OK I'm having a really bad sitution one of my friends moved and my other friend is mad cuz im annoying and a bleep
Help me get my friend back or earn new friends
P.S. Everyone teases me cuz im short and i need combacks too
If your friends get mad at you, you should try and talk to them about why they get mad. Try and work a compromise. They might know something that you don't notice. Earning friends is something you have to do. Advice on how to make friends is harder considering everyone is different and everyone has a different situation...
As for being short, you should just be proud of who you are. If people tease you about it, ignore it. Showing that it bothers you just makes it all the more reason to tease you. If you don't show a reaction or aren't noticeably being put down by the comments, it will die down for the most part. I think its actually cool to be short, I don't know why anyone would really want to be tall at all. You can totally use small height as an advantage at a lot of things that tall people can't do.
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14 Female
Okay so awhile ago in science me and my best guy friend Steven were joking around and he was like I bet you couldn't get me hard. So in the middle of class I tickeled his knee and was like "Does This Get You Horny?" and he started laughing and like groped my knee and I was like AHH NO. Lol it was awkward. Well over a week I kept going higher and higher as a joke, and we did joke about it. Then i guess my BFF Becky asked him if I ever got him hard-- and he told me that she asked that, and i was like LALALALALA i dont wanna know LALALALALA. Then last night he was like Katie- you have gotten me hard In Science class and I was like =OOOOO.
LAST TIME I JOKE WITH HIM LIKE THAT.
You dont get hard when we joke around like that. its creepy and then you don't tell me lol because then its awkward. Now im afraid to be in
science with him..
Well.. its weird to know that guy friends that I have had since forever and now getting in that stage of life. Which I know happens.. but why do they feel comfortable talking to me about it because I try to make it obvious that i dislike talking about like stuff. Like masterbation... ITS WEIRD.
But how do i explain it to make them stop and not make them think its because im interested.
and why do they not care that i know this stuff...
The reason they don't care that you don't want to know any of that is because their simply immature guys. Take your friend for example. First of all, you shouldn't have started the "joke", but I don't blame you if your bored out of your mind in class and want to be entertained somehow. Second, you shouldn't have played the "joke" with a guy of all people, especially at your age. Guys like that have no sense of respect or the ability to acknowledge whats right and wrong.
If you meet up with him and he tries to talk to you about the subject again, you tell him that its enough and to stop doing that. Its not at all amusing or impressive. Be as blunt as you can, no matter how you think he might feel in the end. Because its likely he'll either stop right then and there or end up thinking that if he keeps doing it it will eventually become amusing again.
If he does pick up again, its better to tell a teacher or adult about it. They are more likely to be able to do something about it then you can, but use it as a last resort, because it can make things a hell of a lot worse than you trying to stop it...
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okay so on facebook i was on my home page.
And you know how when your on your home page all your friends updates are ont here too along with new comments on pictures?
Well, theres a pic of these 3 girls and one is in their white bathing suit.
So from far away it looks like a bra
and my mom came in and was like "WHAT IS THAT?"
and i thought it was funny so i told them, i was like
"ohmymgod is Kristen in her bra? lmao my mom came in and was like "WHAT IS THAT?" cuz i was on my homepage.. haha thanks =/"
but you could tell i was only kidding about the "thanks=/" part.
They all like, attacked me!
They said i was blaming it on Angela, the girls picture, and that one little comment triggered like 320234234 of their comments
i cant even explain it!
I dont talk to them much, but i thought i'd be funny and say that.
