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lost all confidents =[
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im so self concious about myself and iv lost all my confidents. i dont know why b'cos i used to be so comfortable with myself. but now im so quiet and i dont have many friends. i just want to feel comfortable and feel good about myself again like the old me...
whats wrong with me and what should i do? i feel like im a loser and i hate myself. =[
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Maybe give some free advice about: Friendship?
look in the mirror
and recall all the good things about yourself
or you talents and features,
don't be so negative and surroned yourself with understanding and good people.
make yourself someone, try to think confidently
and how lucky you are...
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I can say this..nothing is wrong with you!! i myself have 3 friends one means alot to me and the other 2 are close to me and in the begining i felt i was a loser for not having tons of friends but the friends u do have (the ones who mean practically everything to you)hold on to them and donot let them go for anyhting bc in the end you are going to regret it...be happy that you have a family be happy that even though you might not have tons of friends you still do have friends..be grateful everyday that your here!!! i know iam!!! another thing is about being comfortabe with yourself why aren't you comfortable with yourself? do you have a good reason not to be? i don't care what other people (ppl i hardly or dont know)think about me..just know that your you!! hope that helps someway...<3
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Confidence comes and goes like the seasons, you'll have at one moment and then lose the next. The fact your quiet maybe because you don't have many friends, which also could result into your uncomfortableness around others. Nothing is wrong with you, nor should you hate yourself. It takes time to make friends and develop confidence, even if you had it before. One of the best ways to speed this up, is to make friends. Now I'm not telling you attempt to make friends with everyone at once, I'm saying that friends will help. Let them come to you, as through group projects at school or if they just suddenly talk to you, those tend to be the more loyal ones and develop relations faster.
And now to contradict myself, confidence can't be loss, only earned. You might feel like your insecure and self conscious, but its only because you holding back. The old you is there, it just needs place to express itself freely. And to find the old you again, just do something you love to do that others will join in with you to do. You should see that your still yourself, you just didn't have any place to express it.
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What you feel is exactly what I feel all of the time.
Like you have no purpose and you have yet to find it. I know that helping people, that is mine. Maybe you're just changing and you don't know what to expect.
But even if you do find what your reason is, it still isn't enough.
What I highly suggest is going to a book store and spending the day there. You might not be a true fan of reading but you will just have to trust me on this.
Pick out your favorite things in life. Vampires, ghosts, high school drama, etc. and find a book that has that in store.
A book maybe what you need to just be able to grasp what has ever come your way. You probably don't know what is going on but serching through books to find a story that is told like yours, will help you. More ways than one.
That is what I did. Whenever I fell into a deep dark hole or I needed to tune out the drama going on at that exact moment. I pulled out a book and was lost somewhere else.
A book opens up new doors and thoughts for people. They are what others create just in words and on paper. It is just good to know you can open a book and read your life on several pages.
Trust me, I think it will help a lot.
Let me know.
-KD/f/15
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