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i like him, he feels the same, but he has a girlfriend.
My best friend and I are inseperable, everyone knows it and thinks we're together. I love this guy more than anything, but he has a girlfriend. She goes to this private prep school in town, and knows about how close we are. They've been together over a year now, and it didn't stop us from hooking up for the last 8 months. About 4 months in he told her what happened, she got over it and forgave him, but it's been going on since a week after that too. I would stop it, but I feel like he's totally worth the wait. He makes me want to be an amazing person. He tells me when the time is right, we'll end up together, but i don't know what to do.
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Okay, he has a girlfriend. That should be the BIG BIG red flag. You don't wanna get stuck in a rut and you sure don't want to get into more of a rut than you already are. He told his girlfriend and then she got over it?, his girlfriend is totally clueless. A guy who cheats once will always be a cheater. She gave him a 2nd chance and that just gave him more power to think ' I've got her wrapped around my fingers', he's got both you and his girlfriend hooked and it's bad enough that you're already letting him.
Trust me I've been through this before, I thought the guy was gonna break up with his girlfriend like he said he would, turns out what he really wanted is a 'piece of cake' from the both us at the same time, also I was helping him not to get caught til he actually got caught. He's never gonna break up his girlfriend, he's just leading-you-on so he can keep you on the side.
If your a sideline chick, sorry to say but you'll never be number one, always 2nd best, you'll never get to hold hands, kiss, or talk or any of that in public. Any relationship shouldn't be in the dark.
You realize that you're only second to him not number one like his girlfriend, but you and even his girlfriend doesn't deserve this. And that is a mess, trust me you don't want this drama bull drop him, I know its gonna be hard, but he doesn't deserve you nor any girl for that matter, you deserve better a guy who will treat you like royal and show you off to the world :)
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Look, you are not waiting on him, you are helping him cheat. There is a gigantic difference.
The difference is that you aren't passively waiting to see what will happen. You are actively helping him do a bad thing, and so doing the same bad thing yourself!
He is getting the idea that cheating is okay. Trust me on this one, if the twenty-something guy I met admits he cheated on his girlfriend when he was fourteen, there is a damn good chance he cheated on his girlfriend at seventeen and nineteen too and just isn't telling me that.
He is playing you both. Just because he is treating her even worse then he is treating you doesn't mean he is good enough to wait around for. He is leading you both on and has her convinced, just the way he has you convinced that it is you he really wants.
He had a perfect oppertunity to end it with her, and be with you, when he confessed. He choose to keep seeing you both. He doesn't want to be with you hun, he wants both of you!
Stop hooking up with him. Tell him when 'the time is right' he can give you a call agian, until then, he can go to his girlfriend when he wants some action.
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Ok, thats retarded. "when the time is right we will end up togheter"? ummm, y isn't the time right, now? Maybe he is keeping you on the side because this guy is getting the best of both worlds. Girl, I know it going to be tough but you need to put your foot down. If he is having you now then why dump his gf? I think when he said "when the time is right...." he ment "when my girl friend dumps me or we break up". Think about it. I have a very guy-like-mind, and i could be wrong about but is it worth it to know that he kisses you after he kisses her? or he does you-know-what to her down there and then goes to kiss you? It sucks to be the "side girl",and not the one he walks around with in public and holds/kisses...... But ya never know.
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Now why is it you would allow him to have his cake and eat it too? If she found out he was cheating and forgave him, shame on her. As for you, do you not see the obvious sign that he is a player?Apparently you are only second best to him. He is playing you two....sorry it sounds harsh. If he loved you, he would drop the girl. He has been with her for a year and has no problem in cheating on her. What makes you think he wont do it to you with her if you two got together. I think you need to think real hard about it. There are plenty of guys out there that could make you feel amazing, find one thats going to have you as their #1 girl, not "the friend on the side."
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