And they were being total bitches!
angela was like "why were you looking at my profile? and why do you care?"
and tthis one girl britney was like "yeah that looks nothing like a bra"
Its like they didnt pay attention to anything i said!
so then i said
"i wasnt blaming it on angela, and on your HOMEPAGE it shows up, i wasnt looking at your profile. Also, i said from AFAR it looks like a bra"
immidiatley i got like 6 responses
"You must have a pretty f***** up bra then."
and like a bunch of other bitchy ones.
then i was like
"sorry i just thought it'd bring some laughs (:"
and then britney goes
"well, here are your laughs
HAHAHAHAHHAH
ok."
theyre all such bitches i was only trying to be funny, and its like they listened to nothing i said. i didnt do anything wrong that whole convo and they were all nasty for no reason =/
i didnt respond to that last comment and i think i'd better stay quiet.
does anyone think what i did was stupid?
or does anyone think i should respond?
opinions?
answers?
help?
15/f
what you did wasn't stupid, you simply felt like you oughta mention it. Its the people that took offense to it, and its not really something you can help. You just have to watch what you say before you say it. Most people tend to realize that you don't mean anything, but others have no clue. But if it happens again in anyway, don't respond. It only makes things worse, and tends not help because those people are really dense... Overall, try to avoid it happening again...
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so for the first time in a long time, i really feel like all my friends have moved on from me. they either got bored, or found someone better. i am usually very confident and happy, i'm just shy with new people. i'm not sure what to do with myself anymore. also, i'm drifting from all my best friends; especially one that i've had for 11 years. (i'm 15 , shes 17). i feel like i can't relate to anyone anymore, many of my friend's changed. if anyone has gone through this, what did you do to cope? any help on this would be appreciated, thankyou so much
Coincidentally I'm right now dealing with this, though I've dealt with it in the past as well. Its actually really hard to cope with this kind of thing, and being shy about meeting just makes it harder. I know, cause I have a weird phobia against people I don't know. We all have to understand change will always happen, for better or for worse.
But sometimes you just have to figure out a way to get out of your comfort zone and meet new people. Its hard, I know, but relating to someone isn't just what being a friend is all about. If you can believe in the concept "Opposites attract" than you can sort of relate to more people than those who are like you. Variety is a far better thing than straight line relations. The best way I find to cope with this, is still try to be friends with whom I still have, and still make other friends. True friends will never drift away, and even if they become separated their memories still remain in their hearts.
This is really the only way I've found to deal with losing friends over time. That, and I just learn to move on and accept life for what it is. Let the past be the past, and focus on today and tomorrow. Those are the times when things count most.
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[dont know what cagegory this goes in]
im so self concious about myself and iv lost all my confidents. i dont know why b'cos i used to be so comfortable with myself. but now im so quiet and i dont have many friends. i just want to feel comfortable and feel good about myself again like the old me...
whats wrong with me and what should i do? i feel like im a loser and i hate myself. =[
Confidence comes and goes like the seasons, you'll have at one moment and then lose the next. The fact your quiet maybe because you don't have many friends, which also could result into your uncomfortableness around others. Nothing is wrong with you, nor should you hate yourself. It takes time to make friends and develop confidence, even if you had it before. One of the best ways to speed this up, is to make friends. Now I'm not telling you attempt to make friends with everyone at once, I'm saying that friends will help. Let them come to you, as through group projects at school or if they just suddenly talk to you, those tend to be the more loyal ones and develop relations faster.
And now to contradict myself, confidence can't be loss, only earned. You might feel like your insecure and self conscious, but its only because you holding back. The old you is there, it just needs place to express itself freely. And to find the old you again, just do something you love to do that others will join in with you to do. You should see that your still yourself, you just didn't have any place to express it.
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ok i asked this question earlier about Joe, Sara, and my friends. i decided to try and repopst this with better information cause the other was me in a hurry and kinda freaked out a bit:
ok Joe is in the same grade as me, funny, friendly, and one of my favorite people to be around. Sara is his 2wice ex and i somewhat do not like her. Jessey is another ex that i didnt even kno he had dated. Lulu is the friend who has been trying to hook me up with Joe.
