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some guys tend to think im annoying-so how can i not be? and what do they consider annoying? some girls do too but more so guys. i have lots of friends but i was just wondering. thanks :)
Well for every person theres going to variation of what they consider annoying.
Like for me, what I consider annoying is a person who asks alot of questions, or a person who says LIKE alot; or just an annoying voice.
But if thats you, thats just a part of who you are and THATS YOU. Ex: If you're a person to ask alot of questions,then thats just apart of who you are, and you do like to know things or have some good information.
Ex: If you have an assignment, then you ask some questions.
Advantage: You'll get some good information.
Some people may get angry that you had asked alot of questions. But at least you won't be confused, the more you know, the faster you go.
It varies on what people consider annoying.
There is probably some stuff you consider annoying too, but for some people its not considered annoying. So you just be who you are, and don't change. If people say your'e annoying, ignore them.
ok so i am in the 2nd semester of my freshmen year in high school... i Right now i am very shy and am not making too many new friends i think it might be because i dont feel comfortable with my appearance so i am looking foward to sophmore year because inevitably there will be new kids who dont know me in my classes.. i want to reinvent myself and lokk really good next year and be more outgoing. i am afraid that no one will be willing to see me differently Do you think that reinventing myself will work or peoples opinions are set in stone?
Well you're still in your 1st year of highschool, so you have plenty of time to define who EXACTLY you are. When you're in you're early years of age, people run around with diffrent kinds of groups. That's because they really haven't figured out who they really are yet. So to find yourself, you may have to do a little searching for awhile. Like the person below me said, Highschool is the years to find yourself, and you really get to know who and and what kind of person you are. So it is okay to reinvent yourself, just make sure its something YOU'RE comfortable with, NOT what you THINK everybody else would consider comfortable. Don't EVER change the person who you ALREADY are to satisfy other people. Just be who you are. You can re-invent yourself by changing your looks or clothing style but justify that is what makes you you, not somebody else.
By I'd say maybe mid- junior yr. to senior yr. thats when you really figure out who you are. You have individuality. And thats when you find out who are really your TRUE FRIENDS. No one will be WILLING for you to do anything, but people CAN tell if you change, others may not say it to you but they will notice the diffrence, if you change about who you are to other people. All I can say is that, it's okay to re-invent yourself, just make sure its really you and what YOU want, not EVERYBODY else. :)
I started Middle school this fall. I made a lot of friends this year. My best friend and I are in the same lunch and she keeps giving off this vibe that she is angry with me. Z (my bff) and I haven't fought at all this year and I didn't spread any rumors or snub her or anything, but she seems mad at me. Neither of us are part of the "in" crowd, though we have friends in it. We sit at the same lunch table, but she barely speaks to me. We used to be really close. Sorry for the length, but any advice would be greatly appreciated!
If you know you didn't do anything wrong, then I wouldn't worry about it that much. Just ask her if she's mad at you or something, it can really help you out alot if you just ask, it can take the weight and the tension of your back. Just ask at least you know whether or not she's mad at you. Try asking her something like this : What's up with you, we haven't talked in awhile?, hope I helped. :)
I have a really good guy friend. I like him as more than a friend. He has a girlfriend. Me and him have been hanging out a lot, but the other day I was in a bad mood, and he didn't do anything wrong(actually, he was being amazingly sweet), but I guess I was stressed out about a lot of stuff, and I was tired of watching him be with another girl, so I said some mean things to him, and yet he was still nice, and then I got meaner. Then he kinda ignored me. Now we talked a little, and he says he's nit mad, but he's not talking to me much, and he doesn't seem to care about me like he did. I think he's still mad and I want to make it up to him. A friend thought New Years would be a good time for all of us to get together and have fun again.
Wow. Your story was amazingly ALOT similar to mine, but mine happened a week ago.
