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jealous friend
i think i depend on others for happiness.
i started dating this guy that my friend likes. and i think she got very jealous.
from then on, she's been very mean to me. and a month ago, she told me why she had been mean. which is because i left her party early, after i had already been there for a few hours, to hang out with my boyfriend because everyone at the party was stoned. and it was just boring. and i wanted to see my boyfriend.
and then she said i was too clingy. and she thinks im "boy crazy", which isn't like me at all.
we cleared everything up. she said she would be more honest with me in the future, and i apologized if she felt like i was ditching her.
she always bitches at me whenever i go somewhere with robert, and leave with him. and shes there too, but she came with someone else.
she says hes controlling my life. but hes not. not at all. i feel like i'm pushing him around- he only wants what i want. not him pushing me around.
even though we cleared everything up, its still awkward between us.
i wish i could just cut her out of my life, because she really doesn't understand- but shes my only friend at school.
ive tried talking to her a million times. i dont know what to do.
im 16, friend is 17, boyfriend 18
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It sure does sound like shes jealous, but I think what you should focus on is who/what she is jealous of, and what can both of you negotiate with eachother to still keep the friendship. IF you still want to keep her friendship. Did you ever ask her if she is jealous? Did you ever ask her why? From what I'm reading, sounds like maybe shes jealous because you hooked up with robert, and possibly because maybe your attention is all on robert, not on your friend anymore. Sometimes when people enter relationships, they tend to revolve their world around their bf/gf, and forget about their friends for awhile. Friends do get angry (trust me, I did noT like it when my friends of mine all got preoccupied with their bf and forgot about their buds). But in the end, usually you'll forgive eachother and try to spend time with them. If you really care aobut your friendship and shes usually a cool friend, maybe you can find ways to still have one on one time w/ her like the old days without robert there. And hang with robert one on one separate times from her.
On the other hand, if shes a bad friend who keeps bad mouthing you and hurting your self esteem or confidence, i say let her know how shes making you feel and ditch her. Maybe you only hang out with her because shes the only person you usually talk to at school, even if you may not like her. I dont think that is considered friendship either if you only use her because you dont want to be lonely or alone at school.
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I agree with the one below. Its your choice. Is this a real friendship and is she your only friend because she is the only friend at school. You also need to talk to her again whether she understands or not. Just try and make her understand and hope it works. Also there are plenty of other girls at school you can make friends with. But also I hope everything goes well for you.
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Wow, this is a very difficult situation and I wish I knew all the answers to help you solve this. But, in all honesty, the answer lies with you. Noone can make this decision for you.
I would suggest talking to the first once again, before making any decisions and be totally and completely honest with her. Tell her exactly how you feel and leave out NOTHING. See if this helps first. I think it should.
However, if it dosen't then it is up to you to decide. Is this friendship really a "friendship" if your only her friend because she is the only friend you have in school (you said otherwise, you would cut her out of yoru life), and... is the boyfriend worth losing this friendship over? It all depends on what is more important to you. Noone really has that answer and noone can make that call but yourself.
Wish there was more I could say, hope I helped. Best of luck! *Smiles*
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