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Hi, I am JenniferI am Korean- Japanese and proud.
I am a clingy person, so I need people who don't mind cling people.
I try very hard not to be judgemental.
I suck at waking up.
I have a two second attention span.
I laugh at the most corniest jokes and make them myself.
I have a lot of Jennifer moments. You have been warned.
I love being tan, so please get that suntan lotion away from me. :)
I can make a party animal look like a party pooper. :p
So, yeah, I'm just your average kind of girl... with a more than needed bit of craving for chocolate maybe? Yup... ♥
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Ok so I have a problem, well I love to write and my stories get published in a web site. I have peopl who tell me they love them and that I should continue but this one reviewer continually tells me my stories are horrible and that I am a loser and should stop writing and I will go no where in the future. What should I do? I tried to make her stop/fight back but this only result in her getting another friend of hers to tell me to stop writing and that I suck. Please help!
Oh, really? That's not right. But it's just a website, remember that. It's not like this person is going to haunt you in your dreams. It's not like you're going to meet her some day and she's going to make fun of you face-to-face.
I don't think you should take it seriously. Maybe your stories suck and maybe they don't. I don't know, but it's freedom of speech and everyone is allowed to tell their opinions and not get put down by it.
The right thing to do is to ignore it. And if your stories do suck, no big deal, you can improve, okay?
You know a lot of people don't mean everything in the Internet. People think it's funny when other's get mad or sad. For example, me and my friends go on dating sites and flirt, and when the guy asks for our pictures, we send pictures of old men wearing pigtails and tutus and say: Oh, this is me, I hope you don't mind that I'm a guy! I'm also a pedophile, is that a problem? Love ya.
And of course, we think that's funny, but I'm sure the guy gets mad that we're making fun of him, but he gets over it. Because Internet. Is. Not. Life.
You can't expect to get good reviews all the time, can you? Nobody is perfect.
-Jenni C ♥
And, hey, Caitlyn, sweetie.
My best friend who i have been ignoring for 3 days because of her telling me to fuck off for no pasific reason and generally being a moody cow towards me blaming it on her stomache condition which is apparently due to her hormones, even though she is fine with everyone else, its her birthday tomorrow and i dont no wether to talk to her or not just because its her birthday, i bought her a ticket to see my sister at uni which was quite expensive but she just dosnt seem to appreciate anything i do for her,i was considering asking someone else to go with me but now iv told her i have to let her come with me parents said so aswell. If i talk to her tomorow and tell her what her pressie is then shes basically just won and got her own way again, and i dont really want that, she will just do it again thinking i will forgive her again and again! Usually she twists everything around putting the balem on me so im the one always saying sorry, because she can never see that shes in the wrong which is incredibly annoying! She is acting really fake latly aswell putting on a inocent little girl voice and being all girlie and sweet towards guys...very annoying!!! I want to be able to just get on with her normally again but i dont want her to win this like she normally does.
That's what you call a total female dog. You know what I'd do? Even if my parents made me, I would lie to my parents telling them she couldn't come because for her B-day she's doing a family dinner thing and I'd take someone cooler. Seriously! You aren't wrong in this. Tell her: "Okay, I'm not even going to ask why you told me to Fuck off. But I'm just going to say this: Right back at you! You honestly think I need someone like you messing up my life? NO! Because I'm better than you. And DON'T blame it on your fat stomach that has a condition, okay? That's something YOU would be stupid enough to believe. No stomach condition makes someone give a total bitchy ass attitude to their BFFs, okay? Even if you're fat like you. If you're going to make something up to blame it on me, forget it, okay, I don't think this is my fault. I've done so much for you but you, being an airhead, you forget it! Hey , remember what I got for your b-day? Well I'm using it for someone else who's worth my time. Why should I give tickets to someone who I don't even like? but don't worry. So I got you something else for your birthday. My ass. So KISS IT!" Say something around. If you think it's too mean, take it make it sweeter, and if you think it's not mean enough, make it nastier. But I think you should say something like that. Don't just never say anything to her. You are better than her, and you should know it! And make sure she knows it too!
