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Hey, I love to sing, i take voice lessons and stuff so i know a lot about music, so if you have ne questions about music in singing or instruments, I would be more than happy to answer them. you can IM or email me(IM is below) I am also a poetry and song writing fanatic so you can ask questions about that too. My favourite topics are music and bois (two most difficult exciting things)I am practically happier than i have ever been but i do know what it is like to go through really rough times. I have had a series of extreme problems that i got over and i would like to help anyone get over their problems. I am mostly good with people with any sort of personal problem like an eating disorder or ADD or something like that.

You can ask me anything, i'll answer it.

FUTURE: GONNA BE A SINGER (SO REMEMBER ME)

AGE: 14

FAV SONG: IMPOSSIBLE, STAIRWAY TO HEAVEN

FAV BAND: LED ZEPPELIN (CHRISTINA AGUILERA)

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~*LIZZY*~

advice

Ok!
My friend always texts me on my phone! And we were on the phone w/ a boy the other nite! So yesterday i got this text from my friend saying that the boy we were talking to ( that i like ) said i was annoying! i was like no! She then texts me saying i was jk! I was like ooooo! SHe does it a lot and it is really annoying is it normal 4 me to be mad at her! cause she does it at least twice a day!

Taller

It is normal for friends to get into arguements, but not all the time. Ask her not to do that anymore, and if she respects you she will stop. If not, then it is possible you two are falling apart, which is also sad, but unfortunately normal. I hope everything works out alright
Lizzy

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i like this boy and so does my BESTFRIEND and like its really weird because i liked him for the longest time and she just started loiking him but she acts like she called him or something and i really dont know what to do ?? will you help me!

Never let a boy get in the way of a friendship, true, boys are important, but you'll eventually get a new one you like and so will your friend. If you like him that much, tell her and say how important it is to you, if she is really your best friend she will understand and back off unless the boy does like her and not you, then you have to give up. Hopefully everything works out, good luck
Lizzy

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my best friend went to a aprty and got hammered and was brought home in a cop car the next day she lied to liek everyone about what really happened and then we all found out.. ever since then we really havent been as close as before and shes always with the girl that seh went to the party with now as if that girl like took my spot.. there alwasy together like every day of the week and you cant get them apart what do i do? help me please


ill rate

I think she might be uncomfortable around you, when someone lies and other people find out, they begin to panic and not know how to make up for it, so will just leave you. If she is truly your best friend, talk to her, tell her that you don't care that she got hammered and all, and that you really still want to be her best friend, i hope everything works out for the best. Talk to her!!!
Lizzy

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I have this friend that only asks if she can come over or if i can come over if one of my other friends isnt home or has somebody else over. It really makes me feel like a rebound girl. I told my friend about it but she said that she doesnt do that. What do you think I should do about this?

I think that you should get her and all of the other friends, and hang out together at once, and if she spends more time with them, chances are you are just the rebound girl, and i'm sorry. But if it's all pretty even and she spends time with you and others, you aren't rebound, just the timing is weird
Lizzy

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My friend Cecely smell`z reallyy bad ---ยป realllyyyyyyyy bad - and i want to tell her to take a shower so badly.. but i feel if i tell her .. she will get mad. please help! PLEASE

For a gift, get her like a kit of a loofah and pretty smelling soap and stuff. Make sure you get it so it's in a basket otherwise she will catch on. Don't tell her straight up, but say "yeah, just use that tonight in the shower, and if you don't like the scent, i'll get you another one."
Hope i helped a little
Lizzy

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I have this friend. Well I think we are friends. We used to hang out all the time. This summer things changed. Nothing really changed with her boyfriend and things have been a little wierd. She does get into fights with him... alot... but b4 she used to always tlk to me about it. Now she talkes to other ppl and yea. We have been in a fight lately... and ppl have been tellin me and her both that we tlk about each other really bad... but the other day when I tlked to her she seemed lyk she didnt believe me about not saying anything bad about her. I really didnt say anything and I want to be friends with her. I dont know if she is lying to mr about being friends or not.I mean we used to go crazy about our virginity and stuff... I thought she was gunna loose it first but nvm mind that... I need sum advice... do yOu think we are friends... we are tlking again but I just want to know???

.:*Erika*:.

I think you are friends, but you guys are having problems right now. Just like you will never meet a husband and wife who never fought and have a good relationship, fighting really helps build the relationship, or it ends it. It is just a little test, well that's what i think, that you go through for true friendship. Talk to her about this whole thing. Tell her you heard some people saying that she was talking bad about you and you just want to know if it's true, because you can't get through this without knowing the truth. I hope everything works out ok
Lizzy

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my best friend is going thru depression. i have gone thru it be4 and so has she, so she knows how it is. shes seen a counselor and now she doesnt ne more because she got better and she didnt listen to one anyway. she has very low self esteem and says that she wants to be skinny and lose weight becuz i am "wicked skinny" and so isnt her twin sister and she wants to lose weight like we did. she cuts herself and is always really quiet..not normal for her. i talk to her alot about these things but i really want her to be ok..and go back to normal. she hardly eats too...ive had an eating disorder be4 and she saw it "work" for me so she is doing it too. please dont say get her proffesional help...i just need a way to help her.