ok I've known Joe for a semester and the 2 times he dated Sara, he became an asshole, like he wouldn't talk to me or even be himself really. But when he was single, he was always messing with me, teasing me, and doing whatever he could to make me laugh. Hes a great guy, a little mean at times, but usually just teasing. and whenever we text and i say something like i was upset or crying, hed always text me back why and not let up till i told him. so lulu, in a way, was the one who really got me and him talking. she makes fun of him too and has been trying to hook me up with him for most of the semester. she and her sister Tracie both say he really likes me because of how he acts around me. and Lulu told sara that i liked him and i honestly think shes over him without a doubt and shes started to try and hook me and him up. and when he called me, it was at 10 at night and he was finally home from michigan and he kept just messing around teasing me and picking at me. i really like him and i am majorly confused about this mess. HELP ME!!
15/f
Its sorta a guys way of flirting, teasing and picking at you. I personally don't like how we do it, but we do. But if everyone is trying to get you guys together, go for it and try it out. If you like, stick with it and make it last. If you don't well, then your friends were wrong to try and hook you two up. But he seems like he cares a lot and is "flirting" with you.
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I'm really shy... well more like afraid of people.
If I'm with people I want to like me, I freeze up and can't think of anything to say. If I do say something it's either really stupid or sarcastic/mean. This hinders me making friends because I freeze up and get really awkward, and I'm not pretty so it's not like people come to me. Do you have any advice as to how I can overcome this?
Don't say anything at all. Not saying this to put you down or anything, I'm saying if you want to avoid speaking rudely or saying something stupid, then don't say anything at all. Just keep you mouth closed. If you feel insecure being with new people, then be with others you know better and trust. This way, your more likely going to meet people who are similar to the people you know. Listen to the conversation, if there is one going on, and just listen for topics you can relate to. Don't interrupt anyone if you find one though, and if the topic moves on, don't try and bring it back up.
If you feel tense, then find someplace to sit or lean against, close your eyes and relax. Once your relaxed enough to move on, do so. Don't think about being accidentally awkward, because then it will just happen. Think about other things. Keep your mind far away from anything that would make a situation awkward. And if you can't think of what to say, let the other person say something first. It may seem awkward, but it'll pull a lot of pressure away from you.
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hi, i'm 14/f, and i live in boston. i play sports, a different one every season. i consider myself a popular girl, and i usually have a boyfriend. but recently, i have been doing some seriously dumb stuff. like 2 months ago i smoked weed for the first time with this really hot kid. then, a month ago, i got rly wasted but i got caught. my friends figured after my month long groundation i wouldnt be doing stuff like that anymore. i thought so to, until i woke up this morning and went downstairs. my brother and his best friend (both 16,) were rolling joints in the kitchen (both my parents at work) so my brothers friend kept telling my brother to let me smoke with them, even tho i didnt ask to. i ended up smoking a lotttt, and i got intensley baked. a half hour later, wen i was still super high, my friends mom picked me up to go shopping, and i think they could tell i was high. things were akward all day. now, i dont no what to say to them, i know their really disappointed, and i need to know how to make things right with them. thanks in advance..
your going to have to stop now. The sooner you stop such behaviors, the more likely your going to be able to make the right choices in the future. It will mend all the things you have done wrong and give you a chance to try again. Your going to get a lot of influences that will make you try again if you do manage to quit these things, and your going to have to either say no, avoid them and/or stop them. And if you get thoughts about trying to do weed or the such, find something to do or whatever that will keep your mind off the stuff. Like a hobby or rearranging furniture in your room or whatever floats your boat. But if you dont stop now, its only going to get harder and harder. And your going to find yourself in a lot of crap you dont need.
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my friend is always going around telling boys i like them or im obsessed. one time she did it and tried to blame it on my other friend. i dont know if i should still be her friend or not? its real annoying, but i dont have many other friends.
You should talk to her about. Sternly, but without harsh words or aggression. If she is a good friend, she will hear you out and stop, hopefully. If she isn't then you might have to stop talking to her for awhile, and maybe if nothing seems to work, drop her. Sometimes its better to drop bad friends than to keep them. They only cause more conflicts. But its better to talk it out than to just drop immediately....
