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I really need to start taking my own advice.
advice
I've been friends with this guy for a couple of years now; we get along great, we spend time together whenever we can (we both work full time so it doesn't happen often) but whenever we can, we do.
I know at one point in our relationship he liked me for more than just friends, but now i don't know if he does or doesn't. He has an on again off again girlfriend whom he says he doesn't really care if she's in or out of his life, so as bad as this may sound, the girlfriend isn't really a problem.
so my question is... how do i know if he likes me as more than just friends. I don't want to ask him because what if he doesn't, i wouldn't want to ruin our friendship. So what signs should i be looking for? or what do you suggest i do? i'm so confused.
I actually had this happen to me one time. My best guy friend, Jonathan, and I spent all of our time together. I started to wonder if he was into me when my friends started asking me if he liked me. So, I began to look for some signs.
1. Did he make time for me when he could have spent it with his other friends? And/or, did he cancel other plans to spend time with me?
2. Did he touch me when he talked? (Ex: When people get flirty, they sometimes touch your arm or leg. Most people just don't notice it)
3. Did he get jealous when I talked about other guys?
4. Did he hug me goodbye? Hold doors open for me? Etc.
Well, he did. So, naturally I assumed he liked me. It freaked me out because I wasn't into him & I didn't want to lose the relationship we had. I sucked it up and flat out asked him, "Do you like me as more than a friend?" There was an awkward moment, he said no, and we laughed it off. We're fine now, still best friends, and he's got a girlfriend of 7 months.
Moral of the story? By looking for the signs, I totally got it wrong. Honestly, just try to suck it up and ask him. If he doesn't, laugh it off and do YOUR best to keep things as casual & normal as possible.
Good Luck :)
I have these two friends one wants me to stay the night with them and the other wants to spend the night with me and thay don't really like each other. I don't seen either of them much and ones been my best friend forever and the other only a year I don't know what tod o! HELP!
Hey there :)
When it comes to this kind of stuff, you have to be honest with your friends. Who asked you to sleep over first? Pick that one. Tell the other friend that friend A asked first and you said yes to them. You can always reschedule with friend B for a later date. Sure, they might be upset at first. But trust me, it will pass. Just be sure to have an extra fun time when you do get to spend the night with friend B.
Good luck!
what are some nice things you can say or tell to ur bestfriend im a girl shes a girl
and my 2nd ques is : What are some things you can tell ABOUTT your best friend?
=]
You could tell her you love how easy it is to talk to her, her attractiveness, her talents (such as sports, singing etc.) her style, her qualities (such as being a good friend, trustworthy, responsible)
I can tell my best friend is mature. She's responsible for her actions, she is funny we can always have a good time together. She's easy going, beautiful, smart, kind, everything I'd want to be in a person.
well i just got braces and my boyfriend dosent mind kissing but should i??
lucy
For the first couple of weeks, its going to feel weird to you (kissing and even just having them in your mouth!)
You'll soon get used to it and when that happens and your gums/lips are used to having all that metal there then you can keep on kissing.
Don't let a little orthodontia get in the way of a good time ;)
You might have to learn to not kiss as hard or lean in too hard, then you might risk hurting him. But other then that you should be perfectly fine.
my volleyball team's name is "Calientes". (Caliente means "hot" in spanish, as in weather.. or I guess the other way as well.) we're a 14s team. after a team gets a point, usually they like jump in a circle together and say something like.. "unos dos trace!" or some other thing like that. like we had a volleyball tournament yesterday (club volleyball) and all the teams had their little catch phrases.. originally we wanted our team to be named the Sizzlers, but that didnt happen. cause then we could be like "work that sizzle!" and then put a finger on our butt and say "sss". so what little cute thing can we say and do that relates to our name? also righte before the game we're usually say "one, two, three TEAM!" but thats so overused. what are cute, funny things we could say for that too? thanks a lot :)
AH, I love making up team cheers. Thats my job for my club volleyball team :) Your team name is so fun too!
Okay, you could try
"AY AY AY CALIENTE!" Like Ay, pronounced as the letter I or the word eye. The idea comes High School Musical during the Bop to the Top part if you don't understand it.
"Thats hot!" Paris Hilton style. You could fan yourselves or still do the sizzle thing on your butts because its basically saying you're hot either way.
"Estamos caliente!" I believe thats the right conjugation of estar, but then again I could be wrong. Thats if you want to go for the Spanish-theme.
"Raise the heat!" Simple, perfect for the coming together between every play. Works with the team name obviously.
"Caliente (two claps) heat it up!"