I'd say give it some time, he'll come around, yall are still friends, so he's likely to come around when assumingly knows when you're ready to talk to him. Or if he doesn't, go up to him yourself, apologize and explain that you've been just so stressed lately and that you're sorry for taking it out on him and you didn't mean to. Hopefully, he excepts your apology. But if he doesn't still give it some time, he'll come around still.
EXTRA TIP: With your apology maybe, give him a gift. It doesn't have to be expensive at all. Like a food you know he likes lol (I did it) he was so stoked. ALSO: With you liking him and all, maybe you should tell him how you feel. You never know, you know? Don't let words be unspoken. Hope I helped and good luck! & have a Happy New Year :)
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my friend, gets picked on by this pink haired goth emo freaks. all the time. their mean to her just because she has blonde hair and blue eyes and she wears abercrombie. she doesnt even know these kids names. & they book her and say mean things to her all the time. i wanna always stand up for her. but i dont. because they all said they wanna kill all the people in school that just look at them the wrong way. so, i dont wanna mess with them.
what should i or my friend do?
These people who are making fun of your friend have a low- self esteem, and they do it probably cause they have been made fun of by other people themselves, so they do it to another person to boost their egos. This really doesn't help that person really, it just shows that they're insecure of themselves or jealous. They're probably intimidated by your friend, maybe really they think she is really pretty but they choose to shoot her down with mean comments.
There is always going to be people in your life and her life as well that is going to be like that. Your best bet, is to ignore it. They'll bug off on due time, try to avoid them. It can be hard at times, but once you do, they'll bug off you.
They said they want to kill ALL the people in the school? that is retarded. But it is a threat, so anonymously tell the teacher or principle. These kind of threats to people can be serious. Even if it is just words, some words mean action. SO tell the principle. Ask them not to tell your name. School should be where kids should be safe and unharmed , not threatened or hurt. Hope I helped :/.
Im really jealous of my best friend. Whenever we hang out and meet new poeple it seems like she always has to out shine me and everyone whos with us. Like if we meet guys they always think shes so hot and even when she has a boyfriend she has to make them like her more. It seems like i can never meet guys cause they always are all ofer her then something happenes and they will never talk again sothe guy is basically "off limits" to me since were best friends. I dont know what to do its come to the point i hate hanging out with her.
Well to me, it sounds like you have some insecurties. But don't fret EVRYONE has their insecurties and insecure moments. If you want to help yourself over being jealous of you best friend, you have to try to start putting yourself, and recognize yourself first instead of focusing on others. If you spend your life just recognizing others for their so called
"perfections" then you'll miss out on living out your own life.
YOUR BEST FRIEND: In description, your best friend is just outgoing, thats what makes her stand out. And people who are outgoing, are more likely to get noticed or get attention. So if your like on the sidelines or a wallflower saying nothing, you're not going to get noticed much. BUT EVERY person is diffrent on how they interact with other people. Some people are so comfortable in talking with strangers, while some other people are not.
You are your own person. ONLY you can make a diffrence in yourself. Try interacting with people more, gradually others like other people who are open to talk to anyone that comes their way, even just randomly, you can make new friends that way too.
AND: There MAYBE some rule as to a best friends boyfriend or ex-boyfriend is strictly off- limits but that is NO official rule. If they previously dated, and they're not involved together anymore, I don't see any reason why you shouldn't go for the guy, UNLESS he was a jackass or jerk off to her, then that maybe the reason she doesn't want you to be with him, but other than that I think you should go for guy you go for, and if he likes you, he likes you. You can't help that, he can't help that and neither can you best friend. Also: If the guy you like, and its who your best friend "used" to talk to, then what the heck, just go for it, she can either complain or not, it shouldn't hurt, after all, the guy and you best friend never dated so WHY NOT? Go for it. :)
She's your best friend but yet you hate hanging out with her? Are you sure she's your best friend? Take a look again. Just first off, if you're not comfortable being around her, maybe you should take a stroll of in hanging out with her for awhile. OR if you reconsider, think about it.
