I don’t know why this is bothering me, I always think out of the box. I mean I just don’t think of the now and always the future and what if‘s. When I told my friend that I liked her she doesn’t feel the same. Today I remember that I and she were talking about her story she had to write for English class. She was talking about the main character is semi based on her. She said “she needs a guy friend” I ask her “will It be infatuation with the both of them? and i kno that you hate romance stories” she said “short of but it be like her liking him but afraid to be serious with the relationship because what if it doesn’t work out and it will effect there friendship”. I didn’t say anything but change the subject. Now I began to think that she was talking about us. I am being stupid to think that because she does like anyone and me. But I know I like her…
She isn’t talking about our situation, when I told her how I felt. Right?
i am bi/female
To be honest, hunni, it DOES sound like she might be referring to your situation with her. It makes sense, anyhow. But, there is no way to know for sure without you asking her if it is. So, im afraid noone will really be of much help.
I will say this, however... sometimes people have a REALLY hard time accepting their sexuality when they think or know that they might be be bisexual, gay, lesbian, or whatever the case is. They can even confuse thier unwillingness to accept it as it simply not being true. Your right might not even realize that she has feelings for you or she might just not want to accept it and thus, act on it. You never know.
I would just talk with her and ask. Can't hurt.
Hope I helped.
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im 16 and a junior in high school. i have this friend and she keeps sayin shes bi-sexual...but i think its just to get attention. she did the same thing last year then we everyone asked her if it was true she said no. now shes sayin shes bi again and i asked her if she cud she herself havin sex with another gurl and she didnt know wut to say. obviosuly if your bi then you can see your self with the opposite sex doin things that more then friends do. idk wut to do about all this. it just pisses me off becuz i think shes doin it for attention.
Sounds to me like your right and she is just doign it for the attention. However, I would also be willing to bet there is a little truth in what she is saying. Your friend may just be bi-curious... and realizing that it is getting her attention at the same time. I have been there with a friend of mine, haha. Trust me. Best of luck!
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I've been friends with my best friend for basically as long as i can remember. I dont know if its just me, but lately it seems like shes always trying to make me jealous and out do me. Like tonight, I went to the movies with one of my other friends, and put up an away message on aim saying " movies with myfriendsname cell it=]" and then left. And when i got home, her away message was "movies with cutie. then home with cutie" (which is one of her other really good friends) And she just does little things like that. And it REALLY gets on my nerves. How can i like get over this and not let it bother me? We dont have the same friends(we're different ages, different friends) so its not like we can all just do stuff together so she doesnt try to make me jealous. I dont know what to do.
Well, I can totally relate to this. I have been in this situation before. The only thing that I can tell you is this, dear.
People gain new friends all the time and as much as we all don't like it, we DO pick favorites. At any point in time, we all do it. Its not that we mean to, but it happens. There are people who just... hang out with you more or are closer to you at a given time and it just... makes the relationship stonger.
I don't think she is trying to make you jealous but maybe she just relates with that "cutie" girl better atm and is a little closer to her. It happenes. It dosen't mean that she loves you any less... it just how people are at times.
Im the meantime, I would talk to your friend about it, if it really bothers you, and maybe she will try to make it better. Who knows. It would prolly also help if you and her had a few "mutual" friends. I know that helps me when I can hang out with more than one person at a time. Just a thought.
Best of luck hun, and hope you feel better! Loves! *Smiles*.
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Well, I moved to the USA when I was six, ten years ago. I left all my family behind. Well, my aunt recently remarried and moved to a town (San Francisco) an hour away from us, and my cousin has just arrived a couple of days ago and will be living with my aunt and his step dad. We are going to visit them tomorow.
The thing is, that I barely know him. He is a really cool person, VERY smart, funny, etc. I really admire and look up to him. But I only visit him like once every two or three years, so we never got a chance to have a real friendship. Well, I will be seeing him quite regularly now, probably about once every two or three weeks.
I know what you are going to say: just be yourself, play games together, teach him English (which he already knows). But I can't really be myself when I'm around him. Where he's from, I would be considered a spoiled, pampered little girl. For example, I like to go shopping, paint my nails, straighten my hair, listen to the kind of music that there is considered very barbaric. All of these activities are only seen in the very rich, spoiled girls.