-Jenni C ♥
16/f...my best friend lately has been the cause of many arguments and fights between her, myself, and our other best friend (i'll refer to her as A). however, she doesn't realize this. instead she explains to me that, i don't ever stand up for myself and say anything to A.
for example, we have been off from school this whole past week, and it was suggested that we go to the mall on thursday, which i didn't know about (i had thought they suggested friday). so yesterday evening i go online, and my best friend is online (not A) and seems in a really bad mood when i start talking to her. she explains to me that A didn't call or text her all day about hanging out and never follows through with her plans and is mad. at first when A IMs her, my other friend does not respond to her. when she does, she mentions something about how she thought we were going to go to the mall. (A had actually gone to the mall with her sister)
so A is just like oh, whatever. which my other friend interprets as bitchy and starts going off on a rant (meanwhile, A is telling everything she is saying to me) and my other best friend is telling what A is saying to me also. so i'm stuck in the middle. which usually always happens.
apparently A must've exaggerated when telling the stuff my other friend said to me (and my other friend tells me later) so i said to my other best friend something like. omg this is so stupid, i don't want to get in a fight. (because i knew how my best friend gets, she's really like stubborn and defensive kinda, and won't give up until she gets her point across)
well then she like got all weird with me, and signed off, and i didn't speak to her until earlier today. i IMed her first, hoping she'd forgot what happened or got over it since it wasn't a big deal in the first place (that is what i thought anyway) and she was like, what are you just going to pretend like nothing happened? and since she always says i don't stand up for myself, i had to defend myself, and we got into this whole like debate. basically she is mad at me because i talked behind both her and A's back. which i didn't. all of us were exchanging to each other what they were telling each other. and she says it was alright because she actually tells A what she says behind her back. which may be true like 50% of the time, but still.
i have talked about her behind her back, but i'm sure they do the same about me. i'd rather not say anything, then do say something and risk my friendship with both of them. the 3 of us have been best friends since like elementary school. they're like sisters to me practically, and i can be my complete self with them. i don't know where i would be without them. but i don't understand why the one has to be so... aggressive or something. there's a difference between speaking your mind to get a point across and speaking your mind but in a process hurting other's feelings/starting fights. and then she said she was mad at me for accusing her of starting a fight. yet she accused ME of talking behind her back?
i'm just confused. was it wrong for me to "talk behind her back"? that is a very hypocritical statement for her to say. if i continue to talk to her about this, i know i won't win, and the only way to end the fight is to probably just say i'm sorry, or just not speak to her until i see her in school. but i don't even know what i'd be apologizing for. what should i do? i have the IM conversation, if this was hard to understand, give me your email or something and i will send it to you. it would probably make more sense. thank you for reading all of this if you did. sorry it was so long. thank you in advance!
First of all: You need to stop talking behind your friend's back. It doesn't matter if they do the same or worse, it's really complicates thing. Believe me, I almost lost all my friends just by talking behind their backs about things that are 1000x worse than talking about people.
Second of all: I'm totally on your side with this. You want to defend yourself, but at the same time you don't want to, right? Tell your friend (the one that's not A, can we call her B?): "Okay, B, I don't want to fight. I really don't. But it's just that I don't see how what A did to you is such a big deal. You're acting like she stole money from you or something! And I know I talk behind people's back, I'm sorry for that, but I'm not sorry for telling you that you start fights. Because that's true. I'm not going to stop talking behind all your backs if you guys don't learn how to get along. Seriously, all A did was break plans? What's the problem? And I'm really tired of you guys trying to make me choose a side okay. If I want to pretend nothing is happening, it's because I don't want to take a side. Why is that so much to ask for? It's not like taking a side will help. It'll make it worse. I'm trying to keep you guys as friends but you two are making it really hard. Especially you, B! Okay, I'm really sick and tired of standing and just taking everything, and not standing up for myself. I've done that way too much and it's not working. We;ve been BFFs so long and you're starting this shit to risk losing that friendship over plans to go to the mall? How overdramatic is that? Much! Okay, I'm really trying not to lose my temper but you're pushing it. It's not a big deal. I was never part of the fight anyway, so why do I have to choose which sides? Truthfully I think both of you are wrong and need to get over yourselves! You're pushing me into fighting when I don't want to like your drafting me in to World War 3 or something! That's unfair, you know that?"
