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I want my bestfriend back
16/F
I used to be friends with this girl (ill call her T) Well T and I became best friends in like 8th grade and we were inseperable. We used to do everything together (movies, mall, sleepovers, parties) we could even finish eachothers sentences. When me and T hangout we have a really good time, but she has stabbed me in the back more then once. T was texting/calling my boyfriend when we were going out and then when we broke up she went out with him like 2 months later another time there was this guy i really liked and he liked me and she was jealous so she would tell him that i dont really like him and was telling him things to make him like her..he ended up going out with some other girl. She has also tried to get people who are my friends against me too and she loves to copy me like my clothes, hair, guys i like, etc.. Now were both in 11th grade and since school started we havent been talking about 5 or 6 months and truthfully i miss hanging out with her and being friends but i dont know how to even start up a conversation and tell her how i feel because i dont want her to think im crawling back or not want to be friends, i know she has not been a good friend in the past but idk what to do can anyone help?
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i can see how you dont wanna lose a friend & all but shes been really mean to youu. "T" has backstabbed you aton. i dont like being friends with people like that but maybe its just me. anywayss ;; if you wanna be friends with her again than just start talking to her.. lik normally first just like whats up.. stuff lik that. dont start with the whole friendship thing. & also ;; did you guys just stop talking randomly? im confused. hope that helped. ♥CAROLiNEE
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Okay, reality check.
People change - I dont mean to sound mean,
but people change. Your relationship from 8th grade isnt going to be the same now. Sometimes you cant go back to being best friends. I guess you have to learn to accept that sometimes friends arent forever. And if she's treated you bad and done all that stuff to you in the past, and hasnt apologized... what makes you think she wont do it again?
But if you really wish to be friends again
I suggest sending her an email
telling her how you feel,
and basicly what you wrote on here.
And wait for a response, and the response if there is one, will show wether you two will be able to be friends again.
<3
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I like Diamonds answer..
Go ahead, write her a note.
Mention all the good time you two
had and include a few specific details
(Big inside jokes, etc)
to remind her of your past friendship.
Explain how she hurt you in all
the situations.
But also, tell her you
miss the great times you two
had together. Loosing a best
friend is tough, I know this too.
I wrote a letter once to
the friend I lost and were
good friends once again.
Remember though, the process
could take a while, she might not
even answer your letter.
So if you see her in the hall,
stop to say hi.
Show her that you are truly
ready to work through this.
Good Luck <3
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tell her all that you just wrote and express to her how and what she's doing to make you mad and tell T how you want to be best friends again like say "look T you changed and i want the old T back. you always copy me and made -whoever the guys name tat u like- date another girl. remember when we would never do tat to eachother?"
CONSIDER IT
♥ Flaggal
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I know how this feels. I think you should write a good old fashioned letter to her. Make it long and rambling, but with lots of meaning. Say stuff like: I am missing you so much, why have you stabbed me in the back, and be 100% kind to her, saying you won't mind why, but you just need your answers
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