Also, education wise, I am far behind (by their country's standards). I would probably be in fifth or sixth grade math if I were to go to school there. Also my writing suffers horribly, and I make grammatical errors worse than a second grader's. And I was homeschooled for a while, and my mom taught me how to read and write in that language, and, well, I suck. There's just too many spelling rules that I don't get and forget.
How do I appear like I am smart and funny to my cousin. I mean, should I hide the things that I do from him, or should I flaunt them. Like I'm smart, but by American standards. He always says witty things, and he is multi-talented. I really want him to willingly be friends with me, not just because we are related. We have nothing in common, I can't really teach him anything, and he can teach me loads but it probably won't be very fun for him. =/ We just led different lifestyles, and were brought up differently, were exposed to different problems in life. We are like from two different worlds. He is actually from Ukraine, so I guess you could say he has lived half a world away my whole life.
I don't really understand this question, hun. The only thing I can tell you, is be yourself and if that isn't good enough for someone, even your cousin, then it isnt worth pretending to be someone that your not. Being YOU is all you really can do and there is nothing wrong with that. Just try to enjoy yourself. Best of luck and have an awesome time! *Smiles*
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i think i depend on others for happiness.
i started dating this guy that my friend likes. and i think she got very jealous.
from then on, she's been very mean to me. and a month ago, she told me why she had been mean. which is because i left her party early, after i had already been there for a few hours, to hang out with my boyfriend because everyone at the party was stoned. and it was just boring. and i wanted to see my boyfriend.
and then she said i was too clingy. and she thinks im "boy crazy", which isn't like me at all.
we cleared everything up. she said she would be more honest with me in the future, and i apologized if she felt like i was ditching her.
she always bitches at me whenever i go somewhere with robert, and leave with him. and shes there too, but she came with someone else.
she says hes controlling my life. but hes not. not at all. i feel like i'm pushing him around- he only wants what i want. not him pushing me around.
even though we cleared everything up, its still awkward between us.
i wish i could just cut her out of my life, because she really doesn't understand- but shes my only friend at school.
ive tried talking to her a million times. i dont know what to do.
im 16, friend is 17, boyfriend 18
Wow, this is a very difficult situation and I wish I knew all the answers to help you solve this. But, in all honesty, the answer lies with you. Noone can make this decision for you.
I would suggest talking to the first once again, before making any decisions and be totally and completely honest with her. Tell her exactly how you feel and leave out NOTHING. See if this helps first. I think it should.
However, if it dosen't then it is up to you to decide. Is this friendship really a "friendship" if your only her friend because she is the only friend you have in school (you said otherwise, you would cut her out of yoru life), and... is the boyfriend worth losing this friendship over? It all depends on what is more important to you. Noone really has that answer and noone can make that call but yourself.
Wish there was more I could say, hope I helped. Best of luck! *Smiles*
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You are sitting on the ground, as your friend is sitting besides you, they slowly gets close to you and then grabs your arm and holds your arm and hug it as they lay their head on your shoulder and cruls up to you.
but thay are the same sex (females).
Do close friends do that to each other?
or is the one who is the toucy person is trying to tell you that they like you?
Personally, hun. I do things like this all the time with my friends. Lol. I cuddle my closest friend when we she stays the night and we sleep in my bed. But, we are both straight. We just, are really close. So, no, I wouldnt find that weird at all. *Smiles*.
However, everyone is different. I would just talk to your friend about it , if it really makes you unconfortable. Just tell her that you are not trying to be rude, just you wondered if that meant something. Ya know?
Best of luck, sweetie! I think you will figure it out! The key here = Communication!
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I'm 14/f and my friend is 14/f [Let's call her June] and my other friend is 15/f [Let's call her Jane].
So, June made a promise to me and Jane saying that she would not do drugs anymore. Well, just yesterday, June came to school high. She took 20 pills of some sort of drug and my other friend had to hold her up in order for her to stay standing up. It was really bad.
I really want to tell her parents or someone because I think she needs help with drug problems because this isn't the first time she's done it. I mean she took some pills last year DURING school. But Jane is really super good friends with June & so she's afraid that June is going to get expelled or suspended. I know that if Jane is a good friend, she'd want her friend to get help. But I can't convice her. I really want June to get help but I don't want Jane getting mad at me along with a few other people.
I'm accepting the fact that losing a friendship is better than to know that the friend is doing drugs and letting her ruin her life. But my other friends aren't and I'm kind of stuck...help? What should I do?