If you like these or want more ideas or suggestions, let me know. I loved answering this question lol :)
Good luck!
i hooked up with my friends bf. yes it was stupid and i really regret it so dont tell me how bad it was. I feel terrible but i made a mistake. now everyone knows. what do i do. (we have the same freinds)
You have one options. Well, two actually, but you'll probably go to Hell for the second one ;)
Be honest. Tell your friend what you did, don't embellish, don't blame the boyfriend. Be straight up, it will just make things easier. Admit to her you were wrong, apologize if you are truly sorry. Expect her to yell, to cry, or to refuse to forgive you, thats normal. I'm proud of you for recognizing your mistake. But now its time to clean things up. With time, maybe things will move on. Maybe she'll realize that her boyfriend obviously wasn't right for her if he's willing to cheat. In the meantime, take your part of the blame, and deal with it the best you can.
Good Luck
hi im 15 years old and i got an MIC or in other words minor in consumption. I live in Overland Park Kansas and was obviously illegaly drinking. I was at a movie theatre and was caught because i was stumbling and wreaked of vodka. I weigh 93 pounds and had 3 shots of Smirrnoff. I blew a 1.0 and was maybe also charged with obstruction of justice because I would not say who got me the achohol or who I was with. How much trouble do you think I will be in? Is there a possiblity i will not be put on diversion because it was my first offense? I rate high, so please HELP!
My friend got caught drinking at the age of 14 on school property with a BLA level of 2.4, it was very serious and she had to be hospitalized. However, she miraculously only got put on an abance (Its the same thing as probation but its only 90 days long and is dropped from her record) She had to attend SUPER classes (alcohol education) and attend therapy. I don't think you'll be in TOO much trouble, I'm not sure what a diversion is. I just thought I'd let you know what happened in a real-life expierence. Good Luck
Hey, I just realized I like my best friend Alex. I have known her since we were in jr. high. But I don't know how to tell her I love her. Thanks for any help.
Frodo
Hi there :) Thats totally sweet, there are a couple different routes you can take to telling her how you feel. The other advicers gave great ideas, I'll try to bring you a couple more.
1) Just come out and tell her, totally more easier said then done. This also might creep her out a bit, so I do not recommend this.
2) Start flirting bit by bit. Don't spring on her all at once, but hug her goodbye, say sweet things to her etc. Try to get her attention.
3) Invite her to hang out on a walk. While walking try reaching to hold her hand. Its a simple, sweet gesture that will get the message across. When you feel comfortable admit to her that you have fallen in love with her over the years, and it was important to you that she knew.
4) Leave her flowers at her house with a small card that invites her on a date. On the date, express your feelings.
I also really like the movie idea the previous advicer gave, its really a great suggestion because it doesn't take too much nerve to do.
Good luck, be sure to let me know how it went! [:
I can't believe myself!I just turned down my crush for a date a couple days ago caus i thought that people would laugh at me caus he's shorter than me.I told some of my friends and they all said "LUCKY!He said yes?!!!!!!!!" Now here comes the advice part should I call him back or will that be stupid caus I don't know if he's going out with someone? thanx!:3 =] sorry it's so long
Call him back, you could use the "I was nervous excuse, but I really am interested." If he says no, apologize and ask to make it up to him. Its totally worth a shot. And in the future, careless about what your friends think, that will get you no where in life.
Good Luck
I just graduated from High School. I'm worried about going through the rest of my life without having any friends. The friends I had in high school really weren't friends at all. I only saw them in school. If there was ever a chance to hang out, it was always me that did the inviting. They never included me in anything. When I confronted them about not including me, they'd make up lame excuses. It hurts my feelings that they did that and now that we're out of high school, I know I'll probably be even more left out than before.
All I have right now is my boyfriend. He is my best friend and the only person out of all my friends that actually calls ME to make plans. He's the only friend that actually wants to hang out with me.
Since my other friends never want to see me, I just spend all my time with my boyfriend. Which is fine, but I don't want to go through the rest of my life having only one true friend.
My question is, how can I make things better with the "friends" I have now? How can I get them to include me? Should I even waste my time with them anymore?
When I go to college, will I be able to make new friends? How should I go about meeting people? Has anyone else been in this same situation?
Hi there :)
I can't really say I've ever had this problem
before because I'm a very outgoing person and
I'll talk to a wall if I have to. Lol, anyways
I think I can help.
Does your boyfriend have any good friends?
I've made alot of new friends through my
boyfriend which is nice to have a different
crowd to be with sometimes and we're both
comfortable around them. I also don't stick to
one group. I'm friends with people from every
clique or group which is also very nice because
I don't have to act/be one certain way.
Now, to make new friends, act friendly!