PLEASE stand up for yourself! You seem like a good friend and it really sounds like these two friends don't deserve you at all!
14/f ok so there's this new girl, theresa, right? shes really cool & everything & we hang out a lot. but like she doesnt like one of my friends, sarah. but sarah is like all over theresa it almost looks like she wants to like marry her or something (not really, but you know what i mean) but i dont tell sarah that theresa hates her. theresa told me to but i won't, it's too mean. & theresa & sarah & me sits on the same lunch table since we're friends & then theresa goes to sarah, "ok, stop trying to impress me you are WAYY too annoying i really don't like you. you think you're cool but you're a loser." then she goes, "cmon hailey, let's go, " (im hailey- not giving out real names some people from school go here so) & i follow her to another lunch table. sarah & theresa wants me to choose sides. please if you're going say, "Don't choose a side, be neutral" that's sort of obvious & it's also obvious it's NOT GOING TO WORK! Just tell whose side it is better to be on. theresa is a little harsh & bitchy but its true that sarah thinks she's all that, so i don't know??
theresa all the way!
I have like the same problem in school. Actually I was the Theresa. Let me guess: Sarah is conceited, thinks she could get any guy, show offy, yet desperate for friends && guys? I bet she ignored you to get to Theresa at one point. I did the same exact thing Theresa did. Seriously she kept inviting me EVERYWHERE. "Sarah" was choking me. I also bet she went around telling everyone how she && Theresa are BFFs? Right? If I'm right, ditch this Sarah because she's not right for you. If this Theresa is like me (which by the looks of it sounds like she is) then she would be a good friend
I have a few best friends who i know are kind of my "true blue." ya know ? well anyways - theres this other girl and she thinks she's our bff but shes not. she's always buying us presents and trying to impress us, but we're not those kind of people. we love each other for who we are, and shes just trying way too hard and being fake. she's really annoying and won't stop talking to you until you give her the answer she wants. shes a princess at home, but not well liked at school because of her annoying antics. sometimes she'll come out shopping or something, and honsetly, i want to rip my hair out because she just never shuts up.
she means well, but shes just INCREDIBLY annoying and tries way too hard. how do i let her know that enough is enough? i want to be able to tell her to "shut up" but obviously not in those exact words. she just needs to back off a little .
thanks so much loves. ill rate :]
I totally know those kind of people. You run into those at least a million times in your school life, seriously. There's this new girl in our school, and when I got into a fight, she's all, "I'll back you up, girl, I'm from Brooklyn, I'll break the bitch that messes with you!" I'm just like, ""Uh, yea, right!" and she can't fight for her life, or flirt... seriously!
Anyway, sorry, I don't mean to babble about myself. If she like buys you something, this is what you do: you and her friend pretend you don't know she's looking, but you give the something to your friend and go, "I don't want this that loser gave it to me, so you want it?" and have your friend say, "ew, no!" and then you both giggle and throw it out, right in front of this girl's face, but pretend you don't notice her.
then when she talks on and on and on about something you don't care, just interrupt her, "ANYWAY, about more important things-," and talk, or just turn away and talk to someone else while she's talking.
If she sits with you at lunch, get people to fill in the lunch table so she won't be able to sit. If she pulls up another chair, take up space, so she'll feel left out.
Trust me, I've done this before, it works! But if you think it's too mean, that's alright, I get it, then just ignore her and not listen to her. Or tell her the truth. That's the best I can tell you!
Hope it works out!
-Jenni C ♥
13/f
Well, I'm one of those stupid nerdy kids who are obsessed with Japan and anime stuff, so call me anything you like, but I am stuck. Just this year is when my interest began. Well, my best friend hates me now that I like this stuff. She sent me angry emails telling me I am foolish and have no idea what I am speaking of... She hates that I am interested in anime, Japan, making more friends, like perverted things, lemons and other things as such. I don't understand. Why would she be angry at me for this? Well, I asked her and she told me I used to be happy, which I couldn't help but laugh at. Yes, I did get passing grades in 6th grade, but I was depressed. VERY. I tried to shove everyone out of my life. She must think this is happiness because that is what she said. Well, now. I'm actually happy! I run around shouting like a stupid nerd. I act like I'm 7-years-old. I am happy, but she hates this. Why does she hate that I am happy? I tried to ask her, but she shoves me away by deleting my emails and telling me to shut up and ignoring me. Why does she hate me because I am different? It makes me a little angry that she hates my interests. She wants me to be like her. She wants me to be depressed. And, if she happens to be reading this. I want to tell her I'm sorry I'm not her... Please help somebody. Give me advice, but please do not make me change myself. I like being happy...! Thank you.
