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jealous
Im really jealous of my best friend. Whenever we hang out and meet new poeple it seems like she always has to out shine me and everyone whos with us. Like if we meet guys they always think shes so hot and even when she has a boyfriend she has to make them like her more. It seems like i can never meet guys cause they always are all ofer her then something happenes and they will never talk again sothe guy is basically "off limits" to me since were best friends. I dont know what to do its come to the point i hate hanging out with her.
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Well to me, it sounds like you have some insecurties. But don't fret EVRYONE has their insecurties and insecure moments. If you want to help yourself over being jealous of you best friend, you have to try to start putting yourself, and recognize yourself first instead of focusing on others. If you spend your life just recognizing others for their so called
"perfections" then you'll miss out on living out your own life.
YOUR BEST FRIEND: In description, your best friend is just outgoing, thats what makes her stand out. And people who are outgoing, are more likely to get noticed or get attention. So if your like on the sidelines or a wallflower saying nothing, you're not going to get noticed much. BUT EVERY person is diffrent on how they interact with other people. Some people are so comfortable in talking with strangers, while some other people are not.
You are your own person. ONLY you can make a diffrence in yourself. Try interacting with people more, gradually others like other people who are open to talk to anyone that comes their way, even just randomly, you can make new friends that way too.
AND: There MAYBE some rule as to a best friends boyfriend or ex-boyfriend is strictly off- limits but that is NO official rule. If they previously dated, and they're not involved together anymore, I don't see any reason why you shouldn't go for the guy, UNLESS he was a jackass or jerk off to her, then that maybe the reason she doesn't want you to be with him, but other than that I think you should go for guy you go for, and if he likes you, he likes you. You can't help that, he can't help that and neither can you best friend. Also: If the guy you like, and its who your best friend "used" to talk to, then what the heck, just go for it, she can either complain or not, it shouldn't hurt, after all, the guy and you best friend never dated so WHY NOT? Go for it. :)
She's your best friend but yet you hate hanging out with her? Are you sure she's your best friend? Take a look again. Just first off, if you're not comfortable being around her, maybe you should take a stroll of in hanging out with her for awhile. OR if you reconsider, think about it.
#1 ALWAYS put yourself before others, trust me if you have that belief you'll have more confidence (not saying you don't have any) and learn to be confortable in your own skin, not by somebody elses. REMEMBER: EVERONE HAS FLAWS AND IMPERFECTIONS,NO ONE IS PERFECT.
#2 Go shopping, get new outfits or do something that makes you feel better, and get rejuvenated.
Do what is best for you, and what makes you comfortable,JUST REMEMBER: YOU ALWAYS come first.
Hope I helped, and sorry so long ♥
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