#1 ALWAYS put yourself before others, trust me if you have that belief you'll have more confidence (not saying you don't have any) and learn to be confortable in your own skin, not by somebody elses. REMEMBER: EVERONE HAS FLAWS AND IMPERFECTIONS,NO ONE IS PERFECT.
#2 Go shopping, get new outfits or do something that makes you feel better, and get rejuvenated.
Do what is best for you, and what makes you comfortable,JUST REMEMBER: YOU ALWAYS come first.
Hope I helped, and sorry so long ♥
ok...this is kinda lame...but whatever...I really like this kid that has been my friend for a while...and I haven't had my first kiss yet...I really want it with him...but its like he doesnt notice that I like him...how do I get him to notice that I really do like him?? and what do I do after he notices this??Thanks for the help...
For the guys answering...What would make you notice a girl that has been your friend for a long time??
Some guys don't pick up the hint that you like them. So even if you are shy, if you really want him to notice, you're going to have to take the initiative to go up to him first. Having confidence is key on getting noticed, also being outgoing.
SHY MOVE: Make eye contact with the guy, and smile. That's the #1 initial start to get the guy to notice you. And there's nothing a guy likes better than to see you smile at him. That may break the ice and get yall talking.
Get to know him first, its best if you start as friends cause you may never know, he may not turn out to be the guy you'd thought he would be.
When yall get to know each other, give it a go.
Ask him where would yall stand at this moment.
Try to find out what he loves to do.
BOLD MOVE: Sit next to him, (but don't go up to him when he's talking with his boys thats #1 rule!), introduce yourself, and ask what's up. (Don't come on too strong, or he'll stray away from you!) Take that to start a conversation.
Talk about something you know he likes, but make sure you like it too (you don't want to be fake) . Act natural, be yourself.
But NEVER let a guy know how much you really like him by telling your friends and telling him, because that can kind of scare him and it leaves you to only look really desperate for him.
If a guy notices you, then he deserves you. If he rejects you, then move on, or accept him as a friend, maybe he'd be better off as a friend anyway.
You'll never know how this is going to turn out until you try, and its NO GAURANTEE that he'll be your 1st kiss. There IS other guys out there, even if this guy SEEMS like hes "THE ONE". Yo don't know if he's a jerk off. So get to know a guy for he really is before you think about kissing them.
Sometimes, a girls 1st kiss doesn't always end up with the person they REALLY wanted to kiss in the 1st place. It just happened cause you wanted it. But usually a persons 1st time for anything in romance should be special.
If a guy wants to kiss you, you'll know, he'll sit next to you, leans in close. Kissing comes naturally and you'll get better at it. Or you can ask him for it, guys always like girls who make the 1st move, so don't be afraid. (Be sure you know he likes you though).
Hope I helped ,and sorry so long! I just wanted to help you out! ♥
I have a friend (we'll call her) Tammy. So Tammy texts me the other day saying there are rumors going on about her being pregnant (but she's not). She said that people have come uo to her saying that i told them she was pregnant. And i haven't so i don't know why they would tell her that. I don't even talk to the people that have asked her. So main point is she is believing them over me, someone who has always been there for her. its really bothering me because we were good friends and she's letting rumors (that i didn't even start and aren't true) ruin it. she won't respond to a myspace message i sent her. and i can't convince her i never said it. what else can i do??
If yall are really good friends like you said you are then I would think she would believe you regardless, of what everybody else says.
The people who are telling this to her is either trying to pick a fight, or they don't like you and is trying to pick a fight between you and your friend. And if she is a good friend, she wouldn't let this come in-between you and her.