that is messed up! puh-lease! you know how hot japan is right now? tokyo is japan's nyc, man, everyone wants to go there it's like paris, london, and barcelona! && hello? some anime is rated r (& not porn!), last i checked that's for adults!
if she hates that you're being happy, what is her problem? this has nothing to do with you being "nerdy" and everything to do with what a bitch she is! she just wants to be popular, you don't know how many girls deal with bitches like her, youre not the only one! when i was 13, we used to have our own "clique" sort of, right? and then this new girl who was left back came in the picture, and decided i was cool enough. everyone ignored me? guess what: i made new friends and they all came running back to me.
you don't need this stupid friend to drag you down. you are wayyy better than her because you can be yourself and you aren't looking for popularity. she needs to get a reality check, she's the loser! ditch her and see how she feels about that!
if she goes up to you && asks, "are you mad at me?" or "why are you ignoring me?" go, "i thought you were too cool for me. i like anime and everything, remember, im that 'foolish, immature' girl? you don't like me, i don't like you. i think i deserve an apology." don't back down. she's not worth it.
if she ignores you rite back, then fine! she's not rite for you! totally! you can do so much better. seriously i'd be your friend! && you're happy now, stay happy, don't let her take u back to your depressed 6th grade state, are you serious? she's a bitch!
you'll make new friends, it's not as hard as it seems. don't let this bitch do anything to you.
if she apologizes and you guys make up just don\'t talk about the stuff she doesn't like with her but talk about it with others who share your interest. seriously, you aren't the only 1 in love with anime!
xoxox
-jenni c ♥
There's this girl Stacey. I went to elementary school with her and in like 4th grade we were friends and talked on AIM. not really good friends cause she always seemed kind of cold. So now we are in 7th grade and we never talk, and I have never done ANYTHING mean to her. I don't even talk with her. Wait, actually, in like 3rd or fourth grade maybe we got into some stupid little kid fight. well she isn't on my softball team but one day she came to help. Well I was at softball practice. I'm standing there, just watching the other girls cause we had a break and stacey was with us, stacey whispers to her friends., but she does a really bad job of it because I hear hear "See that girl, I HATE that girl alyssa." Oh my god, I just wanted to scream "can you TELL ME WHY YOU HATE ME?" (oh btw I kNOW SHE WAS talkING ABout ME cause I was the only other one in the dugout besides her 2 friends!!!) And her two friends nod like all knowingly, and i'm like wtf first of all, one friend hardly knows me, and her second friend is usually nice to me! Well stacey is overall a bitch and is usually only nice to girls in her "group", but she isn't MEAN LIKE THAT for no reason!! Does anyone know why she would say this?
Wow. What a bitch. You have to deal with at least ten hundreds of those in your life.
First of all, don't ask us why she'd say it. Ask her. You have to confront her. Tell her, "I heard you talking about me and I don't want to start anything, but I'd like you to say it to my face. I'll return you the favor. Why do you hate me? If you don't have a reason, I suggest you back off and keep your mouth shut about me." Usually, those kind of girls don't have guts. If her group starts defending her, tell them, "I was talking to Stacey. I could care less about what you guys have to say. Are you her bodyguards or something? Doesn't she have any guts of her own?"
You can take it and make it a little sweeter, if you thought my words were going to ask for TOO MUCH trouble. It's fine.
If you don't want to confront her, I suggest you just ignore her. She wants you to think she's all high and mighty. Porbably having a grudge about something stupid. Just being a drama queen. You could care less about her, so act like it. Don't worry about it.