Since you are her best friend, your opinion is probably most important to her. Tell her she's beautiful, and that she doesn't need to lose weight, and if she does, then don't go ona crash diet, and tell her you'll do it with her. (if you do it with her, make sure you are doing worse, but not gaining weight) make sure she knows that you and all of her friends accept her for who she is. Tell her she shouldn't cut herself because you care too much about her and you don't want anything to happen to her. Since you have been through depresion too, you know how much a compliment means. Tell her this stuff and have her other friends tell her how much she is appreciated, then she may rethink the cutting and eating disorder thing.
Lizzy

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hi, i sometimes wear thongs.. but i guess you can say that they're just regular cotton thongs... i want to get those stringy type ones and stuff like that.. are they any comfortable?

~sarah, 14

They are more comfortable then the cotton ones because they aren't as thick, And even if they do bug you, they won't after a few times wearing them. (they are a lot more comfy then the cotton)
Lizzy

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I am 14/F..My best friend and I have been friends for two years, best friends for about a year. We used to talk every day on the phone for atleast an hour, just getting to know each other really well. Eventually it became him being very upset because his mind is so mixed up because of his drug and acholol use. This is where the problem starts..he drinks and smokes..i don't, I totally dissaprove of all that. But, I stuck by his side. No one else did. He has called me at two and three AM drunk and eventually he just gets into a crying fit after about an hour of us talking..Eventually about after 6months of me telling him and telling he needed to quit he realized what he was doing was wrong and he quit for almost two months. No ciggerettes, pot, or acholol. Just recently he has started drinking again. I told him I wish he would stop and he said no i'm 14 and I want to have fun, people change. I'm torn to pieces that he thinks this. I have read internet articles about acholics. Drugs and acholol have totally taken over his mind in the past two years. So in actuality when I talk to him , its sort of like i'm talking to the drug, or so thats what the experts say. I just want my Best Friend back. I'm not sure how to approach him that he will not get mad. If anyone has any advice or can relate to me iM me on AOL (bballxbaberzx33) i'd really really appreciate it!!!

I'll IM you. It's so weird your boyfriend thinks having fun is to be totally wasted. You really need to tell him that. I have a friend whose dad died from marijuana and now he is taking it. It can be very harmful. Make sure your friend knows that. Good luck sweety
Lizzy

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I want someone to talk to during the summer while im away from my friends. I have a pen pal but I would like another one. I am a 13 year old female.

I'll be your penpal! If you want you can email me at Singer_4_life89@hotmail.com Hope you have a fun summer
Lizzy

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if you ask a ?... can ppl tell its you? if your signed in?

No one can tell if it's you except for the people who can delete your question. The people who work at the website and stuff, but not the people who answer it
Lizzy

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well my frend.. she likes my boii frend.. but she got uss toghether.. and now she wants to breakuss up!! and even tho my boiifrend sed that hell love me 4 ever and that he wont cut me cuz of her.. im still afraid what shood i do/?? 4give my frend.. or hate her for ever
*i rate*
Xoo.HEL:P ME!!

4give her. A lot of people ask what they should do when they like their friends friend, and it is a very difficult situation. She told you to be a good friend, trying to break you up was not so good, but it was a mistake, but if she does it again, then tell her you've had enough.
Lizzy

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my friend atdance brags all the time. she say how good she is and shows off all the time. if i get complimented and she doesn't, she tells ME i'm a show off... what can i do to tell her to stop??

When she does brag, take her to the side at that moment and tell her that you know she's a good dancer, but when she says it all the time, it makes her seem not as good. Let her know what you think of her dancing. Telling her what she is doing wrong will stop her from saying something that will get on someones nerves in teh future, so you would be helping her a lot by telling her.
Lizzy