You're the only one who knows its true, and you've already let her know that it isn't true, so the best thing to do is to leave it up to her. And if she doesn't come around, thats her issue. Its her lost, friendships/relationships are all about trust. And if you can't have that, there is no real friendship/relationship between either of you. Give her some space, and give her some time to think it over. I'm sure she'll come to reality that she does need a friend like you. When she's down & out, who else is she going to go to? She'll look and suddenly realize that you're the friend she needs. Friendships are about trust and reliability. If she's a real friend she'll let you come to her for help. The other people, I'm sure she HARDLY eve knows, she shouldn't trust thier words over yours. Ask her, "Who would you trust more?, Some people you hardly even know or someone who has been there for you no matter what? Ask her something like that, she how she will react. If she doesn't come to her senses soon, then you should drop her as a friend, she obviously can't be trusted herself. It's her loss, she's lost a friend in you. Hope I helped.
At the begining of the school year last year , there was a guy in my Spanish class. Gradually we became really close friends, and the more I hung out with him, the more I relized that I really liked him. At both of my best friends pressuring, I told him that I liked him.
How I told him is that I wrote a note telling him. I know it was very childish to do so but I am happy now that I did not tell him in person.
His response to me telleing him was that 'He would never consider being more than friends with a black person.' His words exactly, then after a few days of me fuming and wanting to kill him, he says that he only said that to spare my feelings. He said that he really did not like me the way I liked him, but I think he was lying. Now I feel a little uncomfortable around him, should I tell him how I feel about him now? Or should I leave well enough alone. I'll take any advice. I am an African American female, and he is a white male.
We have currenlty (well he believes we have) settled down and are now still good friends, although I am not sure that the hurt I feel will ever go away, and I am not sure that our friendship can last. I thought he was a very nice guy, and besides what he said he has been a very good friend to me.
My friend thought that by saying he does not like black people, he would hurt my feelings less than if he said he did not like me. I find this very stupid, andhe should have said he just does not like me, and like a stated before, i think he lied about that because he only said it when I said I did not want to be friends with him anymore.. Even now, long after the sutuation 'ended' I still don't feel as comfortable around him as I used to. Please help. He has been a really good friend to me, I'm just not sure if I can stay friends with him.
((I've asked this question before. I did not get many answers though.))
Did he like you? Even if he said that? Regardless, maybe he thinks of you only as a friend, but it is rude that he would say something like that to your face. If you think he was lying you possibly could be correct,but its not reliable. If he was lying, I think he did this just to cover up he has feelings for you, because he's thinking of what other people might be thinking with of the both of you being together because yall are a diffrent race. I myself have experienced that. I'm half black, the guy was white and he said to my friend in a note : I like her, but only if she wasn't black.
It hurt,for awhile but I moved on. Diffrent people take a situation diffrently, and me personally just simply took it for what it was.
I just accepted him as a friend anyway it was better than nothing and I thought if he really liked me like he said he did, he wouldn't care what people thought of us regardless of what others think or their parents. I know alot of parents that don't agree with interracial dating and their kids will feel like they've betrayed their parents if they do, so they shy away from it. You'll find someone, a person that doesn't look at race, and likes you for who you are.The more people you meet, the better your chances of finding someone right for you. Meet them in quantity and you'll find someone of quality. I It may be uncomfortable to you to be around him but try,really hard this time. See where it goes, a friendship can last a longtime,better than him not being a friend at all. But if it doesn't work out, but if its really that uncomfortable then just drop,talk to him less. I don't think you have to cut him outta of your life completely, just make it less. Better than nothing, Hope I helped, if any :]
my two close friends are really "out there" like sexual and act really slutty, and whenever were out anywhere i feel like i dont fit in with them because i dont act like that. i have a lot of guy friends and i flirt but im not all sexual like them. i feel a lot uglier kinda beside them, so i hesitate to go up to guys with them. i dont know how i should look at the situation...