Say hi to people when you start college,
attempt to start conversation in your new classes
College is a great oppurtunity and there are
so many conversation starters.
"whats your major?"
"you from around here?"
"what carreer are you headed into?"
"how do you like the campus?"
.. the list goes on and on.
As for your old friends, I wouldn't worry
about them. Try calling up some neighbors or
some kids that you talked to in school but never
really took the time to get to know. Or
once again, go for your boyfriend's friends.
I'm sure he'd be willing to help you out in
your situation.
Good Luck
Listen, most of my bffls are moving this summer, and i have alot of picture books, but i dont have any money for a camera. What should I do? Should I just leave with no memory or what.
P.S. I'm really scared for my closest bffl, because we have known each other since 2nd grade. Ill miss her the most, what should I do?
Try buying disposable cameras; they're relativley cheap and they'll get the pictures for you.
Also, fill the memory books with pages telling about some special times you had with each of your friends, they'll love it.
Good Luck
my room mate has really bad breath she has for awhile (a mutual friend and i have noticed) but recently all of our friends are starting to say things and noticing it . She is sensitive about most things so i don't want to say something that will hurt her feelings or make her mad but i think she needs to know rather than hearing it from someone randomly. what should i do? and how should i do it?
This happened to a friend of mine recently because she had horrible body odor. I tried hinting as much as I could, I even bought her perfum which didn't help. She never really got the picture until one of our friends just blurted it out. We all laughed about it and she thanked us a thousand times for letting her know.
So you could either:
1. Buy a bunch of packs of mints, leave them in your room and tell her she is welcome to help herself.
2. Actually tell her yourself she had bad breath. Just do it nicely, "Hey, you might want a tic-tac incase we see any cute boys out there!"
3. Keep dropping hints by saying someones breath stinks when you're around her, that might be too hurtful though.
GoodLuck
15/f
So. me and my boyfriend have been going out for a little more than five months. we do alot of things together. making out, fingering, him feeling me up, phone sex. stuff like that.
My problem is that my parents are SO OVERPROTCETIVE. they will not let me go to his house. he can't come over here without me having like three other people over besides him.
So pretty much all we do is go to private places like after school (closets, behind dumpsters, lame. i know) or go to the movies(my parents won't let me go with just him, so i have to usually bring along friends or go with a larger group)
SO yesterday, we went to see dreamgirls (AMAZING MOVIE btw)and it was me, him, and like on of my close girlfriends. we made out, he felt me up AND freakin fingered me.
I told my friend that she should bring some of her friends because i didnt want to make things awkward for her. But she came by herself. and now i feel emotionaly horrible. i feel just terrible that she had to sit through that, with nobody. i have never felt like such a rude and inconsiderate friend in my life. I love this chick, and i feel horrible about what happened. But i did tell her to bring other friends, and she was just like nahh, it won't be awkward.
HELP?
pleasee&thankyouus
From what I understand,
you took off your pants in front of your
friend at a movie theater? Please correct
me if I'm wrong. I just want to make sure
I understand the situation.
Now, since you did what you did and there
is no changing it, all you can do is apologize.
Have your friend over, explain that you got
caught up in the moment and you weren't thinking
straight unless you did plan to do that infront
of her. Other wise, just ask her what you can
do to make it up to her.
Just keep apologizing, then try not
to bring it up again. Next time, think
about if before you try something like that.
Good Luck
okay so my bestfriend got this bf who she has been dating for awhile now and im really happy for her. But i just feel like she is always with him. she sees him every weekend bc he doesnt got to our school. she will ask if i wanna hangout with her but i dont want to bc her bf is there and it would feel weird help plzz
Well, since she hangs out with
him over the weekend, why not try to make
plans during the weekdays after school?
If school work is too hectic for that,
you both should reserve a weekend for each
other. My best friend and I did that once a
month when I got a boyfriend that way we
stayed close.
Also, when she invites you to hang out with
them you could ask to bring a friend so its
more comfortable.
Otherwise talk to your friend
about how you feel; she'll understand.
GoodLuck
my friend's dad is really abusive + she only trusted a few people to know. one of those people spilled the beans and told the school. she said she's being called down to the office alot to be quesioned. 5 times in two days. she said their guhna ask anyone whos been to her house how her dad acts i dont wanna be the reason she gets removed from her house, even though i know shes in a bad sitch + she already told them about how he's abusive. what should i say?
As horrible as you might feel, you
need to tell the truth. Keeping it a secret
will only hurt your friend.
(I'm sure thats NOT what you want to hear)
However, its the truth, you need to tell.
Now, if you DO get called down.
Only answer the questions they ask you.