Have a happy Valentine's Day!
xoxo
-Jenny C ♥
OK, so i have known this girl since 5th grade (im in 9th by the way) and we became best friends in the past two years. lateley shes been getting on my LAST nerve. Usually we help eachother out with problems, or just talk like best friends do, but lateley all she wants to talk about is herself. shes obsessing over guys and everytime i see her she alwasys talks to me about that and only that. when i ask her to help me out with something she says *ANYWAY* and goes on talking about her boy problems. ussually she likes a new one evry week. i tried helping her through them, at first i thought it was a phase but its been 4 months. geez i feel that one day im going to explode and just say SHUT UP ALREADY> its not that i dont wanna help her its just that her boy problems are so immature! something like OMG HE LOOKED AT ME< WHAT DOES THAT MEAN> HE LIKES ME RIGHT> HE LOOKED AT ME SO HE HAS TO LIKE ME!!! its sooo annoying, help me, i really want her to go back to her old self when the talking was 50-50. i just cant talk to her about this because she is uber sensitive about boys so i cant say SHUT UP IT DOESNT MEAN ANYTHING> i try to be there for her, but ugh...idk i cant take it anymore.
Wow. She's sensitive? And selfish? Impossible combo. If she was sensitive she would've helped you out.
I've dealt with A LOT of people like this. Be truthful is what you have to do. She doesn't seem like a good friend... so don't be one to her. I know the whole "two wrongs don't make a right" thing, but seriously, what else do you do?
The next time she's blabbering about a guy, go "Umm... no offense, but he doesn't look like he cares. Really. Actually, it's kind of obvious. And, I have something else to tell you, you've been a total conceited person the past 4 monhths., I've tried to put up with you, but all you do is talk about YOURSELF. And you don't care that I don't care," and explain the problem. If she breaks down crying, ask out loud, "Hmm, my best friend is crying. Should I help her out like she'd never do anymore? Or should I just blabber about myself?" ...Or comfort her. Up to you. But while you do, you have to go sonmething, "I didn't mean to make you cry, but you really are self-centered."
If she gets mad, then leave her. She's the one who needs someone to talk to. Go, "Bye! Hope you have a friend that'll listen to your endless guy problems with! Okay?" Act like you don't care. Or just stay silent and ignore her for the rest of the day. Do NOT go after her and go, "Wait. I'm sorry. I didn't mean it." because then she'll think that she's worth all the trouble. And she's not. You deserve better.
Have a Happy Valentine's Day!
xoxo
-Jenny C
okay so my best friend [ashley] and this other girl from her school [that i know] got in a "fight" & now they telling me to talk to the other person with their words. i always have to be this kind of person with ashley. im always stuck in the middle of these kind of situations with her. and sometimes i agree with the opposite person. but i dont want to make her feel that *I* dont want to be her friend.
omg
HELP
should i tell whats the truth even though it might mess up our four years of being best friends and should i try to stay out of the situation even though it might give the impression that i dont want to help?
You know the right thing to do. It's to stay out of it. Don't give her your opinion on who you think is right or wrong. It's not your business. Tell your friend that you don't want to be in this mess anymore. You're tired of being dragged into messes she gets into. Tell her to deal with her own problems and that you have plenty of your own, including this problem.
If she makes a big deal out of it and go, "you're supposed to be my friend! you should help me!" Tell her, "And aren't you supposed to be my friend? Is a friend a person who forces her friends into situations that you weren't a part of in the first place? Because that's the kind of friend you're being." If she doesn't understand, then she's not worth having a friendship with. I'm sure you have other friends.
xoxo
-Jenny C ♥
this kid, who i used to be best friends with, but then this thing happened & so i figured he hated me [because he blocked me for one] so i didnt talk to him anymore. [but i kinda turned him down, to like him.. is that maybe why...] anyways, i switched schools & now go to his school. & people told me he was excited i was coming. & i was like .. oh great, he'll probably pick on me.. so then anyways, when i get there, about 7 or 8 people asked me if i knew him, if they remember that i dated him, if i was still his girlfriend, & what i thought about him.
when i saw him, all of his friends were like "no way!" & staring at me. & stuff. i didnt really get what that meant..
what was happening therE?
Wait for this guy to make a move (positive or negative) so you can see if he likes you (just friends or more?) or not (enemies?)
