lets call her Nikki) started going along with it. She started agreeing with the girl and tormenting me about it. Months went by and slowly people forgot. Near Christmas time we bought best friend necklaces and I have never taken mine off.
After christmas break however she started the rumor up again. When I confronted Nikki about it she started yelling at me about how I flirt with this one guy (lets call him....James) all the time. I have liked James for months and he is the only guy who has ever really been there for me in almost everything. We fought but made up. The problem is she keeps bringing up the flirting topic all the time.
About 3 weeks ago I started noticing she always seemed mad at me. Her voice was snappy and she barely told me anything. She also made it her duty to try to get James to hate me along with every other guy. I also know she has talked to other girls and gotten many to look down at me. I have asked the guys and they say all I do is talk to them and I barely ever flirt. I have also asked some girls. She alwasy gets angry when im around the guys and especially when im around her boyfriend. Her boyfriend and I are really good friends and he also used to tell me everything about their relationship. He is also one of the only people im close with in half my classes so bottom line I talk to him quite a bit.
Lately she always makes me feel bad and tells me I cant stay away from the guys. The problem there is I have about....5 girl friends and about 20 guy friends. And ALL my girl friends have been staying inside for recess and i love recess so I go out. Also they are on the basketball team and I am not so many times Im forced to be with them. I have tried my best not to do anything that looks like flirting anymore and once publically humialted myself doing so. But everything I do seems to have no effect. She then says I do stuf for attention. Its driving me crazy and lately ive been crying almost everynight because of her.
I dont want to change for her but I feel as if I have to. I would rather have her as a best friend throughout high school then a boyfriend. I care about Nikki soo much. I really dont know what to do anymore. Its really hard for me.
About 4 days ago we sat beside eachother on the bus because we were forced to. The ride was pretty much silent except for two sentences. I turned to her and asked "Do you hate me?" and she replied "A little." those words hurt me so much. Then on the busride home out of nowhere she started yelling at me and telling me how horrible I was. She ended off saying "You have no idea how many people hate you" I have barely talked to her since. Ive been crying constantly. I try so hard to get us back but she keeps pushing me away. I dont understand it! What happened? What did I do? Please help!
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Ok...so obviously this girl is a brat. A similar situation was portayen upon my friend, Camille, and everyone started blaming her for flirting with ALL THE GUYS. Ok, so first of all, I hopy your name isn`t Camille and your last name doesn`t start with a C. ANYWAYS, what that rumor girl probably told Nikki is that you were flirting with her boyfriend because she wanted to get "Nikki" on her side. So sit down and talk to her about what is going on and what she has heard. DO NOT act desprate, even though you may think she may feel sorry for you and be a little easier on you- NO. That only works with stupid adults, like teachers. Don`t give this chick power over you like that- just ask her wtf is wrong and why she`s acting like that. If she doesn`t tell you just be all, "Fine. I`m a flirt. WOOOT!!!" And it sounds to me she`s really jelous of you because she probably doesn`t have as many guy friends and wants some. LBR is what i would call her (loser beyon repair) Just disreguard all the crap, even though it may hurt you, be strong and fight back!
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i say she's being a bitch for trusting the rumor that girl started about you.she's probably acting this way because she think your gonna try to flirt with her boyfriend to take him away from her,also she's trying to make everyone hate you because she do and she feel it's everybody's duty to feel the same way she soes about you.i think you should ignore nikki for about a week or two(when i say ignore i mean completly don't talk to her,don't look at her,and when she talks don't listen to her.i know this will hurt you but it's to make things better)then confront her and ask her what the hell is her problem tell her you did nothing wrong and that you demand for her to tell you why she started being such a bitch to her best best friend
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You said you have 5 other girl friends. Hang out with them. This girl's a bitch. Flirting is NO big deal. She flirts, other girls flirt. EVERYONE does it. If she's willing to throw away a friendship because of flirting, then she's a sketchy little bitch & she was never your friend anyway.
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