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so 3 days ago my friend told me that she smoked weed that day. i pretended to be all cool about it and laughed along with him but i'm worried. he also told me that he got a months worth on cigs. what do i do? do i just let him or try to stop him or what??
Tell him he should stop now. Sooner the better. Because eventually he is just going to lose interest in everything and will fade away because of it. If he continued for some time and you still happen to keep in contact with him, he won't be the same guy that you knew before. Weed is just as bad as smoking cigarettes if not slightly worse. If you want to save his life, get him to stop now, or eventually your going to lose him...
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have you ever lost a friend? What did you feel like? Do you still miss him or her? I think I'm on the verge of losing my friend, and i just wanted to know what you have gone thru. Thanks.
Its not a fun feeling, of course. You feel like a part of you was just ripped apart from you if they were a really good friend. After awhile, you might forget about them for some time, but when you get nostalgic, it hurts to know you lost a good friend. If you are on the verge of losing a friend, you should stop try to stop it. Losing a good friend can hurt worse than breaking up with a significant other. Though you might not think it like that, it will feel that way after awhile.
I've lost too many. Simply because I move around too much. Heck, my fam isn't even a part of the army. So I've never had any childhood friends, or best friends I've known for years on end. I've never had that in a long shot.
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i dont get it. my best friend has two best friends, me and some girl i dont know at all. she says that she likes me alot more then her other best friend, and she always talks about her other best friend. but like, when i look at her myspace, [my best friends friends myspace] my best friend will leave her all these comments, like oh my gosh lets hang out soon! oh yeah, i have a story to tell you!!! oh my god, i know i love youuu. thats so funny! and she never leaves me comments like that. i mean, i dont use the computer much, and hardly go on myspace, but i dont think ive ever heard that come out of her mouth before to me. and then she leaves this girl picture comments and will be like, you look so pretty here! i love it. i never get stuff like that. and okkkkk. im not trying to sound stuck up, but im alot prettier. she weighs like 150 pounds more then me, [this girl weighs 250 pounds] and i just, i dont understand, why she does thaT? like on her myspace, im first and like she says like in her heros im her best friend.
i know, i guess im kinda jealous. but im alot more confused, then jealous, and im really hurt. if i tell her im upset, i dont think she will care at all, because she told me she doesnt care if people are mad at her. i also wonder if she ever talks about me to her other best friend...
what should i do?
Theres a rather large line between mad and upset. Its best to tell her your not happy that the other girl gets a hell of a lot attention, but you dont get things like that. But dont be mean about it or use caps, just tell her whats on your mind. If shes a real best friend, she'll hear you out and care.
But you gotta keep in mind that you dont get on the computer that much, and she might have noticed this. Some people use comments like messages to you might only be looking at half the conversation. That and the other girl might do the same thing she does, so its only out of respect that she would do those things.
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Ok, I have this best friend, I'll call her Sierra. Now, Sierra is great and everything, but she's a little... well, to be honost, she's a complete poser. But instead of posing as a certain stereotype [skater, prep, emo, etc.] She copies me! She ALWAYS does what I do! Don't get me wrong, I am flattered, but it's annoying, especially when people actally believe her about things she says she does. Like art, for example. I've had a huge passion for drawing since Pre-K. My dad's side of the family were artists, so I kind of grew up around the environment. I have a sketchbook that I take to school, to doodle when I get bored in class. Ok, a few weeks ago, I had my sketchbook out in study hall and was doodling, when she comes up and asks me what i'm doing. I answered and then she goes off about how she "loves to draw too!" and "what a coincidance!". I have never, I mean NEVER, heard or saw any of this sudden artistic surge before, from her. She went on and on about how she was a "deep thinker artisticly inclined" [her exact words] person, and said she would bring her sketchbook so we could "study each other's artistic skills". Well, she goes out that night and buys her self one of those little kid's diaries, with lined, pink pages, and about the size of a regular chapter book. It was brand new, and I knew this for a fact, because it had a price tag on it.