DO NOT go after him. Don't be the one to talk to him first. This guy might ignore you. He might enjoy having you chase after him. Make HIM come to YOU. So if people asked those questions, just say, "Before we were together. I don't know now."
If he was actually excited for you to come like you heard, it's probably a good thing and he'll most likely approach you if he has the guts.
If he doesn't make a move, show him you want to fix things. Smile sweetly, a polite kind of smile that you would give to a teacher. If you give a bright smile, it'll send the message that you're flirting and maybe he won't want that. Show him you want to at least be friends.
xoxo
-Jenny C ♥
Our class is getting ready for a spring trip to New York and today we picked the people we are rooming with. This girl I know, we'll call her Lucy, is one of the people I am rooming with. I used to be really close with her, but then we stopped talking. We starting hanging out again just this year. We signed up to room together with another one of my friends. Later, I find out that Lucy said I was annoying and she doesn't want to room with me because I'm "annoying," even though she has been acting like my friend the entire year. I think she's being very immature and two-faced. I want to confront her about this, but I don't want to get carried away and become immature myself. How can I talk to her about this rationally? Would it be reasonable to just blow her off and room with someone else and leave her all alone?
Oooh, if there's one thing I know about, it's bitches. And you're dealing with one (there was no need to mention that, sorry, since you probably knew that already). Of course you confront her! She'll be a very easy person to combat, as all two-faced people are. You have to face this girl and say, "I heard you called me annoying behind my back, and it surprised me because you were acting all sweet with me, and you're calling me annoying? Don't deny it, because it'll only show me you're a coward. Well, I'd like you to tell me your opinion in my face, and I'll return you the favor. Unles you're afraid to. In that case, just don't say anything at all." Don't go to another room. This way she'll spend the trip silently being frightened by you, as you hang with your friends.
If you don't want to be like that, just talk to her calmly about it. Tell her you heard you heard that you said bad stuff about you behind your back, and that you'd like for her to just leave you alone. But be firm about it, don't be a softie and go, "Just don't do it again, okay?" because you have to show her that you won't stand for it. Then change rooms so you won't have to deal with Lucy.
xoxo
-Jenny C ♥
i have a bigg crush on one of my good friends brothers. she knows, and she swears she doesnt mind, but i think she does. should i go for it with him, or lay off and respect the relationship i have with my friend?
thanks!
Talk to her. Don't make it awkward, like pulling her into the girl's bathroom and start privately talking about it. It'll create an uncomfortable chatting place. Pass notes to her about it or slip a letter in her locker, saying something similar to this in your own words:
"Okay, I know you said that you don't mind about my crush on your brother and I don't want to annoy you about it, but I have a feeling you do. Please be honest with me because I'm your friend and I really don't want to dump our friendship over a guy. Tell me the truth."
If it turns out she really actually doesn't, then go for it. Flirt with her brother and do whatever you want with him...
But of course, if she does, well, friends before crushes. You adore your crush, but you love your friend (or, at least, your supposed to) so respect her feelings and try to get over the guy. Move on. I know it'll be hard, even though I'm making it sound simple, but there wasn't a relationship blooming yet, so stop your emotions before your hormones get it to.
XOXO
-Jenny C ♥
Im 13\f i reallyyyy like this guy and i havnt meet anyone like him before. two of my best friends like him to i was okay with it because me and him talk everyday and i didnt think that he would just like forgett about me because he seems like he likes me. then he said one of my friends was pretty and nice and he was going to ask her out. i started crying and i told her that i didnt want her to because it was weird since i like him. and she got all mad at me because i was jelous but i knew him first and stuff but i dont wanna ask him out cuz it would ruin our friendship.
I REALLY NEED HELP!!! i cant take it anymore.
thanks
I think you're being unfair to your friend. She liked this guy as much as you liked him, and her crush asked her out, so you should be happy for her. I know you're upset about it, but how would you feel? If this guy asked you out, and a friend told you not to go out with him because she likes him too, wouldn't that be a disloyal friend? It's wrong for you to do that.
