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I CANNOT BELIEVE THIS!
My name is Mia. Lately i've been feeling really bad about myself because i'm horrible at making friends because i'm so self concious about every thing I do. But luckily I had one true friend who lives in another town. Let's call her Megan. Today on myspace, I was looking at megan's profile and saw she had a few comments from Lea, a popular girl at my school. They were "who's the annoying girl?" Then the next one was "mia who?" then "no i dont show my comments, " So I was like omg, please don't tell me Megan is saying i'm an annoying bitch. Well, I know how to look at peoples comments if they hide them, and i'm not a stalker. I only do it in situations like these. Sure enough, comments from Megan said "so you have seen the ANNOYING GIRL! " the next one said "omg lol MIAAAAAA" then "CHEERLEADING MIAAAA" (cause i do cheering with lea) here's the horrible one. "yeah haha she was asking me like a billion times to come over but thank goodness I had a reason for my cousin being here and shit! you dont show your comments do you" I FELT LIKE CRYING. she's the only girl I get the courage to actually ask if I can hang out. and I did NOT ASK HER A BILLION TIMES. she always says she's busy so I ask her like once every 2 weeks. But i'm so confused because when we do go over each others house, she acts like we are best friends, and she invites me to all her parties. WE WERE FRIENDS SINCE WE WERE 3!!!! How should I address this to her, on the phone, IM? And how should I say it. And I don't want to be little shy Mia. I want to be a little nasty with her.
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Don't feel bad about yourself, everybody can be a little self-conscious some more than others, like me per say. Lea is just immature and "your friend" is a two-faced person, yall may have know each other for a long time but her "secretley" talking about you behind you back is wrong, and if she really was your friend she would stick by you and defend you after what
the other girls said I know its tempting to get back at her but you really dont want to get nasty with her it will only start conflict between you and the other girl. Just ask her why did you say that I was annoying? If she asks where you got the source dont tell her, she'll
only accuse you of being a stalker and just say " I have my ways " or say "someone told me and I can't say" it shouldnt matter to her where you got it from what matters is that she said that. It sounds Megan* maybe trying to fit in with the other girls, but talking bad about other people and being 2- faced aint it. The mature thing to do is not to yell at her, because yelling makes you sound childish, and immature, just break it to her with a serious hard toned voice but don't yell. Talk about yalls diffrences, look for any lies, tell her
you dont like 2-faced people ,and see where this convo goes if she doesn't want to be your friend so be it, she deserved this, and you didn't you deserve a better friend. Hope this helps, sorry so long!
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omg babe i'm so sorry & i totally understand how you feel. i'm not that hot at making friends either & i have a best friend that lives in another town as well. if that happened to me i'd be very, very hurt & upset. you're a very strong girl.
look, megan isn't a true friend. no matter what you thought. she USED to be, perhaps, but not anymore. are you sure you still want to be friends with her? i mean honestly, what are you going to gain out of telling her you were upset? maybe it's to make her feel guilty. whatever it is, think of the pros & cons.
doing nothing.
pros: no drama with megan & lea
cons: you suffer because you were hurt & megan was oblivious to it.
telling megan how you feel & that you know what she did.
pros: megan feels like guilty shit & feels bad for what she did.
cons: you & megan may not be friends anymore
ignoring megan.
pros: no one gets hurt.
cons: megan doesn't know what she did.
since she goes to another school, it would be easy to ignore her & stop being friends. she's not worth it anymore. idk what you would gain out of telling her how you feel. you guys dont want infinite drama between you, so i would just start ignoring her. but it's up to you.
again, i know you've been friends since you were three, but if she's not a real friend, just create space. like, don't IGNORE HER. if she says hey what's up, say hey back. don't be a b*tch just act cool. don't bother telling her that it hurt you. she may not even care. or, if you really want to get back at her, just bring it up like 'oh yeah haha i saw what you & lea said about me on your myspace. i don't really care." that way she'll be like uhh & really really confusd. if you can't beat 'em, confuse 'em.
good luck & be strong.
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What I think you should do is tell her flat out that you saw the comments, and tell her it hurt you. You don't have to be nasty about it, just tell her the truth.
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