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What to do to make him Notice??
ok...this is kinda lame...but whatever...I really like this kid that has been my friend for a while...and I haven't had my first kiss yet...I really want it with him...but its like he doesnt notice that I like him...how do I get him to notice that I really do like him?? and what do I do after he notices this??Thanks for the help...
For the guys answering...What would make you notice a girl that has been your friend for a long time??
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If the two of you have known each other and been friends since you were kids, then that's the image of you he has in his head. Essentially, if you want that to change - if you want him to start seeing you as potential girlfriend material, or even feel attracted to you on that level, then you need to make it happen.
Be forewarned, though, that "friend" may be all he's ever prepared to be for you. He can't make himself have feelings that simply aren't there. There's nothing wrong with trying to get him to notice you in a new way, but it's a bad idea to try and force the issue. If he just wants to be your friend, then let him be; consider how you would feel if your positions were reversed. And even if that IS how he feels, it might not always be that way.
But go ahead and try it! First, though, you need to get him interested and perhaps thinking about the idea. The best way to do this is to make a change in your look (hey, guys are guys, and most of them are visually-oriented when it comes to girls). What you want to do is move away from young, childish things and into an older, more sophisticated image. If you keep your hair in pigtails, lose them; if you don't wear makeup, start. Do NOT start showing excessive skin or slathering the makeup on your face; you're going for sophisticated, not slutty! Keep it real, and keep it YOU, because if it works then you'll be sticking with it for a while!
Now, flirt! Sit a little closer to him than you used to. Touch his hand now and then, get caught staring at him and turn away with a shy smile, linger a little more when giving him a friendly hug.
This is all just preparation, though. The thing is, if he is a good and trusted friend, the honest approach is what will work best for you in the end. Once you've worked on getting his attention for a while, get him alone somehow and turn the conversation toward kissing. Mention that you've never kissed anyone. Move close to him and speak in low tones so that he must move close to you in order to hear. If he doesn't get the hint, then you might simply need to come out and say it:
"You know Brian (assuming his name is Brian), I've always hoped my first kiss would be with someone I really knew well, and who I really like and trust. And maybe you've noticed, I've been kind of trying to get your attention lately, and... well, I think you know where I'm going with this..."
At this point, it'll either happen, or it won't. Good luck to you!
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Some guys don't pick up the hint that you like them. So even if you are shy, if you really want him to notice, you're going to have to take the initiative to go up to him first. Having confidence is key on getting noticed, also being outgoing.
SHY MOVE: Make eye contact with the guy, and smile. That's the #1 initial start to get the guy to notice you. And there's nothing a guy likes better than to see you smile at him. That may break the ice and get yall talking.
Get to know him first, its best if you start as friends cause you may never know, he may not turn out to be the guy you'd thought he would be.
When yall get to know each other, give it a go.
Ask him where would yall stand at this moment.
Try to find out what he loves to do.
BOLD MOVE: Sit next to him, (but don't go up to him when he's talking with his boys thats #1 rule!), introduce yourself, and ask what's up. (Don't come on too strong, or he'll stray away from you!) Take that to start a conversation.
Talk about something you know he likes, but make sure you like it too (you don't want to be fake) . Act natural, be yourself.
But NEVER let a guy know how much you really like him by telling your friends and telling him, because that can kind of scare him and it leaves you to only look really desperate for him.
If a guy notices you, then he deserves you. If he rejects you, then move on, or accept him as a friend, maybe he'd be better off as a friend anyway.
You'll never know how this is going to turn out until you try, and its NO GAURANTEE that he'll be your 1st kiss. There IS other guys out there, even if this guy SEEMS like hes "THE ONE". Yo don't know if he's a jerk off. So get to know a guy for he really is before you think about kissing them.
Sometimes, a girls 1st kiss doesn't always end up with the person they REALLY wanted to kiss in the 1st place. It just happened cause you wanted it. But usually a persons 1st time for anything in romance should be special.
If a guy wants to kiss you, you'll know, he'll sit next to you, leans in close. Kissing comes naturally and you'll get better at it. Or you can ask him for it, guys always like girls who make the 1st move, so don't be afraid. (Be sure you know he likes you though).
Hope I helped ,and sorry so long! I just wanted to help you out! ♥
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start flirting hun.
maybe dress alittle nicer to get him to notice,
maybe even have one of his friends talk to him...
its hard when you like one of your friends. and if it was ment then it will be, but i would definatley start flirting alot because guys are stupid and unless you tell them or some else does they have no clue you like them!!!!
and if that doesn't work talk to him.
like one day if you guys are alone just ask so u into anyone???
and if he says no say are you sure or do you just dont want to tell me.
then if he still says no say well if i tell you something you promise not to laugh or anything
then just say well i dont want to ruin our friendship but i really like you....
then take things from there.
and you might just get your first kiss if he feels the same way about you.
go for it girl
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