any advice/opinions would be great, thanks guys :]
You're okay. You just don't percieve yourself that way. You're diffrent, and being diffrent in this case is a good way. Be comfortable on how you are. These girls who put themselves out,most guys will say that they don't see them as girls who'd they'd want a relationship with anyway, these girls are there for hook-ups. Dressing sexy, acting sexual sends guys the wrong message, the message that you are easy to get to even if you may not want it that way, this will only cause problems and heartache for them later + plus, you only attract all the WRONG guys. Luckily, for you guys will see you as a girl they'd like to settle down with. Don't feel ugly beside them, you're beautiful in a classy way. Take it from me, I used to feel that way but I learned that it just proves I have more self-respect for myself. The way how your percieve yourself, it just means that you have more class and self-respect and that is a very beautiful thing. Just know that you don't have to dress sexy or act that way to get noticed by guys, you just have to have a boost of self- confidence in yourself, thats what guys notice, be funny, outgoing, you dont have to be sexual. Guys notice girls who take a stand for themselves.
Also, ++ being this way, you're a great rolemodel for the younger kids out there your'e sending them a good message. :)
Your'e a really great person, I'm sure and I know that others see you that way. Hope this helps, and be true to yourself!
I really really want to be popular and I get so jealous at all of the pretty, popular, perfect gurls. How can I overcome this jealousy?
When you're still in school, being popular you think, is the most important thing but I've come to realize its not. It's all about having self-confidence in yourself. Talk to people, be nice to everyone, but don't be fake. If people see that you are a nice person to other people you will most certainly get respect, and most importantly you'll have respect for yourself.
And when you build self -confidence then you consider yourself popular. And also, noone on this world is PERFECT, their is no such thing.
++ Try talking to these girls maybe that will help break barriers, say hey. That's all you have to say or comment on their outfit their wearing. This can help.
Being popular isn't everything its cracked up to be. Just be happy with yourself and hang out with whoever your comfortable with. Hope this helps.
ok, well i'm REALLY bad at showing my personality at first,i'm mostly shy until you gett to know me. soo, my semi-friend is asking me to hangout with her on saturday(sleepover) but idon't know,because i'm scared its not going to be fun and i'll bore her! i'm not good with just hanging out with one other person, how do i get out of my shell? should i go? any tips on this?
ps-i've known her for awhile only from school. i don't know if i should go for it? thanks!
You should go, this can help break barriers.
A friend invites you, you should come because
if you don't she might think you don't like her
and will not invite you to another outing again.
++ Your thinking negative things already, like
"it's not going to be fun" think postitive.
You maybe nervous to go but don't be, if all the girls are nice I'm sure you'll be fine. It may take you awhile to adjust but it will all come natural. If they're telling stories you should tell your stories too, like something embarrassing that happened to you, don't be scared to tell it, they may laugh but they're laughing with you not at you. People will get to know you better, and think you're a cool person to hang out with.
People love a person who has an outgoing personality, or a really good sense of humor.
Use it. You can also come out of your shell by creating your own fun. If your more comfortable at your house, call some friends and invite them over to your house or something. You can be a host too. People are attracted to people who have an outgoing personality and they attract people like bees are to honey. Hope this helps!
hey everybody. well my friend who I'll call Hannah who I met in fifth grade and I were super close. We had the same best friends. Then in sixth grade Hannah moved into her moms house in a different and deserted all of us completely. She made new friends which is normal but then she forgot about us except for one girl who I'll call Emma that I'm not even friends with. Now we're all going into eight grade and Hannah might be moving back. My friends are all going to forgive her with the exeption of my best friend Rachel but she'll probably forgive her pretty quick cause shes to nice to hold a grudge. I don't know what to do cause I'm still really hurt about her forgetting about us so is it totally wrong of me to not want to forgive her without at least an apoligy. I mean do you really think it would be normal for us to just go back to being best friends after all that has happened. I didn't find out from her that she might be moving back, I found out from another girl in her town! Any help would be great. Sorry it's so long ♥
You can forgive but can never forget. I don't think yall will just go back to being the best friends. Friends grow out of their groups and like to make new friends but I don't think she forgot about yall, she just likes that she has some other friends to hang out with. I think yall will be friends but just not hanging out as much, just maybe the occasional hey hows it going how are you doing type of thing. It'd be safe if you just keep it that way, like if yall run into each other in the halls just limit how yall talk to each other, like hey hows it going and go back to your group. It maybe hard to get used to, but it is common that friends sometime other friends to hang out with.