If they ask you "Has her dad ever hit her
in front of you" Say yes or no, and explain
if they ask. Don't go off about how many times
she said he has hit her. This way you won't
feel to bad revealing, but you will get
whats needed out.
This can be totally hard, but I know
where you're coming from. Honesty is the
best policy.
Good Luck
how come there are some people that have everything? like theres this girl that used to be in my class.. shes practically perfect. she was blessed with really good looks (she was like one of the first people to start wearing make up and unlike most people, she looks really good in it), amazing hair (always a different hairstyle everyday, too!), and... jesus.. you like never see her wear the same outfit twice! and every outfit looks sooo trendy and cute. she has soo many accessories and etc.. she also has a ton of friends, and an older sister. she's also an amazing soccer and basketball player, and even though she doesnt get the best grades (shes in low literacy, too) shes pretty nice to everyone, so its hard to hate her! but i swear, I bet everyone is jealous, lol. I used to think that she lives in an apartment, but it turns out she lives in one of the gigantic mansions in my area! and her parents are still together and have alot of money (obviously). everything seems so perfect! and she doesnt get upset alot, but once in 6th grade she was like really upset that like.. gum got on her $40 dollar bra from victorias secret. omg.. who buys a bra for 40 dollars I ask you!?!?!? how is this possible! she also gets alot of her stuff from hollister, which isnt even in our nearby mall.. so she must go to those other real expensive malls where she gets all her glam stuff. jeez... some people have all the luck! me and my friend were talking about her.. i knew her last year, and she was nice and has a good personality, (though sometimes she can seem too overconfident.. if you know what I mean) but you couldnt help to be jealous! now when i look at my life.. my family is not all that rich, but we're not poor either. my dad is starting a company which probably will be big if it works out (hes still setting it up) but like.. I dunno. then i'd have to leave all my friends here.. and that would suck because its not the same when you meet new people and you havent known them since kindergarten.. or like it may, but its better to grow up with people... if you get what i mean. anyway, i'll probably wear an outfit and then mix it up a little the next week.. but basically still wear the same thing. i only have 1 pair of jeans that actually looks good (from american eagle) and well.. yeah. i cant really follow trends because now my parents arent all that rich. heck i couldnt even have a 13th bday party and i have to pay for me and my friends to see a movie instead. (I'm 13 today and my "movie party" is next week). I'm pretty, but my mom wont let me get make up.. i dont even have enough money to get my own make up, nor do i know how to apply it. i'm kinda shy unless you get to know me, and well i do good in schools, and i like to play soccer, basketball, and dance, but I'm not like an amazing athlete like that girl im talking about was. like i didnt make the soccer team (im in 7th grade) and she made the team, and its the A team! most of the A team is 8th graders, and most of the B team is 7th graders. wow.. just wow. she even gets to play soccer otherwise in a different county than ours like 30-40 mins away.. and its travel soccer! i only get to do rec.. and i've only played in 3 seasons. i wish i started soccer earlier.. basketball too, but im better at basketball than soccer. ugh.. i just.. dont know. i guess like.. everyone has something special about them.. im not saying that i dont like myself.. I think I'm a great person and all, but like.. its just kinda unfair that this girl has like everything! i dont even have an ipod, cellphone, etc. I have like.. gameboy color, and a gamecube, opposed to nintendo DS and playstation 3. and.. like etc. i know this was ridicuosly long, but its been in my head. i dunno if i just like have no self confidence.. sometimes i dont, but usually i do... well it depends if im in a good mood or not. or maybe its because im wacko, which some of y'all may say. or maybe im just a green jealousy-person. ugh.. well.. yeah thats pretty much it.
also, what do you think it takes to be popular? i dunno what i am.. i dont know anybody that hates, me and i have friends and junk (no boyfriend, too). i dont deliberately try to be mean to people, if i am, im probably just joking around, unless i really mean it, but thats rare. i wont be like "your such a bitch, amanda!" since i'm like a positive person and think everyone has a good thing about them (I know.. kinda retarded way of thinking. like theres this loser guy in my class and even though hes made fun of me before (it was really retarded, and this guy i liked stuck up for me, though i dont care what the loser guy says
Ha I was actually terribly bored;
and yes, I read the whole question.
Do you want to know why she's so popular?
Because people like you MAKE her popular.
Do you think everyone would love her so much
if people didn't make such a great deal about
her?
As for the looks, money, and talent.
Some people are just born lucky, you have
to learn to accept that. Its a major lesson
in life.
She's gotten herself far in life
apparently by being nice to others
and working very hard at sports she
wishes to achieve high in.
As far as you know, her life is great.
However, you never really know if it is or
not, only she does. So just be thankful
of your friends and family, and what you have.