Ok hunni. This is a tough situation. In this case, I think that the best thing for you to do is to tell an adult that you trust and who "June" trust as well. They can point you in the right direction to get her help. Don't tell a shool however, becuase, she could get in trouble. You don't want that. You want to HELP her, not get her into trouble. Just tell a parent or an adult friend that you both trust that can handle this in teh best way possible. Also, talk to your friend about it and tell her your intentions of helping her and your concerns. It may be rough for a while, but, she will thank you in the end. Your doing the right thing. Best of luck to you, dear!
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ok i have these two best friends, molly and tabitha. there the best friends i could ever have and i would hate to loose them, but sometimes they just walk away from me or something. i dont know why, but they never wait for me to go to lunch, ( we hve the same class before lunch) and they just expect me to come running after them, and they always say " oochemo, come on!!! ( thats my nickname), and they will just be hanging out with me and run off together, and then when ever i go off and just leave them alone, thinking they want alone time, they always ask if im mad at them!! and i do get mad at them cuz they always leave me, and i am really getting mad. ive talked to them about it and they still do it. what should i do? im really sorry that this is really long. i just need really good advice.
Ok. First off, hun, I think you might want to re-think your friendship with these two girls. I mean, are they really "the best friends you could ever have". I have no doubt they want your friendship, but... I think you could find closer friends who wont ditch you at the drop of a dime. My advice would be to communicate your concerns with them. Tell them how you feel about their actions and what it makes you feel. Communication is KEY! Ya know?
Then, if it don't get better, I think you could find a closer and better set of friends.
Hope this makes sense. Im sorry you feel this way. Hope it gets better! *Smiles*
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I was walking to class, and my cousin went up to me and asks me a question. "Dose your friend Sara have a boyfriend?" I told her "no why?" "Cause I saw her with some guy and they were hugging" so me and my cousin Lily were talking about it till the bell rang and I head to class. My friend Becky is in my class and I ask her "Sara has a boyfriend?" she said "yeah why? Didn’t she tell you?" I told her no. 2 days later, i got a chance to talk to her, (but sha all ready broken up with him because he was annoying her and she never did like him.)
So after school when I was walking home, Sara walked with me because we both live near the school. I ask her "why didn’t you tell me you had a boy friend?" she replied "what!? Oh I thought Becky will tell you" she said in an annoying tone. "Well isn’t supposed to be you saying you do have a bf?" then she got all defensive "I forgot to tell you okay sorry!" I told her to clam down.
Why was she so defensive? Was she embarrassed that I might make fun of her?(because i would'nt)or what was her deal?
She prolly defensive because she never liked the guy to begin with so.. she didn't figure it was imporant and she prolly don't want you bringing it up. Your kinda making a bigger deal about it than you should. Good luck, babe. It will all be fine. She left him after 2 days, so.. just let it go. I would. It don't really matter anymore. *Smiles*. Best Of Luck!
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I'm 14.
To make a really long story shorter, my bff...Jane. Has an abusive boyfriend, also, she's only 13, which makes it even more weird. She's going out with a 15 year old.
And she says I'm the only one she told.
She says he doesn't like beat her up, he just hits her a lot..
I never noticed, but recently she's been wearing long sleeves. Because she's actually BRUISED.
But, Jane says she really has it under control, and doesn't want to break up with him because she apparently realllly likes him. And she says he likes her, but..
I said if I were her I would break up with him.
Then she said something like that I didn't know what love was, so I couldn't say that.
I've never really been in this kind of situation before.
Do I tell an adult?
If you were me..what would you...do?
ugh, I'm kind of confused.
And I want to help my friend.
First off, thats very mature of you to recognize that you friend needs help and to want to help her. Your friend is obviously not realising it herself. To answer your question, if I were you, I would tell an adult. However, make it, if you can, an adult that your friend trust. It helps the matter a bit cause your friend wont be so upset that u told them. I would prolly talk to like her parents or my own (and possibly ask my parents to talk to her). That kind of thing I would think would work in this situation. However, hunni, realise that NOONE CAN BE HELPED UNLESS THEY WANT THE HELP. You friend is going to have to want to fix this situation, otherwise, it is virtually pointless. Just make sure that your a good friend and are there for her through it all. It will mean a lot to her in the end and she will thank you some day. Trust me. I wish you the best of luck with this situation. Let me know if I can help you with anything else.