My name is Mia. Lately i've been feeling really bad about myself because i'm horrible at making friends because i'm so self concious about every thing I do. But luckily I had one true friend who lives in another town. Let's call her Megan. Today on myspace, I was looking at megan's profile and saw she had a few comments from Lea, a popular girl at my school. They were "who's the annoying girl?" Then the next one was "mia who?" then "no i dont show my comments, " So I was like omg, please don't tell me Megan is saying i'm an annoying bitch. Well, I know how to look at peoples comments if they hide them, and i'm not a stalker. I only do it in situations like these. Sure enough, comments from Megan said "so you have seen the ANNOYING GIRL! " the next one said "omg lol MIAAAAAA" then "CHEERLEADING MIAAAA" (cause i do cheering with lea) here's the horrible one. "yeah haha she was asking me like a billion times to come over but thank goodness I had a reason for my cousin being here and shit! you dont show your comments do you" I FELT LIKE CRYING. she's the only girl I get the courage to actually ask if I can hang out. and I did NOT ASK HER A BILLION TIMES. she always says she's busy so I ask her like once every 2 weeks. But i'm so confused because when we do go over each others house, she acts like we are best friends, and she invites me to all her parties. WE WERE FRIENDS SINCE WE WERE 3!!!! How should I address this to her, on the phone, IM? And how should I say it. And I don't want to be little shy Mia. I want to be a little nasty with her.
Don't feel bad about yourself, everybody can be a little self-conscious some more than others, like me per say. Lea is just immature and "your friend" is a two-faced person, yall may have know each other for a long time but her "secretley" talking about you behind you back is wrong, and if she really was your friend she would stick by you and defend you after what
the other girls said I know its tempting to get back at her but you really dont want to get nasty with her it will only start conflict between you and the other girl. Just ask her why did you say that I was annoying? If she asks where you got the source dont tell her, she'll
only accuse you of being a stalker and just say " I have my ways " or say "someone told me and I can't say" it shouldnt matter to her where you got it from what matters is that she said that. It sounds Megan* maybe trying to fit in with the other girls, but talking bad about other people and being 2- faced aint it. The mature thing to do is not to yell at her, because yelling makes you sound childish, and immature, just break it to her with a serious hard toned voice but don't yell. Talk about yalls diffrences, look for any lies, tell her
you dont like 2-faced people ,and see where this convo goes if she doesn't want to be your friend so be it, she deserved this, and you didn't you deserve a better friend. Hope this helps, sorry so long!
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ok, so i have this one friend, actually shes like my best friend, and i love her and all, but lately shes getting on my last nerve. shes acting like a huge slut. shes sending pictures of her boobs, and her vagina, TO GUYS SHE DOESNT EVEN KNOW. like i mean, i know them. and some im really good friends with. and she constantly wants to call them and uhh and they keep asking me about her, and saying how shes such a slut. and a whore, and like all this bad stuff. and its making me look bad. i mean, i dont even know how she got all of there numbers. i mean, she probably took most of them from my address book. but whatever, how do i fix this? i dont want them to hate me.
Well your friend is asking for it. She's just getting taken advantage of, the guys don't like her for just her, they "like" her cause she puts out. And ask her where she got the numbers.
Is she really your friend? I mean it's diffrent if she cares about you and doesn't want you doing that stuff (but she really shouldn't be doing that anyway)otherwise you don't wanna be friends with a girl like that, surround yourself by good people, but if you still want to be friends with her, the best you can do is talk to her about it or write a letter and address to her that you don't like the way how she's acting if she really is your best friend she'd listen to your advice. She's so young, and it's really trashy that shes doing that. You don't want who to hate you? Whoever "them" is shouldn't hate you they should appreciate they have a friend like you watching out for them, and the other people shouldn't hate you you're just watching out for a friend. :)
Whenever I'm with my friends or when I kiss my boyfriend once.. I get nasty comments. I don't understand it. One girl kept saying that leads to.. this! -points to her baby-
It's making me angry because I'm not stupid. She's the one who slept around and didn't use protection.