That's just one example. Another;
My dad and I absolutely LOVE the Beatles. My dad has almost all of their cd's and some records and I've got most downloaded on my ipod. I've loved them for a while, and all my friends knew it, but until Sierra came along, no one really cared. She came along and decided she suddenly "loved the beatles" also. She only knows one song by them, but she acts like she knows all about them.
There are many other circumstances too. It has gotten to the point where she has even begun to dress like me! She wears the same shirt I do every day in gym. Don't get me wrong, it's flattering, but it's gotten to the point where it's a little infuriting. However, we happen to be best friends. I don't know how that worked out though, but we are best friends, since I DO like her as a person. It's just annoying as hell for someone to copy every move you make or thing you say. How do I let her know how much it annoys me, without actually saying it to her face? She's a tad Bipolar and gets set off very easily. I just don't want to ruin our friendship. Thanks.
I believe you still have to tell her up front whether you like it or not. I think notes/messages are sketchy and cliche. They allow you to think of what you want to say instead of downright saying it!
But yea, you prolly have to tell her upfront. Not saying you HAVE to, Im saying it will be the better option to take. By confronting her, your saying its not just something general, its important. So when you do talk to her about, keep it calm and settled so that nothing will get too out of hand. If you notice your voice is getting louder or speeding up, pause and tone it down. Remind her that everyone is an individual and that everyone like their individuality. Be patient with her, and let it take time to sink into understanding. Because if its all done right, everything will even out in the end.
I bet she has a good reason to try to like the things you like. But its a matter of communication that will let you and her know your boudaries of whats comfortable and not. And after you discuss the problem and feel like shes getting it, maybe every now and again warn her shes doing it, but dont pester her.
I wish you good luck b(^_o)
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Bascially my friend is rele nice. But she gets what she wants alot of the time-spoiled. She gets away with alot of BS. She curses at her parents often, even when her friends are around. And I know she is jealous because I have invited my friend over who is one of her best friends, but not her b/c she acts like a jerk alot of the time. But I mean she is fun to hang around with. She is bossy. And recently my best friend told me that she called me a bitch behind my back and meant it. I like her and all, but shes always been like this and it's getting worse. I am 14 by the way and so are my friends. Gurls-USA
Like most would say, ignoring her would be the best option. Don't try to over power her, don't start anything about her, just don't. Of course, there is a possibility your friend made that up because she doesn't like her(the friend not liking the bossy friend). But your likely to say, "No! SHe wouldn't do that! Shes awesome..." so don't even think about that. Just ignore it, and if its true, talk to her about it. If its not, don't think or worry about anything.
And BTW most people tend to be like that these days. So its actually a very common thing. Especially the "bitch-behind-the-back" story. Its all just to try and piss you off. Whether it works or not is upon your tolerance level. And everyones level is different. So if your tolerance to that sorta thing is low, then you need to learn to build it up. If your tolerance is already pretty high up, just do what you do.
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this boy i know really believes in God. It's a good thing that suppose to make him a better person. HOwever, I feel he has so much hate inside of him. He is anti-social; doesn't consider others' feeling when he talks or make comments about others; he told me to "go to hell" when all i did was rush him to work.
I don't think we are friends anymore (we don't talk or txt or anything now). But I want to help him. what should I do?
He most likely feels that God is betraying him and hes not getting what hes asking for from Him. When really, God is giving him every moment he can to give what he asks for, but he won't notice it. I dont like getting all Christian/Church like but you should pray for him if you believe it will help.