Now for your confidence issue.
The main reason you're feeling low is
because you're comparing yourself to someone
like 'her'. That isn't going to get you
anywhere. Forget about her, be friends with
her if you want, but don't gawk over her
day after day. That won't help.
Walk into school with a smile on your face,
shoulders back, gut sucked in, and ready
to face the day. Sincerly compliment others
regularly, try adding some spice to your
wardrobe, try expeirementing with your hairstyles, and put your heart into everything
you do. Keep a smile on your face at all
times. Confidence is the key in everything.
Say five good things about yourself
every night and work on enhancing your positives.
(IE: if you have great eyes, ask your mom
if you can try mascara just to lighten up
your face) As corny as it sounsd, this will
get your confidence up in no time. Never go
around complaining, just to fish for compliments.
Good Luck!
16/F
I used to be friends with this girl (ill call her T) Well T and I became best friends in like 8th grade and we were inseperable. We used to do everything together (movies, mall, sleepovers, parties) we could even finish eachothers sentences. When me and T hangout we have a really good time, but she has stabbed me in the back more then once. T was texting/calling my boyfriend when we were going out and then when we broke up she went out with him like 2 months later another time there was this guy i really liked and he liked me and she was jealous so she would tell him that i dont really like him and was telling him things to make him like her..he ended up going out with some other girl. She has also tried to get people who are my friends against me too and she loves to copy me like my clothes, hair, guys i like, etc.. Now were both in 11th grade and since school started we havent been talking about 5 or 6 months and truthfully i miss hanging out with her and being friends but i dont know how to even start up a conversation and tell her how i feel because i dont want her to think im crawling back or not want to be friends, i know she has not been a good friend in the past but idk what to do can anyone help?
I like Diamonds answer..
Go ahead, write her a note.
Mention all the good time you two
had and include a few specific details
(Big inside jokes, etc)
to remind her of your past friendship.
Explain how she hurt you in all
the situations.
But also, tell her you
miss the great times you two
had together. Loosing a best
friend is tough, I know this too.
I wrote a letter once to
the friend I lost and were
good friends once again.
Remember though, the process
could take a while, she might not
even answer your letter.
So if you see her in the hall,
stop to say hi.
Show her that you are truly
ready to work through this.
Good Luck
Hey Advicenators!
I'm 13, female.
I have a best friend named Chelsea and I want to make a scrapbook and special things with her.
Anyone know of quote sites, icon sites, books, or songs that could be perfect for us?!
PLEASE!
Just Listen and Someone Like You are both books by Sarah Dessen that rely on friendship to get through hard times. I loved both boths more then anything, so I'd recommend those.
For quote sites I go to xanga.com then search Quotes under blogrings, you'll find TONS of sighs to help you out there. Also, the same for icons, if you type Icons in instead of quotes.
As for songs, the only one I can think of would be "I'll be there for you" The friends theme song.
My favorite quote is "Friendship is like peeing in your pants, everyone can see it, but only you can feel it"
Kinda silly, but you get the point =]
Also for your scrapbook, if you have any ticket stubs or anything of that sort from places/things you've done together, that'd be great to add!
Good Luck
Ok, to make this really short, I'm becoming the third wheel in my frienship. My best friend recently started dating one of our other guy friends. We used to all hang out, us a other people too, but now its just me, her and her boyfriend and I feel as though I'm becoming the third wheel. What can I do about this?
Try asking her if you guys can hang out in
a bigger group sometime. Maybe bring along
another friend for you, I know where you're coming from and being a third wheel is deffinitley no fun.
I'm sure your friend will understand
if you tell her that you're kind of uncomfortable around just the two of them, or if you feel left out. If you don't want to be around them when they kiss or something, ask her to keep the pda at a minimum.
Communication is key, words to live by.
Good Luck
Ok well my friend just got a new chocolate phone (green), and today at lunch she said- do you want to see my new phone, I said- I don't care about your fucking phone, she got mad at me. and I knew she just wanted to show it to me to rub it in my face. She knew I wanted one. She's that kind of a person. ok so now she's pissed off at me because of that, stupid I know. Ok do I appologize or what I would like to do is punch her in the face. (I will to) what should I do.
Hah, what a familiar problem.
I'd just let yourself be aggrivated with her for a bit. I mean, if she KNEW you wanted that phone it's very possible she was showing off. Perhaps, for revenge get something she wants and rub it in her face? You know, Karma.
Although, I do not advocate violence of this sort, so I do not recommend punching her, even though I understand where the urge is coming in. Let her know she's being bitchy about this, maybe by telling her off. Other then that, I'd wait for an apology from her, she was wrong.
Good Luck