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Broken Friendship over stupidity.
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Well, I'm one of those stupid nerdy kids who are obsessed with Japan and anime stuff, so call me anything you like, but I am stuck. Just this year is when my interest began. Well, my best friend hates me now that I like this stuff. She sent me angry emails telling me I am foolish and have no idea what I am speaking of... She hates that I am interested in anime, Japan, making more friends, like perverted things, lemons and other things as such. I don't understand. Why would she be angry at me for this? Well, I asked her and she told me I used to be happy, which I couldn't help but laugh at. Yes, I did get passing grades in 6th grade, but I was depressed. VERY. I tried to shove everyone out of my life. She must think this is happiness because that is what she said. Well, now. I'm actually happy! I run around shouting like a stupid nerd. I act like I'm 7-years-old. I am happy, but she hates this. Why does she hate that I am happy? I tried to ask her, but she shoves me away by deleting my emails and telling me to shut up and ignoring me. Why does she hate me because I am different? It makes me a little angry that she hates my interests. She wants me to be like her. She wants me to be depressed. And, if she happens to be reading this. I want to tell her I'm sorry I'm not her... Please help somebody. Give me advice, but please do not make me change myself. I like being happy...! Thank you.
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Society often teaches us that to be a good person we have to act a certain way. Words often used to describe this can be such as "poised" "classy", whatever, you get the picture. I have a feeling your friend has fallen victim to this way of thought, you know, the whole "Nerdy people can't be happy!! Weird people aren't cool!!!"
Let me tell you now, that all this is bullshit. It makes people feel superior to others when they have some level of "class", but they never learn to be themselves, never learn to be down to earth and accepting of all different people, and not just the ones that fit a certain definition.
Seems like your friend is plain uncomfortable with the change. You're different now, she may want her "old" friend back, she may feel uncomfortable about how you're acting.
But this doesn't mean you have to change. Not at all. You've grown apart, and that's perfectly fine. Explain to this "friend" that you like the way you are now, that you're happy, so if she's worried about this then she shouldn't be. Tell her that you don't appreciate her rudeness about your liking of lemons and anime, so you'd like her to stop being angry. Then, you either ignore her when she's being narrow-minded, or you slowly spend less and less time with her, tell her not to send you rude emails, and hang out with your friends that actually appreciate you.
Don't worry, as hard as it is, friends do come and go, simply because people go through many, many changes in life. Most friends should accept that you're not like them, and, if they are real friends, they'll like you for who you are, not what you are. Chin up, go call your anime-lovin friends, and forget about whoever is too dumb to believe in originality.
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You find out who your true friends are through personal growth. If your friends don't understand you or refuse to accept you, they aren't worth the time. I know it is hard to lose a friend over this, but is she really worth changing who you are? Don't sweat it, you will find new friends who share the same interests and love you for who you are. Good luck! ;)
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you admit that you have changed, and its possible now that you just annoy her now. but giving that she sends you angry e-mails and says things intended to hurt you i doubt that is the case.
if anything, she is miserable - and misery loves company. she probably liked having somebody to relate to but now since you have spread your wings she is intiminated and wants to tear you down.
fact is, if she was a good friend she would want you to be happy, instead of constantly tearing you down and making you feel bad about the life you choose o lead. You don't need people like that in your life so my advice is, stop trying to save a friendship that is toxic for you. move on, and wish her the best.
good luck <3
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that is messed up! puh-lease! you know how hot japan is right now? tokyo is japan's nyc, man, everyone wants to go there it's like paris, london, and barcelona! && hello? some anime is rated r (& not porn!), last i checked that's for adults!
if she hates that you're being happy, what is her problem? this has nothing to do with you being "nerdy" and everything to do with what a bitch she is! she just wants to be popular, you don't know how many girls deal with bitches like her, youre not the only one! when i was 13, we used to have our own "clique" sort of, right? and then this new girl who was left back came in the picture, and decided i was cool enough. everyone ignored me? guess what: i made new friends and they all came running back to me.
you don't need this stupid friend to drag you down. you are wayyy better than her because you can be yourself and you aren't looking for popularity. she needs to get a reality check, she's the loser! ditch her and see how she feels about that!
if she goes up to you && asks, "are you mad at me?" or "why are you ignoring me?" go, "i thought you were too cool for me. i like anime and everything, remember, im that 'foolish, immature' girl? you don't like me, i don't like you. i think i deserve an apology." don't back down. she's not worth it.
if she ignores you rite back, then fine! she's not rite for you! totally! you can do so much better. seriously i'd be your friend! && you're happy now, stay happy, don't let her take u back to your depressed 6th grade state, are you serious? she's a bitch!
you'll make new friends, it's not as hard as it seems. don't let this bitch do anything to you.
if she apologizes and you guys make up just don't talk about the stuff she doesn't like with her but talk about it with others who share your interest. seriously, you aren't the only 1 in love with anime!
xoxox
-jenni c ♥
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