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being a third wheel, I guess.
ohkay. so 15/f. My best guy friend has a girlfriend. And I dislike her very much. But if I tell him that I dislike her, he gets upset at me. And he sometimes doesn't talk to me after I tell him that :| But what annoys me...is that I fakely try to be nice to her. (I know it isn't right) But I try and be nice to her, just so he would talk to me more. But it annoys the hell out of me, when all three of us are talking...he embarrasses me...and puts his girlfriend in a more superior "position" than me! And I hate being fakely nice to her, because I KNOW that she doesn't like me. And I know she's faking it, just so she seems perfect to him! But she's not..she's SOOOO fake. I've been trying to convince him that she is. But he won't believe me. It's like one of those movies, where you try to tell the truth, yet nobody believes you. The thing is, I'm younger than him. And I have no intention of like going with him or anything. He treats me like a younger sister/girlfriend. But the thing is...when his gf isn't around...he flirts with me! I just don't know what's going on. Sometimes when we're on MSN...and both of them are online...I sign in, and they both just IGNORE me completely! I feel so left out. lol...I wish something bad would happen to her. ;_; Is this jealousy? =/
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It sounds like jealousy to me. ;)
You are going to have to back way off if you
don't want to ruin your friendship. Do not
try and tell him how "fake" his girlfriend
is, or how you don't like her.
He is supposed to put his girlfriend in the
superior position. She is his girlfriend. I
know that can be irritating and annoying when
you want to be that superior person. But you
aren't anymore. He will probably go through
the same thing when you get a boyfriend.
Once friends start dating, the boyfriend or
girlfriend becomes more important than the
other friends in their lives. It is normal.
It would be no different if he were a girlfriend of yours. The same thing would be happening.
Because you are a girl his girlfriend will
also probably be jealous of you. That would
be normal too.
So you really do need to just let them have
their relationship without interfering. Without being the third wheel all the time. unfortunately he is going to choose her over you if it comes
down to that.
Don't let it go that far or your friendship will be in jeopardy. If she decides she doesn't want
you around anymore, he is going to side
with her. It sounds like that is where this
all is headed.
If you think you like him as more than just
a friend then speak up. Not while she is
around though. Just tell him you'd like to
talk to him in private sometime. :)
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First of all, I don't think you're feeling jealous, but more like you feel annoyed that you're being ignored. What you should do is flat out tell your guy friend what you think about what is happening. Be honest, and tell him what you think of his girlfriend too. If he truely cares, he'll do something about it.
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