But back to realism now. If you really want to help him, go and be there for him. If you think something is wrong try to get him to tell you. But only ask once, if he doesnt want to tell, dont badger him. If he needs help, run to his side and help him. Ignore any rude comments he makes and just do it. Even if your not friends, show him that your still willing to be there for him. Hopefully, your kindness will sink in to not only him but to others and other people will help him as well. And he will slowly begin to lighten up as time goes by. But this is a commitment you'll have to take if you are willing...
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my best friend doesnt like who im friends with and everytiime i mention them, she goes nuts
but theyre my friends and i want to tell her about them and all the funny stuff that happens but she gets all jelous and whatnot
There are lots of reasons for this problem.
Theres a possibility that she wants your friends for herself.
She might just want to piss you off.
She might really be jealous at you for having those kind of friends and she wants them all to herself.
Theres more but its hard to think of other reasons.
Point is, if it bothers you, get her to answer why shes doing that. She probably wont answer it though. So you should tell her you know whats up and to just stop. If she denies it, go whatever and walk away.
And the reason she acts normal around your friends like that is to not give out that she hates them on the inside. Its a thing that, if you look hard enough, a lot of stuck up girls pull. I dont really know why, but its true, and Ive seen it done before.
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Okay so, one of my guy friend's told me a few weeks ago that he likes my friend, lets call her R, and R is extremly pretty, prettier than me... and she doesn't feel the same way about him, but I am beginning to like my guys friend, he'll be called A, and A is well...shorter than me...and I don't want to tell him I like him, because we all (me, R, and A) all have one class together and I don't kow how long this feeling will last...because the marking period is almost over and that means our one period together will be over.
so my questions are:
1. what should I do about A
2. do u think that we have a lil difference in height bother him?
3. Will he get over my friend?
4. How do I let him know that I'm intrested in him without actually telling him and being blunt or way to obvious?
Thanks in advance.
lol, ok, dont worry.(BTW I might jump around your questions so try to bear with) Unless hes dense(oblivious) he should eventually notice shes not interested. But that is only an assumption. He could be stuck with his head in the clouds over your friend while she just ignores. But as long as your sure that your friend isn't interested, the more likely he'll get over.
About the height difference, Ive heard that guys are actually attracted to taller girls. But again, only an assumption. I mean, unless you stand over 3 inches above him, the difference really shouldn't matter. High School is full of height differences(and trust me, I would know -_-) so it shouldn't really weird him out much.
And if you really dont want to make it overly obvious that you want to show him you like him, try hanging out with your friend when hes around. Get into conversations you can actually fit into. Get to know him and let him get to know you. Assuming he doesnt already know all about you that is. So if you do, just hang out with your friend when "A" is around, and dont leave if "A" leaves. It might make others start thinking. Also make sure that "R" isnt there to be a distraction if you can help it. Unless he gets over her very quickly, its likely he'll pay more attention to her. But, dont act like a wall to block her out. Just try to find a way to blend into the picture.
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16/f. my friend, 15/f...one of my best friends...has changed a lot since this year. reasons: i got a boyfriend and she didnt. i developed more and she didnt. stuff like that.
now, she's very mean towards me. she mocks me, she makes fun of me..and i cant trust her anymore. when she asks me to tell her something, i trust her with my secrets...and so i tell her.
she goes to her OTHER friends...and tells them everything i told her. even after i told her not to. she has a big mouth and is very obnoxious. she's turning into a bitch and i cant do anything about it. she even told me thatt she was jealous.
i cant have a person like that around me. yet..its so hard to end a friendship, but i feel that if i dont...she will hurt me so much in the end.
what can I do?
First of all there are a lot of things that could explain her negativity(and don't take it like its your fault because it isn't...)
1 She could be jealous of you
2 She could be envious
3 she wants you to be in the same position shes in
SO best advice is to set your ground and tell her that what she is doing isnt right and hurts you. And if you really want to help, try to get her to meet some guys and such. You just happened to have gotten more faster and she will catch up to where you are too eventually. And if you have trust issues, dont tell her EXTREMELY secretive things, just stuff that if it got out, you wouldnt care much for it.
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