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i think i like a gay guy
I am seventeen and I met my best friend from doing plays together, we have alot in common, like we both like to sing and act. I have always liked my best friend as a brother but I am starting to develop feelings for him. He has always been feminine and people call him gay but I trust him when he says he's not. The problem is that everytime we get drunk he wants my brother. When he was drunk I asked him if he was gay and he said he wasnt and that he did like me but he liked my brother. I told him that I didnt understand that he wasnt gay and he started crying and said that he just wanted my brother when he is drinking and that is it and that he really does like me. He knows what he said and when he is sober he regrets saying it and still says he isnt gay. Because he is my best friend I am trying so hard to believe him but I dont know, he has to be gay. I dont know what to think but I dont want to continue are relationship if he is and I really dont want to loose him as a friend. I will still be his friend if he is gay but no his girlfriend, it doesnt change anything I mean I have other gay friends and I am ok with it. I dont even know what to think. What should I do?
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I am assuming that your friend is about 17, as well. At this age, it can be very confusing for many people as to thier sexual orientation. Especially when you are a boy involved in an industry that has become synonomous with homosexuality. It is possible that he is bisexual and struggling with this. It is also possible that he is gay and having a hard time coming to terms with this. It is also possible that he is straight and just confused. Right now, I think the best thing you can do for him is to just be supportive. I know you may have feelings for him, but you may have to put those aside for now. Try not to put too much pressure on him and just let him know that you are going to supportive no matter what. I'm sorry that I can't give you a more simple answer, but, as I'm sure you know, these things are never black and white. I'm glad that you are openminded. That will be a quality that will be invaluable to your friend as he tries to work out his sexuality. Hope I helped.
Love, Rainbow
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mayb right now he's still a bit confused and tryin 2 figure out wat he likes but don't push him or force him 2 tell you wat you want or think is da truth if yall are really da best of friends he'll come to you when he made up his mind and is ready to talk
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Okay, well he may just be bi, really feminine, or just confused. When people are drunk, we react to it in all different ways and his is in a awy where he wants a guy. He isn't necssarily gay ..he may be bi. He may know this and doesn't wnt to come out or he's confused about his orientation or he's in denial about his orientation, etc. Just don't force stuff on him and ask him if he's gay because that seems to hurt some people when they aren't..or don't wnt to come out..or just flat out is bi. Anyways, just chill and let him take him time.
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