My friends went through my camera and saw a picture of me in a bra. They screamed in an over reacting way. Yelling /keep your clothes on/ and stuff. "Don't do anything stupid".. when she has done drugs and had sex numerous times. she made herself seem all superior and well, it pissed me off :)
What can I do to make them shut up? I'm older than them and they are not joking, believe me. I'm not stupid enough to make the same mistakes. I've done a lot of sexual things but they insist that I shouldn't do anything and that I'm innocent. I'm on birth control and I already talked to my boyfriend about this. I'll have sex with him when I'm ready and when BC has taken full effect. And he MUST bring condoms or he gets nothing. We have done everything but actual sex. About drugs, we aren't doing any of it.. but we will drink a little together around a group of friends [sober]
Maybe my friends are trying to protect me.. I don't know. but I hate when they tell me that and everything. I'm a year or two older and I've been reading a lot about birth control, sex, etc. They act like it's a deadly sin when I kiss my boyfriend :(
And i hate when they scream in public. They practically said i was naked [when i was not] at a middle school graduation. oh yea, that really makes me look good in front of middle schoolers and parents! it makes me look like a slut and i haven't done anything. people always ask me if i'm a virgin.
Don't listen to them, they're just jealous and they say that cause they heard that on t.v. yes sometimes kissing leads to something farther but thats only if YOU LET IT HAPPEN, and only you can control yourself from letting the kissing get any farther.And some of the girls who say this are the most likely the ones who are doing these things, like you siad the girl pointed at her stomach? yeah, who is she to talk. And you posting a pic. of you in a bra, in opinion is not a big deal you just are happy with your body, and there is nothing wrong with that, honey, these are not your friends they are jealous people and are immature and it sounds like they like to humiliate you, don't give them a time of day or satisfaction you deserve better friends who love you for you and know that your not afraid of expressing your body and your right to say that you'll have sex when your ready, you know this cause you know better. You sound more mature than your "friends" , your just kissing him, it's not like having sex in public but maybe in another way of looking at it, maybe they don't like pda? IDK. Anyway you're not a slut, and people ask you if your a virgin because they're nasty perves , you deserve better friends. Hope this helps.
so me and my best friend are super close, alot closer then most friendsare, but recently she has become friends with this girl. and the yare like super close, she tells me all the time your my bestfriend she is just my good friend, but recently it seems like she chooses this girl over me all the time. and i dnt know what to do. its not like im neccissarily getting mad but i dnt know if its jealousy its joust kind of annoyence. i suppose. so what can i do?
f/16
Sounds like your friend justs like meeting new people, and when you meet new people and have a connection they tend to hang around that person alot more, talk to your best friend saying "we never hang out anymore, we should hang out sometime" kind of thing, or to make this cool where you don't feel left out of it plan for all 3 of you to get out together, get to know the other girl too, this could help out bunch or if she (the other girl) seems to be out of place and annoying to you just ignore the girl or accept that shes friends with your best friend, many people can have more than one best friend and you can too, if you have another friend or other friends hang out with them too not just her, it can get annoying if you hang out with just her, you can make other good friends too- :).
My best friend and I are inseperable, everyone knows it and thinks we're together. I love this guy more than anything, but he has a girlfriend. She goes to this private prep school in town, and knows about how close we are. They've been together over a year now, and it didn't stop us from hooking up for the last 8 months. About 4 months in he told her what happened, she got over it and forgave him, but it's been going on since a week after that too. I would stop it, but I feel like he's totally worth the wait. He makes me want to be an amazing person. He tells me when the time is right, we'll end up together, but i don't know what to do.