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Hey i have this friend and we've been friends scince kindergarten and about two years ago she started hanging out with this girl and this girl is a witch she gossips about my other best friends and she gossips about my friend whos friends with her and my friend knows she does and she still calls her Her BFF and when i want to hang out with my friend her other friend AKA (Witch) who i hate is always around her and me and my friend always argue when were around the witch and when ever she comes over my house shes soooooooooooooooo !!!! annoying!!!! she routes through my stuff and makes fun of my clothes and the music i like and i just got done remodleing my room and i didnt have enough time to dust and she said your rooms soooo dusty and dirty and i told her why and she went home and she was only there for 10-20 minutes should i be her friend or not? Please help!!!!!!!!! My other friends hate her sooo i need your help!!!!
Wow! This is a difficult dilema to be in. It sounds to me that you are really frustrated with this girl and thats not good. I would say that if she is a friend then you may need to just talk to her and tell her that you don't like how she is acting and that you want to stay friends with her but cant stand how is is acting towards you. Just let her know how you feel. If she is a true friend then she will undertstand and things will get better. If they don't, then you may need to stop hanging out with this girl in order fo ryou to stay happy. She isnt wort it is she makes you mirserable! I would just follow your heart and let it tell you if it is time to leave this friend or not. As far as her coming to your house for only 10-20 minutes, thats wasa really snobbish thing for her to do, but, if you want to be her friend, then, like I said, talk to her and try to work it out. Hope this help! Follow Your Heart!
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hey.. my name is stacy.. i need help. well lets see there this guy i like alot and i started going out with him. we have been together for 2 months or so now.. and this girl that i want to be friends with hates me cause she likes him.. what can i do to get the girl to like me and to accept that me and this guy are going out cause i want them both to get along.. thanks bunches.. Stacy
Well, Stacy, there isnt much you can do about someone not liking you. All you can do is talk to her and try to get her to understand how you feel. She will have to accept it on her own terms and on her own time. There isnt much you can do. Just try talking to her! You might also not want to be around your boyfriend while you talk to her, or if you become friends, I would not bring your boyfriend around a whole lot around her. This is hopefully make it easier for her to accept and by not seeimg him, she may stop liking him and that would solve everyhting. This is about all you can do. Go Talk To Her! Best Of Luck!
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My guy friend and his girlfriend broke up, and he still likes her alot. She likes him still too but she doesnt want to get hurt and they will be going to different schools. My guy friend asked me to help him get through this because I'm the only one he can trust. I want to help him in any way I can because I want to be close with him. What should I say to him to make him feel better? Thank you so much!
Honey, the only thing you can really do is be there for him. Let him know that your always there for him and he can always talk to you. Just knowing that you are there for him, will help him more than you know. Just be a good friend and a shoulder to cry on. Listen to him and try not to be too opinionated about it. Just listen! You will be surprised how close you two will become. I am glad your so kind hearted and want to help him. Hope I Helped!
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Okay, so there's this guy that's been my really good friend for a long time. Last October, I got a crush on him. Then in December, he had a girlfriend, but he told me that he'd liked me since October too, and a week later, he broke up with his girlfriend. But he didn't ask me out until a month later, because he 'didn't want people to think he liked me when he liked his other girlfriend'. So we were 'sort of' going out for about a month, but we never actually went on a date. He asked me out to a carnival, but then he ditched me. Then...worst of all...the school dance. He danced with me once, and then went back to his ex girlfriend and was dancing with HER for the rest of the time. I talked to him and he told me he didn't like me anymore, but we decided to stay friends anyways.
Now, about 3 months later...I think I still like him, but I'm not sure. We're still very good friends. I want him to be happy with whatever girl he goes out with, but I'm jealous at the same time. My heart jumps when I had to kiss him on the cheek for this school performance..and when I fell asleep on his shoulder in the movie theater (with other friends there)...and I feel crap when I see the girl he likes sleeping on his other shoulder, or sitting super close to him. What should I do? How do I get over him? Please help!
I am really sorry to hear this. We have all been there! I think it is time for you to move on and try to find someone else. I know this will be hard, but I think it is for the best. This guy obviously likes his ex-girlfriend still and from what you have said, I dont think that is going to change. I am sorry! This is a very hard thing to go through. Just try to find some other guy to like or maybe just hang out with your friends a lot more. Friends can always help you to feel better. Best Of Luck and if you ever need to talk just IM me. My screename is on my Advice Column. Hope I helped! Sorry once again sweetie!
