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Boyfriend and friend too close
Okay, me and my best friend have been friends for about 5 years. She has always helped me with my dating problems and I hvae always helped her with hers. But somethings scaring me. See, my boyfreind and my freind use to go to school together. They wern't good friends but they didnt hate each other. He was the kind of guy that EVERY girl wanted. But now I'm dating him. They have just recently became like really really really close. I don't mind them talking, but he talks to her more then he talks to me! And everytime I confront one of them about it, they just say their talking about me which I don't believe one bit. Sometimes when I get on AIM and my friend and my boyfriend are on and my boyfriends not talking to me, I'll IM my friend and ask if shes talking to him and she always says YES! And when I call either her or him, they sometimes tell me that they just got of the phone with eachother and they talked for hours! I don't know what to do anymore, and I want to know how to stop it without hurting one of them. I need your help!
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Talk to your friend. Tell her that you starting to think that something is going on. Tell her that you don't think that she would do something with him but you are starting to wonder because it seems like he spends more time with her than with you. I'm sure if you calmly talk to her and tell her that is starting to bother you she will understand and try to stop it for you. Also try talking to your boyfriend. Try not to sound like your accusing him of anything. Just let him know how you feel. He should understand and just let him know that you're not accusing him of anything you just want to know what's going on because you've noticed that they are starting to get really really close.
Good luck and I hope I helped
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Hey huni,
Frist of all tell your friend gently that you are getting suspicous....And then ask her if she is doing anything with your boyfriend! And then say well i love you guys being friends but it is gettin to be too close. ( if you know what i mean!!)
hope i helped
<3 ya!
Andrea
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I think you need to talk to both of them. They may just be friends but it does seem a little excessive. I think the boyfriend needs to decide which of you he wants. You are the one he should be talking to more. The girlfriend needs to back off and leave you two alone. :)
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This is a very difficult situation. It seems like your boyfriend and your best friend are leaving you out of a lot. They seem to be closer with eachother than they are to you. If I were you, I would talk to your friend and your boyfriend (maybe even at the same time) and tell them what is bothering you. The reason I say this is because sometimes when people become close to one person, they shut other people out and they dont even realize. I know because I have been on both sides of this operation, lol. I think that if you talk to them then it will make them away are of it (if they aren't already) and it should get better. If they refuse to stop in order for you to feel better, than neither one of them are really worth keeping in your life. They should worry about how you feel. Its only right! I think it will get better though. Hope this helps!
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looks like you are the fifth wheel in this operation. see your way out and find another guy.
there's 3 billion of us hanging around.
-hitler
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omggg ok i know you probably love your boyfriend and everything..but he might be cheating on you. i doubt he is but he sure is flirting with your bestfriend right infront of your face. he should be on the phone with you for hours, and want to talk to YOU on aim..not her more than you..his own gf. maybe say ok well it looks like your spending waay to much time with mi bestfriend instead of me..soo maybe we should just take a break until you figure out what you want. and if he says what do you me...tell him everything you just told me. you have a right to be upset!! i would be really upset and feel really left out. its great that there friends..but be aware that they can be something more behind your back. because its not NORMAL for ur bf and best friend to be THAT close...<33 good luck <33
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THE SAME THiNG HAPPENED TO ME, EXCEPT i DiDNT NOTiCE iT UNTiL MY BOYFRiEND COMPLETLY STOPPED TALKiNG TO ME AND LiKED MY FRiEND, i SAY SiT DOWN AND TALK TO YOUR FRiEND ABOUT iT, THE WORST THAT CAN HAPPEN iS THAT SHELL ADMiT THAT SHE LiKES HiM, AND THEN YOU SHOULD TELL HER THAT YOU WOULD ENJOY iF SHE STOPS TALKiNG TO HiM, iF SHES REAL FRiEND SHE WiLL STOP, AND THEN ALSO TALK TO YOUR BOYFRiEND TO MAKE SURE THAT HE STiLL LiKES YOU, AND iF HE DOESNT BREAK UP WiTH HiM BEFORE HE BREAKS UP WiTH YOU, iF HE STiLL LiKES YOU THEN TELL HiM THAT iT BOTHERS YOU HOW MUCH HE TALKS TO YOUR FRiEND AND HE SHOULD UNDERSTAND...*DEE
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