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hey, its marisa. i give pretty good advice so ask away. i've been through a lot in my life soo i will probably be able to relate to a lot of stuff. thanks for reading! feel free to ask any question!
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My best friend is a guy (im a girl) so we like to go places together (movies, mall) and i always sit with him at lunch. I have most of my classes with him (which is great) and trust me, i do have a lot o friends that r girlz too.
So theres this kid and she absolutely hates me (and we used to b friends) but ever since i hung out with Nick, she has been like spreading rumors about me and making things up! Its really annoying. (she is very popular and "perfect" so ppl believez her)
She is trying to make my life a liv in hell. HELP!
just tell everyone who believes her the truth. talk to the girl who is spreading rumors and tell her that its not nice to spread rumors and find out why she is doing it. if its a reason that you can fix, fix it. if you can't, keep telling her that you really don't like it. hopefully she'll stop. if not, you should talk to nick and ask nick to ask the girl to stop. maybe she'll listen to him if not you. talk to nick also and ask nick to help stop the spreading rumors. hope this helps :)
Well theres this guy that i like...well idk if i do or not...but yeah...i think he likes me too...but we are really good friends and always hang out...so n-e-wayz...he asked me out but idk if i wanna go out with hime b/c that might ruin our friendship...rite? How can i tell him without hurting him?
Well, that is actually happening with me right now. only he didn't ask me out and i'm almost positive the boy likes me. & we are really good friends & i think it'd kinda ruin our friendship also if we did go out. but have you ever heard of the saying, "you can turn friendship into love but not love into friendship?" well, you could try going out with him and if you don't like the way its turning out, you can talk to him and say you'd rather just be friends. or you can talk to him beforehand just in case things get too serious. i hope this helps :)
when i'm with a group of people, i get really shy and i never know what to say. when i'm around just a few people i'm really loud & outgoing. like tonight, after my soccer game we went out to dinner with the team. everyone was laughing and screaming, but i was really shy and not "hyper" as they called it. and those kids are my friends so it's not because i didnt know them. i tried speaking up and being outgoing, but the more i tried to like fit in, the shyer i got. it was so weird. but then again, in school the teachers all yell at me because i never shut up. how come i'm shy around certain people but REALLY loud others? oh, and don't say i don't feel comfortable around them because i do. and how do i step out of my shy zone and become outgoing (to the people i'm shy with.) what are some things to bring up in a conversation and stuff? i really dount know why im like this.
signed,
confused
i have felt the exact same way. for me, i just can't help myself but just change my attitude around certain people, even if they are my friends. i've learned over past experiences that certain people can get small doses of me at a time. so i learn to back off of those people sometimes. but for you, i suggest even if you feel weird trying to fit in, try it. i know it feels embarrassing. maybe you even feel like you're gonna die standing there. i'm sure the people who are talking the most probably embarrass themselves the most. they've probably learned to push themselves and not hold back because if they don't go ahead and talk, they'll be having no progress in their social life. so try to speak up a little more, think about good topics to talk about, something you know you're able to talk about for a while. music, food, tv, movies. those are good subjects. i know for me, i could talk for a long time about itt. you'll eventually get used to it and start being more social and hopefully fit in more. i hope this helps!!!
you know how people always say like i wanna be original and stuff but copy other things. its really annoying to me. and i kindove have a habbit of noticing that and like taking action. especially when someone copies my friends. and they are all like "OMG IM SO ORGINAL BLAHH BLAHH" then go and copy. im like wtf man? you know!.. so i dont really know what top do. its bad because i overreact on alot of things. but i really dont understand why people do that.. so help?
thankss! oh & nice info.. *COUGHH*
is this kelly?
this year, i feel that i have started to change. I notice that my friends are best friends with other people and it's harder for me to understand them. We hardly talk like we used to and everyone seems to not find me as "interesting" as before. what's going on with me?
hey. i can definetly relate to that. a lot of my past best friends whom i still talk to but we are not as close as we used to be. nothing is wrong with you and every girl around the age of 13/14 change. [emotionally and physically.] so don't blame it on yourself and im sure your friends are probably all going through the same changes you are and maybe in a year or so it'll start to get easier with the relationship with your friends. in the meantime, don't rush things and hopefully everything will fall in it's place. you could also maybe try to make some new friends and see if that helps. ;)
i have this friend named sarah. except i dont think shes my friend anymore and heres why: me and sarah have been friends for quite a few years. but this year theres a problem. all of a sudden sarah becomes literally OBSESSED with this girl named marie. now dont get me wrong, im not one of those girls that gets jelous when my friends have new friendds but... sarah like gives me and my other friend alyssa the details on every moment of marie's life. this is the typical coversation sarah has with us at the lunch table: "OMG, marie is going out with nick! omg i am soo happy! she always liked him! marie is so good at getting boys!" or "MArie calls me up all the time and tells me about nick. oh yeah and we watched a video together yesterday it was so fun" Im sorry but I DONT CARE. and neither does alyssa. sarah never aks me about ME or never has real conversations. its usually just about marie or something else about HER. how can me and alyssa tell sarah in a nice way that we DONT CARE ABOUT FRICKIN MARIE.
heyy. i actually have a friend like that and i can definetly relate. a couple weeks ago she's been hanging out with another girl like every waking moment && she was never really good friends with her before but then suddenly they were best friends. have you tried talking to her at all? i wrote her an email because i have issues with talking to people to their faces about problems. & we eventually talked it out and i just said that i felt really left out. if you already talked to her, and nothing changed, try talking to marie. maybe marie doesn't know whats happening and if you tell marie about sarah, maybe she will let go a little bit and talk to sarah since sarah will most likely listen to marie. hope this helps. :)
i'm really shy and i keep to myself at school, because i lost a lot of friends last year, and now i feel like a big loser. and i'm also fat, so i feel socially retarded. y'know, y'know. but anyways. i have this friend who isn't shy at at all, but she doesn't invite me to her social events anymore 'cause i never knew what to say. i know it sounds dumb, but i can't be myself, because i'm afraid that if i say things people are going to think that i'm dumb, which is probably true. at home i'm just like the people at school, but that's because i'm comfortable.
so suggestions on how to become myself?
Heyy. I know some people at my school who are like that also. My advice is that try to make a goal to start hanging around people who are really social, funny and happy. Have you ever heard the saying, "you are who your friends are?"
Well, the more you hang around those types of people the more you will be social and happy. It shouldn't matter what you look like. Don't be afraid. I know people who are really talkative and they embarrass themselves all the time because they actually work up the courage to talk. Probably they don't care what others thing about them either. So keep your chin up high and start hanging around people who you think you'd like to act and in a few months, you'll probably find yourself starting to act more like them. Hope all goes well :)