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I went out with this guy name josh for 3 months then we broke up. When he got a new girlfriend, we hated each other. We didnt even know each other, but just the fact that she went out with him i hated her adn she hated me because i used to go out with him. Well 2 weeks ago me adn cheyenne(his girlfriend) started talkin and became good friends. Well she wants me to go to the movies with her next weekend, but josh is gonna be there too. I still have feelings for him and me adn him dont talk that much anymore. So i think it would be really weird and uncomfortable going. She really wants me to go though. I do wanna go .. but when they start kissing i am gonna get sad and my face might get red or something. Should i still go? What all should i do?
I think you should go. You said it yourself, you wanna go. Dont let an Ex-Boyfriend keep you from what you want to do. Besides, if you go then that will show him that the past is the past and your not letting him get to you. It will show how strong of a person you are. I also think you should take a close guy friend with you so it isnt so awkward. It should help you to relax. If not, at least take another friend to ease the pressure. Enjoy yourself and have fun! Its awesome that you like his new girlfriend also! You should continue hanging with her if you really like her. Hope I helped!
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My two friends are in an argument over a dress. I know it's stupid, but it just needs to end.
My friend went to the mall on Friday night and got a dress. Then on Sunday, my other friend went and got the same exact dress, only she didn't know the first one had already gotten it. We feel that whoever got the dress first should have it. That's the way our grup of friends has always agreed on these things. The friend who got the dress second went back to the mall and returned it- but got the same dress in a different color. Now they're arguing over it, and who should rightfully have it. I believe the two of them should either suck it up and deal with it, or both just get a new dress and not even worry about this anymore. Any input?
I think they both need to grow up a little and deal with it. Why does it matter if someone ownes the same dress. THEY BOTH HAVE A RIGHT TO OWN IT! Its America!
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Okay, me and my best friend have been friends for about 5 years. She has always helped me with my dating problems and I hvae always helped her with hers. But somethings scaring me. See, my boyfreind and my freind use to go to school together. They wern't good friends but they didnt hate each other. He was the kind of guy that EVERY girl wanted. But now I'm dating him. They have just recently became like really really really close. I don't mind them talking, but he talks to her more then he talks to me! And everytime I confront one of them about it, they just say their talking about me which I don't believe one bit. Sometimes when I get on AIM and my friend and my boyfriend are on and my boyfriends not talking to me, I'll IM my friend and ask if shes talking to him and she always says YES! And when I call either her or him, they sometimes tell me that they just got of the phone with eachother and they talked for hours! I don't know what to do anymore, and I want to know how to stop it without hurting one of them. I need your help!
This is a very difficult situation. It seems like your boyfriend and your best friend are leaving you out of a lot. They seem to be closer with eachother than they are to you. If I were you, I would talk to your friend and your boyfriend (maybe even at the same time) and tell them what is bothering you. The reason I say this is because sometimes when people become close to one person, they shut other people out and they dont even realize. I know because I have been on both sides of this operation, lol. I think that if you talk to them then it will make them away are of it (if they aren't already) and it should get better. If they refuse to stop in order for you to feel better, than neither one of them are really worth keeping in your life. They should worry about how you feel. Its only right! I think it will get better though. Hope this helps!
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i'll be standing at my locker, waiting for my boyfriend, and my best friend comes up. well, i wanted to talk to my boyfriend about stuff, like not with her around. i want to tell her to quit comin cuz she does it everyday, but i dont want to be mean. i'd like to have some alone time with my boyfriend but SHES ALWAYS THERE. she's really getting on my nerves. what should i do?
I would say that all you really can do is talk to your friend. Tell her how you feel and that you want some alone time with your boyfriend every once in a while and that you would like it if she didnt smother you so much. Be gentle. She should understand. If she dont, then she isnt really respecting your privacy and I would she that you may need to just find someone who respect you more. Hope this helps!
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there was this boy, who was a really good friend of mine. and then, one day he told me that he hated me and that he always hated me and that i was annoying and him and i were really tite. today is his birthday, and i called him to tell him happy birthday, b/c i am the GOOD person in this friendship, and he was pretty mean! what should i do??? why duz he hate me so much??? should i tell him something?
I would talk to your friend. There is obviously something that is bothering him and you should find out why he is not telling you. I would not worry too much though, if he says he hates you, then he is being rude and disrespectful to you and is probably not worth it anyhow. Dont let it stress you out. Just relax and try talking to him. If that dont work, then o well, it is his loss because at least you tried. Hope this helps!
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