It's awful that you've known him longer and everything but he chose to ask another girl, but I don't think you should get in the way of your friend's relationship with this guy. Slowly get over it. You'll get a chance with another boy. You're only 13. Love isn't a big thing to worry about yet. Take a deep breath, and move on.
Hope I've helped
-Jenny C
I want to hang out with my friends more but every time I ask. No one will answer if they want to hang out.
I tried asking people but they say they are busy or something because of school and that we would hang out sometime later. Sometimes we do but usually we don't.
So it's break and I would love to get out... but what do I do?
I've been asking people for 3 days already and nobody will answer me.
Is something wrong with me? I didn't think I need anything wrong..
They said they should start acting more like friends but it hasn't happened.
Should I just give up and spend my days alone..?
Awww. Don't give up.
Be outgoing and get new friends. Talk to those 'friends' of yours in AIM and tell them anytime they could hang out, call you or something. If they call you back, they're real friends and they actually were busy, if they don't, well, either they forgot or they just don't want to hang with you.
Hang out with the ones that call back. Be friendly and fun so you'll be more wanted. Go to a lot of school dances to make new friends. Join clubs. Talk more. It really helps to make new friends that actually want to go out with you to places, like the movie theater or something.
Hope I've helped
-Jenny C
I have this really good friend, Mary, and her "supposeidly" best freind is Kate. Well whenever Kate can't hang out or leaves a party early ors eomthing Mary is always like "I just feel really bad for Kate." And maybe she does and all but Mary says she feels bad for Kate like twice a day-no joke. The sad thing is, Kate doesn't give a crap about Mary. She never includes Mary when Mary gets Kate invited everywhere she goes. I am kind of fed up with is cause they say they are best freinds when really Kate doesn't even care for Mary. I don't know if I should talk to Mary cause Kate is her best freind... but what should I do?
Well... it depends on why Mary feels bad for Kate. If Kate's parents divorced or her sister died or something seriously depressing happened, then it's not wrong for Mary to have sympathy for her. Maybe May just wants Kate to feel better, but Kate just doesn't want to be friends with Mary. Leave them alone.
If the reason Mary feels sorry for Kate is for almost no reason, like if her crush just likes someone else, or something, then ask Mary why it's such a big of a deal enough for her to feel THAT sorry for. Talk to Mary: Why do you like Kate so much? Do you know that she's had those parties, excluding you? Do you notice that she doesn't treat you the way you treat her?
Try not be so harsh or anything. Tell her you just want to know what's so great about Kate if she doesn't even care about Mary.
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-Jenny C
OK so, all of a sudden I feel hated by like everyone. I can't stand it, I feel like I'm not wanted [anywhere] anymore. Not even at home! Does anybody have a reason to this? .. Some comforting advice? ...
-Thanks
Aww, don't be like that.
If your parents didn't love you, they wouldn't pay for the electricit bills that come from you playing the compiter. They wouldn't buy food for you for you to live on. They'd dump you in an adoptation center if they didn't love you. So don't be so down.
Your sisters or brothers (if you have any) love you too. They just might not show it... for some reason. But they do love you.
Spend some more time with your family and friends. If your younger sister or brother is struggling through homework, help them. If your older brother or sister plays sports at school, cheer for them at their games. Throw a sleepover party, and invite all your friends. Watch comedy films with lots of laughs so you'll feel closer together.
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-Jenny C
Ok, to make this really short, I'm becoming the third wheel in my frienship. My best friend recently started dating one of our other guy friends. We used to all hang out, us a other people too, but now its just me, her and her boyfriend and I feel as though I'm becoming the third wheel. What can I do about this?
You said she've become a girlfriends of ONE of your guy friends, right? Why not hang out with your guy friends?
If you really want to hang out with your female best friend, then tell her about this. Tell her you're really happy about the relationship she has with whoever, but tell her you're paying too much attention to him than you. You feel left out, so tell her. Remind your friend that you don't want to get in between her and _____, but you feel like you've been pushed out of her life.
Arrange 'girl-time' for you two. Discover new hair styles and have a sleepover or something!