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Ok, so heres the deal. I've been bestfriends with this girl since I was 11 now Im 18. At the age of 15 we stopped talking for a year because we went to different highschools. Well now, I can't stand to be around her because she lies a lot. And it will be about stupid things or even serious things that you wouldnt lie to your bestfriend about. For instance being a virgin or not, how many people you have had sex with, how much you drank...etc. to the stupidest stuff like how much you spend on a car, how many hours you work, how much your getting paid, hitting an animal in the road n making a story up about it. I tried to confront her 3-4 times before but she gets mad and makes a big deal about it and claims she will never lie to me and stuff. Now that I've had a boyfriend for about 7 months shes thinking I dont hang out with her anymore because of him when its not that at all. Granted I do hang out with him everyday but we will go to parties, watch movies, stuff like that. With her we would sit around or go for a drive n she would usually end up dropping me off at 11 cuz she didnt feel good, was tired, and stupid things like that. My curfew is 1. Everythign she says now I doubt and I'm starting to believe shes a pathological liar. What should I do because everytime I try to talk to her she just turns it all around on me. And when I dont wanna do something like go away with her because Im not allowed or go to the club she tries to guilt trip me sayin that shes second best to my boyfriend and that I never wanna do anything. I've talked to my other friends and they all agree with em n say that they dont liek her but use her for a ride. My betsfriend doesnt know that. What should I dooooo? Hope thats not too complicated for you to follow i kinda rambled on. Thank youuu

Alright, this is complicated, first off:don't talk to your other friends about her, that will make things so much worse (not blaming you, everyone does it) Secondly: find a way to prove to her that she is lying. Like her car, find out how much it really costs on the internet and show her. Third and most difficult: Break the chain. Don't split up for good, that would not be kewl because you've known her your entire adolecent life. She may just need to find herself. During that year that you guys had apart was probably a really rough year for her, talk to her about it, find out what's really making her lie. And if she always wants to go home early, is there a reason? Just try to find these things out before you shove it all in her face. Sorry about that
Lizzy

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ok well there is ths girl and i have liked her for a while and i finally told my best friedn that and then he went and asked her out and now the girl found out what happened and how my best friend did that and now she is askin me stuff like would i ever get wit her if they broke up im jus confused as hell

some 1 please tell me wut 2 do

Well if you went out with her and your friend got mad, that would be his fault and you would just be doing what you said you were going to do the whole time. But i have to say girls respect it more when a guy is faithful to his friend. But remember, he brought it on himself
Lizzy

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ok my boyfriend nelly thinks im mad at him because he called my bestfriend and talked about hot girls. i guess im not mad at him and im trying to explain to him that im not and hes all like uhhh yeah u r and im like omg im not mad at you mg cant u just believe me??? and im realy depressed like an old woman eatin icecream and cake. please help me!! what should i do!??!!??

You should tell him you really don't care if he talks and looks at hot girls, tell him he can look, but not touch. That sounds fair, and it doesn't sound like you don't really care about him doing that. Or you can pretend like it never happened and just talk about other things
Lizzy

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hey ummm well i have this friend and she is kool and everything but she also has some really really really annoying things about her that i CANT STAND!! well like she wants to hang out and all next yr in school but like she is a prep and i am a punk and idk it just isnt going to work. i think that i will be better off with out her. but rite now she thinks that i am like some kind of saint or something and she is always there. i dont want to hurt her feelings but how do i break off a good friendship that has been going for 2 years without her knowing that i dont really like her ? ? ? ? ? ?

Well, you have two directions to look at, maybe your friends can be good for you. A prep and a punk are actually the best kind of friends there can be, one to keep things happy and upbeat, and the other to keep things more chilled off. If you do want to leave her, don't break off the friendship completely, just sort of hang out with her when you want, but don't forget, it would be unfair not to not tell her because this is a mutual friendship of two years.
Lizzy

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My best friend is pissed off at me just because my science teacher chose my suggestion/idea on my project over my best friend's idea. She is giving me an attitude and is refusing to talk to me. What should I do?

Tell her you think her idea was so much better then yours and that you would have liked to do her project. Tell her you didn't mean to hurt her feelings but it just happened that way
Good Luck
Lizzy

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hey i have this friend and i dont really like her and she annoys me. well she considers me her best friend and all and always wants to come over. i always make up some excuse so she doesnt. my mom doesnt like her either and doesnt want me to hang out with her. i mean that would be fine and all but we dont only go to school together we also have dance together which is EVERY day of the week. so i cant really get away from her. i dont want to hurt her feelings or make her mad at me (or her mom mad at me) cause than at dance it could be a problem. wat should i do ???

Be nice to her. Don't be all cheerful around her and everything, and when she wants to hang out with you, give her a semi bad excuse so she gets the point, but not so bad that it's unbearing. (i don't feel well will do just fine) and then there will be no tension, but no friendship
Lizzy

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ok well ill get rite to the point. my friend asked me out like 3 weeks ago and i sed no. but no that i come to think of it i think i should have sed yes. but my sis says that i should just go ask him out but i told her that its to late and he prolly doesnt like me ne more. wut should i do? i dont wanna ask him out cuz i gess im scared that he would say no.

Just tell him you had a lot on your mind that week and do want to go out with him. Since you said no, you'll have to make the first move, otherwise he'll never know you do want to go out with him
Lizzy

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