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gay or just needin attention
im 16 and a junior in high school. i have this friend and she keeps sayin shes bi-sexual...but i think its just to get attention. she did the same thing last year then we everyone asked her if it was true she said no. now shes sayin shes bi again and i asked her if she cud she herself havin sex with another gurl and she didnt know wut to say. obviosuly if your bi then you can see your self with the opposite sex doin things that more then friends do. idk wut to do about all this. it just pisses me off becuz i think shes doin it for attention.
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Sounds to me like your right and she is just doign it for the attention. However, I would also be willing to bet there is a little truth in what she is saying. Your friend may just be bi-curious... and realizing that it is getting her attention at the same time. I have been there with a friend of mine, haha. Trust me. Best of luck!
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Accept it and ignore it.
Sadly, being bi-sexual can be a bit difficult to pin down, although you might be perfectly right and she is simply attention seeking, consider how you are treating her is she is being honest about it. If she telling you the truth, or is generally confused about her sexuality, having her friends get angry with her must be very painful and discouraging.
Perhaps even more importantly, think of the message you are sending to the other people who know you: They could see you as being intolerant and unfriendly. People struggling with their own sexuality will see your response to your friend and feel scared and at risk if they come to you with the truth.
So accept it and ignore it. You don't need to be wildly supportive, just don't rise to the occasion. When she makes claims about her sexuality in public, politely change the subject.
In private, it's a different matter, as a friend you should listen to her as well as you can. What you are hearing as being 'faked' might just be her struggling to talk about it.
If she is merely looking for attention, the best thing you can do it not be constantly giving to her, not positively or negatively. Just listen, accept what she says and move on.
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Okay, if you are her friend, you shouldn't get pissed off because she wants attention. She could have been bi-curious at the time[last year] then changed her mind the next.
There are two "solutions"
Talk to her and explain to her that you feel as if it is an act.
I think, you have no right to question her sexuality but if you two are completely honest, go for it.
You are not in her shoes hun so do onto others as you would want done to you and let her sexuality remain hers.
She could still be bi-curious and might not be sure. Maybe she was afraid to tell you that she fantasies about girls.
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How would you feel if she was indeed bi-sexual and it wasn't for attention? Tread lightly here and do not show you're irritated or don't believe her claims.
You never know what she might be thinking or dealing with or te reasons behind her saying it. She might be confused here and truly bi-sexual or testing people for their reaction.
She might be attracted to guys and girls but never thought of what sex with either would be like. Treat her like anyone else. If it turns out she did it for attention than that will come to light without you stating your thoughts.
You'll look very bad if you say or do anything over her remarks right now and it turns out she wasn't kidding.
If she irritates you find a way not to be around her as much. Perhaps if she sees from others that her saying she is "bi-sexual" isn't a big deal she'll stop telling everyone.
If you know for 100% damn sure she's straight than and only then do you pull her aside and find out why she's saying this. You could under those circumstances only educate her that it's not right to claim to be gay or bisexual because you're being ignored otherwise.
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i have a friend who also does the same thing. My friend did it because the guy she liked said he liked bisexuals. Maybe your friend is doing the same thing.
Another possibility is she really is, and is afraid of what some people might say.
Just let her reflect on what shes doing and saying about herself. Shes the only one that knows what she feels. Stick besides and give her all your support at a time like this she must be full of doubt and confusion. Let her know youll be their for her no matter what.
-hope i helped =]
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