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-Jenny C
my friend gave me a bracelt by mariah carey that cost about 12 bucks and it was okay but i didn't like it that much. she gave our other frined a chain that said best and then she has the friends but it cost 3 bucks i think. i was mad beause of it. i didn't care how much it cost, i liked the best frinds thing because we have been frinds longer and it was impoetant to me that she told me she apprciated it.i ddin't care about the cost.my best best freind hurt me by just ignoring me and like kind of abandoning me without no explanation because she gose to a new school. and i am uptight about me other best freind. maybe i am being to mean. it's x-mas.now she is mad andis complaining about me being mean and i wore the gift and evrything but i got fed up and gave it back.was a wrong in the situation?
I believe you overreacted in the situation, but I understand why you would be mad about it. Like, you've been best friends with her for such a long time, but she gives a best friend bracelet to another girl?! Ouch!
But look at it this way: she wasted 12 dollars on a gift that you didn't appreciate just because one that cost 3 dollars meant more to you. Your friend used more of her money for you, because she wanted so badly to get a present that you'd like. Apologize, and tell her you were grateful for her gift and that you'd like it back. Just explain how you felt about the best friend bracelet thing, and I'm sure you;d be fine.
-Jenny C
Ok, so there is this guy i like and i think that he might like me back but im not sure. we wil call him bill. But overall i wanted to keep my crush on bill a secret but i did tell a few friends. lately the word that i liked him spread all over school and i asked one of the girls who asked me if i like bob who she heard it from. She said she heard it from "Roy" bills best friend and "lila" the girl Bill supposedly likes as well. I confronted Lila and she said she wouldnt do that and she never even heard that rumor and she thinks that it was one of my good friends "paula".But she never heard her say it. I cant sort of see paula doin this but not really...heck i dont know. Im friends with lila too but not as good as friends with her as i am with paula. who started it? and do i even trust the case of he says she says? Should i confront Roy?
I think you should confront Roy. And the way I see it, Lila seems to be distrustful. She is supposedly the girl Bill likes right? Maybe she likes Bill too? So she tried to get you away from him by spreading a rumor. That's what I guess. I don't believe Paula really has anything to do with the situation.
But don't trust anyone with a secret for a while until you're sure... Peopl have big mouths these days...
-Jenny C
Ok, i'm normally one to give advice, and it'e driving me insane, because i'm stuck in this situationand i feel as if i'm cornered. This guy i've liked for a good couple of months now, just started really talking to him this week and last week and a little from the week before. But we just now really started getting into deeper conversations. I really like him he's sweet, considerate, and never ditches me for his other guy friends. He talks to me and yesterday when he was driving me home, we talked and I felt like I was in heaven. But he talks to me about this one girl he wants to ask out.... yes it totally crashes my moment. And he tells me that he doesn't know if he wants to go out with her or not because he dumped his last GF a few weeks ago and his ex is best friends with the girl he wants to go out. So I feel pretty evil for wanting to do this but I want to make it so he goes out with me instead of the girl he keeps wanting to ask out. When I flirt with him he flirts back and we just have a great time talking and just talk for hours. What are things I could do to maybe catch his attention more? Anything that I can do to maybe make it so he'll be more interested in me?
I want to make a bold move but not something too bold that might scare him away but enough of a bold move to be like hey look at me i'm interested...
-Thank you so much, advice is needed now because i'm seeing him tomarrow and the only time i'm gonna be on the computer is for only andother 2 hours. THANK YOU SO MUCH!!!
-Very interested
Maybe... just maybe... this might sound crazy but... maybe this guy is only saying he likes a girl because he wants to see if you like him. He flirts back when you flirt with him, right? That is just so cute! Looks like you guys would make a perfect couple!
Give very little hints about you liking him.Not flirting, but next time he talks about that friend of his ex-girlfriend, go, "I don't think she'll be right for you."
If he goes, "Who do you think is right for me?" It's a hint he likes you! Go for it!
If he goes, "Why?" It could mean he likes you or that other girl... it depends how he says it. If he says it in an hurt way, it means, unfortunately, he likes the girl... but if he says it in a sly, playful way, he's probably really meaning to say, "Why? Are you jealous?" or something.
If it turns out he doesn't like you, don't be disappointed. There are more than a million boys in the world, you know? And life probably has so much more in store for you. =)
Hope it works out
-Jenny C