Okay, he has a girlfriend. That should be the BIG BIG red flag. You don't wanna get stuck in a rut and you sure don't want to get into more of a rut than you already are. He told his girlfriend and then she got over it?, his girlfriend is totally clueless. A guy who cheats once will always be a cheater. She gave him a 2nd chance and that just gave him more power to think ' I've got her wrapped around my fingers', he's got both you and his girlfriend hooked and it's bad enough that you're already letting him.
Trust me I've been through this before, I thought the guy was gonna break up with his girlfriend like he said he would, turns out what he really wanted is a 'piece of cake' from the both us at the same time, also I was helping him not to get caught til he actually got caught. He's never gonna break up his girlfriend, he's just leading-you-on so he can keep you on the side.
If your a sideline chick, sorry to say but you'll never be number one, always 2nd best, you'll never get to hold hands, kiss, or talk or any of that in public. Any relationship shouldn't be in the dark.
You realize that you're only second to him not number one like his girlfriend, but you and even his girlfriend doesn't deserve this. And that is a mess, trust me you don't want this drama bull drop him, I know its gonna be hard, but he doesn't deserve you nor any girl for that matter, you deserve better a guy who will treat you like royal and show you off to the world :)
You know how people say "if you want to know who your real friends are, when something bad happens, see who's there to comfort you"? Well I kind of want to see who my real friends are. The thing is, nothing really bad ever happens to me. Haha, I'm lucky. But what should I do? I kinda want something bad to happen to me, just something that makes me a little upset, just to see who will be there for me. Any suggestions or advice would be great. Thanks.
15/f by the way.
Well they say in High School that you will find out who your real friends are. I've found out mine by something bad happening to me, but if you're already lucky like you already are you really don't want anything bad to happen. It doesn't happen that way, you just have to figure it out. You'll know whether those people are your real friends or not, best friends don't turn your back on you, they don't diss you for a guy, they're there for you no matter what. If nothing bad has happened than you must have good friends.Don't fret. :)
im going to try and keep this short because theres only 2000 max. well ive been friends with this girl for over a year now and have had many problems. shes a senior & im a sophomore in highschool. i met her through my brother who is also a senior.. last summer she screwed me over and made me believe she was alaways here for me and i could trust her and then talked behind my back and ignored me and hung out w other people but me. and then made me feel worthless, yes having me as her pet on the side only when she had no one else. then we became close again after 4 months of not talking.. and we became really close and really good. we tell each other how we feel and what bothers us; and wen we fight hardcore we always get passed it.. but shes always ditching me and with other ppl and i guess i get jealous but she says she does too. she doesnt even make an effort to ask me to hang out with her.. i honestly dont know what to do.. can people really change? is she lying wen she says she cares if shes lied in the past about things? do i continue being close with her? the honest truth is i cant see us not being friends... i dont know what it is but she always makes me happy-with little things she says or does.. i dont know what to do.. because then theres other times where she screws me over, makes me feel horrible and bad and i get upset alot about stuff she says or does.. i just feel like sometimes she doesnt care about us being friends beause of the things shes says and they way she acts sometimes. but wen were good and close im nothing but happy and am always smiling.. but theres still jealousy. and i dont know why because she has nothing i want? if anything, she told me she wants what i have... but i dont know what to do. i cant stand being hurt and fooled by her anymore... but shes the onlyone who always makes me truly happy. i could type on forever about our friendship but ill stop here for now... any ideas?
She really doesn't sound like a true friend, a true friend to me is, someone who does not talk bad about you. Does not tell lies to you. She obviously has not realized what a great friend you are. Drop her, before she can do any damage to your life. Be the sweet person that you are. and you'll find plenty of people willing to be a good friend. Not one that ditches you,or gossips about you. There are a lot of people out there worthy of being your friend. And if you want to talk to her about it go ahead,if she is sorry,then ok but don't hang around her too much, I'm sure you have other friends,you do,make new friends, and if she does give you a negative response then, you know to leave it. Hope this helps.